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Whitni F Toson-Emdr Trauma Therapist
Licensed Professional Counselor, MA, LPC-S, EMDR, PMH-C
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
San Antonio, TX 78254
Utilizing EMDR therapy, EFT, and CBT, I've supported clients from diverse backgrounds.
Do you desire deep and meaningful relationships? Are you looking for genuine closeness and connection but being held back by the fear of rejection? It's normal to want to feel safe and understood in relationships if you're a human. I know how daunting and disheartening it can be to navigate relationships when past experiences have left you feeling wounded and distrustful. I work with clients who feel "lost," lonely, or even resentful on their journeys through life, be it new parenthood, loss of a loved one, new job, memories from past trauma, or significant life adjustment.
Utilizing EMDR therapy, EFT, and CBT, I've supported clients from diverse backgrounds.
Do you desire deep and meaningful relationships? Are you looking for genuine closeness and connection but being held back by the fear of rejection? It's normal to want to feel safe and understood in relationships if you're a human. I know how daunting and disheartening it can be to navigate relationships when past experiences have left you feeling wounded and distrustful. I work with clients who feel "lost," lonely, or even resentful on their journeys through life, be it new parenthood, loss of a loved one, new job, memories from past trauma, or significant life adjustment.
(210) 585-4341 View (210) 585-4341
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Tracey D Bauer
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
San Antonio, TX 78232
I am a couples and relationship specialist with over 14 years of experience. I help couples learn to improve their friendship, connection & intimacy, communicate and manage conflict, build trust and commitment, and learn to live a "Healthy Relationship Lifestyle." Using the scientifically validated approaches of Gottman Method Couples Therapy and Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, I help couples to improve their interactions and connections starting with the very first session. I look forward to beginning your journey!
I am a couples and relationship specialist with over 14 years of experience. I help couples learn to improve their friendship, connection & intimacy, communicate and manage conflict, build trust and commitment, and learn to live a "Healthy Relationship Lifestyle." Using the scientifically validated approaches of Gottman Method Couples Therapy and Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, I help couples to improve their interactions and connections starting with the very first session. I look forward to beginning your journey!
(210) 881-7631 View (210) 881-7631
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Abby Renée Streitz
Licensed Professional Counselor, MS, LPC, NCC
Verified Verified
San Antonio, TX 78216
Some approaches for which I am currently trained are Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy, and Gottman Couples Therapy.
Depression, anxiety, and the effects of traumatic experiences can get in the way of you living the kind of life you want.
Some approaches for which I am currently trained are Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy, and Gottman Couples Therapy.
Depression, anxiety, and the effects of traumatic experiences can get in the way of you living the kind of life you want.
(210) 791-6389 View (210) 791-6389
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Amber Bailey
Licensed Professional Counselor, LPC-S, LMFT-S, CHST
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
San Antonio, TX 78249
I use EFT and Gottman therapy to help couples connect in a healthy way and change unhelpful patterns and dynamics.
It's not easy to ask for help. Maybe you've shared your situation with close friends or family and received support and advice, but things aren't really getting better. Maybe you've been hesitant to seek out a therapist. The fact that you're here now is a demonstration of your commitment and dedication to your own personal growth and your relationships. Whether you're experiencing anxiety or depression, or you're looking for a relationship, healing from a relationship that's ended, or are in a relationship you want to strengthen or repair, you're in the right place.
I use EFT and Gottman therapy to help couples connect in a healthy way and change unhelpful patterns and dynamics.
It's not easy to ask for help. Maybe you've shared your situation with close friends or family and received support and advice, but things aren't really getting better. Maybe you've been hesitant to seek out a therapist. The fact that you're here now is a demonstration of your commitment and dedication to your own personal growth and your relationships. Whether you're experiencing anxiety or depression, or you're looking for a relationship, healing from a relationship that's ended, or are in a relationship you want to strengthen or repair, you're in the right place.
