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Can't Make It Better? Then Try Not to Make It Worse!

We all know what it's like to wish we had more control in life and to face the hard truth that sometimes we just can't make things better. But get ready for the good news: while we may not have control per se, we do have real influence. If we can't make life better, we can do our best to try not to make it worse! Here's how.

One Size Doesn't Fit All, Part Two: How Compulsory Mainstreaming Fails Our Children

Any educational system that tries to meet the needs of all children in a single setting misses the mark for many of the students it is so desperately trying to serve.

Is Your Child’s Sexual Behavior Normal?

By Kathryn Seifert on January 25, 2012 in Stop The Cycle
There is sometimes a thin line between “normal” and “alarming” behavior when it comes to a child’s burgeoning sexuality. Learning to read your child’s signs could be the catch of a lifetime.

On the Virtue of Compromise

By Christopher Peterson Ph.D. on January 25, 2012 in The Good Life
The word compromise is used in two different senses, one typically positive and the other typically negative. The good sense of compromise is finding a common ground with another person.The bad sense is being untrue to your core values and beliefs.

When Does a Broken Heart Become a Diagnosis?

By Gregg Henriques Ph.D. on January 25, 2012 in Theory of Knowledge
Should grief be exempt from a diagnosis of depression? More thoughts on the definition of mental disorder and depression.

26 Quotes on Feeling Awkward

Even well-known people feel awkward from time to time. Or all the time. You'd be surprised to see who has feelings of awkwardness. See what famous people have to say about that feeling of ick.

How Good Are You at Loving?

You can get better (or worse) at loving someone. It is also possible to rank how well you are doing at loving someone. In fact, I will provide a “love inventory” that will help you to determine just how good you (or your significant others) really are at loving.

Falling in Love With a Culture and a Language

Some people fall in love with a new culture and language. The way Julia Child discovered the French culture and language, and French cuisine—and became enamored with all three—is very moving.

A Dream That Leads to a Nightmare

By Lynne Soraya on January 24, 2012 in Asperger's Diary
Last night, I had a dream. I was in a store with family, and I had an outburst, what we in the autism community call a meltdown. As the stress and frustration boiled over, I had to get out. So I ran.

The Curious Incident of the Fish Sticks in the Nighttime

By Carrie Arnold on January 24, 2012 in Body of Evidence
Visiting hours were soon, and if I wanted to see my parents, I had to finish my dinner. I truly didn't have an out. If I didn't eat what was on my tray, I knew my doctor would order a nasogastric tube. If I refused that, he would get a court order to have one placed. So ever reluctantly, I picked up my fork and started eating.

The Jews and Capitalism

There is no doubt that at least in some sense, there is a love hate relationship between Jews and Capitalism. On the one hand, there is a strong tradition of support for socialism, communism, labor unionism, feminism, affirmative action, within the Jewish community. On the other hand, there can be little doubt that capitalism has been very good to Jews.

Time is the Currency of Self-Esteem

"How do I give my child a self-esteem?" "If my child doesn't get a [fill in with sticker, souvenir, lollipop, trophy etc] won't that damage his self-esteem?" People ask me lots of questions about self-esteem as if it's an entity or unit that can be measured. Yet "the self-esteem" doesn't sit in some mysterious place in our minds or bodies.

Powerful Psychiatrists Push False Theory on Unknowing Souls

Top psychiatrists conceal truth from depressed patients

Breaking Up Is Hard To Do, So Here's a 6-Step How-To

Relationship endings can be difficult to accomplish gracefully. It is possible though to lower the risk that a breakup will lead to depression. The same strategy works whether you are the one who initiates the breakup or the one who receives the bad news.

Listen Your Way Up the Ladder

“We think we listen, but we don’t,” says Nancy Kline in her book Time to Think. “We finish each other’s sentences, we interrupt each other, we moan together, we fill in the pauses with our own stories, we look at our watches, we sigh, frown, tap our finger, read the newspaper or walk away. We give advice, give advice, give advice.”

Reality Check

By Susan R Barry Ph.D. on January 24, 2012 in Eyes on the Brain
We may mistake a change in our bodies for a change in the outside world.

Mind and Heart: The Doorways to Existence

We get into trouble when we listen to the voice of our mind and identify it as who we are. We are not our minds, but a much greater consciousness.

The Biggest Myth in Time Management

By Peter Bregman on January 24, 2012 in How We Work
The truth is, we can't ever really get away from it. There is no escaping the nonstop surge of email, text, voicemail, Twitter, Facebook, LinkedIn — and that's just the technology-based stream. How can we ever catch up?

We can't.

Am I worthy? Lesson 1 in Vulnerability

When you finally allow people to see who you are they may reject you and you can't protect your ego by saying that they didn't really know you. That thought alone terrifies me.

A Possible Cure For Pornography Addiction—In an Essay

By Ravi Chandra M.D. on January 24, 2012 in The Pacific Heart
David Mura’s classic essay is an absolute must read for anyone interested in how male sexuality interacts with pornography and other sexual addictions. The essay goes right to the heart, and makes it possible to “cure” pornography addiction in about 10,000 words that stimulate deep reflection and maturation.

See Beings Not Bodies

By Rick Hanson Ph.D. on January 24, 2012 in Your Wise Brain
When we encounter someone, the mind summarizes & simplifies tons of details. Though fast and efficient this process has lots of problems

Cat Killed and Defaced As a Political Statement

By Marc Bekoff Ph.D. on January 24, 2012 in Animal Emotions
Sometimes it's difficult to figure out why some people do what they do to other animals. Our relationships with animals are often challenging, frustrating, complicated, and ambiguous, and this incident should surely make everyone reflect on how we interact with other animals and why some people do the heinous things they do to innocent beings.