Emotionally Focused Therapists in San Francisco, CA

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Lisa Quach
Clinical Social Work/Therapist
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
San Francisco, CA 94115  (Online Only)
Welcome to a transformative journey towards healing & self-discovery. I am Lisa, a psychotherapist licensed in CA & NY. My therapeutic toolkit includes CBT, DBT, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR). With a profound commitment to supporting individuals & relationships on their path to mental well-being, I bring forth an integrative, culturally attuned, & compassionate approach. Tailoring evidence-based techniques to suit your unique needs, we collaboratively establish a nurturing therapeutic alliance that fosters healing & personal growth.
Welcome to a transformative journey towards healing & self-discovery. I am Lisa, a psychotherapist licensed in CA & NY. My therapeutic toolkit includes CBT, DBT, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR). With a profound commitment to supporting individuals & relationships on their path to mental well-being, I bring forth an integrative, culturally attuned, & compassionate approach. Tailoring evidence-based techniques to suit your unique needs, we collaboratively establish a nurturing therapeutic alliance that fosters healing & personal growth.
(415) 779-7963 View (415) 779-7963
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Valerie Crawford
Psychologist, PhD
Verified Verified
San Francisco, CA 94117
I am an ICEEFT-Certified Emotionally Focused Couples Therapist.
I work with my clients in a supportive and engaged way to achieve real personal growth and confidence. I help clients heal anxiety, depression, and relationship struggles and unhealthy patterns. I believe we all have within us what we need to flourish -- a nurturing therapeutic relationship can unlock your capacity to heal and thrive. With the support you've been longing for, you can feel better and more confident, more connected in your relationships, and be more successful. I use a variety of evidence-based approaches, depending on clients' needs. My orientation is relational, experiential, based in brain science.
I am an ICEEFT-Certified Emotionally Focused Couples Therapist.
I work with my clients in a supportive and engaged way to achieve real personal growth and confidence. I help clients heal anxiety, depression, and relationship struggles and unhealthy patterns. I believe we all have within us what we need to flourish -- a nurturing therapeutic relationship can unlock your capacity to heal and thrive. With the support you've been longing for, you can feel better and more confident, more connected in your relationships, and be more successful. I use a variety of evidence-based approaches, depending on clients' needs. My orientation is relational, experiential, based in brain science.
(415) 390-2872 View (415) 390-2872
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Ilona Hrebennikova
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, MEd, MA
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
San Francisco, CA 94102
I am also trained in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT), Gottman Method Couples Therapy and Hakomi.
Are you struggling with relationships? Are you having the same fight with your partner over and over? Have you lost the emotional connection you used to have? Intimate relationships touch our deepest relational wounds. That's why we can be overwhelmed with the pain they bring and often, at points, feel like giving up. We can heal those wounds and help each other in that process. The kind of couples therapy/marriage counseling and individual therapy that I provide combines deep experiential work with teaching, coaching and practicing many specific relational skills that will set you up for success in all your relationships.
I am also trained in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy (EFT), Gottman Method Couples Therapy and Hakomi.
Are you struggling with relationships? Are you having the same fight with your partner over and over? Have you lost the emotional connection you used to have? Intimate relationships touch our deepest relational wounds. That's why we can be overwhelmed with the pain they bring and often, at points, feel like giving up. We can heal those wounds and help each other in that process. The kind of couples therapy/marriage counseling and individual therapy that I provide combines deep experiential work with teaching, coaching and practicing many specific relational skills that will set you up for success in all your relationships.
(415) 212-9993 View (415) 212-9993
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Celeste Poe
Psychologist, PhD, LMFT, PMH-C
Verified Verified
San Francisco, CA 94103  (Online Only)
I practice evidence-informed therapy including CBT, TF-CBT, EFT, and mindfulness-based approaches, and have specialized training in Child Parent Psychotherapy, Circle of Security, and perinatal loss.
