Couples Counseling Therapists in 93108
Have a love-hate relationship with your job? Your co-workers? Anxiety and stress with quarterly reviews? Overworked from meeting quotas? Perfectionist tendencies? Difficulty transitioning from work to home? Work-Family Integration, hate to go home, but need to go home? Conflict resolution. Work-life Balance. Imposter syndrome, Limerence, and relationships with colleagues. Work with the voices of your Inner critic, to build confidence to reach your goals and find peace through Inquiry-based Therapeutic Meditations, Hypnotherapy, Self-hypnosis and Coaching. Corporate teams or Private 1x1 with access to office hours.
Have a love-hate relationship with your job? Your co-workers? Anxiety and stress with quarterly reviews? Overworked from meeting quotas? Perfectionist tendencies? Difficulty transitioning from work to home? Work-Family Integration, hate to go home, but need to go home? Conflict resolution. Work-life Balance. Imposter syndrome, Limerence, and relationships with colleagues. Work with the voices of your Inner critic, to build confidence to reach your goals and find peace through Inquiry-based Therapeutic Meditations, Hypnotherapy, Self-hypnosis and Coaching. Corporate teams or Private 1x1 with access to office hours.
Because men sometimes face extra challenges in couples therapy, EFT can be especially helpful here.
Conflict is a part of every vital relationship. If you are suffering in your relationship, it’s not because you have differences. In most cases, it’s because the way couples automatically protect themselves from being hurt - with silence, defensiveness or harsh words – builds walls between them, in an escalating cycle of frustration and misunderstanding. When even your best efforts at reconnecting just seem to exacerbate your mutual feelings of disconnection, it may be time to shine a healing light on these interactions and the hurt places that fuel them. This is the path of Emotionally Focused Therapy.
Because men sometimes face extra challenges in couples therapy, EFT can be especially helpful here.
Conflict is a part of every vital relationship. If you are suffering in your relationship, it’s not because you have differences. In most cases, it’s because the way couples automatically protect themselves from being hurt - with silence, defensiveness or harsh words – builds walls between them, in an escalating cycle of frustration and misunderstanding. When even your best efforts at reconnecting just seem to exacerbate your mutual feelings of disconnection, it may be time to shine a healing light on these interactions and the hurt places that fuel them. This is the path of Emotionally Focused Therapy.
Julieta Serrato
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, MA, AMFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Santa Barbara, CA 93108 (Online Only)
My passion is to support clients through empowerment in order for them to reach their goals. I work with adolescents, teens, women, men and couples through short and long term therapy. My approach is to meet the client where they are at and find the best path that can positively propel them in the direction of their goals and further support positive change.
My passion is to support clients through empowerment in order for them to reach their goals. I work with adolescents, teens, women, men and couples through short and long term therapy. My approach is to meet the client where they are at and find the best path that can positively propel them in the direction of their goals and further support positive change.
Whether you are seeking support for yourself, a family member, or your relationship, I highly recommend shopping around to make sure you find the right fit.
Life can be incredibly painful, and at times we can find ourselves confused, lost, anxious, and seemingly alone. We cannot have a pain-free life, but there are ways of managing the issues in our lives that help us be more present, connected to our values, and fulfilled in that which we do. Whether it is anxiety, depression, relationship issues, or trauma, there are ways to respond to these so that we can move back toward the lives that we want to lead.
Whether you are seeking support for yourself, a family member, or your relationship, I highly recommend shopping around to make sure you find the right fit.
Life can be incredibly painful, and at times we can find ourselves confused, lost, anxious, and seemingly alone. We cannot have a pain-free life, but there are ways of managing the issues in our lives that help us be more present, connected to our values, and fulfilled in that which we do. Whether it is anxiety, depression, relationship issues, or trauma, there are ways to respond to these so that we can move back toward the lives that we want to lead.
Sam Jamili
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, AMFT, MFTC
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Santa Barbara, CA 93108 (Online Only)
Through collaborative exploration and evidence-based interventions, I support individuals, couples, and families and offer strategies for coping, adaptation, and maintaining a sense of well-being.
100% online tele-health! Do you feel buried under anxiety and low moods? Are you facing challenges managing medical trauma, chronic illness, or disability involving yourself or a loved one? Have you recently struggled with your faith or spirituality (ie. leaving a church/religious community)? I work with individuals, couples, and families to navigate the emotional turmoil of circumstances like these, redefine coping strategies, and foster resilience in the face of these life-altering events. We will work together to process these difficulties and ease symptoms gradually yet effectively, giving you the tools to create lasting change!
