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Self-Help

The Two Emotional Traps That Quietly Control Your Choices

Jeffrey Bernstein Ph.D. on April 19, 2025 in Liking the Child You Love

Anxiety makes you chase control. Apathy makes you give it up. Either way, your decisions aren’t yours until you see the trap.

Anxiety makes you chase control. Apathy makes you give it up. Either way, your decisions aren’t yours until you see the trap.

Perfectionism

Childhood Patterns That Fuel Enmeshment and Perfectionism

Leon Garber LMHC on April 19, 2025 in Perfectionism

With enmeshment, people take on too much responsibility for another in the hopes of saving everyone involved. Here's a look at what causes enmeshment and how to break free.

With enmeshment, people take on too much responsibility for another in the hopes of saving everyone involved. Here's a look at what causes enmeshment and how to break free.

Behavioral Economics

Credit and Debt: Leveraging the Future for the Present

Nafees Alam Ph.D. on April 19, 2025 in Pop Culture Mental Health

Delve into the psychological and societal forces behind America's growing debt crisis.

Delve into the psychological and societal forces behind America's growing debt crisis.

Self-Talk

How to Train Your Inner Critic

Britt Frank MSW, LSCSW, SEP on April 19, 2025 in The Science of Stuck

Think your inner critic is the enemy? Think again. What if that harsh voice in your head isn’t out to sabotage you, but trying (badly) to help?

Think your inner critic is the enemy? Think again. What if that harsh voice in your head isn’t out to sabotage you, but trying (badly) to help?

Trauma

Is All Trauma Functionally Equivalent?

Jordan Grumet M.D. on April 19, 2025 in The Regret-Free Life

It’s not the size of the trauma—it’s the story you tell about it that shapes your life.

It’s not the size of the trauma—it’s the story you tell about it that shapes your life.

Shame

How to Get More Out of Shame

Tamim Mobayed MA on April 19, 2025 in Emotional Behavior, Behavioral Emotions

Reflecting on the uses of shame and shaming, and the critical difference between stigmatizing shame and reintegrative shame.

Reflecting on the uses of shame and shaming, and the critical difference between stigmatizing shame and reintegrative shame.

Fear

Courage Is a Pivotal State That Can Change Everything

Robert Evans Wilson Jr. on April 19, 2025 in The Main Ingredient

A Personal Perspective: Courage is a transformative feeling and mindset that can help you resolve personal issues and make you feel more alive.

A Personal Perspective: Courage is a transformative feeling and mindset that can help you resolve personal issues and make you feel more alive.

Relationships

Rethinking Relationships: The Emergent Love Model

Sara Nasserzadeh Ph.D. on April 19, 2025 in Love by Design

Love doesn’t just happen—it emerges. Explore the Emergent Love Model and its 6 essential ingredients for building intentional, lasting, and thriving relationships.

Love doesn’t just happen—it emerges. Explore the Emergent Love Model and its 6 essential ingredients for building intentional, lasting, and thriving relationships.

Evolutionary Psychology

Your Brain on Music

Sam Goldstein Ph.D. on April 19, 2025 in Common Sense Science

Music influences emotion, memory, and mental health, and serves as a tool for healing and joy. Explore the roots of its power and ways to incorporate more music into your life.

Music influences emotion, memory, and mental health, and serves as a tool for healing and joy. Explore the roots of its power and ways to incorporate more music into your life.

Race and Ethnicity

Thriving in a System That Wasn't Built for You

Isha W. Metzger Ph.D., LCP on April 19, 2025 in Black and EMPOWERED

Navigating grad school with a marginalized identity can feel like you’re always swimming upstream. Here’s how to advocate for yourself, find your people, and protect your peace.

Navigating grad school with a marginalized identity can feel like you’re always swimming upstream. Here’s how to advocate for yourself, find your people, and protect your peace.

Leadership

The Fundamental Importance of Trust in Management

Victor Lipman MBA on April 19, 2025 in Mind of the Manager

Trust is an engine for productivity, but its loss causes serious problems.

Trust is an engine for productivity, but its loss causes serious problems.

Artificial Intelligence

AI Is Cognitive Comfort Food

John Nosta on April 19, 2025 in The Digital Self

AI isn't just answering questions—it’s flattering us into intellectual laziness, serving comfort over clarity in a velvet voice.

AI isn't just answering questions—it’s flattering us into intellectual laziness, serving comfort over clarity in a velvet voice.

Perfectionism

The Myth of the “Chill Woman”

Shannon Sauer-Zavala Ph.D. on April 19, 2025 in Self: Made

You’re not “too much”—you’re just tired of pretending to be the chill woman. Here’s why that myth exists and how to stop shrinking yourself to fit it.

You’re not “too much”—you’re just tired of pretending to be the chill woman. Here’s why that myth exists and how to stop shrinking yourself to fit it.

Trauma

Psychoeducation and Somatic Interventions for Sexual Trauma

Sari Cooper, CST, LCSW on April 18, 2025 in Sex Esteem

Survivors of non-consensual sexual experiences need curated sex therapy for trauma responses and to create a new foundation for consensual sexual relationships.

Survivors of non-consensual sexual experiences need curated sex therapy for trauma responses and to create a new foundation for consensual sexual relationships.

Grief

The Real Costs of Trade Wars: Disappearing Hopes and Dreams

Pamela B. Rutledge Ph.D., M.B.A. on April 18, 2025 in Positively Media

When markets drop, it’s not only our 401K that disappears—it’s our future story. No amount of financial doomscrolling will offset anxiety or the loss of hopes and dreams.

