Infidelity Therapists in Scottsdale, AZ
Isa Jones
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, CST
Verified Verified
4 Endorsed
Scottsdale, AZ 85253
Waitlist for new clients
As a Certified Sex and Relationship Therapist, I provide a safe, comfortable space to discuss and resolve difficult challenges. Together, we will work to create new possibilities, find hope and develop a plan so you can reach your personal and relational goals. I specialize in couples intimacy, communication, infidelity, eroticism and addressing specific sexual challenges. Some common challenges I treat include: Low Desire, Sexless or Awkward Sexual relationships, Erotic Conflicts, Early Ejaculation, Erectile Challenges, Pre-Orgasmic Women, Pain Associated with Sex, Compulsive Sexual Behaviors, Sexual Inhibitions, Sexual Trauma, Incompatible Fantasies, Alternative Love Styles, and Integrating Spirituality with Sexuality.
As a Certified Sex and Relationship Therapist, I provide a safe, comfortable space to discuss and resolve difficult challenges. Together, we will work to create new possibilities, find hope and develop a plan so you can reach your personal and relational goals. I specialize in couples intimacy, communication, infidelity, eroticism and addressing specific sexual challenges. Some common challenges I treat include: Low Desire, Sexless or Awkward Sexual relationships, Erotic Conflicts, Early Ejaculation, Erectile Challenges, Pre-Orgasmic Women, Pain Associated with Sex, Compulsive Sexual Behaviors, Sexual Inhibitions, Sexual Trauma, Incompatible Fantasies, Alternative Love Styles, and Integrating Spirituality with Sexuality.
I excel at helping couples navigate challenges with betrayal and ruptured trust, infidelity, lack of connection and intimacy, and "the same old fight.
The decision to seek therapy can feel difficult and intimidating. Many hesitate to reach out for fear of judgment and shame. I welcome all parts of you and want for you a space where you can feel less guarded and more open to explore. Through compassionate guidance and exploration, we strive to restore broken bonds with self and others. My approach is casual, compassionate and non judgmental. I love rooting for people and all people in all bodies are welcome here.
I excel at helping couples navigate challenges with betrayal and ruptured trust, infidelity, lack of connection and intimacy, and "the same old fight.
The decision to seek therapy can feel difficult and intimidating. Many hesitate to reach out for fear of judgment and shame. I welcome all parts of you and want for you a space where you can feel less guarded and more open to explore. Through compassionate guidance and exploration, we strive to restore broken bonds with self and others. My approach is casual, compassionate and non judgmental. I love rooting for people and all people in all bodies are welcome here.
Melissa Thornburg
Licensed Professional Counselor, MA, LPC, ASAT, RYT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Scottsdale, AZ 85250
Although I can help with many issues, my specialty is compulsive sexual behaviors and the betrayal trauma that can accompany these confusing and disconnecting behaviors.
As a Therapist in long term recovery from both substance and process addictions, I've received support from some very special humans who've lit the way for me to peer into the areas of my path that were either blind spots or I just couldn't see from an objective perspective (yet). After a career in corporate development, I'm grateful to have transitioned to providing the work that's helped me come to terms with life and my place in it; work that feeds my soul and shines the light on those dark places so many of us are challenged to venture into alone. Together, we can explore and make meaning of what's happened to you.
Although I can help with many issues, my specialty is compulsive sexual behaviors and the betrayal trauma that can accompany these confusing and disconnecting behaviors.
As a Therapist in long term recovery from both substance and process addictions, I've received support from some very special humans who've lit the way for me to peer into the areas of my path that were either blind spots or I just couldn't see from an objective perspective (yet). After a career in corporate development, I'm grateful to have transitioned to providing the work that's helped me come to terms with life and my place in it; work that feeds my soul and shines the light on those dark places so many of us are challenged to venture into alone. Together, we can explore and make meaning of what's happened to you.