Through collaborative exploration and evidence-based interventions, I support individuals, couples, and families and offer strategies for coping, adaptation, and maintaining a sense of well-being.
100% online tele-health! Do you feel buried under anxiety and low moods? Are you facing challenges managing medical trauma, chronic illness, or disability involving yourself or a loved one? Have you recently struggled with your faith or spirituality (ie. leaving a church/religious community)? I work with individuals, couples, and families to navigate the emotional turmoil of circumstances like these, redefine coping strategies, and foster resilience in the face of these life-altering events. We will work together to process these difficulties and ease symptoms gradually yet effectively, giving you the tools to create lasting change!
Jack May
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT, CAMF, CSAT
Verified Verified
21 Endorsed
Santa Barbara, CA 93108 (Online Only)
truggling with sex addiction, financial stress, anger, or relationship challenges can leave you feeling isolated and overwhelmed.
Jack May's ideal client faces challenges like sex addiction, financial disorders, anger management, or relationship struggles, including couples work. They feel overwhelmed and seek a non-judgmental space to explore their difficulties. They need compassionate guidance and accountability to break unhealthy patterns, manage emotions, and improve relationships. Their goals include gaining control, achieving financial stability, and fostering deeper connections. Driven by a desire for growth, they seek a fulfilling, balanced life.
truggling with sex addiction, financial stress, anger, or relationship challenges can leave you feeling isolated and overwhelmed.
Jack May's ideal client faces challenges like sex addiction, financial disorders, anger management, or relationship struggles, including couples work. They feel overwhelmed and seek a non-judgmental space to explore their difficulties. They need compassionate guidance and accountability to break unhealthy patterns, manage emotions, and improve relationships. Their goals include gaining control, achieving financial stability, and fostering deeper connections. Driven by a desire for growth, they seek a fulfilling, balanced life.
Alexus Cordova
Associate Professional Clinical Counselor, MS, APCC
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Santa Barbara, CA 93108 (Online Only)
I specialize in working with couples, adults, and adolescents who are navigating anxiety, depression, trauma, relationship challenges, women's issues, and life transitions.
Are you searching for a place to explore your inner world with compassion and understanding? I’m here to offer you a safe, non-judgmental space where we can dive into your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors together. My sessions are 100% online, available anywhere in California, making it easier for you to access the support you need from the comfort of your own space. My approach is warm, collaborative, and tailored to your unique journey.
I specialize in working with couples, adults, and adolescents who are navigating anxiety, depression, trauma, relationship challenges, women's issues, and life transitions.
Are you searching for a place to explore your inner world with compassion and understanding? I’m here to offer you a safe, non-judgmental space where we can dive into your thoughts, feelings, and behaviors together. My sessions are 100% online, available anywhere in California, making it easier for you to access the support you need from the comfort of your own space. My approach is warm, collaborative, and tailored to your unique journey.
Peacemaker, grief tender & founder of Cooperative Co-parenting Solutions and TwoCan Retreats, as well as Santa Barbara Regional Director for the Waves of Grief Collective. I assist individuals, couples and families going through major life transitions, specializing in divorce, co-parenting and blended families as well as trauma, grief and loss. If you need help resolving conflict, improving communication or learning how to create healthy boundaries, I can help. I also provide compassionate support for grievers and empower clients to heal old wounds and trauma using mindfulness, self-compassion and EMDR therapy.
Peacemaker, grief tender & founder of Cooperative Co-parenting Solutions and TwoCan Retreats, as well as Santa Barbara Regional Director for the Waves of Grief Collective. I assist individuals, couples and families going through major life transitions, specializing in divorce, co-parenting and blended families as well as trauma, grief and loss. If you need help resolving conflict, improving communication or learning how to create healthy boundaries, I can help. I also provide compassionate support for grievers and empower clients to heal old wounds and trauma using mindfulness, self-compassion and EMDR therapy.
Ally Misanko
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, MA, AMFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Santa Barbara, CA 93108
I provide online therapy and primarily work with adult females and couples who are dealing with a wide range of issues including anxiety, stress, low self-esteem, and relationship issues.
