Within a couple days of the release of Intimate Treason, I got an email from a woman saying how painful her life is not just because of what she has discovered about her boyfriend’s sexual acting out, but due to her own behavior. She went on to describe how she is “reacting, overreacting, misinterpreting, making assumptions, and driving myself crazy.” This is a most normal response. You feel shattered, you don’t know what or who you can trust; you realize you have been deceived but very likely doubt yourself. You want to know the truth, but don’t know how you will get it. You go into detective mode, searching for proof that the behaviors have really stopped, persistently asking questions —often the same ones over and over. You may fantasize about what your partner did and what it looked like, or you could be having revenge fantasies. These are responses to feeling emotionally out of control, common responses to overwhelming trauma. Wanting to give readers a foundation of stability, co-author Cara Tripodi and I discuss the managing of triggers.