Overcome Betrayal - 10 Week Couples Intensive
Marriage & Family Therapist, MFT
Verified Verified
Scottsdale, AZ 85258 (Online Only)
Overcome infidelity and sexual betrayal - by restoring trust and rebuilding intimacy.
Our team specializes in helping Christian couples overcome sexual betrayal and addiction. Learn: 1. How to save your marriage even if you think it's headed for divorce. 2. How to restore trust and intimacy even if that feels impossible right now. 3. Why couples counseling is NOT the best strategy for saving the marriage and how my clients win their spouse's heart starting TODAY. 4. How our couples experience the secrets that make it happen way faster than they can imagine. 5. AND...How our clients do this without years in therapy, even if they don't know where to start.
Overcome infidelity and sexual betrayal - by restoring trust and rebuilding intimacy.
Our team specializes in helping Christian couples overcome sexual betrayal and addiction. Learn: 1. How to save your marriage even if you think it's headed for divorce. 2. How to restore trust and intimacy even if that feels impossible right now. 3. Why couples counseling is NOT the best strategy for saving the marriage and how my clients win their spouse's heart starting TODAY. 4. How our couples experience the secrets that make it happen way faster than they can imagine. 5. AND...How our clients do this without years in therapy, even if they don't know where to start.
I work specifically with couples who have discovered infidelity. Couples are traumatized when infidelity is discovered and the clinician needs to help the couple implement immediate steps to prevent further damage to the relationship. Counselor strategies for infidelity are much different than what a traditional counselor would utilize. When couples set up an appointment with me, they will get in quickly, and experience a specific treatment approach for infidelity. I also help couples with creating intimate communication, conflict skills, creating emotional and sexual intimacy, and increasing love and affection.
I work specifically with couples who have discovered infidelity. Couples are traumatized when infidelity is discovered and the clinician needs to help the couple implement immediate steps to prevent further damage to the relationship. Counselor strategies for infidelity are much different than what a traditional counselor would utilize. When couples set up an appointment with me, they will get in quickly, and experience a specific treatment approach for infidelity. I also help couples with creating intimate communication, conflict skills, creating emotional and sexual intimacy, and increasing love and affection.
It is NEVER TOO LATE...Whatever has happened, where ever you are right now, there is always a chance for hope and healing. I am uniquely experienced and specialize in working with individuals and/or couples struggling with sex or pornography addiction and infidelity as well as the resulting heartbreaking fall-out personally and within a relationship. With 20 years of experience in professional counseling, I understand the process of trauma, recovery and restoration that is uniquely associated with sex addiction, broken lives and broken marriages. More information is on my website: crossedheartscounseling.com.
It is NEVER TOO LATE...Whatever has happened, where ever you are right now, there is always a chance for hope and healing. I am uniquely experienced and specialize in working with individuals and/or couples struggling with sex or pornography addiction and infidelity as well as the resulting heartbreaking fall-out personally and within a relationship. With 20 years of experience in professional counseling, I understand the process of trauma, recovery and restoration that is uniquely associated with sex addiction, broken lives and broken marriages. More information is on my website: crossedheartscounseling.com.
Angela Wilson
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Scottsdale, AZ 85255
I work with individuals, couples, especially those healing from infidelity, groups, and families.
As a meadows trained, sex therapist, and trauma specialist, I dive deeply into childhood issues helping you discover the root causes of depression, anxiety, substance abuse, sex addiction, and dysfunctional relationship patterns (such as the love addicted/love avoidant pattern), and attachment styles. Learn about how to heal from toxic relationships, narcissistic partners, trauma and codependency. Learn about the root of dysfunctional thinking patterns and how trauma shapes how you attach to others, who you date and what you attract.
I work with individuals, couples, especially those healing from infidelity, groups, and families.
