Couples Counseling Therapists in Hopland, CA

Cynthia Gorton
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
Hopland, CA 95449
With extensive experience working as a crisis counselor and trauma advocate, I feel confident in my ability to assist clients no matter what dilemmas they may be facing. Whether you are confronting a change in a life phase, a family systems adjustment, or are feeling a need to process trauma, I can help. I work with individuals, couples and families who are experiencing depression, anxiety, post-traumatic stress disorder, addiction disorder, as well as, individuals, couples and families who simply aren't feeling quite like they would like to.
With extensive experience working as a crisis counselor and trauma advocate, I feel confident in my ability to assist clients no matter what dilemmas they may be facing. Whether you are confronting a change in a life phase, a family systems adjustment, or are feeling a need to process trauma, I can help. I work with individuals, couples and families who are experiencing depression, anxiety, post-traumatic stress disorder, addiction disorder, as well as, individuals, couples and families who simply aren't feeling quite like they would like to.
(707) 415-1119 View (707) 415-1119

Online Therapists

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Kathy Allard
Psychologist, PhD, MFT, EMDR
Verified Verified
Sonoma, CA 95476
My "typical" client is of high intelligence, creativity, ingenuity and kindness, who attempts to address issues that keep emerging, preventing them from being fully happy and at their best. These problems often include depression, anxiety, loss, childhood trauma, addictions, and relationship dissatisfaction. All too often, people emerge from childhood with wounds related to family turmoil, parental loss, abuse, neglect, abandonment and various addictions. The aftermath can be emotionally unrelenting, despite repeated attempts to make "external" fixes. Sharing your pain with a Psychologist in an emotionally safe environment can help start the healing process.
My "typical" client is of high intelligence, creativity, ingenuity and kindness, who attempts to address issues that keep emerging, preventing them from being fully happy and at their best. These problems often include depression, anxiety, loss, childhood trauma, addictions, and relationship dissatisfaction. All too often, people emerge from childhood with wounds related to family turmoil, parental loss, abuse, neglect, abandonment and various addictions. The aftermath can be emotionally unrelenting, despite repeated attempts to make "external" fixes. Sharing your pain with a Psychologist in an emotionally safe environment can help start the healing process.
(650) 763-3397 View (650) 763-3397
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Reina Remigio
Psychologist, PhD
Verified Verified
Oakland, CA 94605  (Online Only)
I invite you to reach out for a 15-minute consultation call to connect and explore the possibility of partnering together to work toward your valued goals and healing.
I specialize in working with individuals, couples, and families struggling with overcontrol/excessive self-control. This can show up as rumination, hyper-perfectionism, rigidity, difficulty relaxing, and emotional loneliness (even with loved ones around). These challenges can intersect with substance abuse, suicidal ideation or attempts, and/or self-harm. Often, an overcontrolled coping style is central to conditions such as chronic anxiety/depression, eating disorders, and personality disorders like obsessive-compulsive and avoidant personalities. This way of coping may exacerbate or perpetuate trauma and grief symptoms as well.
I invite you to reach out for a 15-minute consultation call to connect and explore the possibility of partnering together to work toward your valued goals and healing.
I specialize in working with individuals, couples, and families struggling with overcontrol/excessive self-control. This can show up as rumination, hyper-perfectionism, rigidity, difficulty relaxing, and emotional loneliness (even with loved ones around). These challenges can intersect with substance abuse, suicidal ideation or attempts, and/or self-harm. Often, an overcontrolled coping style is central to conditions such as chronic anxiety/depression, eating disorders, and personality disorders like obsessive-compulsive and avoidant personalities. This way of coping may exacerbate or perpetuate trauma and grief symptoms as well.
(341) 899-1605 View (341) 899-1605
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Kristina Grace Huddleston
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
Sacramento, CA 95811
Welcome! I am Kristina Huddleston, Nevada Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. With almost two decades in the mental health field, I am here to support your growth by taking the uncertainty and overwhelmingness out of starting the therapeutic process. My clients come from diverse backgrounds and a wide range of therapeutic needs. My current areas of specialization include chronic trauma/PTSD, grief and loss (including chronic illness/end of life care support), AFAB needs (pre/post pregnancy; menopause), couples and family system conflict, and anxiety and depressive disorders.
Welcome! I am Kristina Huddleston, Nevada Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. With almost two decades in the mental health field, I am here to support your growth by taking the uncertainty and overwhelmingness out of starting the therapeutic process. My clients come from diverse backgrounds and a wide range of therapeutic needs. My current areas of specialization include chronic trauma/PTSD, grief and loss (including chronic illness/end of life care support), AFAB needs (pre/post pregnancy; menopause), couples and family system conflict, and anxiety and depressive disorders.
(530) 444-4962 View (530) 444-4962
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Gabrielle Bodzin
