There are ways to temper your toughest critic and take constructive control of your feelings.
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Considerations for the Latter Third of Life
Roberta Satow Ph.D.
How do you turn a self-criticizing voice into a self-soothing voice? The psychoanalyst and the cognitive behaviorist take two very different approaches.
Are you being bullied by the temper tantrums of a spouse, adult child or sibling? If so, you need to develop a strategy.
Are you afraid to change because you can't forgive yourself for taking so long?
The president seems to find it hard to control his emotions. What does that mean for the country?
Metaphors and similes can be used to interpret a patient's repetitive feelings and behavior in a poignant way.
Cracks in a relationship often come to the surface as soon as a renovation project begins.
Attachment styles develop early, but lay an important role in adult relationships. Changing styles requires hard work in psychotherapy.
Is understanding art through a psychological lens wrong?
The schizoid/depressive dance often ends with the rage of the depressive being met with the schizoid withdrawing or leaving.
After months of separation from their young children, when the reunions finally happened, some mothers were met with rejection. This is not surprising.
Part of becoming an independent man involves the boy’s ability to resolve his Oedipal rivalry with his father by taking on some of the features and belief system of the father.
The emphasis in the clinical setting is placed on verbal interactions, but nonverbal behavior can give us an important glimpse of the unconscious.
Therapists are not washing machines. If you choose a therapist because he or she is on sale, you may not be getting the best therapist for you.
Are you unable to console yourself? Do you have a tantrum when you are hurt or frustrated?
Can compulsive humor be a defense against anxiety and pain?
Equating feelings and actions makes some feelings so frightening that we have to repress or deny them, or split them off and act them out in some displaced fashion.
We are all advised to plan for the future. But is there a time when you need to live in the present because you don't know how much future is left?
After a lifetime of focusing on "shoulds," getting older, if we are lucky, can mean focusing on "wants."
Are you surprised at what your children tell you is bad for the kids?
Many caregivers decide to have their older relative move in with them. This is a major life decision and should be made cautiously.
The markedly schizoid person cannot compromise, yet, ironically, his whole life is a compromise position (one foot in and one foot out) in order to avoid commitment.
Why is it so hard to apologize?
Three of Freud's concepts still distinguish psychoanalytic treatment from cognitive varieties — regression, transference, and resistance.
In 1991, 20 million viewers watched as Anita Hill was compelled to answer humiliating questions by contemptuous male senators. Has the worm turned?
Are you stilted in your career because of fear of failure? Or are you a self-destructive risk-taker? Either way, your reality testing is distorted.
Does creativity involve taking risks?
Does Kumail Nanjiani's relationship with his parents ring bells for you?
How does writing promote the self development?
Are there opportunities for adult siblings to understand and work out unresolved issues that are lurking from childhood?
Becoming a grandparent is one of life’s milestones. But no matter how close you are to your son or daughter and his/her spouse, you’re bound to have different ideas about it.
Roberta Satow, Ph.D. is a professor emeritus at Brooklyn College and a private practice psychotherapist in Manhattan.