Are you frequently worrying about things you can’t control? Do you tend to talk negatively to yourself or feel like you aren’t enough? Are you concerned about relationship issues? Being a human today is hard and people come to therapy for many different reasons. It can be challenging to manage all the aspects of personal, professional, and family life, leaving self-care and wellness on the back burner. I am committed to helping individuals and couples improve communication, feel better, and live well. I value the importance of building a trusting and collaborative relationship and know that finding the right therapist can be hard.
I provide online therapy and primarily work with adult females and couples who are dealing with a wide range of issues including anxiety, stress, low self-esteem, and relationship issues.
Are you frequently worrying about things you can’t control? Do you tend to talk negatively to yourself or feel like you aren’t enough? Are you concerned about relationship issues? Being a human today is hard and people come to therapy for many different reasons. It can be challenging to manage all the aspects of personal, professional, and family life, leaving self-care and wellness on the back burner. I am committed to helping individuals and couples improve communication, feel better, and live well. I value the importance of building a trusting and collaborative relationship and know that finding the right therapist can be hard.
My name is Joshua Pelfrey, a licensed clinical social worker. I have been in the counseling field for more than 15 years as both an addiction counselor and clinical social worker. I help individuals and couples with addiction, depression, anxiety, anger, and more. I specialize in motivational interviewing, addiction counseling, and anger management. I consider myself an ally in the therapeutic process with the goal of helping my clients unlock their potential.
My name is Joshua Pelfrey, a licensed clinical social worker. I have been in the counseling field for more than 15 years as both an addiction counselor and clinical social worker. I help individuals and couples with addiction, depression, anxiety, anger, and more. I specialize in motivational interviewing, addiction counseling, and anger management. I consider myself an ally in the therapeutic process with the goal of helping my clients unlock their potential.
Fiorella Chujutalli
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, AMFT, MS, RN, BSN
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Santa Barbara, CA 93108 (Online Only)
I utilize an emotion focused, attachment-based, and somatic approach in my work with individual and couples.
I specialize in anxiety, depression, marital and premarital counseling, relationship issues, trauma, grief, stress, life transitions. I am certified in the Gottman Method Level I (a couple’s therapy approach), the MEND model (a family systems-oriented model), as well as certified in the SYMBIS assessment (for premarital couples), all which have equipped me to better serve my clients.
I utilize an emotion focused, attachment-based, and somatic approach in my work with individual and couples.
I specialize in anxiety, depression, marital and premarital counseling, relationship issues, trauma, grief, stress, life transitions. I am certified in the Gottman Method Level I (a couple’s therapy approach), the MEND model (a family systems-oriented model), as well as certified in the SYMBIS assessment (for premarital couples), all which have equipped me to better serve my clients.
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Jessica is the host of the Empowered Relationship Podcast which inspires, motivates, and guides individuals and couples into more empowered, conscious, and evolved ways of loving.
With degrees in psychology, coaching certifications, and over 20 years of experience, Jessica offers you an integrative and comprehensive approach to achieve successful results. Her ultimate goal is to help people acquire the insight, learning, and practice to navigate the terrain of intimacy more effectively. She guides clients on a path from confusion and heartache to clarity and authentic connection. Couples and individuals transform pain and struggle into deep love, connection, and vitality. She is also the creator of Connected Couple, which is a comprehensive, research-based, transformational, relationship program, which helps couples at any stage in their relationship.
Jessica is the host of the Empowered Relationship Podcast which inspires, motivates, and guides individuals and couples into more empowered, conscious, and evolved ways of loving.
With degrees in psychology, coaching certifications, and over 20 years of experience, Jessica offers you an integrative and comprehensive approach to achieve successful results. Her ultimate goal is to help people acquire the insight, learning, and practice to navigate the terrain of intimacy more effectively. She guides clients on a path from confusion and heartache to clarity and authentic connection. Couples and individuals transform pain and struggle into deep love, connection, and vitality. She is also the creator of Connected Couple, which is a comprehensive, research-based, transformational, relationship program, which helps couples at any stage in their relationship.
I help pre-teens, teens, and adults struggling with anxiety, OCD, depression, school/work stress, low self-esteem, ADHD, grief/loss, and relationship concerns.
Does anxiety seem to be ruling your life? Have you been feeling down, overwhelmed, or lost? Perhaps things seem to be going from bad to worse or nowhere at all. You deserve better. Starting therapy can be scary, I know, but won’t it be just as challenging to let everything continue? Stop pushing away your needs and not taking care of yourself. It’s time to make a change and I know how to help you through this. With me you will find what you truly seek – a compassionate space where understanding meets transformation.
