Emotionally Focused Therapists in Evanston, IL

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Steve Thorpe
Counselor, LCPC, EMDR, IFS
Verified Verified
5 Endorsed
Evanston, IL 60201
We integrate traditional psychotherapy with Internal Family Systems, mindfulness, EMDR, Hypnotherapy, Breathwork, Somatic work, Emotionally Focused Therapy, coaching, and other evidence-based approaches through teletherapy.
My approach to psychotherapy is to create a safe space where you can explore and heal the difficult and painful issues that are showing up in your life. Together we will move beyond problem-solving into releasing the deeply held mistaken beliefs and core unresolved issues behind your symptoms. My body-centered and somatic approach allows me to work directly with your nervous system to address symptoms like anxiety, racing thoughts, and irrational fears as well as feeling stuck, depressed and unavailable or unresponsive to life and relationships.
We integrate traditional psychotherapy with Internal Family Systems, mindfulness, EMDR, Hypnotherapy, Breathwork, Somatic work, Emotionally Focused Therapy, coaching, and other evidence-based approaches through teletherapy.
My approach to psychotherapy is to create a safe space where you can explore and heal the difficult and painful issues that are showing up in your life. Together we will move beyond problem-solving into releasing the deeply held mistaken beliefs and core unresolved issues behind your symptoms. My body-centered and somatic approach allows me to work directly with your nervous system to address symptoms like anxiety, racing thoughts, and irrational fears as well as feeling stuck, depressed and unavailable or unresponsive to life and relationships.
(847) 558-7327 View (847) 558-7327
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Kate Newman
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
Evanston, IL 60201
I have received intensive training in Emotionally Focused Theory (EFT), an attachment-based model, which frames my work with both couples and individuals.
The key to our well-being is defining and developing a healthy relationship with ourselves and others. For over 20 years, I have worked with individuals and couples to establish therapeutic relationships based on safety, trust, and acceptance. As a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, I’ve worked with a range of issues including anxiety, depression, loneliness, loss, relationship distress, and difficult life transitions. While formally trained in psychodynamic theory, my approach is flexible recognizing the unique needs and strengths of each individual.
I have received intensive training in Emotionally Focused Theory (EFT), an attachment-based model, which frames my work with both couples and individuals.
The key to our well-being is defining and developing a healthy relationship with ourselves and others. For over 20 years, I have worked with individuals and couples to establish therapeutic relationships based on safety, trust, and acceptance. As a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, I’ve worked with a range of issues including anxiety, depression, loneliness, loss, relationship distress, and difficult life transitions. While formally trained in psychodynamic theory, my approach is flexible recognizing the unique needs and strengths of each individual.
(847) 316-0156 View (847) 316-0156
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Robert Lloyd
Licensed Professional Counselor, LPC, MS
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Evanston, IL 60201  (Online Only)
I have training/experience in various treatment modalities, including CBT, ACT, person-centered, EFT, and solution-focused therapy.
Are you feeling lost? In need of some healing? Therapy is a space for us to find the best versions of ourselves. If you want to discover more about yourself and your strengths and are open to new perspectives, it may be time for your therapeutic journey to begin.
I have training/experience in various treatment modalities, including CBT, ACT, person-centered, EFT, and solution-focused therapy.
Are you feeling lost? In need of some healing? Therapy is a space for us to find the best versions of ourselves. If you want to discover more about yourself and your strengths and are open to new perspectives, it may be time for your therapeutic journey to begin.
(847) 613-4383 View (847) 613-4383
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Thomas Hammerman
Marriage & Family Therapist, MLIS, LMFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Evanston, IL 60201
My mission is helping people with their problems. I customize my therapy to my clients' needs and goals. I will work with you to find out what is the best way for you to achieve your goals and accomplish your dreams. I take a practical approach to therapy because I understand that you want results. Whether you are unsatisfied in your relationships or struggle in your everyday life, you don't need to suffer alone. I am here to help.