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Berkeley, CA 94708
Are you a fellow highly sensitive person? Do you struggle with regulating emotions, anxiety, striking balance, or find yourself stuck in relational patterns that cause anxiety or depression? Maybe you engage in compulsive habits like binge eating, doom scrolling, or other escapist tendencies that draw you away from living with presence. Maybe you struggle with feeling worthy in your relationships or feeling worthy of healing, or struggle to believe that the fulfilling and healthy life you desire is possible. I'm here to support individuals and couples transform patterns created from trauma to a life of freedom, vitality, and ease.
Are you a fellow highly sensitive person? Do you struggle with regulating emotions, anxiety, striking balance, or find yourself stuck in relational patterns that cause anxiety or depression? Maybe you engage in compulsive habits like binge eating, doom scrolling, or other escapist tendencies that draw you away from living with presence. Maybe you struggle with feeling worthy in your relationships or feeling worthy of healing, or struggle to believe that the fulfilling and healthy life you desire is possible. I'm here to support individuals and couples transform patterns created from trauma to a life of freedom, vitality, and ease.
(626) 416-4125 View (626) 416-4125
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Rebekah B. Tinker
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW, MSW
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
San Francisco, CA 94117
I work with couples, adults, and adolescents of all genders and sexualities.
I believe the therapeutic relationship is built from trust and sincerity. My hope is to hold space for a genuine connection that fosters dynamic self reflection. Looking deeper into the layers of experience that inform our internal gaze and external lens, and what we intrinsically value and believe. Whether you are looking to unravel patterns of codependency, improve communication with your partner(s), or navigate through body shame and disordered eating, I see opportunity for clarity and resolve.
I work with couples, adults, and adolescents of all genders and sexualities.
I believe the therapeutic relationship is built from trust and sincerity. My hope is to hold space for a genuine connection that fosters dynamic self reflection. Looking deeper into the layers of experience that inform our internal gaze and external lens, and what we intrinsically value and believe. Whether you are looking to unravel patterns of codependency, improve communication with your partner(s), or navigate through body shame and disordered eating, I see opportunity for clarity and resolve.
(415) 534-4113 View (415) 534-4113
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Jennifer Christeson
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
Sacramento, CA 95823
Allow me to be your guide as we work together to identify and harness your strengths, empowering you to achieve your personal, professional and relationship goals. Heal old wounds while you cultivate self compassion and create lasting change. I utilize an eclectic approach drawing from strength based, mindfulness based cognitive, solutions focused brief , and gottman couples therapies and have over 30 years experience working with individuals, couples and groups .
Allow me to be your guide as we work together to identify and harness your strengths, empowering you to achieve your personal, professional and relationship goals. Heal old wounds while you cultivate self compassion and create lasting change. I utilize an eclectic approach drawing from strength based, mindfulness based cognitive, solutions focused brief , and gottman couples therapies and have over 30 years experience working with individuals, couples and groups .
(916) 659-7812 View (916) 659-7812
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Russell Schreiber
Psychologist, PsyD, MFT, MA
Verified Verified
Sebastopol, CA 95472
I specialize in depth psychology and somatically-based psychotherapy for individuals and couples, and am certified in analytic somatic therapy.
I am a Licensed Clinical Psychologist located in Sebastopol, CA. B.A. in Psychology UC Berkeley, M.A. in Counseling Psychology: Professional School of Psychology, Psy.D. in Clinical Psychology: Meridian University. I was the staff psychologist at the Lomi Psychotherapy Clinic in where I supervised and trained psychologists for many years. I work with individuals who wish to unfold their full potential and who have current or past material that is blocking them. In my work I, use many different psychotherapeutic modalities and integrate them to fit the unique needs of each individual.
I specialize in depth psychology and somatically-based psychotherapy for individuals and couples, and am certified in analytic somatic therapy.
I am a Licensed Clinical Psychologist located in Sebastopol, CA. B.A. in Psychology UC Berkeley, M.A. in Counseling Psychology: Professional School of Psychology, Psy.D. in Clinical Psychology: Meridian University. I was the staff psychologist at the Lomi Psychotherapy Clinic in where I supervised and trained psychologists for many years. I work with individuals who wish to unfold their full potential and who have current or past material that is blocking them. In my work I, use many different psychotherapeutic modalities and integrate them to fit the unique needs of each individual.
(707) 292-4454 View (707) 292-4454
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Wallace Earl Smith
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
Oakland, CA 94618
As a psychotherapist with over 10 years of counseling experience in the Bay Area I have come to appreciate the importance of humor and honesty in developing a therapeutic relationship that encourages positive life changes. I work hard to develop a comfortable and safe space for my clients to identify and address barriers to progress in their personal and professional lives. When we are honest with ourselves, I think we so often find that our most ardent critic and obstacle to living a fulfilling and happy life is ourselves.
