Rediscovering Love

Relationships

How One Intimate Partner Can Sabotage Relationship Rehab

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on March 15, 2023

The potential for a relationship to thrive, survive, or end depends on the depth and frequency of challenges and the level of both partners' resilience.

The potential for a relationship to thrive, survive, or end depends on the depth and frequency of challenges and the level of both partners' resilience.

Relationships

10 Behaviors That Can Push People Away

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on February 28, 2023

There are often underlying personality characteristics and behaviors that are likely to push a partner away, even when more obvious reasons don’t exist.

There are often underlying personality characteristics and behaviors that are likely to push a partner away, even when more obvious reasons don’t exist.

Mating

Authentic Dating Profiles: Who You Really Are

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on February 15, 2023

How to recognize and present a successful but honest dating profile.

How to recognize and present a successful but honest dating profile.

Mating

Do You Know Who You’re Dating?

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on January 31, 2023

7 successful ways to find "missing footprints."

7 successful ways to find "missing footprints."

Relationships

The 11 Most Desirable Qualities in a Partner

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on January 13, 2023

Some of those qualities are evident in a new relationship, but are often much less important in the long run. Here are some gender-free, common examples.

Some of those qualities are evident in a new relationship, but are often much less important in the long run. Here are some gender-free, common examples.

Relationships

How Guilt Can Destroy Relationship Intimacy

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on December 30, 2022

​​​​​​​People of all ages feel guilty when they fear that they are not measuring up to the expectations of someone who is important to them.

​​​​​​​People of all ages feel guilty when they fear that they are not measuring up to the expectations of someone who is important to them.

Sex

The 10 Most Common Categories of Sexual Desire

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on December 15, 2022

Following are the ten most often areas of sexual desires and experiences that my patients have shared with me over time.

Following are the ten most often areas of sexual desires and experiences that my patients have shared with me over time.

Relationships

Yo-Yo Relationship Patterns

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on November 30, 2022

Here are the eight most common reasons why people continually oscillate between commitment and escape in their relationships.

Here are the eight most common reasons why people continually oscillate between commitment and escape in their relationships.

Trauma

"Am I Safe With You?"

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on November 11, 2022

This is what can happen when past traumas are triggered, even innocently, in relationships.

This is what can happen when past traumas are triggered, even innocently, in relationships.

Forgiveness

Sham Apologies and How They Erode Trust

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on October 31, 2022

4 steps you can take to change those behaviors, and how this will help both your partner and yourself.  

4 steps you can take to change those behaviors, and how this will help both your partner and yourself.  

Relationships

8 Reasons People Stay in Harmful Relationships

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on October 14, 2022

Here are eight of the most common reasons why people are unable to let go of relationships that are cumulatively harmful.

Here are eight of the most common reasons why people are unable to let go of relationships that are cumulatively harmful.

Relationships

Scheduling Love: Can Romance Survive?

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on September 29, 2022

Six possible behaviors you can implement for lasting love.

Six possible behaviors you can implement for lasting love.

Relationships

Putting Relationships First?

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on September 15, 2022

Many people have shared that they are rethinking their investments in intimate relationships.

Many people have shared that they are rethinking their investments in intimate relationships.

Relationships

Do You Spill Your Partner’s Secrets?

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on August 31, 2022

Partners should be able to feel that what they tell each other in private will remain private. Here's what can happen when that trust is broken.

Partners should be able to feel that what they tell each other in private will remain private. Here's what can happen when that trust is broken.

Relationships

Does Keeping You Mean Losing Me?

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on August 15, 2022

Are you in danger of losing yourself to stay in a relationship? There are five recognizable stages that will help you to recognize how you are handling this potential dilemma.

Are you in danger of losing yourself to stay in a relationship? There are five recognizable stages that will help you to recognize how you are handling this potential dilemma.

Relationships

7 Positive Signs That a Relationship Will Last

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on July 29, 2022

Here are the seven most common transformations I see in relationships headed for long-term success.

Here are the seven most common transformations I see in relationships headed for long-term success.

Relationships

8 Ways Families of Origin Can Disrupt a New Relationship

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on July 14, 2022

Partners seeking a successful long-term relationship often do not realize how much of an obstacle their extended families can become.

Partners seeking a successful long-term relationship often do not realize how much of an obstacle their extended families can become.

Mating

5 Keys to Dating Re-Entry

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on June 30, 2022

It's not easy to catapult yourself out of lethargy and insecurity and reenter the dating world. These 5 tips could help.

It's not easy to catapult yourself out of lethargy and insecurity and reenter the dating world. These 5 tips could help.

Relationships

Why Some People Are Drawn to Harmful Relationships

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on June 17, 2022

Intense love and anguishing sorrow make a painful relationship combination.

Intense love and anguishing sorrow make a painful relationship combination.

Trauma

5 Reasons Why a Partner Might Withdraw

Randi Gunther Ph.D. on May 27, 2022

Have you ever witnessed a partner’s predictive behavioral patterns shift without warning or explanation? These are some common reasons why.

Have you ever witnessed a partner’s predictive behavioral patterns shift without warning or explanation? These are some common reasons why.