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When you are in a relationship with a narcissist, you don't know what's real anymore. Somewhere along the way you have gotten lost in the cycle of toxicity and you are unsure of how to get out. You feel powerless and you try to explain to others what's going on, but they don't understand. You have a hard time explaining the manipulation, gaslighting, love bombing, and trauma bonding. You have a hard time hiding how you really feel behind your smile. You have lost yourself in your relationship, and what's worse - you don't feel happy or connected to anyone. You long for a safe place to unload your heavy burdens.

My work with every client and family is personalized, trauma-informed, rooted in strengths, collaborative, neurodiversity-affirming, and culturally tailored to your needs and experiences. I believe that each client possesses the intergenerational heirlooms of innate resilience, spirituality, and introspection that serve as tools to assist in your healing journey. You are the expert of your experience and I am here to offer hope and support you as you share your narrative and author a new chapter of healing, continuing to grow into your best self, discovering balance, serenity, joy, and connecting with yourself and surroundings.

During challenging times, people often feel defeated and focus on what is wrong. I want to shift the focus from what is "not working" to identifying what is "working." We will work to uncover patterns (behavioral, thought beliefs, relationship), that will lead you to making better decisions. I want to offer a safe place to process thoughts and feelings around issues that can be challenging. I am interested in helping people who experience stress, anxiety, depression, trauma, grief/loss and challenges with relationships (social or romantic). Many conversations are around “adulting” and how to manage life, career, relationships, etc.

My work has focused on repairing relationship bonds. Please view my Website at www.paultgulloryphd.com for more details. I am Certified in Emotionally Focused Therapy both as a Trainer and Supervisor. This means I have successfully under taken rigorous advance training and been approved by the International Centre for Excellence in EFT. I am the author of: "Emotionally Focused Therapy with African American Couples: Love Heals. I am dedicated to helping couples address and resolve conflict, repair emotional injuries, and revitalize their bond. I also offer Masters level Training in Emotionally Focus Therapy.

I am passionate about supporting creatives, artists, innovators and activists looking to break limiting patterns and cycles in their art, work, relationships and sex lives. In our sessions together we will explore ways to work through personal, creative and/or intimacy deadlocks, create and thrive while living in a world that often does not view your work/existence/desires as valid, manage symptoms of emotional overwhelm, creative fatigue, sexual shame and “imposter syndrome" and challenge habitual responses to help discover and reintroduce the parts of ourselves that may have been left behind, unexpressed, repressed or unexplored.

One of the bravest things we can do in life is to seek help when we need it most. It can be difficult to carry our struggles alone, and a true relief to have someone help us hold them. I work with clients experiencing a range of concerns including anxiety, depression, trauma, relationship issues, school or career issues, life transitions, family conflict, identity development, discrimination, and existential distress. No matter what is bringing you to therapy right now, the key is an openness to the possibility of your own healing, evolution, and growth. From there lies the door that can lead to the discovery of your full potential.

My ideal client is anyone—individuals, couples, or families—yearning for a compassionate and culturally attuned therapeutic journey. They face life's challenges with resilience, eager to embrace the vibrancy of feeling "alive." Seeking a therapist who comprehends the impact of social inequities on wellness and life quality, they aligns with my values. Together, we navigate towards the restoration of a beloved community, unlocking the fullness of their lives beyond the burdens. My commitment lies in fostering a therapeutic space where they feel profoundly "seen" and empowered to pursue the desires of their hearts.

Life can be unpredictable and going through those valleys can feel overwhelming and lonely. I want you to know I'm glad you're here and have decided to give therapy a try. I am committed to creating a warm, open, emotionally safe and non-judgmental space for you to come and be your most authentic self. A space where you can drop your shoulders and truly lay down the weight of your traumas, anxiety, hopelessness, relational conflict, low self-esteem, PTSD, grief/loss, and every other personal issues you choose to explore. I will gently walk alongside you to support and guide you to finding relief from those painful experiences.