My mission is helping people with their problems. I customize my therapy to my clients' needs and goals. I will work with you to find out what is the best way for you to achieve your goals and accomplish your dreams. I take a practical approach to therapy because I understand that you want results. Whether you are unsatisfied in your relationships or struggle in your everyday life, you don't need to suffer alone. I am here to help.
(847) 607-1070 View (847) 607-1070
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Preston Rice
Pre-Licensed Professional, PsyD
Verified Verified
Evanston, IL 60201
Preston uses emotionally focused and systemic approaches when working collaboratively with his clients to identify and achieve their therapeutic goals.
Preston has clinical experience working with adolescents and adults in college settings, outpatient mental health clinics, and private practice. His clinical interests include working with underserved communities, mood disorders, substance use, relationship and family challenges, trauma, and systemic challenges related to diversity and inclusion.
Preston uses emotionally focused and systemic approaches when working collaboratively with his clients to identify and achieve their therapeutic goals.
Preston has clinical experience working with adolescents and adults in college settings, outpatient mental health clinics, and private practice. His clinical interests include working with underserved communities, mood disorders, substance use, relationship and family challenges, trauma, and systemic challenges related to diversity and inclusion.
(773) 672-2798 x102 View (773) 672-2798 x102
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Sarah A. Schroeder
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, MS, MSW, LCSW
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Evanston, IL 60201  (Online Only)
Modalities include play-based therapy, psychodynamic treatment, attachment-based therapy, emotionally focused therapy and mindfulness.
It's important that you find a therapist that is a right fit for you. I strive to create a safe holding environment where clients feel understood and encouraged to take their next step. I utilize a developmental framework and family systems approach, while viewing each client as a unique individual. I specialize in working with young children and families, providing individual, family, couples, and group treatment.
Modalities include play-based therapy, psychodynamic treatment, attachment-based therapy, emotionally focused therapy and mindfulness.
It's important that you find a therapist that is a right fit for you. I strive to create a safe holding environment where clients feel understood and encouraged to take their next step. I utilize a developmental framework and family systems approach, while viewing each client as a unique individual. I specialize in working with young children and families, providing individual, family, couples, and group treatment.
(872) 244-6873 View (872) 244-6873
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Krista Wilson
Licensed Professional Counselor, MA, LPC
Verified Verified
Evanston, IL 60202
I am an integrative, trauma-informed, and relational psychotherapist whose practice includes Emotionally Focused Therapy as well as tenets of Existential and Systems modalities.
I was drawn to the work of therapy because I believe in the healing power of the therapeutic relationship. I have experienced the safety offered by this type of relationship as both clinician and client, and believe that this safety creates new harmony and courage within an individual’s self and relationships. I believe that the client is the expert on their experience, and I approach each session with humble curiosity. I love my work and look forward to the honor of walking alongside you on your journey.
I am an integrative, trauma-informed, and relational psychotherapist whose practice includes Emotionally Focused Therapy as well as tenets of Existential and Systems modalities.
I was drawn to the work of therapy because I believe in the healing power of the therapeutic relationship. I have experienced the safety offered by this type of relationship as both clinician and client, and believe that this safety creates new harmony and courage within an individual’s self and relationships. I believe that the client is the expert on their experience, and I approach each session with humble curiosity. I love my work and look forward to the honor of walking alongside you on your journey.
(847) 316-0103 x2 View (847) 316-0103 x2
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Emily Lieber
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
Evanston, IL 60201
I have advanced certifications in DBT, Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples and Families, and Relational Life Coaching.
During life's challenging moments, most of us benefit from the support of a non judgmental guide. People have told me they feel safe with me. Whether you are dealing with work/school stress, struggling with anxiety or depression, coping with parenting, experiencing loss, or are looking for support with a relationship, I can help you to better understand stuck areas in your life. I see individuals, couples, adolescents and families. I have an interactive, supportive, and open approach. When working with individuals, we will work together to gain greater self understanding and discover workable solutions.
I have advanced certifications in DBT, Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples and Families, and Relational Life Coaching.