As a multigenerational psychologist with specialized training in working with infants, young children, mothers, fathers, and couples, my work is rooted in supporting families of young children, particularly during circumstances of trauma, grief, and bereavement. Growing a family is a time of great vulnerability but also an opportunity to promote nurturing, growth, and often, intergenerational healing. The adjustment and changes associated with this period of time can impact a child, parent, or an entire family’s emotional wellbeing. I work to support families during this transformative period.
I practice evidence-informed therapy including CBT, TF-CBT, EFT, and mindfulness-based approaches, and have specialized training in Child Parent Psychotherapy, Circle of Security, and perinatal loss.
As a multigenerational psychologist with specialized training in working with infants, young children, mothers, fathers, and couples, my work is rooted in supporting families of young children, particularly during circumstances of trauma, grief, and bereavement. Growing a family is a time of great vulnerability but also an opportunity to promote nurturing, growth, and often, intergenerational healing. The adjustment and changes associated with this period of time can impact a child, parent, or an entire family’s emotional wellbeing. I work to support families during this transformative period.
(415) 496-0887 View (415) 496-0887
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Simran Bhatia
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
San Francisco, CA 94127  (Online Only)
I have completed trainings in CBT, Emotionally Focused Therapy, and Motivational Interviewing.
Feeling low? Unsure of where you are headed? Suffering from a loss? Searching for connection? You are in the right place.
I have completed trainings in CBT, Emotionally Focused Therapy, and Motivational Interviewing.
Feeling low? Unsure of where you are headed? Suffering from a loss? Searching for connection? You are in the right place.
(415) 965-0716 View (415) 965-0716
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Toni Brooks
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, MFT
Verified Verified
San Francisco, CA 94118  (Online Only)
Waitlist for new clients
I have been practicing psychotherapy for over 40 years. I am an active therapist, committed to staying deeply engaged in our moment-to-moment exchange. I am able to go to the depths of a client's experience, allowing for the release of tangled feelings, and the breaking open of psychological "knots." I employ EFT, and EMDR and Flash (for trauma), as well as guided imagery, which allows clients to access and make use of the expansive and healing capacities of the unconscious mind. I am also skilled in working pragmatically, helping people communicate better, shift habits of negative thinking, and solve troubling life concerns.
I have been practicing psychotherapy for over 40 years. I am an active therapist, committed to staying deeply engaged in our moment-to-moment exchange. I am able to go to the depths of a client's experience, allowing for the release of tangled feelings, and the breaking open of psychological "knots." I employ EFT, and EMDR and Flash (for trauma), as well as guided imagery, which allows clients to access and make use of the expansive and healing capacities of the unconscious mind. I am also skilled in working pragmatically, helping people communicate better, shift habits of negative thinking, and solve troubling life concerns.
(415) 779-7843 View (415) 779-7843
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Koo Im Robbins
Marriage & Family Therapist, JD, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
San Francisco, CA 94111  (Online Only)
Using an emotionally focused and attachment-based approach, I tailor my methods to your specific needs and circumstances.
Relationships are core to our identity and play a fundamental role in the quality of our life, shaping who we are, and how we perceive ourselves. Relationships are endowed with our heart’s deepest longings: to be seen, loved and accepted for ourselves, to find healing and wholeness, and to reach our greatest potential. It is no wonder that relational conflicts can, at times, feel so gut-wrenching, heartbreaking, and terrible.
Using an emotionally focused and attachment-based approach, I tailor my methods to your specific needs and circumstances.
Relationships are core to our identity and play a fundamental role in the quality of our life, shaping who we are, and how we perceive ourselves. Relationships are endowed with our heart’s deepest longings: to be seen, loved and accepted for ourselves, to find healing and wholeness, and to reach our greatest potential. It is no wonder that relational conflicts can, at times, feel so gut-wrenching, heartbreaking, and terrible.
(415) 625-6180 View (415) 625-6180
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Dana Andrews
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
San Francisco, CA 94104
Experiential techniques like somatic (body-based) exercises with emotionally focused therapy, alongside meditation and mindfulness, allow for deeper integration of material and relief from uncomfortable symptoms that often come with suffering.