As a meadows trained, sex therapist, and trauma specialist, I dive deeply into childhood issues helping you discover the root causes of depression, anxiety, substance abuse, sex addiction, and dysfunctional relationship patterns (such as the love addicted/love avoidant pattern), and attachment styles. Learn about how to heal from toxic relationships, narcissistic partners, trauma and codependency. Learn about the root of dysfunctional thinking patterns and how trauma shapes how you attach to others, who you date and what you attract.
Marianne Turley
Marriage & Family Therapist, MC, LMFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Scottsdale, AZ 85250
I specialize in the treatment of trauma, including abuse and infidelity.
"Healing comes when we choose to walk away from darkness and move towards a brighter light." Dieter F. Uchtdorf's words echo the message I try to share with each of my clients. I work from a strengths-based perspective and believe each individual possesses unique skills and abilities to overcome struggles. I strive to create an environment of safety, allowing individuals to explore difficult issues by shining light on the situation and helping each person connect with their truth.
I specialize in the treatment of trauma, including abuse and infidelity.
"Healing comes when we choose to walk away from darkness and move towards a brighter light." Dieter F. Uchtdorf's words echo the message I try to share with each of my clients. I work from a strengths-based perspective and believe each individual possesses unique skills and abilities to overcome struggles. I strive to create an environment of safety, allowing individuals to explore difficult issues by shining light on the situation and helping each person connect with their truth.
Are you in a toxic relationship? Do you often feel confused, depleted, desperate to find solutions to make things better and get back to the good that existed in the beginning - but nothing you do seems to make a difference? Are your partner's words and actions often misaligned? Is infidelity present or suspected? If so, you may be in a relationship with a narcissist. The sooner you can identify this and get educated on what this entails, the sooner you can regain your strength and sanity. Enduring Narcissistic Abuse can lead to the debilitating and little known condition called Narcissistic Victim Syndrome (NVS).
Are you in a toxic relationship? Do you often feel confused, depleted, desperate to find solutions to make things better and get back to the good that existed in the beginning - but nothing you do seems to make a difference? Are your partner's words and actions often misaligned? Is infidelity present or suspected? If so, you may be in a relationship with a narcissist. The sooner you can identify this and get educated on what this entails, the sooner you can regain your strength and sanity. Enduring Narcissistic Abuse can lead to the debilitating and little known condition called Narcissistic Victim Syndrome (NVS).
I am a trauma-informed psychologist with a strengths-based approach that is grounded in the fundamentals of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). This means that I believe that everyone in life experiences situations that affect their beliefs, thoughts, emotions, and values, sometimes in unhelpful ways. My focus areas are relationship issues (romantic/family/friends), trauma and PTSD, couples counseling, anxiety, depression, anger management, career counseling, family conflict, infidelity, self-esteem, stress, among other issues. Healthy relationships with yourself and others can improve your overall well-being and mental health.
I am a trauma-informed psychologist with a strengths-based approach that is grounded in the fundamentals of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT). This means that I believe that everyone in life experiences situations that affect their beliefs, thoughts, emotions, and values, sometimes in unhelpful ways. My focus areas are relationship issues (romantic/family/friends), trauma and PTSD, couples counseling, anxiety, depression, anger management, career counseling, family conflict, infidelity, self-esteem, stress, among other issues. Healthy relationships with yourself and others can improve your overall well-being and mental health.
I am an experienced, Licensed Professional Counselor and Board Certified Life Coach who cares and can help! I have over 25 years experience working with adult men in a variety of settings. I offer counseling (www.hedberglpc.com) and life coaching services (www.lifecoaching4men.com). I specialize in working with men (age 21 and older) a broad range of problems such as: life transitions (divorce, job loss, grief), anger/stress management, depression, anxiety, relationship issues, sexual performance issues (ED, Infidelity), addictions, mental disorders, family issues, grief, codependency, low self-esteem, career, and life goals.
