Teletherapy for California

I am a queer relationship therapist dedicated to supporting partners in relating across difference from a place of loving wholeness. Maybe you want to feel more connected, authentic, and loving toward your partner, or you may need to repair from breaches of trust. You may not have met your “inner children” yet and want to develop a trusting relationship with them. I hold space as a compassionate guide to walk that path with you. I'm here to witness, support, and make space for you and your partner to feel, share, and nurture all parts of yourselves, so that you can experience more of your own agency, authenticity, and wholeness.

Hi, I'm glad you made it. Asking for and finding support is tough, but this is the first step. Tell me, do you find it difficult to stay motivated throughout the day? Are you constantly ruminating on interactions with others, anxious about whether you said or did the "right" thing? Perhaps you spend most of your time and energy worrying about how others perceive you? Or, maybe you struggle to feel deserving to take up space in a conversation or a room full of people? If you identify as a perfectionist, people-pleaser, over-thinker, or struggle with low self-esteem or self-worth, therapy might help cut through some of that noise.

Hi, I'm Ryan. I am a proud Mexican-American and member of the LGBTQIA+ community. I am passionate about providing affirmative therapy and a safe space for all of my clients. My approach to therapy is eclectic, because therapy is not a “One size fits all”. I enjoy working with people who want to work on improving their situations. I am ready to go at a pace that is comfortable for you. If that means starting off slow, or certain topics are off the table, that is ok. If it means you would like to jump right in, I am ready for that as well.

As an openly gay bi-cultural man, I’ve spent the better part of my adult life unlearning the harmful messages our world tells us about what is means to be different - that we’re somehow broken or unworthy. I am here to tell you they are wrong. You are fabulous, vibrant and deserving of all the gifts this world has to offer. I became a therapist to share what I’ve learned and to bring healing not just to queer folks, but to anyone who knows what it feels like to be left out. When we work together, you can expect a safe, affirming, and sometimes silly space where we collaborate to find real solutions you can implement right away.

I have over 20 years of experience helping people reclaim their personal power and live a life of greater authenticity and fulfillment. I support clients to heal past wounds, build self-esteem, and begin saying "yes" to their dreams and values in their relationships, careers, spritituality, etc. I use a blend of traditional psychotherapy, life coaching and spiritual teachings to support my clients in self-actualization. For LGBT clients and family members dealing with coming out issues I support them in authentic self-expression, honesty, and self-acceptance.

The post pandemic era, has been a time of feeling stressed, overwhelmed and anxious for many people. For those dealing with physical disabilities or life challenges, navigating all of this can be even more challenging. Maybe you are facing a new disability or a continued one. Maybe you are LGBTQ and facing relationship or other stress. Maybe life has become overwhelming. You can meet these challenges.

We are all continually moving through different spaces trying to establish who we are and what is important to us. Adjusting to these environments can be especially difficult if who you are is not embraced, whether it is within your family, at work, in the military, in a social group, or faith-based community. As a member of the LGBTQIA+ community, I am an advocate for underrepresented individuals and communities, and try to be affirming to those struggling with being accepted or understood. Therapy can be a space to better recognize your needs, your values, and how to cope more effectively.

In life we can sometimes feel stuck in old patterns. Or maybe our sleep, eating, or job performance has changed. Mood, physical health, and mental health are all connected. Brain fog, tiredness, loss of interest (or sleepless nights, jittery days, etc) can mean the balance is off. These are times when therapy can help you understand the issues from a new point of view. Primarily, I see my job as one of listener and guide. Together, we can figure out what's keeping you from being a joyful resilient person. It takes courage and strength to ask for help. I am here if you are curious or ready to begin.

Having anxiety can cause feelings of being out of control. Depression can cause almost physical pain. Sometimes, to feel more in control or less pain, we do things that we think are helping. But, is it? The heaviness of trauma can be frightening, frustrating, and even lonely! Everyone has a right to be heard and feel comfortable within their own space. I'm an LGBTQIA+ therapist, with an eclectic, holistic therapeutic perspective. I consider YOU to be an expert in your life and growth. No one knows you better than yourself. Sometimes, we all just need a little guidance.