Are you struggling with anxiety and/or depression and looking for support? Is trauma from the past affecting your functioning and relationships? Have you recently lost someone and experiencing grief? I offer a warm and compassionate space for you to share you story, process any feelings arising, and further guide you to identify and heal the patterns and wounds that are holding you back. Providing personalized tools and exercises (now including optional Ketamine assisted psychotherapy) to feel well-resourced both in and outside of session, we can work together to create a healing experience that works best for you and your needs.
Experiential techniques like somatic (body-based) exercises with emotionally focused therapy, alongside meditation and mindfulness, allow for deeper integration of material and relief from uncomfortable symptoms that often come with suffering.
Are you struggling with anxiety and/or depression and looking for support? Is trauma from the past affecting your functioning and relationships? Have you recently lost someone and experiencing grief? I offer a warm and compassionate space for you to share you story, process any feelings arising, and further guide you to identify and heal the patterns and wounds that are holding you back. Providing personalized tools and exercises (now including optional Ketamine assisted psychotherapy) to feel well-resourced both in and outside of session, we can work together to create a healing experience that works best for you and your needs.
(415) 231-5013 View (415) 231-5013
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Margaret Flynn
Psychologist, PsyD
Verified Verified
San Francisco, CA 94109  (Online Only)
Are you are stuck in unhelpful patterns in your life or relationships? Do you want to feel differently about yourself or your partner? Is conflict or distance in your romantic relationship causing stress? Is there a sexual health concern you are not sure where to start to address? Let’s talk! In my practice with couples, I work from an Emotionally Focused Therapy framework, an evidence-based treatment facilitating change from distress to a secure bond. With increased security in your relationship, you can more productively navigate conflict and feel more confident in the world knowing your partner has your back.
Are you are stuck in unhelpful patterns in your life or relationships? Do you want to feel differently about yourself or your partner? Is conflict or distance in your romantic relationship causing stress? Is there a sexual health concern you are not sure where to start to address? Let’s talk! In my practice with couples, I work from an Emotionally Focused Therapy framework, an evidence-based treatment facilitating change from distress to a secure bond. With increased security in your relationship, you can more productively navigate conflict and feel more confident in the world knowing your partner has your back.
(628) 200-4308 View (628) 200-4308
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Karen M Davison
Psychologist, PsyD
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
San Francisco, CA 94103  (Online Only)
My couples training includes Emotionally Focused Therapy and Gottman Methods and experience working with marginalized populations, including gay, lesbian, pansexual, transgender, and gender non-conforming people, and those who practice BDSM and Consensual Non-Monogamy.
I help couples and individuals improve relationships, affirm identity, manage mood, and change behavior. My background in math and engineering informs my work as a psychologist and educator. I reference and apply cognitive and behavioral science. Clients report that they benefit from our relationship, as well as the information and skills obtained through meetings. My webpage www.dr-davison.com and linked-in profile provides information about my training and experience, and services.
My couples training includes Emotionally Focused Therapy and Gottman Methods and experience working with marginalized populations, including gay, lesbian, pansexual, transgender, and gender non-conforming people, and those who practice BDSM and Consensual Non-Monogamy.
I help couples and individuals improve relationships, affirm identity, manage mood, and change behavior. My background in math and engineering informs my work as a psychologist and educator. I reference and apply cognitive and behavioral science. Clients report that they benefit from our relationship, as well as the information and skills obtained through meetings. My webpage www.dr-davison.com and linked-in profile provides information about my training and experience, and services.
(510) 541-5988 View (510) 541-5988
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Rebecca Wrangham
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA
Verified Verified
San Francisco, CA 94115  (Online Only)
Life can feel so stressful and challenging, and therapy can really help with that. As an Certified Emotionally Focused Therapist, I help couples uncover negative relational patterns as well as their underlying longings and needs so they can feel much closer and more connected for a lifetime of love. My approach is non-pathologizing, collaborative and effective. I also work with individuals looking to feel better, whether it's anxiety, depression or any kind of relationship issue that's causing distress. I use a combination of cognitive-behavioral interventions and psychodynamic approach in my work, as well as a sense of humor.