As a psychotherapist with over 10 years of counseling experience in the Bay Area I have come to appreciate the importance of humor and honesty in developing a therapeutic relationship that encourages positive life changes. I work hard to develop a comfortable and safe space for my clients to identify and address barriers to progress in their personal and professional lives. When we are honest with ourselves, I think we so often find that our most ardent critic and obstacle to living a fulfilling and happy life is ourselves.
(650) 727-1875 View (650) 727-1875
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Katrina Watkins
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
South San Francisco, CA 94080
My passion is working with therapeutically with individuals, couples, children, and families.
Hello, I'm Katrina Watkins, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. My therapeutic approach is client-centered, focusing on creating a safe, empathetic space for you to explore your concerns and strengths. I am dedicated to assisting my clients in the following areas: anxiety and stress management, depression and mood disorders, relationship and family issues, trauma and PTSD, grief and loss, self-esteem and confidence, addiction and substance abuse, mindfulness, work-related stress, LGBTQ+ issues, and more.
My passion is working with therapeutically with individuals, couples, children, and families.
Hello, I'm Katrina Watkins, a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist. My therapeutic approach is client-centered, focusing on creating a safe, empathetic space for you to explore your concerns and strengths. I am dedicated to assisting my clients in the following areas: anxiety and stress management, depression and mood disorders, relationship and family issues, trauma and PTSD, grief and loss, self-esteem and confidence, addiction and substance abuse, mindfulness, work-related stress, LGBTQ+ issues, and more.
(650) 275-6256 View (650) 275-6256
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Jennifer Burton Flier
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, CDWF, CEAT
Verified Verified
San Francisco, CA 94114
Healing happens within the context of a connected, caring, and empathic relationship.
Using a resiliency-focused approach, it doesn’t have to be an ordeal to heal. In fact, neuroscience has shown this is not the best way to work on oneself. Rather, focusing on regulating the nervous system using simple wellness skills and education about the brain and body connection can pave the way toward increased daily well-being as well as lay groundwork for resolving trauma. We can't always prevent stressors, and many of us have been through challenges or traumas in childhood that make it difficult to weather life's changes. Together, we will co-create the best course of treatment to help you live more fully in each moment.
Healing happens within the context of a connected, caring, and empathic relationship.
Using a resiliency-focused approach, it doesn’t have to be an ordeal to heal. In fact, neuroscience has shown this is not the best way to work on oneself. Rather, focusing on regulating the nervous system using simple wellness skills and education about the brain and body connection can pave the way toward increased daily well-being as well as lay groundwork for resolving trauma. We can't always prevent stressors, and many of us have been through challenges or traumas in childhood that make it difficult to weather life's changes. Together, we will co-create the best course of treatment to help you live more fully in each moment.
(818) 322-0632 View (818) 322-0632
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Michelle Grebe
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
Oakland, CA 94603
This expands my capacity to work with a vast population of individuals, couples, and families.
Are you looking for a more joyous and purposeful life? I'm here to help! I believe you enter therapy already equipped for the transformation you seek.
This expands my capacity to work with a vast population of individuals, couples, and families.
Are you looking for a more joyous and purposeful life? I'm here to help! I believe you enter therapy already equipped for the transformation you seek.
(341) 758-5197 View (341) 758-5197
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Pam C Bauerle - Relationship And Sex Therapy
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT, CSTIP
Verified Verified
Sacramento, CA 95825
Waitlist for new clients
As a therapist, not only do I use my professional training but I also lean on my personal experience being married to my loving partner of 39 years, plus being a Mom of 2, and a Nana to 2.
I am a kind, direct and a collaborative partner. I believe therapy is simply an opportunity to develop a new skill set for moving through life's challenges. I create a calm, non-judgmental space for you to be you, exploring what you need to heal. I enjoy working with individuals/ couples working through relationship and communication issues, pornography and sex addictions, all sexual issues, infidelity/affair recovery, and working with men/women, LGBTQIA + who are in distress. My desire is to assist others to live a life w/o internal judgement, fear, stigma or shame re: sexual issues, or any other area bothering you or yours.
As a therapist, not only do I use my professional training but I also lean on my personal experience being married to my loving partner of 39 years, plus being a Mom of 2, and a Nana to 2.