During life's challenging moments, most of us benefit from the support of a non judgmental guide. People have told me they feel safe with me. Whether you are dealing with work/school stress, struggling with anxiety or depression, coping with parenting, experiencing loss, or are looking for support with a relationship, I can help you to better understand stuck areas in your life. I see individuals, couples, adolescents and families. I have an interactive, supportive, and open approach. When working with individuals, we will work together to gain greater self understanding and discover workable solutions.
(872) 241-1109 View (872) 241-1109
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Ruth Minnick
Licensed Professional Counselor, M, A
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Evanston, IL 60202
I integrate evidenced-based practices such as breath-work, mindfulness, EMDR, CBT, Internal Family Systems, and Emotionally Focused Therapy, all under a psychodynamic therapy lens.
You matter. I seek to highlight & build upon your unique strengths with a focus on overall wellness in mind, body, spirit & community. I believe we all have the tools to reach our highest potential. I aim to understand what might be getting in the way of you being your most authentic, talented self. I specialize in helping others access & heal their pain by engaging the nervous system to unlock trauma & emotions to release them. Body integration allows us to feel alive & open to get more of life. I blend evidenced-based practices such as somatic, breathwork, mindfulness, EMDR, CBT, & EFT under a psychodynamic therapy lens.
I integrate evidenced-based practices such as breath-work, mindfulness, EMDR, CBT, Internal Family Systems, and Emotionally Focused Therapy, all under a psychodynamic therapy lens.
You matter. I seek to highlight & build upon your unique strengths with a focus on overall wellness in mind, body, spirit & community. I believe we all have the tools to reach our highest potential. I aim to understand what might be getting in the way of you being your most authentic, talented self. I specialize in helping others access & heal their pain by engaging the nervous system to unlock trauma & emotions to release them. Body integration allows us to feel alive & open to get more of life. I blend evidenced-based practices such as somatic, breathwork, mindfulness, EMDR, CBT, & EFT under a psychodynamic therapy lens.
(847) 716-2486 View (847) 716-2486
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Caroline Kroe
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, BA, MSW, LCSW
Verified Verified
Evanston, IL 60202
Trainings and certifications include but are not limited to EMDR, Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, EFT, Child Sexual Abuse treatment and the Collaborative Change Model.
I look forward to supporting a diverse array of clients and their families on their individualized healing journey, concentrating in work with adults, children and adolescents needing developmentally sensitized mental health assessment and treatment. Specialized experience working with multiple client populations including: trauma survivors, eating disorders, families involved in the foster care system and adoption, mood disorders, anxiety disorders and personality disorders along with matters of social/cultural oppression and justice.
Trainings and certifications include but are not limited to EMDR, Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, EFT, Child Sexual Abuse treatment and the Collaborative Change Model.
I look forward to supporting a diverse array of clients and their families on their individualized healing journey, concentrating in work with adults, children and adolescents needing developmentally sensitized mental health assessment and treatment. Specialized experience working with multiple client populations including: trauma survivors, eating disorders, families involved in the foster care system and adoption, mood disorders, anxiety disorders and personality disorders along with matters of social/cultural oppression and justice.
(773) 694-1650 View (773) 694-1650
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Eric Cho
Counselor, MA, LCPC
Verified Verified
5 Endorsed
Evanston, IL 60201
I have training/experience in a variety of treatment modalities including drama therapy and expressive arts therapy, DBT, ACT, EMDR, psychodynamic, and EFT.
Are you feeling stuck or unsure of yourself? Are you struggling with anxiety, depression, work/life balance, relationship concerns, or how to achieve what you really want? I can help you find your authentic voice, connect to your inner strengths, discover new perspectives, and effectively assert yourself to make the positive changes you need. I will help you manage your self-critical voices and gain meaningful insights into your thoughts, behaviors, and emotions. I specialize in helping young and not so young adults who are struggling with self-confidence, relationships, trauma, life transitions, and issues of identity.
