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Tobey Allen
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
San Jose, CA 95148
Hello I'm Tobey Allen, a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with an integrative approach to my work. I work with individuals who are coping with life transitions, including chronic health conditions, midlife changes, bereavement, and the stressors of aging parents. My specialties include Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, art therapy, stress management, including mindfulness and guided imagery and grief support.
Hello I'm Tobey Allen, a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with an integrative approach to my work. I work with individuals who are coping with life transitions, including chronic health conditions, midlife changes, bereavement, and the stressors of aging parents. My specialties include Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, art therapy, stress management, including mindfulness and guided imagery and grief support.
(408) 676-4025 View (408) 676-4025
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Lori Buelna
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW, GC-C
Verified Verified
San Jose, CA 95136
I am trained in grief therapy, cognitive behavioral therapy, motivational interviewing.
Perhaps you are overwhelmed with stress, dealing with anxiety/depression and poor sleep due to a life transition, or caregiver stress. Maybe you or a loved one is managing a serious health condition and hope to learn of coping skills and various resources. You may be a parent, a teen or young adult experiencing stress or loss of a loved one or a relationship. I believe people are insightful, resilient and have the innate ability to adapt and adjust to all types of challenging circumstances. You deserve to set aside time and space to think through your thoughts, values, identify feelings in order to move forward to find balance.
I am trained in grief therapy, cognitive behavioral therapy, motivational interviewing.
Perhaps you are overwhelmed with stress, dealing with anxiety/depression and poor sleep due to a life transition, or caregiver stress. Maybe you or a loved one is managing a serious health condition and hope to learn of coping skills and various resources. You may be a parent, a teen or young adult experiencing stress or loss of a loved one or a relationship. I believe people are insightful, resilient and have the innate ability to adapt and adjust to all types of challenging circumstances. You deserve to set aside time and space to think through your thoughts, values, identify feelings in order to move forward to find balance.
(408) 413-1402 View (408) 413-1402
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Dr. Rebecca Lynn Gonzalez
Psychologist, PsyD
Verified Verified
San Jose, CA 95125  (Online Only)
Waitlist for new clients
I specialize in treating trauma concerns, including PTSD, complicated grief, and relationship concerns.
Are you ready to unpack and understand how painful past experiences might be impacting your life? Do you want to decrease suffering and feel more balanced? You’re not alone. Creating awareness of how distressing past experiences show up in your life will empower you to break the cycle and create a more fulfilling life. I aim to help you improve your overall quality of life and feel more connected to yourself, others, and the world around you. Together, we will approach your past with curiosity and compassion.
I specialize in treating trauma concerns, including PTSD, complicated grief, and relationship concerns.
Are you ready to unpack and understand how painful past experiences might be impacting your life? Do you want to decrease suffering and feel more balanced? You’re not alone. Creating awareness of how distressing past experiences show up in your life will empower you to break the cycle and create a more fulfilling life. I aim to help you improve your overall quality of life and feel more connected to yourself, others, and the world around you. Together, we will approach your past with curiosity and compassion.
(408) 345-5006 View (408) 345-5006
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Maureen Ross
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
San Jose, CA 95126
I have taught expressive arts in therapy, grief counseling, and Pastoral Care to ministers in training.
Writer John O'Donohue defines my view of being a therapist: "This is what therapy is about: helping people retrieve what has been lost to them, wakening and bringing home their fundamental wholesomeness.. Therapists are like poets: they draw on the power of words in the profoundly creative work of bringing people fully alive to themselves, awakening in them the human capacity for divine imagination that ‘dreams our completion’.”
I have taught expressive arts in therapy, grief counseling, and Pastoral Care to ministers in training.
Writer John O'Donohue defines my view of being a therapist: "This is what therapy is about: helping people retrieve what has been lost to them, wakening and bringing home their fundamental wholesomeness.. Therapists are like poets: they draw on the power of words in the profoundly creative work of bringing people fully alive to themselves, awakening in them the human capacity for divine imagination that ‘dreams our completion’.”
(408) 457-8960 View (408) 457-8960
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Alice Hua
Psychologist, PhD
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
San Jose, CA 95129  (Online Only)
I work with clients to acknowledge their strengths, address impacts of culture and oppressive systems on mental health, and build skills rooted in their goals and values. I work with adults experiencing anxiety, perfectionism, burnout, life transitions, depression, grief, insomnia, and trauma. I also work with individuals adjusting to neurocognitive symptoms and family members of loved ones with dementia. Amidst life's toughest moments, finding clarity, connection, and joy is still possible.