Life can feel so stressful and challenging, and therapy can really help with that. As an Certified Emotionally Focused Therapist, I help couples uncover negative relational patterns as well as their underlying longings and needs so they can feel much closer and more connected for a lifetime of love. My approach is non-pathologizing, collaborative and effective. I also work with individuals looking to feel better, whether it's anxiety, depression or any kind of relationship issue that's causing distress. I use a combination of cognitive-behavioral interventions and psychodynamic approach in my work, as well as a sense of humor.
(415) 682-6188 View (415) 682-6188
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Scott Gibbs
Marriage & Family Therapist, MFT, MBA
Verified Verified
San Francisco, CA 94123  (Online Only)
I am a board member of EHI, the flagship training organization in America for Existential-Humanistic theory and practice; EFT and Gottman Trained w/expertise in anger management, conflict resolution, development of "EQ”; published author on conflict (Journal of Humanistic Psychology); MBA, 20-year business professional, trained executive coach (Torch.
I work principally with individuals and couples struggling with personal relationship problems (e.g., gridlocked conflict, detachment, break-up and divorce, infidelity, sexual intimacy, loneliness, trauma history, etc.), as well as professionals struggling with relationship challenges in the workplace (e.g., communication, empathy, etc.).
I am a board member of EHI, the flagship training organization in America for Existential-Humanistic theory and practice; EFT and Gottman Trained w/expertise in anger management, conflict resolution, development of "EQ”; published author on conflict (Journal of Humanistic Psychology); MBA, 20-year business professional, trained executive coach (Torch.
I work principally with individuals and couples struggling with personal relationship problems (e.g., gridlocked conflict, detachment, break-up and divorce, infidelity, sexual intimacy, loneliness, trauma history, etc.), as well as professionals struggling with relationship challenges in the workplace (e.g., communication, empathy, etc.).
(415) 802-0453 View (415) 802-0453
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Emily Johnson
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
San Francisco, CA 94116
My name is Emily Johnson and I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in the state of California. I work with adults, specializing in relationship issues, grief, and managing anger. I use Emotionally Focused and Attachment Theory lenses to help you process pain and develop insight as well as incorporate Dialectical Behavior Therapy and Solution Focused techniques to help you develop skills. I understand that therapy is an investment and I want to work with you to develop meaningful goals so that you get what you want out of therapy.
My name is Emily Johnson and I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in the state of California. I work with adults, specializing in relationship issues, grief, and managing anger. I use Emotionally Focused and Attachment Theory lenses to help you process pain and develop insight as well as incorporate Dialectical Behavior Therapy and Solution Focused techniques to help you develop skills. I understand that therapy is an investment and I want to work with you to develop meaningful goals so that you get what you want out of therapy.
(415) 909-3124 View (415) 909-3124
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Cory Teese
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, AMFT
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
San Francisco, CA 94114
my style is approachable, interactive, and relational. i honor and value the uniqueness of who you are and welcome it in therapy. we get to be ourselves, putting down all the stories and roles we've told we should be. i work with mindfulness, somatic awareness, and emotionally-focused approaches that take a holistic approach towards your healing, honoring the mind-body-soul connection. i care about exploring your emotions, helping their expression while making sense of them. in couples therapy, i focus on how the system is working, developing awareness of emotions, healthy communication, boundary setting, and conflict resolution.
my style is approachable, interactive, and relational. i honor and value the uniqueness of who you are and welcome it in therapy. we get to be ourselves, putting down all the stories and roles we've told we should be. i work with mindfulness, somatic awareness, and emotionally-focused approaches that take a holistic approach towards your healing, honoring the mind-body-soul connection. i care about exploring your emotions, helping their expression while making sense of them. in couples therapy, i focus on how the system is working, developing awareness of emotions, healthy communication, boundary setting, and conflict resolution.
(628) 277-5993 View (628) 277-5993
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Zena Vevaina
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
San Francisco, CA 94104  (Online Only)
Hello and a warm welcome! While I bring a diverse background to my role, my current focus involves pursuing certification in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). My dedication lies in offering assistance to individuals and couples grappling with attachment issues within their present relationships. EFT centers around fostering transformative emotional experiences through the therapeutic relationship. I look forward to supporting you on your journey to emotional well-being. Additionally, I proudly serve as a Clinical Supervisor for associates on the journey to becoming licensed therapists.