I am a kind, direct and a collaborative partner. I believe therapy is simply an opportunity to develop a new skill set for moving through life's challenges. I create a calm, non-judgmental space for you to be you, exploring what you need to heal. I enjoy working with individuals/ couples working through relationship and communication issues, pornography and sex addictions, all sexual issues, infidelity/affair recovery, and working with men/women, LGBTQIA + who are in distress. My desire is to assist others to live a life w/o internal judgement, fear, stigma or shame re: sexual issues, or any other area bothering you or yours.
(916) 619-3865 View (916) 619-3865
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Sunita Chamber
Psychologist, PsyD
Verified Verified
Elk Grove, CA 95757  (Online Only)
individual therapy for all ages (children, teens, and adults), couples therapy, family therapy and we even have a specialty track to address the unique features of culture and immigration within your family background.
Do you struggle with feeling disconnected from yourself and others? Do you put your needs at the bottom of the to-do list? Do you wonder if life should feel somehow better? Happier? Now more than ever, as the world moves faster, it has become increasingly difficult to make meaningful connections, to live with purpose and to make sense of our experiences. Pushing away your needs and not taking the time to connect with yourself and understand who you are–who you want to be, can lead to long-term issues for your mind and body. I believe it shouldn’t be so hard to live a better life.
individual therapy for all ages (children, teens, and adults), couples therapy, family therapy and we even have a specialty track to address the unique features of culture and immigration within your family background.
Do you struggle with feeling disconnected from yourself and others? Do you put your needs at the bottom of the to-do list? Do you wonder if life should feel somehow better? Happier? Now more than ever, as the world moves faster, it has become increasingly difficult to make meaningful connections, to live with purpose and to make sense of our experiences. Pushing away your needs and not taking the time to connect with yourself and understand who you are–who you want to be, can lead to long-term issues for your mind and body. I believe it shouldn’t be so hard to live a better life.
(916) 507-1904 View (916) 507-1904
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Robyn McKenzie
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Novato, CA 94945
Waitlist for new clients
I believe that therapy is a powerful place for healing, insight, and transformation, especially with the right therapeutic relationship, so let's take this next step together.
I believe that every person has the capacity to achieve growth at any stage of life. My passion is to support my clients in gaining insight into their thoughts, feelings, experiences, and behaviors in order to effect lasting change and move toward a more satisfying life. My therapy style is warm, empathic, active, and practical. I believe therapy works best when there is a strong, collaborative relationship between client and therapist. You are the expert on your own life, and my goal is to partner with you to learn about your experiences and bring my own perspective and expertise to help discover how therapy can most benefit you.
I believe that therapy is a powerful place for healing, insight, and transformation, especially with the right therapeutic relationship, so let's take this next step together.
I believe that every person has the capacity to achieve growth at any stage of life. My passion is to support my clients in gaining insight into their thoughts, feelings, experiences, and behaviors in order to effect lasting change and move toward a more satisfying life. My therapy style is warm, empathic, active, and practical. I believe therapy works best when there is a strong, collaborative relationship between client and therapist. You are the expert on your own life, and my goal is to partner with you to learn about your experiences and bring my own perspective and expertise to help discover how therapy can most benefit you.
(415) 639-5848 View (415) 639-5848
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Denise A Traina
Psychologist, PhD
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Napa, CA 94559
If you would like to sort through relationship issues, forge a new path, grow and develop despite challenges, or move through an unexpected life transition, therapy can be helpful.
There are many reasons for seeking therapy, but most often the goal is to feel better, live more fully, or improve coping skills. I believe that effective therapy is tailored to the presenting issue, specific treatment goals, individual temperament as well as an ongoing assessment of effectiveness. My style is one of openness, acceptance, curiosity, respect, optimism, and encouragement.
If you would like to sort through relationship issues, forge a new path, grow and develop despite challenges, or move through an unexpected life transition, therapy can be helpful.
There are many reasons for seeking therapy, but most often the goal is to feel better, live more fully, or improve coping skills. I believe that effective therapy is tailored to the presenting issue, specific treatment goals, individual temperament as well as an ongoing assessment of effectiveness. My style is one of openness, acceptance, curiosity, respect, optimism, and encouragement.
(510) 380-8155 View (510) 380-8155
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Laila Ansari
Psychologist, PhD
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
San Anselmo, CA 94960  (Online Only)
Did you grow up in an unstable household with challenging parents? Do you struggle with holding boundaries and saying no? Do you feel like you keep repeating negative patterns in relationships? I work with adults/ couples who struggle with anxiety, trauma, family/ partner relationship issues and consequences of childhood abuse and neglect. My specialty is in working with adult children of narcissistic/borderline parents and how early childhood experiences affect the individual’s adult relationships. Additionally, I help clients improve communication, build healthy relationships, set healthy boundaries and advocate for their needs.