I am an experienced, Licensed Professional Counselor and Board Certified Life Coach who cares and can help! I have over 25 years experience working with adult men in a variety of settings. I offer counseling (www.hedberglpc.com) and life coaching services (www.lifecoaching4men.com). I specialize in working with men (age 21 and older) a broad range of problems such as: life transitions (divorce, job loss, grief), anger/stress management, depression, anxiety, relationship issues, sexual performance issues (ED, Infidelity), addictions, mental disorders, family issues, grief, codependency, low self-esteem, career, and life goals.
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Emma Whitcomb
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
Scottsdale, AZ 85254 (Online Only)
Waitlist for new clients
I have experience working with marital issues, attachment issues, grief and loss, infidelity, self-esteem, life transitions, symptoms of anxiety, depression, anger, trauma, stress and, cross-cultural differences.
My approach to therapy is like a tool box. I believe we need all types of tools to create, build, and work on things in our life. I want to help you create your toolbox into a way that can be helpful for you. We are all diverse as humans and I don’t believe there is “one size fits all.” I value building relationships with my clients that can foster curiosity to explore the challenges they have faced and how we can navigate this journey together to achieve their goals.
I have experience working with marital issues, attachment issues, grief and loss, infidelity, self-esteem, life transitions, symptoms of anxiety, depression, anger, trauma, stress and, cross-cultural differences.
My approach to therapy is like a tool box. I believe we need all types of tools to create, build, and work on things in our life. I want to help you create your toolbox into a way that can be helpful for you. We are all diverse as humans and I don’t believe there is “one size fits all.” I value building relationships with my clients that can foster curiosity to explore the challenges they have faced and how we can navigate this journey together to achieve their goals.
Come experience therapy with one of our specialists. We offer individual counseling for anxiety and depression, panic disorder and OCD, couples counseling for a variety of concerns, including infidelity treatment, trauma and EMDR counseling, and help with sports performance. If cost is a concern, we also offer low-cost counseling with one of clinical counseling interns.
Come experience therapy with one of our specialists. We offer individual counseling for anxiety and depression, panic disorder and OCD, couples counseling for a variety of concerns, including infidelity treatment, trauma and EMDR counseling, and help with sports performance. If cost is a concern, we also offer low-cost counseling with one of clinical counseling interns.
Lucy Guadalupe
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Scottsdale, AZ 85260
I work hands on with a diverse population with various presenting concerns including depression, anxiety, trauma, family conflict, infidelity, grief, co-parenting, mood management, LGBTQ, sexual abuse, life transitions, and more. I ensure providing a safe space for my clients so working towards the best version of themselves and their goals feels comfortable and achievable. My approach is collaborative with all clients and all presenting concerns. I believe that each client has their own unique story and I want to validate this story and healing.
I work hands on with a diverse population with various presenting concerns including depression, anxiety, trauma, family conflict, infidelity, grief, co-parenting, mood management, LGBTQ, sexual abuse, life transitions, and more. I ensure providing a safe space for my clients so working towards the best version of themselves and their goals feels comfortable and achievable. My approach is collaborative with all clients and all presenting concerns. I believe that each client has their own unique story and I want to validate this story and healing.
Michelle Hildt
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Scottsdale, AZ 85258
I have worked with a diverse population with various presenting issues including depression, anxiety, trauma, family conflict, infidelity, divorce, co-parenting, mood management, sexual abuse, and faith transitions or faith crisis.
I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist at Therapy With Heart. I know that making the decision to seek therapy takes courage, and feeling safe and comfortable are the first steps in creating personal change. With this as a backdrop, I structure our sessions around mindfulness and emphasizing your strengths while collaborating together to find the answers that work for YOU. I also strive to help provide you with the tools necessary to continue growing outside the therapy session.
I have worked with a diverse population with various presenting issues including depression, anxiety, trauma, family conflict, infidelity, divorce, co-parenting, mood management, sexual abuse, and faith transitions or faith crisis.