Hello and a warm welcome! While I bring a diverse background to my role, my current focus involves pursuing certification in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). My dedication lies in offering assistance to individuals and couples grappling with attachment issues within their present relationships. EFT centers around fostering transformative emotional experiences through the therapeutic relationship. I look forward to supporting you on your journey to emotional well-being. Additionally, I proudly serve as a Clinical Supervisor for associates on the journey to becoming licensed therapists.
(415) 843-6640 View (415) 843-6640
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Alexa Enyart
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, AMFT
Verified Verified
San Francisco, CA 94114
I utilize Emotionally Focused Therapy and Gottman Method to resolve interpersonal conflicts, untangle the root of distressing emotions, and develop healthy communication patterns and boundaries.
Do you feel as though your anxiety and depression are unmanageable? How about feelings of sadness, hopelessness, or helplessness like you’ve hit rock bottom and are struggling to find hope for tomorrow? Once we start to unravel the details of our past and trauma we give ourselves the ability to process feelings that we have long suppressed. I aim to collaborate with you and provide tools to decrease the challenging feelings you are currently facing and achieve a more integrated and balanced sense of self, leading to emotional healing and personal growth.
I utilize Emotionally Focused Therapy and Gottman Method to resolve interpersonal conflicts, untangle the root of distressing emotions, and develop healthy communication patterns and boundaries.
Do you feel as though your anxiety and depression are unmanageable? How about feelings of sadness, hopelessness, or helplessness like you’ve hit rock bottom and are struggling to find hope for tomorrow? Once we start to unravel the details of our past and trauma we give ourselves the ability to process feelings that we have long suppressed. I aim to collaborate with you and provide tools to decrease the challenging feelings you are currently facing and achieve a more integrated and balanced sense of self, leading to emotional healing and personal growth.
(415) 915-0988 View (415) 915-0988
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Sharon Epel
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, MA, MS
Verified Verified
San Francisco, CA 94118
If you're feeling unhappy in your relationships and life, dissatisfied, scared, or stuck, I can help guide you towards greater well-being. I will offer you practical real-world tools and real insight to help you figure out not just what you need to be happier and more fulfilled, but how to get there. By the end of each session, I aim to help you feel you've learned something about yourself or your relationships, and that you're leaving with new approaches or ideas to try in your life. I work with individuals, young adults, parents, and couples, offering support, skills and insight to navigate life transitions and relationships.
If you're feeling unhappy in your relationships and life, dissatisfied, scared, or stuck, I can help guide you towards greater well-being. I will offer you practical real-world tools and real insight to help you figure out not just what you need to be happier and more fulfilled, but how to get there. By the end of each session, I aim to help you feel you've learned something about yourself or your relationships, and that you're leaving with new approaches or ideas to try in your life. I work with individuals, young adults, parents, and couples, offering support, skills and insight to navigate life transitions and relationships.
(415) 858-1939 View (415) 858-1939
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George Kolcun
Marriage & Family Therapist, MFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
San Francisco, CA 94114
George has been trained as an Emotionally Focused Couples Therapist, an empirically-based treatment modality designed to reduce conflict and increase connection in relationships.
George Kolcun, MFT provides psychotherapy sessions for individuals, couples and adolescents to address a wide variety of challenges, with specific expertise in parenting support and couples work. George is licensed by the state of California as a Marriage and Family Therapist and is an adjunct professor of psychology at the University of San Francisco. George works in private practice in the Noe Valley neighborhood of San Francisco and central Marin County.
George has been trained as an Emotionally Focused Couples Therapist, an empirically-based treatment modality designed to reduce conflict and increase connection in relationships.
George Kolcun, MFT provides psychotherapy sessions for individuals, couples and adolescents to address a wide variety of challenges, with specific expertise in parenting support and couples work. George is licensed by the state of California as a Marriage and Family Therapist and is an adjunct professor of psychology at the University of San Francisco. George works in private practice in the Noe Valley neighborhood of San Francisco and central Marin County.
