From gender and body shaming to the new use of shaming in presidential politics, the issue of shame is psychologically and culturally present. How to understand and change it.

Relationships

Should Couples Go to Bed at The Same Time?

By Guy Winch Ph.D. on September 18, 2019 in The Squeaky Wheel

If you and your partner go to bed at different times you should probably discuss the following issues:

If you and your partner go to bed at different times you should probably discuss the following issues:

Relationships

Dating Someone You Work With

By Jane Greer Ph.D. on September 18, 2019 in Shrink Wrap

It’s easy for co-workers to become attracted to each other. So much time is spent in the office, it's a place where personal bonds can be readily formed.

It’s easy for co-workers to become attracted to each other. So much time is spent in the office, it's a place where personal bonds can be readily formed.

Self-Help

Beyond Empathy: The Power of Compassion

By Beth Kurland Ph.D. on September 18, 2019 in The Well-Being Toolkit

If you are tired of negativity or negative news, here is an uplifting story and some practical tips for cultivating compassion.

If you are tired of negativity or negative news, here is an uplifting story and some practical tips for cultivating compassion.

A recent study has implications not just for parents and their kids but the whole concept of the gifted child.

Personality

Do You Have 'Quiet BPD'?  

By Imi Lo on September 18, 2019 in Living with Emotional Intensity

If you have Quiet BPD, rather than act out, you act in. You do not show your inner turmoil, but direct the anger, hate, and blame toward yourself.

If you have Quiet BPD, rather than act out, you act in. You do not show your inner turmoil, but direct the anger, hate, and blame toward yourself.

Happiness

Got Too Much Time on Your Hands?

By Barton Goldsmith Ph.D. on September 18, 2019 in Emotional Fitness

Being alone in your own head can be a little disquieting.

Being alone in your own head can be a little disquieting.

Child Development

Ruby Lou and Me: Childhood in 1950

By Peter Gray Ph.D. on September 18, 2019 in Freedom to Learn

Here's to all the Ruby Lou's of the world and my fervent wish that we re-create a world where Ruby Lou's can do what they are designed to do--play, explore, be brave, be free.

Here's to all the Ruby Lou's of the world and my fervent wish that we re-create a world where Ruby Lou's can do what they are designed to do--play, explore, be brave, be free.

Work

A Mock Career Counseling Session

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on September 18, 2019 in How To Do Life

Counseling techniques plus lessons in leadership.

Counseling techniques plus lessons in leadership.

Cognition

The Faces of Emotions

By Eglantine Julle-Daniere on September 18, 2019 in Talking Emotion

Emotions can be communicated with the face, but how does it look like and do we all make the same face?

Emotions can be communicated with the face, but how does it look like and do we all make the same face?

My toddler's giggles got me curious about humor and its evolutionary basis.

Depression

Bracing for the Winter Blues

By Allison Abrams, LCSW-R on September 17, 2019 in Nurturing Self-Compassion

Whether you are struggling with seasonal-related depression or a less severe case of “the blues,” here are some ways to cope.

Whether you are struggling with seasonal-related depression or a less severe case of “the blues,” here are some ways to cope.

Child Development

3 Ways to Grow Independent Children

By Liz Matheis Ph.D. on September 17, 2019 in Special Matters

Are you growing an independent child?

Are you growing an independent child?

Health

Vitamin D Again! Is It a Worthwhile Supplement?

By The Bronfenbrenner Center for Translational Research on September 17, 2019 in Evidence-Based Living

A systematic review published this summer found an important health benefit to taking vitamin D supplements.

A systematic review published this summer found an important health benefit to taking vitamin D supplements.

Self-Help

Are You Guilty of Making Too Many Assumptions

By Jennifer Guttman Psy.D. on September 17, 2019 in Sustainable Life Satisfaction

Find a few tips that will help you avoid the curse of guessing and making too many assumptions.

Find a few tips that will help you avoid the curse of guessing and making too many assumptions.

Personality

One Way to Deal With Someone on a Power Trip

By Tina Gilbertson LPC, BC-TMH on September 17, 2019 in Constructive Wallowing

There are many things that could be going on inside the mind of someone who appears to be on a power trip. This article looks at one factor you might have missed.