I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist at Therapy With Heart. I know that making the decision to seek therapy takes courage, and feeling safe and comfortable are the first steps in creating personal change. With this as a backdrop, I structure our sessions around mindfulness and emphasizing your strengths while collaborating together to find the answers that work for YOU. I also strive to help provide you with the tools necessary to continue growing outside the therapy session.
Elizabeth Kresojevich
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
6 Endorsed
Scottsdale, AZ 85260
I provide support for couples that are experiencing infidelity, relationship stress, and infertility.
My belief is that therapy is a collaborative process that includes integration of culture, values, and morals for couples and families. I believe that therapy is a journey where we utilize story-telling to explore different patterns of anxiety, distress, and grief to create a narrative that feels comfortable and aligns with your goals as a couple or family.
I provide support for couples that are experiencing infidelity, relationship stress, and infertility.
My belief is that therapy is a collaborative process that includes integration of culture, values, and morals for couples and families. I believe that therapy is a journey where we utilize story-telling to explore different patterns of anxiety, distress, and grief to create a narrative that feels comfortable and aligns with your goals as a couple or family.
In my work, I see conflict and communication as the driving force for needing support. I believe that every conflict offers an opportunity to be deeply seen and understood by our partner, friends, or family. In my practice, I lead with the Gottman method for couples, which integrates research-based interventions to help those that are experiencing issues such as lack of intimacy, sex, commitment issues, infidelity, betrayal, lack of friendship, loss of trust, money issues, communication issues, parenting, etc. This approach is equally applicable to working with families and individuals as well.
In my work, I see conflict and communication as the driving force for needing support. I believe that every conflict offers an opportunity to be deeply seen and understood by our partner, friends, or family. In my practice, I lead with the Gottman method for couples, which integrates research-based interventions to help those that are experiencing issues such as lack of intimacy, sex, commitment issues, infidelity, betrayal, lack of friendship, loss of trust, money issues, communication issues, parenting, etc. This approach is equally applicable to working with families and individuals as well.
Kelly Ontiveros
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
6 Endorsed
Scottsdale, AZ 85258
I'm a Certified Emotionally Focused Couple Therapist and Supervisor, which allows me to help couples recover from affairs, address losses of intimacy and connection, strengthen attachment, and adjust to life stressors.
As a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, I understand the importance of creating a safe and non-judgmental space for you to find your best self. I specialize in treating issues in marital connection and intimacy, affair recovery, trauma, anxiety, depression, grief and loss. After completing my master's work, I gained extensive training in psychodynamic therapy, which addresses family of origin issues, wounding messages from childhood, and attachment styles expressed in relationships.
I'm a Certified Emotionally Focused Couple Therapist and Supervisor, which allows me to help couples recover from affairs, address losses of intimacy and connection, strengthen attachment, and adjust to life stressors.
As a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, I understand the importance of creating a safe and non-judgmental space for you to find your best self. I specialize in treating issues in marital connection and intimacy, affair recovery, trauma, anxiety, depression, grief and loss. After completing my master's work, I gained extensive training in psychodynamic therapy, which addresses family of origin issues, wounding messages from childhood, and attachment styles expressed in relationships.
TEENS: Depression/Anxiety/Self-Esteem, Academic Problems, Cutting, Defiance/Anger, Videogame Addiction & Failure to Launch Successfully into Adulthood COUPLES: Conflict/Crisis Resolution, Infidelity Recovery, Rekindling Love Connection, Enhancing Communication & Repairing Relationship After Conflict FAMILY: Divorce, Co-Parenting in Divorce & Parenting Skills.
Hi! I am Dr. Krystina. I’m excited that you saw something in me that feels like a good fit. I really love helping people at any age discover a more fulfilling, nourishing life — one where they feel connected to what makes them feel truly alive and excited for the future. Text me anytime at (480) 463-4432 or call/email to schedule your free 15-min phone or video meet and greet with me — it’s a quick and easy way for you to get a feel for me and how I can help you. With 17 years of experience (I look younger than I am), you will find that I am very easy to talk to and knowledgeable about how to help you or your child/teen.