I work with clients to acknowledge their strengths, address impacts of culture and oppressive systems on mental health, and build skills rooted in their goals and values. I work with adults experiencing anxiety, perfectionism, burnout, life transitions, depression, grief, insomnia, and trauma. I also work with individuals adjusting to neurocognitive symptoms and family members of loved ones with dementia. Amidst life's toughest moments, finding clarity, connection, and joy is still possible.
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Domonique Casper Shaw
Psychologist, PhD
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
San Jose, CA 95113
I specialize in treating grief, relationship issues, depression, anxiety, and trauma.
What season of your personal and/or love life are you in? Are you in spring- full of hope and anticipation, summer- relaxed and enjoying life, fall- grappling with uncertainty, or winter- discouraged and disconnected? Unresolved or unaddressed grief and conflict can rob us of the ability to live life fully. Have you experienced disconnection in your relationship, breakup, divorce, loss of a loved one, health decline/medical issues, aging; or change associated with a move, new job, or COVID that is causing stress, anxiety, or depression? I can help you find inner peace while weathering the storm.
I specialize in treating grief, relationship issues, depression, anxiety, and trauma.
What season of your personal and/or love life are you in? Are you in spring- full of hope and anticipation, summer- relaxed and enjoying life, fall- grappling with uncertainty, or winter- discouraged and disconnected? Unresolved or unaddressed grief and conflict can rob us of the ability to live life fully. Have you experienced disconnection in your relationship, breakup, divorce, loss of a loved one, health decline/medical issues, aging; or change associated with a move, new job, or COVID that is causing stress, anxiety, or depression? I can help you find inner peace while weathering the storm.
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Pamela Lewis
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
San Jose, CA 95131
My purpose as a therapist is to connect with clients in a collaborative and non-judgmental environment that allows clients to feel safe to explore their thoughts and emotions and to feel empowered to make choices that are in their best interest to better manage their unique stressors. I assist clients in discovering their innate strengths and learning coping strategies they can apply to their school, social, and family systems and work with clients to create achievable goals. who are experiencing anxiety, depression, self-esteem issues, grief, challenges with career choices, and difficulty with communication.
My purpose as a therapist is to connect with clients in a collaborative and non-judgmental environment that allows clients to feel safe to explore their thoughts and emotions and to feel empowered to make choices that are in their best interest to better manage their unique stressors. I assist clients in discovering their innate strengths and learning coping strategies they can apply to their school, social, and family systems and work with clients to create achievable goals. who are experiencing anxiety, depression, self-esteem issues, grief, challenges with career choices, and difficulty with communication.
(951) 744-9726 View (951) 744-9726
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Earl Villorente
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
San Jose, CA 95124
I am most comfortable working with teens and adults dealing with grief, depression, anxiety, substance abuse, and difficulty managing work, school, and/or life transitions.
Hello, my name is Earl Villorente. I'm a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and I provide individual therapy via telehealth. It is my goal to provide a safe space for us to work together to reduce symptoms and promote positive change to help you heal and enjoy a meaningful life. I specialize in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy to address symptoms by working on unhealthy thinking and behavior patterns - and creating or improving healthy ones. I also use therapeutic lenses of strength-based, client-centered, and solution-focused to help you identify and achieve your goals.
I am most comfortable working with teens and adults dealing with grief, depression, anxiety, substance abuse, and difficulty managing work, school, and/or life transitions.
Hello, my name is Earl Villorente. I'm a Licensed Clinical Social Worker and I provide individual therapy via telehealth. It is my goal to provide a safe space for us to work together to reduce symptoms and promote positive change to help you heal and enjoy a meaningful life. I specialize in Cognitive Behavioral Therapy to address symptoms by working on unhealthy thinking and behavior patterns - and creating or improving healthy ones. I also use therapeutic lenses of strength-based, client-centered, and solution-focused to help you identify and achieve your goals.
(530) 489-5589 View (530) 489-5589
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Jiewen (Janice) Huang
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW, CGE
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
San Jose, CA 95109
Waitlist for new clients
I utilize the following modalities: Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), EMDR, Brainspotting, Grief Education, IFS, and Complicated Grief Treatment (CGT).
Depression and anxiety are some of the most common mental-health-related challenges that create difficult thoughts and feelings, which we can experience at some point in our lives. Through counseling and treatment, I am here to assist you in restrengthening/restoring/gaining motivation, perspective, and values in your life. Many individuals can experience symptoms associated with painful and traumatic circumstances. I can help you with gaining skills in coping with these symptoms and guide you through the process of grief and healing. My practice also focuses on anticipatory grief, normal grief, and complicated grief.