There are many things that could be going on inside the mind of someone who appears to be on a power trip. This article looks at one factor you might have missed.

Anxiety

Why Thriver’s Guilt May Fuel Sado-Narcissism

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D., MPP on September 17, 2019 in Ambigamy

Thriver's guilt is shame about being lucky. Some deny that it was luck by becoming sado-narcissists, not just elevating themselves but keeping others down.

Thriver's guilt is shame about being lucky. Some deny that it was luck by becoming sado-narcissists, not just elevating themselves but keeping others down.

Philosophy

Why It's Simpler to Believe That Everything Is Conscious

By Sharon Hewitt Rawlette Ph.D. on September 17, 2019 in Mysteries of Consciousness

A closer look shows the classic version of physicalism is not the most parsimonious theory of reality.

A closer look shows the classic version of physicalism is not the most parsimonious theory of reality.

Anxiety

Are the Socially Anxious Good or Bad at Reading Minds?

By Arash Emamzadeh on September 17, 2019 in Finding a New Home

A recent study in older children examines the relationship between the ability to read minds in social situations and the experience of social anxiety.

A recent study in older children examines the relationship between the ability to read minds in social situations and the experience of social anxiety.

Relationships

Why We Should Rethink Our Understanding of Love

By Charles Johnston MD on September 17, 2019 in Cultural Psychiatry

How changes reshaping love today are more fundamental than we realize—and more fundamental than we could before now have realized.

How changes reshaping love today are more fundamental than we realize—and more fundamental than we could before now have realized.

Animal Behavior

Ants Discriminate Snake Friends and Foes

By Mary Bates Ph.D. on September 17, 2019 in Animal Minds

These ants welcome one snake species into their nest, which may help protect them from another kind of snake.

These ants welcome one snake species into their nest, which may help protect them from another kind of snake.

Relationships

How Honest Are People in Online Dating Profiles?

By Cortney S. Warren Ph.D. on September 17, 2019 in Naked Truth

How honest are people in their online dating profiles? In a recent study by Plenty of Fish, 70% of singles think photo filters are deceptive.

How honest are people in their online dating profiles? In a recent study by Plenty of Fish, 70% of singles think photo filters are deceptive.

Self-Help

Shame Reframed, Part 1

By Jennifer Lock Oman LISW, BCD on September 17, 2019 in Knowing Feeling

Do you carry a lot of shame? You're in the company of others who also care about connection.

Do you carry a lot of shame? You're in the company of others who also care about connection.

Neuroscience

The Lasting Effects of Social Isolation in Adolescence

By Lydia Denworth on September 17, 2019 in Brain Waves

Extreme social isolation has long-term consequences for the adolescent brain. It might also hint at the effects of more common experiences like bullying and feeling left out.

Extreme social isolation has long-term consequences for the adolescent brain. It might also hint at the effects of more common experiences like bullying and feeling left out.

Animal Behavior

Can Dogs Be Racist?

By Stanley Coren PhD., DSc, FRSC on September 17, 2019 in Canine Corner

According to their caretakers, some dogs develop racist prejudices. The reasons may be similar to how children develop such attitudes.

According to their caretakers, some dogs develop racist prejudices. The reasons may be similar to how children develop such attitudes.

Relationships

Friends in Crisis: What to Do When You Don’t Know What to Do

By Kenneth Carter Ph.D. on September 17, 2019 in Buzz

Bad news rarely calls ahead. Keep these 5 things in mind in order to help a friend in need.

Bad news rarely calls ahead. Keep these 5 things in mind in order to help a friend in need.

Relationships

Why Do We Choose to Be in Love?

By Lawrence R. Samuel Ph.D. on September 17, 2019 in Psychology Yesterday

The story of love in America is a complicated one, filled with contradictions and ambiguity.

The story of love in America is a complicated one, filled with contradictions and ambiguity.

Happiness

The Surprising Role of Happiness in Acting for Social Change

By Matthew Legge on September 17, 2019 in Are We Done Fighting?

A brief look at the unlikely roles that feeling good and being grateful play in trying to change the world.

A brief look at the unlikely roles that feeling good and being grateful play in trying to change the world.