I help pre-teens, teens, and adults struggling with anxiety, OCD, depression, school/work stress, low self-esteem, ADHD, grief/loss, and relationship concerns.
Does anxiety seem to be ruling your life? Have you been feeling down, overwhelmed, or lost? Perhaps things seem to be going from bad to worse or nowhere at all. You deserve better. Starting therapy can be scary, I know, but won’t it be just as challenging to let everything continue? Stop pushing away your needs and not taking care of yourself. It’s time to make a change and I know how to help you through this. With me you will find what you truly seek – a compassionate space where understanding meets transformation.
Brianne Billups Hughes
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, MFT, PMH-C
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Montecito, CA 93108 (Online Only)
Whether you need support with your partner or just for you, I can help.
Your relationship has gotten to a place where you’re both unhappy. All the responsibilities have piled up since having kids and you hardly have meaningful conversations let alone have fun together anymore. You’re tired of the constant bickering and the resentment you have built up over time. You’re wondering.. is this.. it? You’ve worked so hard to build a family and a life together but you’re finding that most of the time you’re exhausted, angry, and feel really alone. Perhaps, there is also some old stuff related to how you grew up that is coming up again as well. You just want to fight less and feel close to your partner again.
Whether you need support with your partner or just for you, I can help.
Your relationship has gotten to a place where you’re both unhappy. All the responsibilities have piled up since having kids and you hardly have meaningful conversations let alone have fun together anymore. You’re tired of the constant bickering and the resentment you have built up over time. You’re wondering.. is this.. it? You’ve worked so hard to build a family and a life together but you’re finding that most of the time you’re exhausted, angry, and feel really alone. Perhaps, there is also some old stuff related to how you grew up that is coming up again as well. You just want to fight less and feel close to your partner again.
My roots as a therapist and healer have seeded over the past thirty-five years, bringing substance and depth to my one-on-one sessions with couples and individuals. During this time, I have maintained a private practice, which has always consisted of process-oriented consciousness work -- a means by which to enter safely and deeply into the inner landscape of the psyche for positive and real world change. My results-oriented approach to psychology is derived from the commitment to a conscious process and the intrapsychic relationship one can access when choosing to turn toward--and look at--oneself.
My roots as a therapist and healer have seeded over the past thirty-five years, bringing substance and depth to my one-on-one sessions with couples and individuals. During this time, I have maintained a private practice, which has always consisted of process-oriented consciousness work -- a means by which to enter safely and deeply into the inner landscape of the psyche for positive and real world change. My results-oriented approach to psychology is derived from the commitment to a conscious process and the intrapsychic relationship one can access when choosing to turn toward--and look at--oneself.
Danielle Birrittella
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, MA, MFA
Verified Verified
4 Endorsed
Montecito, CA 93108
Areas of special interest include: artists and creatives, men and intimacy, families navigating trauma or divorce, teenagers experiencing bullying, women exploring body image, couples seeking to deepen their relationships.
My role as a psychotherapist is to accompany people on their courageous journeys of healing, discovery, and self-expression. I enjoy working with individuals who are curious and inspired to take their inner work seriously. I believe that the narratives we tell about ourselves hold tremendous power and that, through our work together, we can become more conscious of how these stories shape our lives in order to find opportunities for new understanding and meaning making. As a depth psychotherapist, I have reverence for the wisdom of psyche, the unconscious, to help guide us to explore parts of ourselves in order to become more whole.
Areas of special interest include: artists and creatives, men and intimacy, families navigating trauma or divorce, teenagers experiencing bullying, women exploring body image, couples seeking to deepen their relationships.
My role as a psychotherapist is to accompany people on their courageous journeys of healing, discovery, and self-expression. I enjoy working with individuals who are curious and inspired to take their inner work seriously. I believe that the narratives we tell about ourselves hold tremendous power and that, through our work together, we can become more conscious of how these stories shape our lives in order to find opportunities for new understanding and meaning making. As a depth psychotherapist, I have reverence for the wisdom of psyche, the unconscious, to help guide us to explore parts of ourselves in order to become more whole.
Gaining greater understanding of motivations/intentions and awareness of one's relationship with self and others can provide a more fulfilling life experience.
Therapy can be the catalyst that allows you to move past overwhelming feelings of discouragement, distraction, frustration, boredom, heartbreak, inner conflicts, self-alienation and uncertainty while also moving you in the direction of greater clarity, confidence, inner peace, life satisfaction and personal evolution. What is Personal Evolution?