(210) 802-7308 View (210) 802-7308
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Kendall John
Psychologist, PhD
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
San Antonio, TX 78232
Waitlist for new clients
I practice from an emotionally focused perspective.
I'm a staff psychologist at Mission Psychology, a private practice in San Antonio, TX. I work with people experiencing anxiety, depression, or the aftereffects of trauma. My style fits well with people who have dealt with long term interpersonal stress, whether that be with parents, a relationship, job, or institution. I aim to build on your existing strengths (and help you identify those) to live a life where you can feel whole, connected to the people around you, and steady for when the next storm hits. I also work with a LMFT-A who does $45 flat rate sessions who has weekend/evening availability.
I practice from an emotionally focused perspective.
I'm a staff psychologist at Mission Psychology, a private practice in San Antonio, TX. I work with people experiencing anxiety, depression, or the aftereffects of trauma. My style fits well with people who have dealt with long term interpersonal stress, whether that be with parents, a relationship, job, or institution. I aim to build on your existing strengths (and help you identify those) to live a life where you can feel whole, connected to the people around you, and steady for when the next storm hits. I also work with a LMFT-A who does $45 flat rate sessions who has weekend/evening availability.
(210) 866-8248 View (210) 866-8248
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Pamela Davis King
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT, LPC
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
San Antonio, TX 78232
I am an EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy) therapist, which means I will work with you and your partner to develop a close relationship with trust, love, and respect as your foundation.
If life has become difficult, out of control, or unmanageable for you, I am here for you! I have a passion for working with couples - to help restore the closeness you once had together using Emotionally Focused Therapy. I will work together with you and your loved one to feel heard, respected and cherished and walk beside you to discover solutions to the problems in your life. Whatever you are struggling with, I want to help you work through it so that you can feel whole once again, and you and your relationships are better and stronger than ever!
I am an EFT (Emotionally Focused Therapy) therapist, which means I will work with you and your partner to develop a close relationship with trust, love, and respect as your foundation.
If life has become difficult, out of control, or unmanageable for you, I am here for you! I have a passion for working with couples - to help restore the closeness you once had together using Emotionally Focused Therapy. I will work together with you and your loved one to feel heard, respected and cherished and walk beside you to discover solutions to the problems in your life. Whatever you are struggling with, I want to help you work through it so that you can feel whole once again, and you and your relationships are better and stronger than ever!
(210) 441-3103 View (210) 441-3103
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Melissa Friesenhahn
Licensed Professional Counselor, MA, LPC, EMDR
Verified Verified
San Antonio, TX 78232
Waitlist for new clients
It has been a privilege to assist children, adults, and families in times of changes, uncertainty, adjustments, & struggles. I am a Licensed Professional Counselor, certified EMDR therapist, an IFS-EMDR therapist, Prepared & Enrich counselor for couples, completed Level 1 & 2 training in Gottman Method Couples Therapy, & Emotionally Focus Therapy (EFT) for couples. I am trained in numerous therapeutic approaches. In a counseling session, we will explore emotional & cognitive barriers, past & present relationships, & collaboratively devise therapy goals. There are many different reasons to seek counseling in all stages of your life.
It has been a privilege to assist children, adults, and families in times of changes, uncertainty, adjustments, & struggles. I am a Licensed Professional Counselor, certified EMDR therapist, an IFS-EMDR therapist, Prepared & Enrich counselor for couples, completed Level 1 & 2 training in Gottman Method Couples Therapy, & Emotionally Focus Therapy (EFT) for couples. I am trained in numerous therapeutic approaches. In a counseling session, we will explore emotional & cognitive barriers, past & present relationships, & collaboratively devise therapy goals. There are many different reasons to seek counseling in all stages of your life.
(210) 526-0757 View (210) 526-0757
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Align Couples Therapy
Marriage & Family Therapist, MS, LMFT, LCDC
Verified Verified
San Antonio, TX 78232
Each therapist has had advanced training in Gottman Method and/or Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy.