I have training/experience in a variety of treatment modalities including drama therapy and expressive arts therapy, DBT, ACT, EMDR, psychodynamic, and EFT.
Are you feeling stuck or unsure of yourself? Are you struggling with anxiety, depression, work/life balance, relationship concerns, or how to achieve what you really want? I can help you find your authentic voice, connect to your inner strengths, discover new perspectives, and effectively assert yourself to make the positive changes you need. I will help you manage your self-critical voices and gain meaningful insights into your thoughts, behaviors, and emotions. I specialize in helping young and not so young adults who are struggling with self-confidence, relationships, trauma, life transitions, and issues of identity.
(773) 570-2331 View (773) 570-2331
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According To Sykes
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, MSW, LCSW
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
Evanston, IL 60201
Services are emotionally focused and culturally affirming with a strengths-based perspective.
Here at According to Sykes, assistance and guidance is offered through individual, family and group therapy, couples therapy, as well as Professional Development and Training Opportunities. As a group of healing practitioners, we recognize and understand the complicated and complex ways that trauma influences all parts of someone’s life, body, and brain, and make treatment decisions based on that framework. We realize that most people have lived through some type of trauma because trauma is so common and understand treatment through that lens. View our therapist profiles at www.accordingtosykes.com.
Services are emotionally focused and culturally affirming with a strengths-based perspective.
Here at According to Sykes, assistance and guidance is offered through individual, family and group therapy, couples therapy, as well as Professional Development and Training Opportunities. As a group of healing practitioners, we recognize and understand the complicated and complex ways that trauma influences all parts of someone’s life, body, and brain, and make treatment decisions based on that framework. We realize that most people have lived through some type of trauma because trauma is so common and understand treatment through that lens. View our therapist profiles at www.accordingtosykes.com.
(773) 649-4122 View (773) 649-4122
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Jason Singer
Pre-Licensed Professional
Verified Verified
Evanston, IL 60201
Hello! I've joined Affiliates In Counseling so I can continue my work using emotionally focused strategies to work with adults & teens who suffer from anxiety, depression and stress, as well as those experiencing grief, life changes, job loss and isolation, in both the northern suburbs and in Chicago. As a couples & family counselor, I've had great success utilizing these same emotional tools to strengthen and enhance more effective and long-term communication skills, helping to build more fulfilling relationships. Finally, I had the honor working directly in both the post-deployment veteran and LGBTQ communities during my training.
Hello! I've joined Affiliates In Counseling so I can continue my work using emotionally focused strategies to work with adults & teens who suffer from anxiety, depression and stress, as well as those experiencing grief, life changes, job loss and isolation, in both the northern suburbs and in Chicago. As a couples & family counselor, I've had great success utilizing these same emotional tools to strengthen and enhance more effective and long-term communication skills, helping to build more fulfilling relationships. Finally, I had the honor working directly in both the post-deployment veteran and LGBTQ communities during my training.
(224) 365-8743 View (224) 365-8743
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Dylan Saks
Counselor, LCPC, CRC
Verified Verified
Evanston, IL 60202  (Online Only)
As a couples therapist, I am trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), one of the only evidence based couple's interventions.
When life feels like a knotted ball of yarn, sometimes we need help finding a thread to grab. As a therapist, I support my clients in finding that thread. I work with clients who are experiencing work challenges, disability, life transitions, OCD, anxiety and depression. Couples often will come to me when they are feeling afraid and lonely in their relationship, and walking on eggshells. As your couples’ therapist I will work in supporting you to share with each other vulnerably and fully. I will help you to both see the injuries that have happened when feeling lonely and disconnected from each other and how to heal together.
As a couples therapist, I am trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), one of the only evidence based couple's interventions.
When life feels like a knotted ball of yarn, sometimes we need help finding a thread to grab. As a therapist, I support my clients in finding that thread. I work with clients who are experiencing work challenges, disability, life transitions, OCD, anxiety and depression. Couples often will come to me when they are feeling afraid and lonely in their relationship, and walking on eggshells. As your couples’ therapist I will work in supporting you to share with each other vulnerably and fully. I will help you to both see the injuries that have happened when feeling lonely and disconnected from each other and how to heal together.