I utilize the following modalities: Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), EMDR, Brainspotting, Grief Education, IFS, and Complicated Grief Treatment (CGT).
Depression and anxiety are some of the most common mental-health-related challenges that create difficult thoughts and feelings, which we can experience at some point in our lives. Through counseling and treatment, I am here to assist you in restrengthening/restoring/gaining motivation, perspective, and values in your life. Many individuals can experience symptoms associated with painful and traumatic circumstances. I can help you with gaining skills in coping with these symptoms and guide you through the process of grief and healing. My practice also focuses on anticipatory grief, normal grief, and complicated grief.
(415) 449-8155 View (415) 449-8155
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Shawn O'Dell
Psychologist, PsyD
Verified Verified
San Jose, CA 95128
I am a licensed Psychologist with my practice based in California providing counseling and psychotherapy services to our California senior community. I work with older adults with a wide range of issues including depression, anxiety, adjustment, grief and loss, aging and change, health and disability issues as well as men's issues just to name a few. If you have Medicare and secondary insurance you are likely to be fully covered and not pay anything out of pocket. There is no need to suffer in silence. Please call for more information. I look forward to speaking with you. Please call 408-956-6896 to connect with me.
I am a licensed Psychologist with my practice based in California providing counseling and psychotherapy services to our California senior community. I work with older adults with a wide range of issues including depression, anxiety, adjustment, grief and loss, aging and change, health and disability issues as well as men's issues just to name a few. If you have Medicare and secondary insurance you are likely to be fully covered and not pay anything out of pocket. There is no need to suffer in silence. Please call for more information. I look forward to speaking with you. Please call 408-956-6896 to connect with me.
(408) 956-6896 View (408) 956-6896
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David Michalicek
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
San Jose, CA 95126
I work with couples, individuals, and teens seeking help with relationships, grief, anxiety, low self-esteem, anger, or depression. If any of these make some days a struggle or keep you from enjoying life, I'd like to invite you to talk with someone with compassion who can appreciate your struggle. Counseling can bring real change to reach decisions, manage conflicts, handle stress, improve relationships, or work on deeper personal matters. You'll feel truly heard and valued as we explore as much or as little as you want at a pace and direction of your choosing.
I work with couples, individuals, and teens seeking help with relationships, grief, anxiety, low self-esteem, anger, or depression. If any of these make some days a struggle or keep you from enjoying life, I'd like to invite you to talk with someone with compassion who can appreciate your struggle. Counseling can bring real change to reach decisions, manage conflicts, handle stress, improve relationships, or work on deeper personal matters. You'll feel truly heard and valued as we explore as much or as little as you want at a pace and direction of your choosing.
(408) 427-3378 View (408) 427-3378
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Ken Mallon
Marriage & Family Therapist, MS, LMFT
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
San Jose, CA 95135
Trauma/ grief experience, Gottman trained couples counselor.
Mallon Advisory & Counseling Services is a small private practice that provides very personalized services to adolescents, adults, couples, and families. I specialize in relationships, working with adults whose main concerns are interpersonal and couples/families with complex issues requiring a greater degree of experience. I also have two associates in my practice in case you prefer a woman or POC. Grace Flier specializes in trauma while Sharon Singh has expertise in grief/ loss, anxiety and life transitions.
Trauma/ grief experience, Gottman trained couples counselor.
Mallon Advisory & Counseling Services is a small private practice that provides very personalized services to adolescents, adults, couples, and families. I specialize in relationships, working with adults whose main concerns are interpersonal and couples/families with complex issues requiring a greater degree of experience. I also have two associates in my practice in case you prefer a woman or POC. Grace Flier specializes in trauma while Sharon Singh has expertise in grief/ loss, anxiety and life transitions.
(408) 351-0262 View (408) 351-0262
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Linda Nastari
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
San Jose, CA 95150
I have over 30 years experience as a licensed pyschotherapist. I enjoy working with adolescents, individual adults, and couples. I treat a wide variety of issues including; anxiety/depression, relational difficulties, addictions, grief/ loss, parenting challenges, spiritual concerns, eating disorders, family of origin issues, work related stress, and trauma. I also provide consultation to small family businesses around communication, conflict resolution, business management, and succession planning. I also am part of a collaborative team of estate attorneys, financial planners, and therapists to help families with Trust and Estate issues.
I have over 30 years experience as a licensed pyschotherapist. I enjoy working with adolescents, individual adults, and couples. I treat a wide variety of issues including; anxiety/depression, relational difficulties, addictions, grief/ loss, parenting challenges, spiritual concerns, eating disorders, family of origin issues, work related stress, and trauma. I also provide consultation to small family businesses around communication, conflict resolution, business management, and succession planning. I also am part of a collaborative team of estate attorneys, financial planners, and therapists to help families with Trust and Estate issues.