Do you feel alone, powerless and stuck in the same repeated arguments? Do you long for the connection and friendship you once had with your partner? When relationships are hurting, it affects everything. Underneath the painful surface could be many issues such as depression, ADHD, anxiety, shame, infidelity, substance use or parenting challenges. You deserve counseling based on science and research. You deserve respect and acceptance as you work through strengthening your relationship. Each couple has strengths and resiliencies that just need to be connected to the right tools for effective connection.
Each therapist has had advanced training in Gottman Method and/or Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy.
Do you feel alone, powerless and stuck in the same repeated arguments? Do you long for the connection and friendship you once had with your partner? When relationships are hurting, it affects everything. Underneath the painful surface could be many issues such as depression, ADHD, anxiety, shame, infidelity, substance use or parenting challenges. You deserve counseling based on science and research. You deserve respect and acceptance as you work through strengthening your relationship. Each couple has strengths and resiliencies that just need to be connected to the right tools for effective connection.
(210) 940-4694 View (210) 940-4694
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Valerie K Peterson
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-S
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
San Antonio, TX 78258
I specialize in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for couples and families.
My ideal clients are those who show a willingness to have me walk beside them and hold their pain as they seek clarification on the emotions that drive their distress. By seeking treatment to address relationship issues, they discover that other aspects of their experience are influenced by their powerful need to connect with their significant others. I am best suited to treating marital distress and disconnection between teens and their parents. I understand the unique importance of familial relationships and the significant relief that comes when these relationships are repaired.
I specialize in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for couples and families.
My ideal clients are those who show a willingness to have me walk beside them and hold their pain as they seek clarification on the emotions that drive their distress. By seeking treatment to address relationship issues, they discover that other aspects of their experience are influenced by their powerful need to connect with their significant others. I am best suited to treating marital distress and disconnection between teens and their parents. I understand the unique importance of familial relationships and the significant relief that comes when these relationships are repaired.
(210) 791-9276 View (210) 791-9276
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Franny Haag Morar
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
6 Endorsed
San Antonio, TX 78230
I am passionate about couples therapy and my work is highly influenced by EFT.
Offering Video Sessions for Texas and in person sessions for Califonia. We are usually afraid of our feelings. We try to avoid them, mask them, hide them. We live in a world that tells us to be happy. We try, but we can't, the feelings catch up with us. So we feel even worse. We feel lost, afraid, and guilty for feeling our feelings. In my practice, I provide a safe environment where you can start exploring your feelings, accept them, and work through them. I will help you get in touch with your inner/true self, accepting yourself for who you are, moving away from shame, guilt and fear, and starting the process of change.
I am passionate about couples therapy and my work is highly influenced by EFT.
Offering Video Sessions for Texas and in person sessions for Califonia. We are usually afraid of our feelings. We try to avoid them, mask them, hide them. We live in a world that tells us to be happy. We try, but we can't, the feelings catch up with us. So we feel even worse. We feel lost, afraid, and guilty for feeling our feelings. In my practice, I provide a safe environment where you can start exploring your feelings, accept them, and work through them. I will help you get in touch with your inner/true self, accepting yourself for who you are, moving away from shame, guilt and fear, and starting the process of change.
(323) 370-4863 View (323) 370-4863
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Le Shepard
Licensed Professional Counselor, MA, LPC-S
Verified Verified
11 Endorsed
San Antonio, TX 78205  (Online Only)
I’m an experienced counselor with advanced training in trauma and a certification in emotionally focused therapy.
You knew parenting would be hard but never guessed it would look like this. Caring for kids who struggle is exhausting and isolating. Maybe you adopted and now you’re living in a house ruled by trauma. Maybe your child has special needs and you are wading through grief. You absolutely love your kids but your own struggles are making it hard to show that. Now you’re ready to put on your own oxygen mask and get some help for yourself. You’re ready to start healing and face the parenting trauma you’ve walked through. Most of all, you’re ready to find peace inside yourself so you can show up for your kids in a way that you’re proud of.
I’m an experienced counselor with advanced training in trauma and a certification in emotionally focused therapy.
