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The Other Side of Relationships

Exploring Love’s Uncomfortable Truths

Mating
Ready to Play This Valentine's Day?

Assael Romanelli Ph.D. on February 2, 2024

This Vvalentine's Day, try a different approach to dating: play dates. Play-dating will help you be more yourself, have fun, and quickly assess whether the person is the right one for you.

This Vvalentine's Day, try a different approach to dating: play dates. Play-dating will help you be more yourself, have fun, and quickly assess whether the person is the right one for you.

Relationships
Three Ways to Make More Love With Your Partner

Assael Romanelli Ph.D. on December 20, 2023

If you think there’s only one way to make love to your partner, think again. By widening your perception of sex, you’ll elevate your relationship to the next level.

If you think there’s only one way to make love to your partner, think again. By widening your perception of sex, you’ll elevate your relationship to the next level.

Boundaries
The Circle of Differentiation

Assael Romanelli Ph.D. on December 4, 2023

Do you often feel like the victim, savior, or persecutor in your relationship? If so, you're stuck in a drama triangle. There's an alternative.

Do you often feel like the victim, savior, or persecutor in your relationship? If so, you're stuck in a drama triangle. There's an alternative.

Relationships
Relational Equilibrium

Assael Romanelli Ph.D. on November 20, 2023

The hidden cause of most of the problems in your relationship is... hierarchy. What is the solution? Relational equilibrium. The 95/70 chart can help you get there.

The hidden cause of most of the problems in your relationship is... hierarchy. What is the solution? Relational equilibrium. The 95/70 chart can help you get there.

Relationships
All Is Fair in Love and War?

Assael Romanelli Ph.D. on October 29, 2023

Wartime pushes us all to survival mode. Our relationship is our greatest resource. Here are some of relational survival hacks for times of crisis.

Wartime pushes us all to survival mode. Our relationship is our greatest resource. Here are some of relational survival hacks for times of crisis.

Parenting
A Playful Parenting Approach

Assael Romanelli Ph.D. on October 8, 2023

We couldn't find a parenting approach that worked for our children, so we developed one based on our relationship model.

We couldn't find a parenting approach that worked for our children, so we developed one based on our relationship model.

Marriage
Five Reasons Parents Should Prioritize Their Marriage

Assael Romanelli Ph.D. on September 15, 2023

Many parents put their children first. But overfocusing on the children can tax your relationship an leave young adults with no model for their own intimate partnerships.

Many parents put their children first. But overfocusing on the children can tax your relationship an leave young adults with no model for their own intimate partnerships.

Relationships
Dismissing a Partner's Changes as "Fake"

Assael Romanelli Ph.D. on August 21, 2023

Rejecting your partner's attempts to do things differently because it's "fake" is perfectly normal. But it also blocks your relationship from developing.

Rejecting your partner's attempts to do things differently because it's "fake" is perfectly normal. But it also blocks your relationship from developing.

Priming
Relational Priming

Assael Romanelli Ph.D. on August 7, 2023

Is it hard for you to share your negative or constructive feelings with your partner?
If so, relational priming can help you reach a win-win "us" outcome.

Is it hard for you to share your negative or constructive feelings with your partner?
If so, relational priming can help you reach a win-win "us" outcome.

Marriage
Three Words to Help You Regulate

Assael Romanelli Ph.D. on July 2, 2023

These three words will not only help you regulate but also help your partner be more open and receptive to your feelings.

These three words will not only help you regulate but also help your partner be more open and receptive to your feelings.

Forgiveness
Stop Overapologizing!

Assael Romanelli Ph.D. on April 21, 2023

Overapologizing is real and can negatively impact relationships in several surprising ways. Awareness and conscious practice can help restrain this behavior.

Overapologizing is real and can negatively impact relationships in several surprising ways. Awareness and conscious practice can help restrain this behavior.

Relationships
Why Every Marriage Is Really 3 Relationships

Assael Romanelli Ph.D. on January 13, 2023

Think you have only one relationship? You're wrong. You actually have three different relationships with your partner. Best you learn to master all three.

Think you have only one relationship? You're wrong. You actually have three different relationships with your partner. Best you learn to master all three.

Anxiety
“Give Me More"

Assael Romanelli Ph.D. on December 2, 2022

Is your partner excited about your growth? Most of us are not relationally stretched, leaving us "comfortably numb" and bored. The solution is to bring "more" to your relationship.

Is your partner excited about your growth? Most of us are not relationally stretched, leaving us "comfortably numb" and bored. The solution is to bring "more" to your relationship.