When markets drop, it’s not only our 401K that disappears—it’s our future story. No amount of financial doomscrolling will offset anxiety or the loss of hopes and dreams.

Emotions

The Psychology of Pivoting

Michelle Tennant Nicholson M.A. on April 18, 2025 in Mental Injury Is Not Mental Illness

Life rarely goes as planned. Pivot with purpose, reframe setbacks, and discover how detours can lead to your most meaningful growth.

Life rarely goes as planned. Pivot with purpose, reframe setbacks, and discover how detours can lead to your most meaningful growth.

Mass Shootings

Averted School Shootings

Nina E. Cerfolio M.D. on April 18, 2025 in Esprit

Discover how the "see something, say something" approach and proactive measures can be the keys to averting disaster.

Discover how the "see something, say something" approach and proactive measures can be the keys to averting disaster.

Eating Disorders

Not a Coincidence: Sexual Trauma and Eating Disorders

Giulia Suro Ph.D. on April 18, 2025 in Missing Links

Girls who experience sexual abuse are over five times more likely to develop eating disorders. For many, disordered eating is a way to feel safe, in control, or invisible.

Girls who experience sexual abuse are over five times more likely to develop eating disorders. For many, disordered eating is a way to feel safe, in control, or invisible.

Autism

Alcohol as a Masking Tool for Autistic People

Kelly E Green PhD, LP on April 18, 2025 in Addiction and Relationships

Could problematic alcohol use be an overlooked sign of undiagnosed autism?

Could problematic alcohol use be an overlooked sign of undiagnosed autism?

Spirituality

Overcoming Trauma at the Table

David Weitzner Ph.D. on April 18, 2025 in Managing with Meaning

It would be impossible to understand our ancestors' trauma intellectually... but we can support cross-generational healing through the simple dignity of gathering at the table.

It would be impossible to understand our ancestors' trauma intellectually... but we can support cross-generational healing through the simple dignity of gathering at the table.

Therapy

"Emotionally Immature" Is Not a Diagnosis

Samantha Stein Psy.D. on April 18, 2025 in What The Wild Things Are

We can do better than this book. Clinically, ethically, and relationally, we must get back to doing real work—with real families, real systems, and real complexity.

We can do better than this book. Clinically, ethically, and relationally, we must get back to doing real work—with real families, real systems, and real complexity.

Leadership

Stuck in the Complaining Phase? Here's How to Move Forward

Bruce Y. Lee M.D., M.B.A. on April 18, 2025 in A Funny Bone to Pick

Are you finding yourself complaining about something that you believe you can't change, again and again? Do you see others doing so? Here's a way to get past all that.

Are you finding yourself complaining about something that you believe you can't change, again and again? Do you see others doing so? Here's a way to get past all that.

Relationships

The Call Is Coming From Inside the House

John Kim LMFT on April 18, 2025 in The Angry Therapist

Confronting your inner saboteur is hard. It’s like opening the basement door in a horror movie—scary as hell, but necessary if you want to stop being haunted.

Confronting your inner saboteur is hard. It’s like opening the basement door in a horror movie—scary as hell, but necessary if you want to stop being haunted.

Parenting

The One-Word Solution for a Manipulative Adult Child

Jeffrey Bernstein Ph.D. on April 18, 2025 in Liking the Child You Love

When love becomes enabling, one powerful word can shift everything for you and your grown child.

When love becomes enabling, one powerful word can shift everything for you and your grown child.

Adolescence

The Radical New Science of Teen Mental Health

Betsy Holmberg Ph.D. on April 18, 2025 in The Science of Self

Brain science shows a revolutionary new paradigm to understand teenage mental health, empowering parents and kids alike.

Brain science shows a revolutionary new paradigm to understand teenage mental health, empowering parents and kids alike.

Infidelity

Relationship Dissatisfaction and Infidelity

Noam Shpancer Ph.D. on April 18, 2025 in Insight Therapy

Infidelity and relationship dissatisfaction are correlated. But is infidelity the cause or the effect of relationship dissatisfaction?

Infidelity and relationship dissatisfaction are correlated. But is infidelity the cause or the effect of relationship dissatisfaction?

Mindfulness

Your Mind Is All Over Your Body

Margaret Smith Ph.D. on April 18, 2025 in The Athlete's Nervous System

Bottom-up or body-up processing is crucial for elite performers, and is part of "mental training" and "mental performance" enhancement.

Bottom-up or body-up processing is crucial for elite performers, and is part of "mental training" and "mental performance" enhancement.

Bias

“You’ve Really Turned Your Life Around”

Sophie Riegel on April 18, 2025 in Mind The (Generation) Gap

What if the compliments you thought were kind are actually quietly cutting people down? Find out how subtle biases hide in everyday praise—and what to say instead.

What if the compliments you thought were kind are actually quietly cutting people down? Find out how subtle biases hide in everyday praise—and what to say instead.

Self-Help

Heal Yourself. Heal the World.

Zoe Weil M.A., M.T.S on April 18, 2025 in Becoming a Solutionary

Self-help can become a trap, but there's a way to set ourselves free; address our anxieties, fears, and anger; find personal healing; and make a difference, all at the same time.

Self-help can become a trap, but there's a way to set ourselves free; address our anxieties, fears, and anger; find personal healing; and make a difference, all at the same time.