Adoption Counselling in NG11
Sometimes it feels like everyone says that men have it easy. If that’s so, then why are three quarters of all suicides men? We've been taught to tough it out and to go it alone, and that it’s weak to ask for help when things get on top of us – even if there is someone we can turn to. I work with the issues around the difficulty of being male in a society that creates unrealistic and often contradictory ideals of masculinity that are impossible to live up to, and stops men connecting meaningfully with themselves and others.
Sometimes it feels like everyone says that men have it easy. If that’s so, then why are three quarters of all suicides men? We've been taught to tough it out and to go it alone, and that it’s weak to ask for help when things get on top of us – even if there is someone we can turn to. I work with the issues around the difficulty of being male in a society that creates unrealistic and often contradictory ideals of masculinity that are impossible to live up to, and stops men connecting meaningfully with themselves and others.
Hello, my name is Victoria. It can be difficult to take the first brave step towards seeking counselling, especially when confronted with frightening and overwhelming feelings from the past or present. Do you feel as if no one sees or hears you, or are you overwhelmed by experiences and emotions you don't understand? Is the critical inner voice overly loud at times? This may be a difficult place to be, especially if you feel alone. You do not have to feel isolated and lost; it is more comfortable to be beside someone when things are challenging.
Hello, my name is Victoria. It can be difficult to take the first brave step towards seeking counselling, especially when confronted with frightening and overwhelming feelings from the past or present. Do you feel as if no one sees or hears you, or are you overwhelmed by experiences and emotions you don't understand? Is the critical inner voice overly loud at times? This may be a difficult place to be, especially if you feel alone. You do not have to feel isolated and lost; it is more comfortable to be beside someone when things are challenging.
Hi my name is Natalie. I am an experienced BACP accredited counsellor working in Nottingham. I offer a friendly, safe and confidential space to enable you to work through any difficulties you may be experiencing. I work within the Humanistic person centered approach and I believe that given the right conditions, through therapy, positive changes can be made. I offer counselling for all ages, individuals, couples, EAP, and group work. I work with both long and short term clients. I have extensive experience working with depression, complex mental health and PTSD
Hi my name is Natalie. I am an experienced BACP accredited counsellor working in Nottingham. I offer a friendly, safe and confidential space to enable you to work through any difficulties you may be experiencing. I work within the Humanistic person centered approach and I believe that given the right conditions, through therapy, positive changes can be made. I offer counselling for all ages, individuals, couples, EAP, and group work. I work with both long and short term clients. I have extensive experience working with depression, complex mental health and PTSD
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Adoption Counsellors
Does my adopted child need therapy?
Not every adopted child needs therapy. However, many can benefit from seeing an adoption-informed therapist, especially if they were victims of abuse or neglect, appear withdrawn or disconnected, have behavioural or developmental issues (which may or may not be related to their adoption), are struggling with feelings of grief or loss surrounding their birth parents, or find it difficult to establish an identity, a challenge that often becomes most apparent during adolescence.
When should adoptive parents seek therapy?
Prospective parents can benefit from therapy even before an adoption—for example, to voice worries and fears; to reconcile infertility struggles, if relevant; or simply to prepare themselves for parenthood. After the adoption, parents who are struggling to bond with their child; are unsure how to talk about adoption or related issues, such as race; or whose child is dealing with developmental, behavioural, or psychiatric concerns can address these and other issues with the help of an adoption-competent therapist.
Is family therapy appropriate for adoptive families?
Family therapy can be invaluable for strengthening the bond between adoptive parents and children, helping the latter feel more secure in their place in the family. Family therapy can also help adoptive families navigate complex communication issues—for example, parents who feel uncomfortable discussing race with their child, who in turn feels invalidated by their silence, or a child who has questions about his birth parents but avoids asking them out of fear of hurting his adoptive parents’ feelings.
What therapy is not appropriate for adoption issues?
A discredited therapy known as “attachment therapy” (sometimes called “holding therapy” or “rebirthing therapy”) should not be used to treat adopted and foster children, though it was largely designed for this population. Attachment therapy involves restraining, coercing, and punishing the child in order for them to “release” negative emotions and attach to their new caregivers—techniques that are abusive and dangerous and have even proven fatal in some cases.