(312) 313-6557 View (312) 313-6557
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Anthony Borchardt
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, MSW, LCSW, PMH-C
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
Evanston, IL 60201  (Online Only)
Are you looking to make a change in your life but feel overwhelmed or unsure where to begin? I support my clients through navigating the journey of personal growth and transformation, which can often feel confusing, difficult, and scary. As your therapist, I work to understand your struggles and strengths, so that we may walk step-by-step through your discomfort and toward your goals.
Are you looking to make a change in your life but feel overwhelmed or unsure where to begin? I support my clients through navigating the journey of personal growth and transformation, which can often feel confusing, difficult, and scary. As your therapist, I work to understand your struggles and strengths, so that we may walk step-by-step through your discomfort and toward your goals.
(312) 584-2016 View (312) 584-2016
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Sujai Chang
Licensed Professional Counselor, LCP
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Evanston, IL 60209  (Online Only)
With compassionate support and specialized techniques like EFT and EMDR, we'll navigate through the shadows of the past, guiding you towards healing and empowerment.
Specializing in EMDR, Grief, and Perinatal Mental Health. Let's Navigate the Depths Together. As a bilingual (spanish) therapist I am here to support adults and couples navigating through life's toughest challenges. Whether you're battling feelings of depression, anxiety, or facing difficult transitions, know that you're not alone. Together, we'll equip you with the tools to overcome these obstacles and rediscover joy. Life's journey can be overwhelming, but with compassionate guidance, healing is possible. Let's embark on this journey together.
With compassionate support and specialized techniques like EFT and EMDR, we'll navigate through the shadows of the past, guiding you towards healing and empowerment.
Specializing in EMDR, Grief, and Perinatal Mental Health. Let's Navigate the Depths Together. As a bilingual (spanish) therapist I am here to support adults and couples navigating through life's toughest challenges. Whether you're battling feelings of depression, anxiety, or facing difficult transitions, know that you're not alone. Together, we'll equip you with the tools to overcome these obstacles and rediscover joy. Life's journey can be overwhelming, but with compassionate guidance, healing is possible. Let's embark on this journey together.
(708) 578-2154 View (708) 578-2154
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Natalie A. Stanish
Marriage & Family Therapist, MS, LMFT
Verified Verified
9 Endorsed
Evanston, IL 60201
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with a M.S in Child Development & Family Studies, specialization in Marriage and Family Therapy, from Purdue University. I specialize in working with couples, parents and co-parents, families, teens and Adults. My systemic approach goes beyond the individual and addresses problems within the context of people's relationships and environment. I believe relationships form a key part of health & well-being and strive to help people work through/resolve their emotional injuries to achieve happiness & harmony internally (within one's self) and externally (in relationships).
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with a M.S in Child Development & Family Studies, specialization in Marriage and Family Therapy, from Purdue University. I specialize in working with couples, parents and co-parents, families, teens and Adults. My systemic approach goes beyond the individual and addresses problems within the context of people's relationships and environment. I believe relationships form a key part of health & well-being and strive to help people work through/resolve their emotional injuries to achieve happiness & harmony internally (within one's self) and externally (in relationships).
(872) 204-1579 View (872) 204-1579
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Dori Fujii
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
Evanston, IL 60201
How we make sense of our life experiences and deal with life's challenges is important for all of us. Adoption adds a layer of complexity. Issues of attachment, trauma, loss, race/identity, behavioral regulation, self-esteem and the impact of difficult/unknown early history take on added significance as children grow and mature into young adults. At The Cradle Center for Lifelong Support, I work with all members of the adoption circle My expertise is in strengthening children and their families by improving attachment, communication and understanding through individual/family therapy, parent coaching and education.
