Personality Disorders Therapists in First Hill, Seattle, WA

I am licensed in Washington State and I work with adult children, partners and siblings of individuals with Narcissistic and Borderline Personality Disorder traits. It can be difficult to find a therapist who truly understands the impact and wounds of being raised in a home or being in a relationship with someone who has narcissistic traits or borderline traits. My work includes creating a healthy psychological separation, changing the negative internal messages, learning how to respond to others, creating healthy boundaries, stopping the legacy of distorted love and becoming your true and authentic self.

I want my clients to know they are not alone, and that healing and peace are possible. Each Client has incredible worth and value.​ I offer a safe and nonjudgmental setting and partnership where you can share your burdens and offload the weight on your shoulders. Whether your struggle is anxiety, depression, or life/relationship issues, I hope to help you get to the root of your concerns and empower you to overcome. Especially for Clients who have trauma from experiencing abuse tactics such as gaslighting, manipulation, and any violation of boundaries, I hope to validate your experience and help you claim your life back.

As human being, I know that life situations could be difficult to manage by our own. However, past traumas, bad relationships (toxic/domestic abuse), stress, divorces, financial struggles, mental health disorders, depression, grieves...DON"T have to determine our life moving forward. IT IS POSSIBLE to recover from those big stones that we find in our life path! I love to work with my clients from a healing/recovery perspective and none judgmental attitude to help them get a better quality of life.

I ask that you are ready to make a commitment, to yourself, first. I consider this the first step of the journey - I am here ready to make the commitment alongside you. Think of it as the beginning of falling in love with yourself...your relationships, and ultimately your life. If you are reading this I hope you answer the call, to yourself...it is the beginning of the type of change you have dreamt of, meeting your best self, meeting your soul.

Accepting new clients and I am in-network with Kaiser. Are current events triggering feelings of worry, frustration, and confusion? Perhaps, past traumas are affecting your life and holding you back from the happiness you know you deserve. I would like to help you reflect, clear up, and heal. I offer telehealth sessions to clients located in Washington State.

I am licensed in Washington and use Headway Services for billing and scheduling, you will provide the necessary information and schedule with the website link under my picture. My approach to therapy is with mutual respect, positive regard, and focus on steps toward goal attainment with an interactive exchange, I will tailor a plan based on your individual needs which may include distress tolerance, mindfulness, emotional regulation, and interpersonal effectiveness. I will provide assistance for you in recognizing your wants and needs ensuring that our communication is open and you are able to effectively express yourself.

TELETHERAPY I want to use my empathy and wisdom to help you develop new tools to manage feelings stirred up by isolation, such as loneliness, anger, unfair self-criticism and poor self-esteem.

I have been honored that people have felt comfortable and safe enough in sessions to discuss their most private experiences and thoughts. People often come to see me because they're struggling to keep up with their obligations between family, career, friends, and their own self care. The frustrations sour feelings toward work and relationships. Loved ones start to notice that your temperament is not the same - you're crankier or more aloof. You may feel lonely and disconnected. Sometimes you don't even know what got you upset in the first place.

I enjoy working with people from a wide variety of backgrounds and concerns. Are you experiencing depression, anxiety, life stressors, work or relationship dissatisfaction, grief, the impact from trauma, trouble adjusting to life transitions or illness, sleep problems, OCD, phobias, substance use issues or some other problem? I want to help you reach your optimal health, which may include both mental and physical health goals. I know it can be difficult to share such personal experiences with a new person, so it’s important to me to create a trusting bond to work on your concerns.

I believe that personal growth is a lifelong endeavor. People can grow and change if they are willing to invest the time, given the tools, and if they are provided with support. As your therapist, I will help you achieve self-awareness, satisfaction, and happiness. I want you to become the best version of yourself and for you to be in satisfying relationships. I possess experience working with individuals of all orientations and genders and with couples on various issues ranging from the simple to the complex.

People come to therapy for a variety of reasons: recognizing the need for change in their lives, facing changes difficult to accept, learning how to more effectively communicate or parent, or the need for an unbiased perspective. It can understandably be difficult to reach out for help regarding sensitive issues. I respect the courage it takes to set the intention for change & the effort involved in finding someone you feel comfortable with & can trust. I love this field of study & care about doing my best for my clients. My work with couples, individuals, teens & families, utilizes techniques garnered from 24 years of practice.

I am Toni Napoli, Director and founder of Counseling West Seattle. I have been in private practice since 1995. I am a Licensed Mental Health Counselor who has spent the past thirty years providing the best comprehensive care to my clients. As current director, no longer practicing, I have enjoyed my mission of helping others and watching them grow and have passed the baton on to the experienced counselors at Counseling West Seattle: Elliot Grossman, Ernie McGarry, Stefani Morris, Gayle Zeller, Crystal Shipos, Larisa Wendfeldt, Aubrey Hardesty and Colette Swenson.

As an organization we recognize that QTBIPoC folx tend to experience disproportionate amounts of mental health disparities due to large gaps in our current mental healthcare system. Here at MEND we believe that part of addressing those gaps is through the consistency of our intersectional feminist lens. In an effort to promote equity, we are expanding our team and client population to include members who hold identities that have not traditionally been offered at MEND. And while we center supporting QTBIPoC folx, we also offer services to those who do not hold these identities.

I believe that almost all change that occurs in therapy comes from forming a safe therapeutic relationship, and in the context of that relationship increasing your awareness of self, challenging your old beliefs, establishing appropriate boundaries in relationships with others, and experiencing and letting go of old pain. My task is to support you in that process. I tend to be active in therapy. I ask questions, offer observations, and look for patterns in the client's life. However, I believe the client is the final expert on themselves, and I trust in their unique healing process.

Therapy can be surprising. Worry or anger or despair can open up hope and meaning. Rather than seeing yourself as flawed-and your distress as a problem to be eliminated-you can learn to feel compassion for yourself and recognize your challenges are pointing to new directions. Usually, my clients find increased vitality and satisfaction in their lives. Connection to self, others, and spirit can strengthen. Your pain can ease.