You knew parenting would be hard but never guessed it would look like this. Caring for kids who struggle is exhausting and isolating. Maybe you adopted and now you’re living in a house ruled by trauma. Maybe your child has special needs and you are wading through grief. You absolutely love your kids but your own struggles are making it hard to show that. Now you’re ready to put on your own oxygen mask and get some help for yourself. You’re ready to start healing and face the parenting trauma you’ve walked through. Most of all, you’re ready to find peace inside yourself so you can show up for your kids in a way that you’re proud of.
(940) 202-9597 View (940) 202-9597
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Maile Giles
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, MA, EMDR
Verified Verified
5 Endorsed
San Antonio, TX 78212
Let's collaborate and explore what your internal roadblocks are to feel fully alive! What do you want your experience of life to be? What is unconscious that is stopping you from understanding and connecting with yourself, others, life? We can work together to identify blocks and blindspots, gain new awareness and tools. I utilize different types of therapy depending on your needs. NARM- which combines attachment theory and a somatic approach, EMDR, Brainspotting, Emotionally Focused Couple's and Gottman for Couples,Mindfulness and Positive Psychology. I strongly believe in a mind-body approach and lots of psychoeducation.
Let's collaborate and explore what your internal roadblocks are to feel fully alive! What do you want your experience of life to be? What is unconscious that is stopping you from understanding and connecting with yourself, others, life? We can work together to identify blocks and blindspots, gain new awareness and tools. I utilize different types of therapy depending on your needs. NARM- which combines attachment theory and a somatic approach, EMDR, Brainspotting, Emotionally Focused Couple's and Gottman for Couples,Mindfulness and Positive Psychology. I strongly believe in a mind-body approach and lots of psychoeducation.
(210) 585-2879 View (210) 585-2879
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Esmé Valette
Licensed Professional Counselor, MA, EdM, EMDR, LPC
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
San Antonio, TX 78201
With couples, I use an evidence-based approach called Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), which draws on attachment theory and the science of emotions.
Waitlist Only! Contact to be added to Waitlist. I strive to create a therapeutic environment where you feel comfortable expressing whatever is on your mind without fear of judgment. I believe that you are the expert in your own healing, and I will work collaboratively with you to identify and reach your treatment goals. I use approaches that have been scientifically researched and found to be effective, including Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) and somatic and mindfulness-based interventions. I will work with you to ensure that you are not in therapy longer than is necessary to reach your treatment goals.
With couples, I use an evidence-based approach called Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), which draws on attachment theory and the science of emotions.
Waitlist Only! Contact to be added to Waitlist. I strive to create a therapeutic environment where you feel comfortable expressing whatever is on your mind without fear of judgment. I believe that you are the expert in your own healing, and I will work collaboratively with you to identify and reach your treatment goals. I use approaches that have been scientifically researched and found to be effective, including Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) and somatic and mindfulness-based interventions. I will work with you to ensure that you are not in therapy longer than is necessary to reach your treatment goals.
(512) 548-2372 View (512) 548-2372
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Christina A. Haskell
Marriage & Family Therapist, MMFT, LMFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
San Antonio, TX 78255
Waitlist for new clients
My specialty in trauma has given me training in Trauma-Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (TFCBT), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), EMDR, and Emotionally Focused Therapy for individuals and couples.
I am an LMFT with a specialty in trauma. Trauma has many layers and degrees, and I believe that trauma is completely subjective to the person experiencing it. I particularly enjoy working with first responders, high-conflict couples, and individuals dealing with past trauma. I am a Christian counselor; however, I recognize that everyone's faith journey is different, and I respect that. As an LMFT, I look at all issues from a systems perspective and add that to neuroscience knowledge to help normalize responses. The hope is to identify and change patterns for more effective relationships.
My specialty in trauma has given me training in Trauma-Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (TFCBT), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), EMDR, and Emotionally Focused Therapy for individuals and couples.
