There are many temptations to organize our life around the experience of earlier trauma. But that may short-change the future—which starts by our envisioning something better.
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Understandings of Self, Awareness, and Mental Health in an Ever-Changing World
Samantha Stein Psy.D.
There aren’t any manuals out there titled “How to Help People Through a Lethal, Global Pandemic That You, Yourself, Are Surviving.” I learned a lot.
Differences can be navigated—if there is a way to meet in the middle, move forward with compassion, or find connection in spite of the distance.
Much of the anxiety we experience today—setting aside true, reality-based concerns—is not adaptive and is even maladaptive. Here's how to cope with it better.
While we may think of an exciting choice as fully about gain, even the most joyful choices we make can involve giving something up.
How do we shift our relationship with time into a more healthy one?
Maybe agreement is not necessarily the goal. Maybe the goal is that we can live together and learn from each other and creatively come up with something different.
Regardless of their presenting problem, couples ultimately need help with communication, kindness, and appreciation.
When their marriages fail to validate their masculinity, some men seek an outside partner as a workaround.
The onus is on us when we are challenged by who people are—not to reject them, but to expand our capacity to love.
We should feel empowered to do all that we can and make the best of the life that we have. But the hard truth is that our power is limited.
It isn’t possible to know who we are or what we want when we don’t make the time to be still with ourselves.
When we're accountable and make amends, we are forced to face our own humanity. It's painful but it forces us to understand ourselves more deeply.
Shame is debilitating and can lead to mental illness, addiction, isolation, and death. This is why pride is so important.
Advice to parents of newly out nonbinary youth and young adults from someone who has been there.
If we want to create a world where love and respect are the norms, we need to start now.
We have the opportunity to either escape from or show up for this life. Which one will you choose?
What happens when life forces us to choose between two “wrongs,” or bad situations, either one compromising our core values, obligations, and commitments?
How do we wind our way through the collective loss and grief we are experiencing?
To this day, I still think about what happened that evening with the pacifier, no matter how small it may seem.
When we were growing up, we absorbed a lot of information from our environment about how we needed to be in order to feel loved.
When my only child moved to California, I was not thrilled.
“As my heart raced and cortisol shot through my veins, the only thing I could think of was, 'Damn, I need a drink,'” she wrote.
If the goal is a loving community, sustainability, and respect for all people and nature, then we must choose a path that includes all of us.
The only way forward is with each other.
We insist that disability and death is something that happens to others, not us.
In the United States, our incarceration rate is the highest in the world. What is happening to all those people during the pandemic?
How do we cope when the rhythm of yesterday has become a bunch of questions of today? We return to our values and passions.
Time is a precious resource: Spend it well. It’s up to you to decide what that looks like.
We long to feel safe, but following one’s heart is often filled with risk, contradiction, and loss.
We all have ways we try to avoid the discomfort of this human experience. What happens if we show up instead?
Samantha Stein, Psy.D., is a psychologist in private practice in San Francisco. She works with couples and individuals, specializing in intimacy, sexuality, and self-realization.