Did you grow up in an unstable household with challenging parents? Do you struggle with holding boundaries and saying no? Do you feel like you keep repeating negative patterns in relationships? I work with adults/ couples who struggle with anxiety, trauma, family/ partner relationship issues and consequences of childhood abuse and neglect. My specialty is in working with adult children of narcissistic/borderline parents and how early childhood experiences affect the individual’s adult relationships. Additionally, I help clients improve communication, build healthy relationships, set healthy boundaries and advocate for their needs.
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Kimberly Cohn
Marriage & Family Therapist, MFT, KAP, RDT/BCT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Berkeley, CA 94707
Personally, I'm a collaborative Co-parent, a partner, friend, sister and daughter with delightful, aging parents.
Hello, thanks for stopping by...how can I help? Perhaps, KAP? As a Certified Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapist, I work in partnership with Journey Clinical's medical team, who'll determine eligibility to prescribe, in advance of our KAP work together. Or, if you're unsure if KAP is right for you, or are curious about other, non-medicated methods for creativity enhancement, trauma processing or anything in-between, let's talk! For 20 years, I've been providing creative, playful and novel best-approaches to serious issues like grief/loss, depression/anxiety, life's traumas and transitions, to make meaning in ways that work for you.
Personally, I'm a collaborative Co-parent, a partner, friend, sister and daughter with delightful, aging parents.
Hello, thanks for stopping by...how can I help? Perhaps, KAP? As a Certified Ketamine Assisted Psychotherapist, I work in partnership with Journey Clinical's medical team, who'll determine eligibility to prescribe, in advance of our KAP work together. Or, if you're unsure if KAP is right for you, or are curious about other, non-medicated methods for creativity enhancement, trauma processing or anything in-between, let's talk! For 20 years, I've been providing creative, playful and novel best-approaches to serious issues like grief/loss, depression/anxiety, life's traumas and transitions, to make meaning in ways that work for you.
(510) 647-6743 View (510) 647-6743
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Laurie Ruth Weiss
Psychologist, PhD
Verified Verified
4 Endorsed
San Francisco, CA 94110
I have an expertise in working with Early Childhood aged children, anxiety disorders, children going through divorce, couples and adults.
As a child, adult, and couple's psychologist, my goal is to provide treatment with care and integrity. Children come in for school problems, behavioral problems or mood disturbances including anxiety. I provide support and coaching for parents along side the therapy for their children. Adults come to see me for desire to live with less pain, more peace. Couples engage in work to improve communication or manage a stress that is effecting the relationship. The therapeutic relationship is a powerful medium for change. Regardless of the reason for starting therapy, most people get tremendous relief.
I have an expertise in working with Early Childhood aged children, anxiety disorders, children going through divorce, couples and adults.
As a child, adult, and couple's psychologist, my goal is to provide treatment with care and integrity. Children come in for school problems, behavioral problems or mood disturbances including anxiety. I provide support and coaching for parents along side the therapy for their children. Adults come to see me for desire to live with less pain, more peace. Couples engage in work to improve communication or manage a stress that is effecting the relationship. The therapeutic relationship is a powerful medium for change. Regardless of the reason for starting therapy, most people get tremendous relief.
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Ronny Nevo
Psychologist, PsyD
Verified Verified
Berkeley, CA 94704
Experiences within the caregiving interaction and relationship may evoke difficult memories/emotions or previously-created beliefs, as well as the protective responses that developed in reaction to times that required safety.
Dads matter. Dads matter as involved, responsible, and caring fathers. Furthermore, dads matter as people: in addition to being positive impacts on children, fathers have inherent human value. Dads deserve support, resources, and self curiosity and knowledge; and children deserve secure and healthy caregivers. Experiential therapy encourages deep exploration, authentic impact, and sustainable change. As fathers, this intersects with themes of male caregiver identity and healing for future generations. Therapy promotes internal connection, and corrective emotional experiences can mend the mind to create transformational growth.
Experiences within the caregiving interaction and relationship may evoke difficult memories/emotions or previously-created beliefs, as well as the protective responses that developed in reaction to times that required safety.
Dads matter. Dads matter as involved, responsible, and caring fathers. Furthermore, dads matter as people: in addition to being positive impacts on children, fathers have inherent human value. Dads deserve support, resources, and self curiosity and knowledge; and children deserve secure and healthy caregivers. Experiential therapy encourages deep exploration, authentic impact, and sustainable change. As fathers, this intersects with themes of male caregiver identity and healing for future generations. Therapy promotes internal connection, and corrective emotional experiences can mend the mind to create transformational growth.
(341) 888-6934 View (341) 888-6934
Couples Counseling Therapists