How we make sense of our life experiences and deal with life's challenges is important for all of us. Adoption adds a layer of complexity. Issues of attachment, trauma, loss, race/identity, behavioral regulation, self-esteem and the impact of difficult/unknown early history take on added significance as children grow and mature into young adults. At The Cradle Center for Lifelong Support, I work with all members of the adoption circle My expertise is in strengthening children and their families by improving attachment, communication and understanding through individual/family therapy, parent coaching and education.
(847) 807-4280 View (847) 807-4280
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Stephanie Larson
Pre-Licensed Professional, LSW
Verified Verified
Evanston, IL 60202
Life can be an unexpected wave in the water that makes you feel unsteady, or it can be a giant wave that overwhelms you, and it keeps coming, and it is hard to regain your sense of balance. But when a helping hand reaches out, it can help you to find your strength and balance. Whether it feels like a big or small wave, I can be that support and guidance so when the waves come, you can brace them and keep going. I believe in providing empathetic care and guidance through a collaborative therapeutic relationship by navigating the unique experiences that influence each client’s life.
Life can be an unexpected wave in the water that makes you feel unsteady, or it can be a giant wave that overwhelms you, and it keeps coming, and it is hard to regain your sense of balance. But when a helping hand reaches out, it can help you to find your strength and balance. Whether it feels like a big or small wave, I can be that support and guidance so when the waves come, you can brace them and keep going. I believe in providing empathetic care and guidance through a collaborative therapeutic relationship by navigating the unique experiences that influence each client’s life.
(773) 780-2810 View (773) 780-2810
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Nancy Simon
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, AM, LCSW
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Evanston, IL 60201
Many clients tell me that they feel safe with me and that I "get them." I love helping individuals and couples clarify issues, understand their relationships triggers and move into gratifying connection with others and themselves. I work particularly well with Highly Sensitive and Creative people. I graduated with a Masters from the University of Chicago specializing in individual, couples and family therapy. I offer both long and short-term counseling. I also provide consultation to other therapists both individually and in a group.
Many clients tell me that they feel safe with me and that I "get them." I love helping individuals and couples clarify issues, understand their relationships triggers and move into gratifying connection with others and themselves. I work particularly well with Highly Sensitive and Creative people. I graduated with a Masters from the University of Chicago specializing in individual, couples and family therapy. I offer both long and short-term counseling. I also provide consultation to other therapists both individually and in a group.
(224) 588-8552 View (224) 588-8552
Emotionally Focused Therapists

Who is emotionally focused therapy for?

Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) is for couples who are emotionally distressed, stuck in an unsatisfying relationship pattern or feeling deeply alienated. They may even believe the relationship is beyond repair. Very often, the partners display intense anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal in the relationship. In addition, EFT is helpful to couples and individuals who have difficulty expressing emotions and those who have trouble regulating emotions.

Why do people need emotionally focused therapy?

People need emotionally focused therapy because the need for others is built into the brain, but the pressures of daily life can erode feelings of love, and couples often do not have the skills to find their way back to the comfort of each other. Instead, they may be stuck in repetitive patterns of anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal. Emotionally focused therapy regards such strong negative feelings as expressions of protest over the loss of connection and turns them into pathways of reconnection.

What happens in emotionally focused therapy?

Over the course of eight to 20 weekly sessions, couples de-escalate their negative emotional reactivity to one another so that they can listen to each other and be responsive to each other’s needs. Then the deep emotional and physical bond is restored, giving partners a sense of comfort and security, which they can use to solve whatever problems come their way. The therapist plays an active role, helping partners understand how anger and withdrawal are actually misguided cries for connection.

What problems does emotionally focused therapy treat?

EFT is designed to help couples stuck in dysfunctional relationship patterns regain closeness and rebuild their relationship. Typically, such couples experience considerable distress, with partners feeling alienated and distrustful of one another, not certain their relationship can survive. EFT is also helpful to individuals experiencing attachment-related fears of loss; it helps them learn to use their fears as a way of eliciting the closeness they desire.