(408) 669-3554 View (408) 669-3554
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Dr. Debbie Francis
Psychologist, PsyD, MA, BSR
Verified Verified
San Jose, CA 95124
*CURRENTLY ACCEPTING NEW MEDICARE PATIENTS* I work with adults struggling with a wide range of challenges including loss of relationships, life transitions, and personal problems like anxiety, depression, addiction, or trauma. Life can be difficult but you don't have to figure it out all alone. I can help you. Together, we'll create a safe space where you'll gain insight and perspective into thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that are no longer working for you. With these understandings, you'll be able to make better choices and positive life changes. By working through your pain, you'll gain a self-awareness you didn't have before.
*CURRENTLY ACCEPTING NEW MEDICARE PATIENTS* I work with adults struggling with a wide range of challenges including loss of relationships, life transitions, and personal problems like anxiety, depression, addiction, or trauma. Life can be difficult but you don't have to figure it out all alone. I can help you. Together, we'll create a safe space where you'll gain insight and perspective into thoughts, feelings, and behaviors that are no longer working for you. With these understandings, you'll be able to make better choices and positive life changes. By working through your pain, you'll gain a self-awareness you didn't have before.
(408) 207-4564 View (408) 207-4564
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Dr. Shukofeh Faye Dadvar
PhD, MA
Verified Verified
San Jose, CA 95124  (Online Only)
For three decades I have been honored to be trusted mental health Coach . I have worked at private practice and mental health hospital. My skills ( education and experience) grounded in Science and Compassion. It is uncommon to feel frustration and hopeless about the way things are. Often Anxiety or Depression goes hand in hand with other emotions such as Anger , low self esteem , grief and not sleeping well. Together , we will explore supportive guidelines to thrive you in fulfillment of life.
For three decades I have been honored to be trusted mental health Coach . I have worked at private practice and mental health hospital. My skills ( education and experience) grounded in Science and Compassion. It is uncommon to feel frustration and hopeless about the way things are. Often Anxiety or Depression goes hand in hand with other emotions such as Anger , low self esteem , grief and not sleeping well. Together , we will explore supportive guidelines to thrive you in fulfillment of life.
(408) 763-4589 View (408) 763-4589
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Dr. Ginny Estupinian
Psychologist, PhD, ABPP
Verified Verified
San Jose, CA 95120
I treat anxiety, depression, Bipolar disorders, and PTSD, offering personalized therapy for life's toughest challenges – from relationship crises to abuse and loss.
Struggling with life's toughest challenges? I'm here to help you reclaim your life. With extensive experience treating devastating anxiety, major depression, Bipolar disorders, and complex trauma, I specialize in helping individuals through seemingly impossible situations. Whether you're dealing with relationship stress, accidents, rape, domestic violence, or unexpected losses, my tailored approach can help you find your way back. I believe everyone can heal and grow with the right support, even when things feel overwhelming. Don't let your current circumstances define your future. Take the first step towards transformation
I treat anxiety, depression, Bipolar disorders, and PTSD, offering personalized therapy for life's toughest challenges – from relationship crises to abuse and loss.
Struggling with life's toughest challenges? I'm here to help you reclaim your life. With extensive experience treating devastating anxiety, major depression, Bipolar disorders, and complex trauma, I specialize in helping individuals through seemingly impossible situations. Whether you're dealing with relationship stress, accidents, rape, domestic violence, or unexpected losses, my tailored approach can help you find your way back. I believe everyone can heal and grow with the right support, even when things feel overwhelming. Don't let your current circumstances define your future. Take the first step towards transformation
(408) 521-1558 View (408) 521-1558
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Vanessa Magee
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
San Jose, CA 95101
Waitlist for new clients
You or a loved one may be struggling with substance use, depression, anxiety, loss, or life transitions (emphasis on the life part). Maybe you just need someone to ask you how you are really doing and be able to hold space for that. You may try talking yourself out of your pain or experience by telling yourself “someone else has it worse” or “I don’t deserve to be happy after everything I’ve done”. We often tell ourselves that our feelings, conflicts, or stories must look a certain way for them to deserve attention. I am committed to allowing you to show up to therapy exactly as you need to without making any changes.