Does couples counseling work?

Research shows that couples counseling is effective; it can reduce relationship distress and improve emotional awareness, communication, empathy, intimacy, and overall relationship satisfaction. For example, emotionally focused therapy was found to be effective for about 75 percent of couples, and those benefits lasted at least two years.

When should a couple seek counseling?

Couples can benefit from counseling if they consistently struggle in their relationship. They may have lost the ability to communicate effectively, become entrenched in harmful patterns, begun to fight more than usual, broken the other’s trust, suffered from a mental or physical illness, or faced any number of other challenges. Many therapists offer free consultations, so if a couple isn’t sure whether therapy is necessary, asking directly can provide clarity.

How can I get my partner to go to couples therapy?

The decision to seek couples therapy is often driven by one partner, who then convinces the other to participate. When discussing the idea, the initiator should be direct and assertive. They can state the problems they see and explain how the relationship would benefit from therapy. In more serious cases, they can also explain how their relationship may suffer without making any changes or seeking professional help.

How does a couple prepare for couples counseling?

The anticipation of beginning couples counseling can be difficult—sometimes more difficult than the first session itself. Taking a few moments to reflect can allay those concerns: What are the current challenges? When and how did they begin? What do they want the relationship to look like in the future? Reflecting on these questions can help individuals or couples articulate their goals. Of course, the therapist will also ask questions and guide couples through the process.