(415) 689-9442 View (415) 689-9442
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Sarah Dunn
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
San Francisco, CA 94104
I have advanced training in a variety of modalities such as Psychoanalytic and Psychodynamic Therapy, Mindfulness and Compassion-Focused Therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy.
There are many things that draw us to therapy. Some arrive struggling with anxiety, depression, relationship issues, or career uncertainty. Others have difficulty managing  the roller coaster of emotions inherent in the journey of becoming a parent, while some experience a more general or vague sense of distress. Whatever your goals and challenges, I welcome the opportunity to see whether I may be a good fit for your journey.
I have advanced training in a variety of modalities such as Psychoanalytic and Psychodynamic Therapy, Mindfulness and Compassion-Focused Therapy, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy.
There are many things that draw us to therapy. Some arrive struggling with anxiety, depression, relationship issues, or career uncertainty. Others have difficulty managing  the roller coaster of emotions inherent in the journey of becoming a parent, while some experience a more general or vague sense of distress. Whatever your goals and challenges, I welcome the opportunity to see whether I may be a good fit for your journey.
(628) 200-3716 View (628) 200-3716
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Niamh O’Sullivan
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
San Francisco, CA 94102
I have additional training in Gestalt therapy, Existential therapy, Internal Family Systems, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy and Sand Tray therapy.
You may be dealing with personal challenges or struggling with relationships in your life or life may have thrown you a curve ball. Asking for help can be tough and humbling and yet many of my clients tell me they wish they had done it sooner. Having a safe, compassionate and supportive space can be significant to healing and working through the trickier stages of our lives. My training combines the wisdom of Western and Eastern psychologies, embracing each person's uniqueness. I work compassionately supporting greater awareness, insight, choice and fulfillment.
I have additional training in Gestalt therapy, Existential therapy, Internal Family Systems, Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy and Sand Tray therapy.
You may be dealing with personal challenges or struggling with relationships in your life or life may have thrown you a curve ball. Asking for help can be tough and humbling and yet many of my clients tell me they wish they had done it sooner. Having a safe, compassionate and supportive space can be significant to healing and working through the trickier stages of our lives. My training combines the wisdom of Western and Eastern psychologies, embracing each person's uniqueness. I work compassionately supporting greater awareness, insight, choice and fulfillment.
(415) 360-1569 View (415) 360-1569

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Emotionally Focused Therapists

Who is emotionally focused therapy for?

Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) is for couples who are emotionally distressed, stuck in an unsatisfying relationship pattern or feeling deeply alienated. They may even believe the relationship is beyond repair. Very often, the partners display intense anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal in the relationship. In addition, EFT is helpful to couples and individuals who have difficulty expressing emotions and those who have trouble regulating emotions.

Why do people need emotionally focused therapy?

People need emotionally focused therapy because the need for others is built into the brain, but the pressures of daily life can erode feelings of love, and couples often do not have the skills to find their way back to the comfort of each other. Instead, they may be stuck in repetitive patterns of anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal. Emotionally focused therapy regards such strong negative feelings as expressions of protest over the loss of connection and turns them into pathways of reconnection.

What happens in emotionally focused therapy?

Over the course of eight to 20 weekly sessions, couples de-escalate their negative emotional reactivity to one another so that they can listen to each other and be responsive to each other’s needs. Then the deep emotional and physical bond is restored, giving partners a sense of comfort and security, which they can use to solve whatever problems come their way. The therapist plays an active role, helping partners understand how anger and withdrawal are actually misguided cries for connection.

What problems does emotionally focused therapy treat?

EFT is designed to help couples stuck in dysfunctional relationship patterns regain closeness and rebuild their relationship. Typically, such couples experience considerable distress, with partners feeling alienated and distrustful of one another, not certain their relationship can survive. EFT is also helpful to individuals experiencing attachment-related fears of loss; it helps them learn to use their fears as a way of eliciting the closeness they desire.