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Impulsivity: Good or Bad?

There can be some serious advantages to reacting fast to things around one. But there can also be serious disadvantages to being unplanful and unprepared. What does it mean to be impulsive?

People Who Say “I Hate Game Playing” Play Them

By Jeremy E Sherman Ph.D. on May 19, 2015 in Ambigamy
Hate game playing? Hate it enough to wonder what's really behind it? If so read on.

A Workover: Down from Manager to Individual Contributor

By Marty Nemko Ph.D. on May 19, 2015 in How To Do Life
Advice I gave to a caller to my NPR-San Francisco radio program.

Police Versus Community: Why All the Trauma?

The power of trauma is that it compels us to protect ourselves from threats both real and imagined. How do you help police and community members filter threats that deserve our attention from those that don't?
Goddesses: What Are Their Origins and Roles?

Goddesses: What Are Their Origins and Roles?

A recent birthday celebration reminded me of the importances of goddesses in our lives. We are different goddesses depending upon where we are in the life cycle. Athena, for example, puts career first, Hera puts marriage first, Artemis is the goddess of the hunt and saves other women and Aphrodite is the sensual lover. The wise woman arrives later in life.
How Do Positive Leaders Enable People To Thrive At Work?

How Do Positive Leaders Enable People To Thrive At Work?

Are your employees thriving at work? Do they show up each day with a spark of energy, passion and excitement about the learning and growth opportunities unfolding? And as a leader how do you keep this spark burning?

Back Door Man: Confessions of an Executive Coach

An organization denies a hired Executive Coach access to troubled leader's workplace despite conflict that has resulted in filed grievances, pending lawsuits and threats to the company brand. Can a consultant work with a leader in isolation? Provide diagnosis and treatment separate and apart from his workplace and battlefield? Enter the world of coach as a back door man.
Not Sure if You Should Take Medication?

Not Sure if You Should Take Medication?

Many women wonder why we don’t just prescribe hormone replacements if part of the problem may be their hormones.

Behavioral Economics and Health / Part 1

How a short term pleasure, like a cigarette, trumps having a long life.

How Do You Think About Emotional Distress? Take the Survey!

What would happen if we could talk to a professional about the pain we're feeling without being boxed into the illness frame? Or choosing a diagnosis? What would we say? What would we learn? Participate in this national survey and be part of the discovery.

Mentoring: The Missing Link for Highly Sensitive Children

Ever wonder if your sensitive child needs a mentor?

How a Breakup Can Jumpstart Your Career

By Mark Travers Ph.D. on May 18, 2015 in The Sports Mind
Research suggests that a clean mental slate is essential for peak performance. Add on relationship baggage, and performance suffers.

The Three Core Tactics That Result In Better Leadership

“Leadership”…the word conjures up visions of boardrooms, strategies being implemented, and big ideas coming to fruition. Well, the reality for many leaders is much more mundane because they find themselves lacking the time to expand their focus on the bigger picture and opportunities. We have found that three simple actions can free up the critical time...
The Great Grief: How To Cope with Losing Our World

The Great Grief: How To Cope with Losing Our World

A “Great Grief” a feeling that rises in us as if from the Earth itself

Mental Subtraction: A Simple Trick to Boost Gratitude

Among the stories of tragedy following a plane crash in 2012, was a story of appreciation–a missed connection prevented one man from boarding that plane and when news of the crash aired he broke down, unable to believe how lucky he was. His wife told reporters she couldn't imagine life without him; but, for a few minutes, she had been forced to imagine the unimaginable.

How To Connect To Your Audience (Even After You’re Dead)

Your stone is your closing number, summing it all up, an eternal Facebook page. Your life is your Message. If ever there was a place to put “The Message of You,” it’s on your gravestone!
The Quiet Zone

The Quiet Zone

Quietness and solitude don't have to be enemies - once we get used to them, we'll find that they have a great calming and healing effect.

Sam Bradford: Staying positive in the face of adversity

Season-ending injuries can take a serious toll on athletes, and Sam Bradford, the quarterback of the Philadelphia Eagles, has had two of them. While at one point he even considered quitting football, he has demonstrated how having a positive attitude and outwardly expressing confidence can make a huge difference for an athlete trying to recover from devastating injuries.

The Body Image and Eating Disorder Tsunami

By Ray Williams on May 18, 2015 in Wired for Success
Negative body image and eating disorders constitute a not-so-silent Tsunami that are wreaking havoc in the lives of women and men today.
How To Love Unconditionally When You're Angry

How To Love Unconditionally When You're Angry

Loving unconditionally when you're furious isn't easy. In fact, it's such heavy lifting of the heart that it builds real love muscle. But nothing changes your child's behavior quite as quickly.

How Our Lips Speak Louder Than Our Words

No one can read minds, but you can come close by observing nonverbal gestures.

You live together, but you aren’t even engaged?

Living together before marriage is not uncommon, but living together before engagement may spark feelings of uncertainty. New research studied non-engaged couples living together and what topics/situations spark uncertainty.

Beliefs About Brain Training: Why They Could Be Hurting Us

Can brain training help or hurt? It may depend on your attitude about what you expect to get out of it.

Good Sex

Truly good sex is about more than bodies, it is about persons.

Lubitz Likely Practiced Mass Murder by Airplane

By Kathryn Seifert on May 18, 2015 in Stop The Cycle
New details are still emerging about the Germanwings plane crash in the Alps in March of this year. Many are focused on the fact that co-pilot, Andreas Lubitz, had been diagnosed with a mental illness as being his major risk factor for suicide and mass murder. Mental illness alone is NOT a risk factor for violence or mass murder.

Clergy as Counselor

Clergy are usually the first to know when painful psychological problems come up for people. Michelle Friedman, MD helps us understand the value of religious leadership and what clergy need to learn to fulfill their calling. Good counseling, after all, is also a Godsend. But, it often requires extra training.

Are Teens Going Online to Form Romantic Relationships?

By Michele Ybarra MPH, Ph.D. on May 18, 2015 in Connected
Many teens use the Internet to make new friends, but are today's teenagers also going online to find romantic partners? Moreover, do lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer (LGBTQ) teens use the Internet in different ways than non-LGBTQ teens when it comes to finding romantic partners? These questions and more answered in our new infographic.

Be Very Afraid: Uncertainty, Fear, and Achievement

Adventure is defined by uncertain outcome. The most significant moments of our lives, the most important decisions and the most meaningful choices are characterized, in part, by uncertainty and by fear. Without uncertainty we have a safe, contained, and predictable experience; we don’t have adventure.

Give Your Mind a Rest: Practice Not-Thinking

Discursive thinking—the constant stream of one thought following another—is a deeply ingrained habit. It’s so ingrained that we often start thinking just to occupy our minds.

On the Theater Shooting

With the trial going on, I am reposting my thoughts from the day of the shooting.