Have you experienced awful or traumatic experiences in your life? Have these experiences left you feeling dazed and confused about who you are and how to navigate life? Does your brain and body feel overly tired? Do you worry about just about everything? Have difficulty with decisions and follow through? Perhaps you’re engaging with alcohol, drugs, food, and other things in unhelpful ways to try to numb emotional pain. Negative life experiences leave negative imprints on your brain and body. Heal your brain and body to change your life.

I help people manage their mental health by creating a safe space to process difficult emotions because: "...being human's hard - on the boulevard." - André L. Benjamin

I do free consultations with clients and instant online scheduling because getting help shouldn't wait for a call back. I am here for you, to walk along side you or your family through the toughest moments. We will laugh together, cry together, and heal together. Most importantly, we will grow together.

Are you constantly feeling self-defeated? Does it feel like what other people want from you is more important than your needs? Are you unhappy because you try so hard to please everyone else? Is it a real struggle for you to be vulnerable in your relationships? You are not alone. Many of my clients struggle with the same issues! You are here because you have made a powerful choice —to put yourself first. You've decided that you are ready to heal. You have the power to create a different life for yourself. Now, it’s time to break patterns that are causing problems in your relationships and your life.

During your sessions I hope to create a consistent, safe, nurturing environment for growth and healing. The primary goal of our time together will be for me to support you in becoming the best version of yourself possible. We will build on your strengths and carefully unpack the underlying themes in your life. As a result, you will gain a deeper understanding of your past and present experiences while, taking steps toward creating the life you love. I will utilize motivational interviewing and a strengths-based approach to support you in this journey.

I work from a core belief that everyone has within themselves what they need for healing. I also believe that working in community helps to bring out and recall collective knowledge and understanding of what health, illness, and recovery are. I work collaboratively with you in supporting your process of understanding and integrating your life experiences, using a relational, strength-based, culturally attuned, community-centered process. *Please review my website for more information and faster response.*

My intention is to create a comfortable, safe space for clients to explore, heal and grow. I have years of experience helping individuals in crisis due to a wide variety of life's challenges and traumas. I help those of you who suffer from physical pain, anxiety, depression, emotional crisis, stress, trauma, PTSD and many other common symptoms . My approach is tailoring my experience and skills in a compassionate, honest and direct manner, to facilitate your experience to balance, self-acceptance and wholeness.

Are you a person trying to explore your gender, race, or sexuality? Do you struggle to communicate your needs, set boundaries, and be assertive? I challenge you to speak your truth, understand yourself, and be authentic while maintaining boundaries. I use humor and a strong therapeutic relationship to help you be your ideal, most grounded self. When I think about transforming and changing one's life, I always reflect on Audre Lorde's powerful words. "What are the words you do not yet have...Next time, ask: What's the worst that will happen? Then push yourself a little further than you dare. "

Changing your life can be scary. And after you make the changes, it can be difficult to keep them in place. But know you are not alone in your journey towards feeling better. You can create your ideal life by practicing tools to calm anxiety, reduce stress, and deal with the pressure you may be feeling from everyday life.

I value helping to foster a secure space and use an integrative approach to help clients feel empowered to reach their personal goals. Intersectionality has been paramount on my own personal healing journey and I have had the opportunity to work with clients who benefit from the same lens.

Currently, no waitlist. Scheduling Wed-Thurs. "Although the world is full of suffering, it is also full of the overcoming of it" (Helen Keller). My work aims to reduce suffering through evidence-based techniques, including cognitive-behavioral therapy (CBT), dialectical behavior therapy (DBT), acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT), and mindfulness. I have extensive experience treating trauma survivors and with the refugee, asylum-seeker, and immigrant communities. My practice has focused on people of color; clients with serious mental illness; and individuals with justice system-involvement, neurodivergence (esp. autism), and HIV.