Sex Therapists in SW17
I am experienced in working with issues to do with gender and sexuality, relationship diversity (polyamory, non-monogamy etc) and provide an LGBTQ+ affirmative practice, but welcome clients from all backgrounds.
I am an integrative therapist, meaning I draw on multiple approaches and theories in my practice, but my way of working has been particularly shaped by relational psychotherapy and attachment theory. This means I believe that the relationships we experience in our early lives affect our later ways of relating to both ourselves and others. I believe that therapy is a fundamentally relational endeavour - not that people are broken and therefore need to be “fixed” - but rather that through working together we can come to new ways of relating, understanding and being.
I am experienced in working with issues to do with gender and sexuality, relationship diversity (polyamory, non-monogamy etc) and provide an LGBTQ+ affirmative practice, but welcome clients from all backgrounds.
I am an integrative therapist, meaning I draw on multiple approaches and theories in my practice, but my way of working has been particularly shaped by relational psychotherapy and attachment theory. This means I believe that the relationships we experience in our early lives affect our later ways of relating to both ourselves and others. I believe that therapy is a fundamentally relational endeavour - not that people are broken and therefore need to be “fixed” - but rather that through working together we can come to new ways of relating, understanding and being.
Having successfully completed my original training in Integrative counselling at Roehampton University I went on to specialise as a psycho sexual and relationship counsellor after completing a 2 year Diploma validated by Middle sex University.
I have a wide variety of experience working with both individuals and couples in the private, charitable and NHS sectors. Helping to create an atmosphere that best enables clients to bring their issues into the counselling room and then assisting them in understanding and working through the issues in order to resolve them.
Having successfully completed my original training in Integrative counselling at Roehampton University I went on to specialise as a psycho sexual and relationship counsellor after completing a 2 year Diploma validated by Middle sex University.
I have a wide variety of experience working with both individuals and couples in the private, charitable and NHS sectors. Helping to create an atmosphere that best enables clients to bring their issues into the counselling room and then assisting them in understanding and working through the issues in order to resolve them.
Ali Xavier
Psychotherapist, MA, MBACP Accred
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
London SW17
Waitlist for new clients
I work with Millennial adults 1-1 and with couples, who are experiencing challenges in life transitions, their mental health, and relationships. It can be that all of these affect one another; therapy is a non-judgemental space to explore these, with the aim of coming to a fuller sense of understanding, renewed perspective, with clarity and healing along the way. My client work includes working managing a range of mental health issues, relationship breakdown, loss and bereavement, post-abortion grief, sexual abuse, and identity change. Work with couples includes conflict management, affair recovery, and supporting communication.
I work with Millennial adults 1-1 and with couples, who are experiencing challenges in life transitions, their mental health, and relationships. It can be that all of these affect one another; therapy is a non-judgemental space to explore these, with the aim of coming to a fuller sense of understanding, renewed perspective, with clarity and healing along the way. My client work includes working managing a range of mental health issues, relationship breakdown, loss and bereavement, post-abortion grief, sexual abuse, and identity change. Work with couples includes conflict management, affair recovery, and supporting communication.
Life events can trigger emotions that are difficult to understand or express. Sudden trauma, redundancy, a business failure, a relationship breakdown, bereavement, abuse, bullying and harassment, or struggles with gender and sexual identity. The list is endless and is as individual as us. These can prevent clear thinking and create worries or reactions, which can go on to cause anxiety, shame, confusion, or possible feelings of guilt that are hard to recognise or cope with. They may also cause a reaction of self-destruction, self-harm, eating disorders, drinking, drug use and other issues.
Life events can trigger emotions that are difficult to understand or express. Sudden trauma, redundancy, a business failure, a relationship breakdown, bereavement, abuse, bullying and harassment, or struggles with gender and sexual identity. The list is endless and is as individual as us. These can prevent clear thinking and create worries or reactions, which can go on to cause anxiety, shame, confusion, or possible feelings of guilt that are hard to recognise or cope with. They may also cause a reaction of self-destruction, self-harm, eating disorders, drinking, drug use and other issues.
At times you may experience a low mood, lack of optimism for your future, stress and anxiety, a traumatic event, a breakdown in relationship, a stressful work environment, low self esteem and confidence. I am here to help you through this process to discover a healthier and more fulfilled you. We will work with what triggers you to feel these emotions, coping strategies combined with life coaching. This will be an exciting time to work on yourself and reach your goals. Sometimes talking the first step to commit to counselling can feel daunting, I will ensure you feel comfortable, understood and relaxed in your sessions.
At times you may experience a low mood, lack of optimism for your future, stress and anxiety, a traumatic event, a breakdown in relationship, a stressful work environment, low self esteem and confidence. I am here to help you through this process to discover a healthier and more fulfilled you. We will work with what triggers you to feel these emotions, coping strategies combined with life coaching. This will be an exciting time to work on yourself and reach your goals. Sometimes talking the first step to commit to counselling can feel daunting, I will ensure you feel comfortable, understood and relaxed in your sessions.
When we meet I will discuss what sort of therapy will be best for you . I am a therapist who listens with intelligence and compassion, but I am not one who just sits in silence. I am sensitive to how difficult it can be to share personal issues. Sometimes the work will be challenging, but the experience of being heard and understood can be very powerful.
When we meet I will discuss what sort of therapy will be best for you . I am a therapist who listens with intelligence and compassion, but I am not one who just sits in silence. I am sensitive to how difficult it can be to share personal issues. Sometimes the work will be challenging, but the experience of being heard and understood can be very powerful.
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Sex Therapy Counsellors
Who is sex therapy for?
Sex problems are common in relationships. Many people want a better sex life and want to feel loved and desired by their partner. It is difficult for couples to resolve sexual problems on their own because people often feel ashamed to talk about their sexual desires fearing they are not normal, when in fact a very broad range of preferences and behaviors are normal. A sex therapist can help clarify this and other matters.
Why do people need sex therapy?
Many people do not know how to talk about their erotic needs or their emotional needs, both of which are addressed in sex therapy. Couples often live with sexual difficulties for years before seeking help, and in that time, partners may experience so much disappointment and alienation that they may fear their problems mean they are incompatible. Once people experience disappointment, it is difficult to find resolution without help.
What happens in sex therapy?
People have many misconceptions about what takes place in sex therapy. First, it is a form of talk therapy in which partners discuss their sexual concerns; it does not involve touching or physical exploration of any kind. Sex therapy typically helps couples get comfortable talking to each other about sex so that, in the privacy of their home life, they can openly discuss their sexual desires and make decisions about what they want to do. Couples are typically assigned activities to do at home that build intimacy skills.
What kinds of problems do sex therapists treat?
Very often, partners differ in their degree of sexual desire and struggle over how often to have sex. Or they may have fights about porn use or have difficulty connecting sexually after one partner is unfaithful. Men may have problems with premature ejaculation. Women may find themselves struggling to become aroused or to achieve an orgasm. Sometimes partners feel like they have lost the sense of attraction to their partner. These are all common issues dealt with in sex therapy.