Self Esteem Therapists in Carpinteria, CA

Insightful, caring psychotherapy for couples and individuals Working with clients from Montecito, Santa Barbara and surrounding communities, Dr Shafer, PhD brings sensitivity and humor to his psychodyamic work with individuals and couples. Dr Shafer (Bob) has been in practice for more than 40 Years. Nonjudgmental, open to a variety of perspectives and personalities, he specializes in providing compassionate support to those trying to make better sense of life's challenges.

As your therapist, I will meet you where you are at in the moment with the situations you face and the emotions you feel, whether it be loneliness, pain, anger, happiness, sadness, fear, or aliveness. From this meeting place we have the possibility of developing a trusting relationship that allows you to begin to reveal more of who you are, what you experience, and what you want. I work to help support the development of greater self-awareness and a clear, healthy, internal sense of what is best for you.

I help people struggling with depression, anxiety, low self esteem, relationship issues and women suffering from prepartum and postpartum depression. I have extensive experience in the treatment of eating disorders and body image issues, as well as addictions to alcohol and other drugs. Additionally, I have a unique ability to connect with young adults facing difficult developmental life transitions. It is my belief that one of the most important elements of successful therapy is the relationship developed between the client and therapist.

Do you feel like you are in a dark space, disconnected in your relationships, or experiencing a life change that is devastating or overwhelming? I am a life transition & relationship therapist and help clients overcome emotionally taxing times in order to achieve fulfilling lives. Throughout the counseling process I’m a non-judgmental support & guide. I help my clients successfully move out of being stuck & stagnant & bring balance to their life. Upon completion you will gain clarity around what you really want, achieve empowerment & ultimately transformation so that you can be free of angst & attain fulfillment & peace.

I work with individuals, couples and families struggling with transitions and communication. I also specialize in Men’s issues that may include challenges with emotional intimacy, difficulty being vulnerable, and maintaining their passion for life. I see men who are wanting to uncover a fuller version of themselves, and feel fully expressed and fully fulfilled in every area of their lives. Clients I see understand that they get out of the therapy what they put into it. The therapeutic relationship becomes the container for change. I see their seeking help not as a sign of weakness, but rather as a sign of good judgment.

You are insightful and self aware, you know all of the “right” things to do and think, and yet you still struggle to truly feel good enough. Have you spent your life trying to achieve and move up the ladder and still feel anxious, panicky, or like something is missing? You might be a people pleaser and struggle to say no or to set healthy boundaries. Maybe you have a hard time showing all of yourself to loved ones and instead present only the parts of yourself that seem likable - leaving you feeling unknown and alone. You may give and give to others and yet neglect to care for yourself or to ask for your own needs to be met.

Are you tired of failing to follow through on your promises? ADHD is my area of specialty when working with children, teens, college students and adults. Making significant change begins with identifying and understanding your choices. My work is helping you and/or your student select good choices and stay with these choices. Quality of life is honoring these choices in yourself and in others. I welcome your call.

Anxiety, Grief, Depression. Do these powerful emotions keep you from focusing and making positive life choices? As a therapist, I can help you move beyond their grip and see through the distressing patterns they generate. A positive change can occur because each of us carries the power to make a difference in our lives. By working together, through an individuation process that is nurturing, encouraging and uniquely yours, we can explore how you will regain your ability to overcome anxiety, grief and depression and make life affirming decisions.

If we are lucky in this life we will experience many inner deaths, each an opportunity to shed parts of self, to embrace our own expansion, and enter the next dimension of life. If we fail to die, we fail to grow. We have lost the ritual container that holds our rites of passage and without the containment and guidance that goes with it many of us feel lost, hopeless, deficient in some way and without a sense of belonging. Therapy in the depth tradition has become a space to compassionately witness and accompany individuals in the alchemical process of healing and growth.

At some point in our lives, many of us need help navigating life's challenges. The focus of my practice is working with individuals and couples who want to enhance and transform their relationships and improve their overall quality of life. Trained in Relational Life Therapy, my approach is centered around teaching clients how to practice full respect living. This work delves deep quickly, uncovering the origins of patterns, challenging their effectiveness, and offering alternative ways to cultivate loving connection and skillfully manage conflict.

There are crisis moments in everyone's life when we feel overwhelmed and lack solutions to problems. Together we search for answers to questions that may appear overwhelming, enabling you to feel positive in the face of life transitions. Toni has a Master's Degree in Counseling Psychology. She recently relinquished her license, however continues using skills expanded over time. Together you will solve concerns such as anxiety, stress, depression, addictions, and anger management. Toni employs a practical approach focusing on empathy and mutual respect. Her method focuses on cognitive behavioral therapy, humanism, and mindfulness.

I have come to specialize in helping teens and young adults navigate their personal stress, as well as the stressors of today’s world and the lingering impact of the lockdown on their formative years. I also have vast experience working with parents (either individually or along side their children) and helping them navigate their role, improve communication, and nurture their relationships. My third focus area includes working with women of varying ages who find themselves in transition; whether that’s with their career, their relationship(s), and/ or are looking to start their family (see below).

I really believe in marriage--a supportive, nourishing partnership. Do you need help finding that relationship? Are you choosing the wrong person? Are you in a relationship that you want to make better? Let me help you develop the ability to grow, commit and sustain a satisfying relationship. We will explore the fears, anxieties, fantasies, patterns and past relationships creating obstacles to the goal of a mature relationship.

Hi, my name is Max Shaft and my passion is working with clients who may be feeling stuck, discouraged, or powerless but want to feel confident, free from limiting beliefs, and proud of who they are so that they can live up to their fullest potential.

We test and train the brain in the same way an athlete trains for excellence! We make smart kids smarter….

Starting a family can bring up a lot of unexpected challenges. New mothers often worry about the health of the baby during pregnancy, the labor and birth process, the recovery period after the baby is born, or adjusting to motherhood. New parents often worry about relationship dynamics with a partner or other family members. If your fears are starting to outweigh your positive feelings about the arrival of your baby, or if you're struggling to get support now, know that there is help for what you are experiencing.

Feeling overwhelmed by a specific challenge or aiming to enhance your life and relationships? As your therapist, I aim to help you identify concerns and guide you toward positive transformations efficiently. My office is a sanctuary—a secure, inviting space where we embark on a journey of self-discovery and growth together. Through collaboration, we navigate obstacles and uncover tools for your thriving. I use diverse modalities, tailoring therapy to your needs.

Seeking support is difficult for anyone. Whether it is for an individual, family, or there is support. Over 15 years experience working in a variety of environments. People just want to get some relief and feel supported when navigating difficult circumstances. I have several years working at the University level, Behavioral Health, schools, and in the private sector. My focus is private practice and there is support for whatever is going on in your life currently. I am a referral source for several local companies, doctor offices, schools, as well as a consultant for TV/Film, and professional athletes.

With over 40 years in recovery, and a Zen and Yoga practice, my approach is collaborative and heart-centered. Together we explore how you may live a richer more meaningful life. In addition to CG Jung, influences include Marion Woodman, Robert Johnson, Martin Seligman, and Mihaly Csíkszentmihályi. I work with creative people:artists, film makers, writers, and musicians. Background in Youth and Family Services, and ADHD. Recently published "ADHD: A Heartful Approach," available on Amazon.com. Currently I also only offer Tele-Medicine and Tele-Coaching.