We specialize in sex therapy, sex-positive therapy, kink positive therapy. We work to help get you back safely towards trust & connection, pleasure while healing relational stress/tension/trauma. We have extensive experience with ENM/CNM, LGBTQIA, gender variant, non-monogamous, polyamorous, kink, erotic laborers. We offer somatic sex therapy, emotion focused therapy, DBT and trauma centered (both systemic/social and personal). We address harmful constructs which affect sexuality, gender expression and relationships. We are 100% virtual.

You are so tired of not feeling well, but hesitate to contact a therapist: Can I trust a stranger? Can anybody really help me? On the face of it, you function well in life, but deep inside you feel you don't actually “show up,” or you don't fully “belong.” It is as if your real authentic self is hiding, sensing that “being you” might not be safe enough. Aspects of your life story might explain why you feel uncomfortable, why you feel different than others, or why you are down or anxious. I would love to help you explore such issues in therapy, and work with you on improving your daily life experience.

Are you feeling stuck? Are you struggling with relationships or work fulfillment? Do you want to feel joyful, satisfied, and less anxious? I care about your well-being and helping you find happiness and balance is my passion. My approach is non-judgmental and collaborative. I can help you understand and change the negative patterns that contribute to your emotional distress. I’ll teach you innovative techniques to enhance your mood, improve your relationships, and live a happier, more meaningful life. As a former corporate high-tech employee, an Asian immigrant, and an LGBTQ person of color, I can relate to many of your struggles.

You hope for a therapist who won't shy away from the difficult topics. Every part of you is welcome here. As a trans therapist and HAES-informed provider, I believe that you deserve a non-judgemental space where you can build a sense of safety and trust on your own terms. You want to shed feelings of shame and guilt that keep you looping back to unhealthy behaviors. I believe in your ability to learn new coping skills and your capacity to become even more resilient. If you decide you want to, together we can face the memories and emotions you've had to avoid in order to survive. You choose the destination, I’ll help you get there.

Together, we will support the changes you want to make by first understanding more of who you are and what's important to you. We will take our time to reflect on your experiences with self-worth, overthinking, and/or grief to reveal helpful elements that have may gone unnoticed in your story so far -qualities and strengths you can apply in order to take that next step. By collaborating on effective solutions, we will come up with a clearer sense of what you need to experience a greater sense of connection with the people, values, strengths, cultures, relationships, and communities aligned with your life goals.

I have experience working effectively with adults, young adults, and teenagers facing challenges such as depression, anxiety, phase-of-life issues, trauma, and grief. Additionally, I provide couples therapy to enhance relationships and communication skills. My specialization includes supporting the LGBTQIA+ community, racial minorities, Asian Americans, children of immigrants, individuals with autism, and their families.

I strive to take a personal and holistic approach, really getting to know who you are and what makes you tick. I focus on understanding your strengths and how they fit into the narrative of your life's journey. I typically engage in long-term collaboration, aiming to uncover the underlying process involved in the symptoms you experience. Sustainable and enduring change is a primary goal, and it's a transformative path that invites an investment of your time and dedication in something truly worthwhile: you.

I find myself very honored to be working as a therapist and helping those who have taken the brave and vulnerable step to engage in therapy. As a proud member of the LGBTQIA+ community, I have a special passion for providing affirmative care for those in this community. I additionally love working with couples, families, and those experiencing difficult life transitions such as trauma, grief, and gender transition.

I work with transgender, non-binary, LGBTQ+ people, and others who struggle with anxiety, supporting you to develop satisfying relationships, greater confidence and a sense of belonging. In a world without adequate role models or people who mirror our self-expression, we often feel like we don’t fit in, we’re not enough, or we’re too much. Anxious thoughts about lack of acceptance can be overwhelming and isolating. Therapy with me offers space to realign with your deepest self and who you want to be in your relationships. I will work collaboratively with you to understand your challenges and connect to the wisdom within.

Visit my website BakerTherapy.com for more. Do you have a lot of strengths but keeps hitting a wall? Many of my clients have difficulty articulating emotions, which can lead to difficulty making decisions, asserting their needs, or setting healthy boundaries. They feel disconnected from themselves and others, as if they are not fully present, leading to problems in their relationships and even with themselves. They may feel like their issues are not significant enough to warrant attention, and they may feel guilty for asking for help. Most feel that they should be able to manage things on their own. Does any of this sound familiar?