TEENS: Depression/Anxiety/Self-Esteem, Academic Problems, Cutting, Defiance/Anger, Videogame Addiction & Failure to Launch Successfully into Adulthood COUPLES: Conflict/Crisis Resolution, Infidelity Recovery, Rekindling Love Connection, Enhancing Communication & Repairing Relationship After Conflict FAMILY: Divorce, Co-Parenting in Divorce & Parenting Skills.
Hi! I am Dr. Krystina. I’m excited that you saw something in me that feels like a good fit. I really love helping people at any age discover a more fulfilling, nourishing life — one where they feel connected to what makes them feel truly alive and excited for the future. Text me anytime at (480) 463-4432 or call/email to schedule your free 15-min phone or video meet and greet with me — it’s a quick and easy way for you to get a feel for me and how I can help you. With 17 years of experience (I look younger than I am), you will find that I am very easy to talk to and knowledgeable about how to help you or your child/teen.
Dr. Tracy S. Kelly, The Strategic Psychotherapist
Marriage & Family Therapist, EdD, LMFT, NCC
Verified Verified
Scottsdale, AZ 85255 (Online Only)
Now accepting Aetna and Cigna insurance! Accepting new clients using Telehealth! Look toward a life free from the things that have held you back. I specialize in helping adolescents, adults, couples, and families toward wellness, and healing. If you're seeking new ways to change behaviors, thoughts, and actions, with new tools, you're in the right place. I work with clients to help them heal from a variety of issues including anxiety, depression, low-self esteem, fear, doubt, abuse, grief, loss, ADD/ADHD, infidelity, divorce, blended families, mood disorders, hopelessness, stress, communication, and more.
Now accepting Aetna and Cigna insurance! Accepting new clients using Telehealth! Look toward a life free from the things that have held you back. I specialize in helping adolescents, adults, couples, and families toward wellness, and healing. If you're seeking new ways to change behaviors, thoughts, and actions, with new tools, you're in the right place. I work with clients to help them heal from a variety of issues including anxiety, depression, low-self esteem, fear, doubt, abuse, grief, loss, ADD/ADHD, infidelity, divorce, blended families, mood disorders, hopelessness, stress, communication, and more.
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Infidelity Therapists
How does therapy for infidelity work?
A skilled infidelity therapist will provide a safe space for clients to communicate their feelings and concerns. The goal is to be completely honest about what led to the cheating and how it has affected the entire family to prevent it from recurring in the future. The therapist will help the clients work on rebuilding mutual trust and respect and developing better communication and conflict-resolution skills. If the goal is to remain a couple, clients will learn the “danger signs” for their specific relationship, and they will make a renewed commitment to be faithful.
How long does therapy for infidelity take?
Recovery from infidelity can take time, and it can vary from person to person. Generally, a therapist will want to see the clients at least once a week for around six months. Then the sessions can be arranged as needed, depending on the clients’ individual needs. While therapy may end or shift to an as-needed basis, it can take up to two years or more for some clients to fully recover from infidelity.
How does therapy help the partner who was cheated on?
When a client discovers their partner’s infidelity, their trust in the relationship and in the life they had together may be shattered. They often experience mental health symptoms, such as anxiety, depression, grief, and post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD). They don’t always want to stay in the relationship; they may feel ambivalent or may even want to leave. Therapy gives these clients a safe and healthy way to communicate all of their complicated emotions and concerns.
How does therapy help the partner who committed infidelity?
Infidelity often occurs when one or both partners’ emotional needs are not being met in the relationship. Therapy can help this client understand why they cheated and figure out how to address those unmet needs without resorting to infidelity in the future. This can lessen (but not entirely eliminate) the risk of repeated infidelity. Clients who cheat may also feel intense guilt about deceiving their partners, a sentiment that they can work through in therapy.