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Howard Gluss Phd
Psychologist, PhD
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Santa Fe, NM 87507  (Online Only)
We all know that fairy tale endings are rare. For the majority of us, the real challenge is figuring out what happiness means to us. From a young age, we are bombarded with ideas of what it should be, but it's up to us to determine our own meaning. It's not easy - we're often influenced by family, friends, education, and society in our pursuit of happiness. But ultimately, it takes bravery and accountability to face each day and make choices for our own well-being.
We all know that fairy tale endings are rare. For the majority of us, the real challenge is figuring out what happiness means to us. From a young age, we are bombarded with ideas of what it should be, but it's up to us to determine our own meaning. It's not easy - we're often influenced by family, friends, education, and society in our pursuit of happiness. But ultimately, it takes bravery and accountability to face each day and make choices for our own well-being.
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Divorce Therapists

How does therapy for people affected by a divorce work?

Individuals may feel a number of emotions following a divorce, such as shock, guilt, grief, anger, and fear. Therapists offer a non-judgmental space for individuals to talk about what they’ve experienced and process their emotions. Therapists will help clients develop coping strategies. They can also help a client rebuild their sense of self and self-worth and talk about what a happier future might look like.

What’s the most common type of therapy following a divorce?

There are several types of therapy that may be useful for divorce, including cognitive behavioral, acceptance and commitment, solution-focused brief, and mindfulness-based therapies. Many therapy types are talk-therapy based, which is typically the most popular option for individuals dealing with divorce. Cognitive behavioral therapy is a widely-used talk therapy, however, there’s no specific therapy type that’s designed to help people with divorce, and different types will work depending on the person.

When should an individual seek help due to a divorce?

When the feelings of a divorced individual, or an individual going through the process of divorce, begin to disrupt healthy daily functioning, it may be a good time to look into therapy. If a person finds that they are not performing at work due to problems with anxiety or motivation, if they’re no longer seeing friends due to feelings of shame, or if they’re not properly taking care of themselves as a result of depression, speaking to a professional could help.

How do you encourage someone to go to therapy due to a divorce?

It’s helpful to express concern and love for the individual while framing therapy as a tool for improving their life. Sharing how the individual appears to be suffering, and what effects it has on them or on their children, should be done with compassion and empathy. It may be useful to devise a game plan—breaking the process down into parts, such as finding a therapist, making appointments, and looking into insurance coverage.