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Narcissistic Partner Test

20 Questions
3 Minutes

Is your partner a narcissist?

People high in narcissism demand admiration, struggle to empathize with others, and often lash out when criticized—traits that make healthy relationships difficult, if not impossible. Is your partner showing narcissistic traits? Take this test to see where they land.

Using the key below, answer the questions based on how strongly you agree or disagree with the statement.

Strongly Disagree
Disagree
Neutral
Strongly Agree
Agree
1. My partner gets angry when I don’t go along with what they want.
Disagree
Agree
2. When we go out, my partner seems to expect special treatment from everyone we meet.
Disagree
Agree
3. They often complain that their talent is going unrecognized.
Disagree
Agree
4. My partner is happy to share the spotlight with others.
Disagree
Agree
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5. I feel like my partner prioritizes their feelings over mine.
Disagree
Agree
6. I know I can rely on my partner for emotional support.
Disagree
Agree
7. My partner makes every problem we encounter seem like my fault.
Disagree
Agree
8. My partner seems delighted when other people fail.
Disagree
Agree
9. Being criticized, even mildly, causes my partner to lash out.
Disagree
Agree
10. My partner doesn’t seem to care very much when I’m upset.
Disagree
Agree
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11. My partner never takes responsibility when things go wrong.
Disagree
Agree
12. I never feel like I’m good enough for my partner.
Disagree
Agree
13. My partner often complains that they’re not treated as well as they deserve.
Disagree
Agree
14. Being famous would make my partner uncomfortable.
Disagree
Agree
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15. They believe that only “special” people can understand them.
Disagree
Agree
16. My partner sulks when they feel that I’m not giving them enough attention.
Disagree
Agree
17. I can see that my partner manipulates others to get their way.
Disagree
Agree
18. They act as if rules don’t apply to them.
Disagree
Agree
19. When I achieve something big, my partner gets jealous.
Disagree
Agree
20. They can be extremely charming when they want to be.
Disagree
Agree

Who Is This Narcissistic Partner Test For?

This test is for anyone who wants to determine whether their romantic partner is displaying narcissistic traits. It’s designed for adults and is not intended to be diagnostic. 

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How to Get Help with a Narcissistic Partner

If you think your partner is showing signs of narcissism, seeking the help of a therapist can be beneficial. Find a professional near you in the Psychology Today Therapy Directory.

Sources

  • Back, M.D., et al. Narcissistic Admiration and Rivalry Questionnaire (NARQ).
  • Raskin, R. and Terry, H. Narcissistic Personality Inventory (NPI).
  • Schoenleber, M. et al. Brief Pathological Narcissism Inventory (B-PNI).

 

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