Marilyn Mendoza, Ph.D., is a clinical instructor in the psychiatry department at Tulane University Medical Center and a private practice psychologist specializing in bereavement. She is also the author of We Do Not Die Alone.
So you're not a "10" in every which way. But you're probably pretty spectacular in some way, and definitely good enough in most areas of life. If ever there were a time to stop beating yourself up for being human, it is now.