My earlier post, “Re-Thinking Misandry” generated considerable interest. Some comments were positive, some negative, some constructive, some remarkably obscene, and much of it debating male privilege vs female privilege. Clearly both misogyny and misandry are alive and, well...sick.
Stupidity is close friends with greed and narcissism, as discussed earlier. Indeed Stephen Hawking affirms: “We are in danger of destroying ourselves by our greed and stupidity.” Stupidity is not simply personal, it is also political, economic and institutional.
Our beliefs are weird and wonderful, strange and funny. They may help us to make sense of life and of our own lives in particular, but they can also cause chaos and mayhem in the lives of others – and even our own.
“Relationships are weird,” a friend remarked at a party recently, and we all nodded sadly in agreement. But why are they weird? Presumably because people are so different and have such conflicting points of view on the trinity of R, L and S: Relationships, Love and Sex.
Tyler Clementi’s tragic suicide at Rutgers in 2010 received much publicity and opened up some discussion on the topic (New Yorker Feb 6, 2012). Subsequently, after a rash of suicides by young people, President Obama called a White House Conference on bullying and cyber-bullying in May 2011. So suicide is receiving more attention, but there is much more to be done.
How do we know how to know ourselves? From our parents and friends? But they are biased. So are our enemies, though they may be less tactful and more truthful. From our therapists? By introspection? Perhaps from personality tests?
Meanings are not given to most of us, though we are socialized into some by our parents or significant others, but still we tend to construct our own eventually. So here are my Top 12. Pick yours, or add it to the list if it is not there, or mix and match.
"Men are all the same. They only want one thing!" This was a mantra I heard in my youth. Maybe it is true, but according to Cosmo (April 1999), which I found in my files recently. Maybe it is not, which may be a relief to all of us, or not.
A recent issue of Newsweek celebrated International Women's Day with portraits of "150 Women Who Shake the World." Though "save" might be a better word than "shake," for these are inspirational women who do so much good for all of us.