I am an LMFT with a specialty in trauma. Trauma has many layers and degrees, and I believe that trauma is completely subjective to the person experiencing it. I particularly enjoy working with first responders, high-conflict couples, and individuals dealing with past trauma. I am a Christian counselor; however, I recognize that everyone's faith journey is different, and I respect that. As an LMFT, I look at all issues from a systems perspective and add that to neuroscience knowledge to help normalize responses. The hope is to identify and change patterns for more effective relationships.
(830) 433-8161 View (830) 433-8161
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Regina DeBilio
Licensed Professional Counselor Associate, MS, LPC-A, CPTT-C, EMDR
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
San Antonio, TX 78255  (Online Only)
Regina is passionate about working with couples experiencing betrayal trauma and addiction to restore or create a secure attachment. She has training in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), an attachment based modality that tracks the negative interaction cycle and patterns that cause distress and result in insecure attachment and disconnection. She gently guides the couple to explore themselves and their partner, learn to emotionally regulate, and cope with negative feelings in more healthy ways. Additionally, she is EMDR trained and can provide researched-based techniques for clients experiencing trauma and symptoms of PTSD.
Regina is passionate about working with couples experiencing betrayal trauma and addiction to restore or create a secure attachment. She has training in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), an attachment based modality that tracks the negative interaction cycle and patterns that cause distress and result in insecure attachment and disconnection. She gently guides the couple to explore themselves and their partner, learn to emotionally regulate, and cope with negative feelings in more healthy ways. Additionally, she is EMDR trained and can provide researched-based techniques for clients experiencing trauma and symptoms of PTSD.
(972) 787-1603 View (972) 787-1603
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Wanda Hudson
Licensed Professional Counselor, MEd, LPC
Verified Verified
San Antonio, TX 78201
I help people turn their scars into beauty marks with the use of EMDR, Emotionally Focused Therapy, Parts & Inner Child Work, Mindfulness practices & other Attachment-Based Modalities.
You know that saying “Never judge a book by its cover”? Well, I can honestly say that the cover of my book does not match the pages! The pages in my book of life have equipped me with the experience to connect with ALL people. In my book, I’ve encountered many conflicts. I’ve been the antagonist and the protagonist and I’m just in the rising action. Because my pages are not all filled with butterflies and sunshine, I’ve had to work to find ways to help equip myself with daily coping skills. I am happy to be in a position to share my experience with others through therapy and educational opportunities.
I help people turn their scars into beauty marks with the use of EMDR, Emotionally Focused Therapy, Parts & Inner Child Work, Mindfulness practices & other Attachment-Based Modalities.
You know that saying “Never judge a book by its cover”? Well, I can honestly say that the cover of my book does not match the pages! The pages in my book of life have equipped me with the experience to connect with ALL people. In my book, I’ve encountered many conflicts. I’ve been the antagonist and the protagonist and I’m just in the rising action. Because my pages are not all filled with butterflies and sunshine, I’ve had to work to find ways to help equip myself with daily coping skills. I am happy to be in a position to share my experience with others through therapy and educational opportunities.
(972) 433-7695 View (972) 433-7695
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Amanda Reyes
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW, LPC
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
San Antonio, TX 78230
Hello! I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker here to help you navigate emotional hardships and invest in your mental health and well-being.
Hello! I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker here to help you navigate emotional hardships and invest in your mental health and well-being.
(210) 972-6884 View (210) 972-6884
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Barbara Viridiana Davis
Licensed Professional Counselor, MS, LPC
Verified Verified
San Antonio, TX 78229
Hi, my name is Barbara! Its so very nice to meet you! I am a Licensed Professional Counselor having over 20 years of experience working with children, adolescents, young adult, middle age adults and seniors. With almost three decades of experience, I've come to know that all great things are worthwhile and therefore require consistency and patience. I cannot promise you a solution, but I can guarantee you that together we can make great progress along your life journey! I am bilingual Spanish!
