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Considerations for the Latter Third of Life
Roberta Satow Ph.D.
Repetitive acting out can be an attempt to master a traumatic experience or to maintain a fragile sense of self that is based on identifying as a victim.
Destructive patterns in relationships can be explained in various ways but they all need to be identified with insight and worked through.
The capacity to work through and resolve conflicts, rather than ignore or only partially work through them, is at the heart of safety and security in a relationship.
A Personal Perspective: Do you feel guilty, as if your feelings were actions?
The self-righteous narcissist derives his narcissistic validation and supply by maintaining himself as a morally superior person or a hero.
Can psychotherapy serve as a model for working through microaggressions that occur in colleges and universities?
In general, the fear of regret is the greatest enemy of good decision-making. But for people with narcissistic issues, the fear of regret is linked with the fear of shame.
Some hypochondriacs search for an ideal mother concerned about their pain, while others displace their psychological fragility onto physical symptoms.
Can mask mandates put employees enforcing them in danger?
Are the temper tantrums of your partner wearing you down?
Do you have extreme emotional reactions to disappointment in others or yourself?
Does being interrupted drive you crazy? Understanding the motivation of the other person can help.
Why have the elderly had the highest rates of anxiety and depression during the pandemic?
Are you thinking of ending your therapy abruptly? Is it a bad fit or is there something you do not want to know?
Friendships are high stakes when they are intimate, while low-stakes friends do not share any feelings or experiences that would make either of them feel emotionally vulnerable.
Do you have trouble tolerating ambivalent feelings about your partner or friends? Realizing it's normal can help.
For people who have not gotten sick or suffered grievous personal or financial loss, can there be an upside to the COVID crisis?
Do you wait to finalize a decision until you are 100 percent certain that it is right?
Can patients be helped by therapists who have their own problems?
The intergenerational transmission of narcissism is widespread in this country. Do you want to stop it?
Are cultural differences causing stress in your relationship? Some steps can help.
Why is it so hard to admit making a mistake?
Tips for coping with the return of young adult children during the pandemic.
Do you feel guilty for thriving during the pandemic when so many people are suffering the loss of health, income, education and even loved ones?
Are you angry at your daughter-in-law for showing preference to her mother over you?
Is your inner voice a critical one?
Do you know a persistent liar?
Is being housebound making it hard to get along?
Does your anxiety feel out of control because of the coronavirus?
Is the threat of a coronavirus pandemic overwhelming you?
Roberta Satow, Ph.D. is a professor emeritus at Brooklyn College and a private practice psychotherapist in Manhattan.