Gaining greater understanding of motivations/intentions and awareness of one's relationship with self and others can provide a more fulfilling life experience.
Therapy can be the catalyst that allows you to move past overwhelming feelings of discouragement, distraction, frustration, boredom, heartbreak, inner conflicts, self-alienation and uncertainty while also moving you in the direction of greater clarity, confidence, inner peace, life satisfaction and personal evolution. What is Personal Evolution?
Caitlin Y Slutzky
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, MFT
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Montecito, CA 93108
I work with couples, individuals, and families.
Taking steps to create a more fulfilling life may be one of the most profound actions one can undertake. I believe that walking this path requires developing a curious and accepting relationship with oneself as well as being witnessed and supported by another - be they a therapist, partner, friend or family member. Once on this path, one can heal limiting beliefs, hurtful behaviors, and unhealthy relationships, and move toward a life of fulfillment, purpose and ease.
I work with couples, individuals, and families.
Taking steps to create a more fulfilling life may be one of the most profound actions one can undertake. I believe that walking this path requires developing a curious and accepting relationship with oneself as well as being witnessed and supported by another - be they a therapist, partner, friend or family member. Once on this path, one can heal limiting beliefs, hurtful behaviors, and unhealthy relationships, and move toward a life of fulfillment, purpose and ease.
The path to real change comes through understanding ourselves. When we understand who we are and how we came to be the way we are, we are much more likely to create fulfilling lives and relationships.
In my private practice I work with individuals, couples, families, and adolescents. My intention is to provide high-quality and respectful therapy services to every client. I have a deep appreciation for the inner wisdom and growth potential of every individual and the ability to offer powerful insights and direct feedback to promote your personal development.
The path to real change comes through understanding ourselves. When we understand who we are and how we came to be the way we are, we are much more likely to create fulfilling lives and relationships.
In my private practice I work with individuals, couples, families, and adolescents. My intention is to provide high-quality and respectful therapy services to every client. I have a deep appreciation for the inner wisdom and growth potential of every individual and the ability to offer powerful insights and direct feedback to promote your personal development.
I specialized in couple's work because I wanted to understand the building blocks of a successful relationship.
The relationship to ourself is the foundation of all our relationships. Let's begin with you. Do you act in ways that don't get you the result you want? ? Do you wish you just knew how to be a good partner? I can help you to love better. Together we inquire into what holds you back from fully opening your heart. Maybe there is possible unresolved trauma holding you back? Let's create a relationship template that supports what you both truly want. It's best to come as a couple. If that is not possible, come by yourself.
I specialized in couple's work because I wanted to understand the building blocks of a successful relationship.
The relationship to ourself is the foundation of all our relationships. Let's begin with you. Do you act in ways that don't get you the result you want? ? Do you wish you just knew how to be a good partner? I can help you to love better. Together we inquire into what holds you back from fully opening your heart. Maybe there is possible unresolved trauma holding you back? Let's create a relationship template that supports what you both truly want. It's best to come as a couple. If that is not possible, come by yourself.
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Couples Counseling Therapists
Does couples counseling work?
Research shows that couples counseling is effective; it can reduce relationship distress and improve emotional awareness, communication, empathy, intimacy, and overall relationship satisfaction. For example, emotionally focused therapy was found to be effective for about 75 percent of couples, and those benefits lasted at least two years.
When should a couple seek counseling?
Couples can benefit from counseling if they consistently struggle in their relationship. They may have lost the ability to communicate effectively, become entrenched in harmful patterns, begun to fight more than usual, broken the other’s trust, suffered from a mental or physical illness, or faced any number of other challenges. Many therapists offer free consultations, so if a couple isn’t sure whether therapy is necessary, asking directly can provide clarity.
How can I get my partner to go to couples therapy?
The decision to seek couples therapy is often driven by one partner, who then convinces the other to participate. When discussing the idea, the initiator should be direct and assertive. They can state the problems they see and explain how the relationship would benefit from therapy. In more serious cases, they can also explain how their relationship may suffer without making any changes or seeking professional help.
How does a couple prepare for couples counseling?
The anticipation of beginning couples counseling can be difficult—sometimes more difficult than the first session itself. Taking a few moments to reflect can allay those concerns: What are the current challenges? When and how did they begin? What do they want the relationship to look like in the future? Reflecting on these questions can help individuals or couples articulate their goals. Of course, the therapist will also ask questions and guide couples through the process.