Hi, my name is Barbara! Its so very nice to meet you! I am a Licensed Professional Counselor having over 20 years of experience working with children, adolescents, young adult, middle age adults and seniors. With almost three decades of experience, I've come to know that all great things are worthwhile and therefore require consistency and patience. I cannot promise you a solution, but I can guarantee you that together we can make great progress along your life journey! I am bilingual Spanish!
(210) 764-5661 View (210) 764-5661
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Paige Newberry Bartholomew
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
San Antonio, TX 78232  (Online Only)
More Shifting - Less Processing. Instead of talking your feelings to death, our aim is to give you a transformative experience. Using everything that psychology knows about the parasympathetic nervous system, we can quickly SHIFT you to a new story - accessing the part of the brain that perceives life in a fresh way. This Isn't Your Average Talk Therapy - of course we'll talk about your stories, your history, your painful issues. But something more needs to take place in order to dig down to those deep-seated memories and pockets of pain that keep you stuck or sick. We have to go beyond the place most psychology can take you.
More Shifting - Less Processing. Instead of talking your feelings to death, our aim is to give you a transformative experience. Using everything that psychology knows about the parasympathetic nervous system, we can quickly SHIFT you to a new story - accessing the part of the brain that perceives life in a fresh way. This Isn't Your Average Talk Therapy - of course we'll talk about your stories, your history, your painful issues. But something more needs to take place in order to dig down to those deep-seated memories and pockets of pain that keep you stuck or sick. We have to go beyond the place most psychology can take you.
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Sofia Torres
Licensed Professional Counselor, MA, LPC, NCC
Verified Verified
7 Endorsed
San Antonio, TX 78240
Are you having problems at work, home, or in your relationship? Is the behavior of a loved one problematic? Feeling anxious, stressed, or just unhappy? I believe every client's needs are unique & deserves compassionate care when processing concerns & accomplishing goals. I will assist you, or your loved one, on the journey for change, self-improvement, & healing. I can also incorporate energy work upon request. "Your life does not get better by chance, it gets better by change."
Are you having problems at work, home, or in your relationship? Is the behavior of a loved one problematic? Feeling anxious, stressed, or just unhappy? I believe every client's needs are unique & deserves compassionate care when processing concerns & accomplishing goals. I will assist you, or your loved one, on the journey for change, self-improvement, & healing. I can also incorporate energy work upon request. "Your life does not get better by chance, it gets better by change."
(210) 807-8599 View (210) 807-8599

Emotionally Focused Therapists

Who is emotionally focused therapy for?

Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) is for couples who are emotionally distressed, stuck in an unsatisfying relationship pattern or feeling deeply alienated. They may even believe the relationship is beyond repair. Very often, the partners display intense anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal in the relationship. In addition, EFT is helpful to couples and individuals who have difficulty expressing emotions and those who have trouble regulating emotions.

Why do people need emotionally focused therapy?

People need emotionally focused therapy because the need for others is built into the brain, but the pressures of daily life can erode feelings of love, and couples often do not have the skills to find their way back to the comfort of each other. Instead, they may be stuck in repetitive patterns of anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal. Emotionally focused therapy regards such strong negative feelings as expressions of protest over the loss of connection and turns them into pathways of reconnection.

What happens in emotionally focused therapy?

Over the course of eight to 20 weekly sessions, couples de-escalate their negative emotional reactivity to one another so that they can listen to each other and be responsive to each other’s needs. Then the deep emotional and physical bond is restored, giving partners a sense of comfort and security, which they can use to solve whatever problems come their way. The therapist plays an active role, helping partners understand how anger and withdrawal are actually misguided cries for connection.

What problems does emotionally focused therapy treat?

EFT is designed to help couples stuck in dysfunctional relationship patterns regain closeness and rebuild their relationship. Typically, such couples experience considerable distress, with partners feeling alienated and distrustful of one another, not certain their relationship can survive. EFT is also helpful to individuals experiencing attachment-related fears of loss; it helps them learn to use their fears as a way of eliciting the closeness they desire.