You or a loved one may be struggling with substance use, depression, anxiety, loss, or life transitions (emphasis on the life part). Maybe you just need someone to ask you how you are really doing and be able to hold space for that. You may try talking yourself out of your pain or experience by telling yourself “someone else has it worse” or “I don’t deserve to be happy after everything I’ve done”. We often tell ourselves that our feelings, conflicts, or stories must look a certain way for them to deserve attention. I am committed to allowing you to show up to therapy exactly as you need to without making any changes.
(831) 653-6125 View (831) 653-6125
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Mica Cosby
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
San Jose, CA 95123  (Online Only)
Mica is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist & Registered Associate Professional Clinical Counselor with CCCSJ, and has previous experience and training as a spiritual counselor and teacher. Mica provides an integrative approach toward her clients as she believes each person is different in their approach to life and toward their own healing. Mica brings a “healing spirit” to all she does. She has extensive experience working with older adults and/or their caregivers, self-image and identity concerns amongst teens and young adults as well as life, career and loss transitions for all ages.
Mica is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist & Registered Associate Professional Clinical Counselor with CCCSJ, and has previous experience and training as a spiritual counselor and teacher. Mica provides an integrative approach toward her clients as she believes each person is different in their approach to life and toward their own healing. Mica brings a “healing spirit” to all she does. She has extensive experience working with older adults and/or their caregivers, self-image and identity concerns amongst teens and young adults as well as life, career and loss transitions for all ages.
(209) 219-2515 View (209) 219-2515
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Margaret Effinger
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
San Jose, CA 95112
Hi there, I'm Margaret Effinger, LCSW 113220. My approach to therapy is warm, calm and compassionate. My focus areas of focus are anxiety, depression, grief, life transitions, and trauma. I typically work with clients who are experiencing anxiety, depression, life transitions, grief and loss, and trauma.
Hi there, I'm Margaret Effinger, LCSW 113220. My approach to therapy is warm, calm and compassionate. My focus areas of focus are anxiety, depression, grief, life transitions, and trauma. I typically work with clients who are experiencing anxiety, depression, life transitions, grief and loss, and trauma.
(661) 927-0807 View (661) 927-0807
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Bernadet Yaghobian
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
San Jose, CA 95116
My name is Bernadet Yaghobian. and I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) based in Los Angeles, California, and working with clients statewide via telehealth. I like to use an integrative approach focusing on the mind, body, and spirit. I specialize in Anxiety, Depression, Trauma/PTSD, Codependency, Addiction, Anger Management, Narcissistic Abuse, Grief, LGBTQ+, Life Transitions, Divorce, Stress, Racial Identity, Relationship Issues, Self-Esteem, Women's issues, and Spirituality.
My name is Bernadet Yaghobian. and I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) based in Los Angeles, California, and working with clients statewide via telehealth. I like to use an integrative approach focusing on the mind, body, and spirit. I specialize in Anxiety, Depression, Trauma/PTSD, Codependency, Addiction, Anger Management, Narcissistic Abuse, Grief, LGBTQ+, Life Transitions, Divorce, Stress, Racial Identity, Relationship Issues, Self-Esteem, Women's issues, and Spirituality.
(909) 610-1193 View (909) 610-1193
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Grief Therapists

How long does therapy take for grief?

There is no exact timeline for grief counseling. Some people may start to feel better after just a few sessions, while others may take months or longer to feel relief. Some specific approaches, including some types of CBT, may involve a set number of sessions, or therapy may be open-ended until the patient determines they are ready to wrap up. Just as there is no right or wrong way to grieve, there is no right or wrong way to seek therapy for grief.

When should you seek therapy for grief?

Many people mistakenly believe that their grief needs to be debilitating or all-encompassing to warrant therapy. This is not the case. While people who experience severe, prolonged grief—particularly those who are considering self-harm or engaging in unhealthy substance use—are especially likely to benefit from therapy, so too are people whose grief is less intense but still interfering with well-being or daily functioning. In practice, almost anyone struggling to process a loss could benefit from grief counseling.

Can grief be managed without therapy?

Oftentimes, yes. Grief is a near-universal part of being human, and many find that their grief, while profound, does not stop them from participating in day-to-day life and steadily eases over time without outside help. For others, however, the harsh pain of early grief persists for months or years or leaves them unable to function. This group is especially likely to benefit from seeing a therapist, who can guide them through their grief and help them reconnect with the world.

What happens if grief is left untreated?

Because grief does not in itself necessitate therapy, untreated grief will often resolve on its own. However, for some people—particularly those who would qualify for a diagnosis of prolonged grief disorder—untreated grief can be a source of seemingly endless pain or lead them to withdraw from the world. In such cases, treatment can be indispensable, as it can help an individual adapt to the loss and start living again.