Emotionally Focused Therapists in Austin, TX

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Sarah Kerwin Carlin
LPC Associate, LPC A, NCC
Verified
Austin, TX 78746
I primarily utilize an integrative approach, leaning heavily on Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) combined with Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) with a focus on arousal regulation, somatic processing, mindfulness, and attachment theory.
Are you struggling with your intimate relationships? As an adult this can be relationships with a romantic partner, your family, or socially with friends. Is it challenging for you to be vulnerable and connect with others? I specialize in all the ins and outs of relationships, whether it be talking about those scary and uncomfortable things called feelings, help navigating difficult life stresses and transitions, or even exploring new ways of interacting and relating with people in your life. Whatever your unique situation is I am here to help and walk alongside you on your healing journey.
I primarily utilize an integrative approach, leaning heavily on Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) combined with Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) with a focus on arousal regulation, somatic processing, mindfulness, and attachment theory.
Are you struggling with your intimate relationships? As an adult this can be relationships with a romantic partner, your family, or socially with friends. Is it challenging for you to be vulnerable and connect with others? I specialize in all the ins and outs of relationships, whether it be talking about those scary and uncomfortable things called feelings, help navigating difficult life stresses and transitions, or even exploring new ways of interacting and relating with people in your life. Whatever your unique situation is I am here to help and walk alongside you on your healing journey.
(512) 883-2582 View (512) 883-2582
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Amanda Fernie
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified
Austin, TX 78731  (Online Only)
Through guidance and understanding individuals can improve their mental health and relationships. To assist clients in reaching their treatment goals, I use a variety of evidence-based practices with an emphasis on emotionally focused therapy (EFT), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), and Mindfulness. We'll work together to set goals for treatment and decide the best ways to make progress toward those goals based on your individual style and preference.
Through guidance and understanding individuals can improve their mental health and relationships. To assist clients in reaching their treatment goals, I use a variety of evidence-based practices with an emphasis on emotionally focused therapy (EFT), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), and Mindfulness. We'll work together to set goals for treatment and decide the best ways to make progress toward those goals based on your individual style and preference.
(512) 859-5294 View (512) 859-5294
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Paul Boone, LPC
Licensed Professional Counselor, MDiv, LPC, LMFT, LCDC
Verified
Austin, TX 78759  (Online Only)
I am an advanced clinician in Imago Therapy. When relationships aren't working very well or are on the brink of ending, it really feels bad; like the rug is being pulled out from under you. Often there are solvable reasons for why these things happen. I am motivated by those methods such as Imago therapy and EFT which have worked so well for so many in the past to help couples develop a high degree of safe attachment in their relationships. Something, that once they have learned how to do it, they can take with them because it is portable.
I am an advanced clinician in Imago Therapy. When relationships aren't working very well or are on the brink of ending, it really feels bad; like the rug is being pulled out from under you. Often there are solvable reasons for why these things happen. I am motivated by those methods such as Imago therapy and EFT which have worked so well for so many in the past to help couples develop a high degree of safe attachment in their relationships. Something, that once they have learned how to do it, they can take with them because it is portable.
(512) 851-0660 View (512) 851-0660
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RePair Therapy
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified
1 Endorsed
Austin, TX 78746
The idea behind RePair Therapy is renewal. And not just for couples—for individuals too. Maybe you're in a new relationship after a break-up or divorce, and you don't want to make the same mistakes twice. Maybe this is a second marriage (or third, fourth) for you and your partner. Maybe you're divorced, but you still have to communicate and make major decisions with your ex about your children. Maybe you're coping with a new divorce and need to find a way to reinvent yourself and your life. I specialize in Emotionally Focused Couples therapy and take United Insurance.
The idea behind RePair Therapy is renewal. And not just for couples—for individuals too. Maybe you're in a new relationship after a break-up or divorce, and you don't want to make the same mistakes twice. Maybe this is a second marriage (or third, fourth) for you and your partner. Maybe you're divorced, but you still have to communicate and make major decisions with your ex about your children. Maybe you're coping with a new divorce and need to find a way to reinvent yourself and your life. I specialize in Emotionally Focused Couples therapy and take United Insurance.
(512) 948-3443 View (512) 948-3443
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Sarah Francis
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, LMFT-A
Verified
1 Endorsed
Austin, TX 78745
Are you feeling stuck or not listened to in your relationships? Are you finding yourself having the same arguments? Does it feel like you and your partner are speaking different languages? Or do you simply have a feeling that something isn’t working, that you’re disconnected from your partner or loved ones? Set yourself and your relationship up for success by engaging in relational therapy. Together we can understand why you’re both feeling stuck in your relationship and work to create new, healthier communication cycles. I use Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and Narrative Therapy which helps ground and facilitate this process.
Are you feeling stuck or not listened to in your relationships? Are you finding yourself having the same arguments? Does it feel like you and your partner are speaking different languages? Or do you simply have a feeling that something isn’t working, that you’re disconnected from your partner or loved ones? Set yourself and your relationship up for success by engaging in relational therapy. Together we can understand why you’re both feeling stuck in your relationship and work to create new, healthier communication cycles. I use Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and Narrative Therapy which helps ground and facilitate this process.
(210) 879-4081 View (210) 879-4081
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Irek Banaczyk
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW, LCDC
Verified
1 Endorsed
Austin, TX 78701
Informed by developmental neurobiology and emotionally focused experiential psychotherapies, I aim to be a gentle collaborator in your process of transformation toward the person you aspire to be.
It takes courage to seek out therapy, so congratulations on taking the first step in your journey of therapeutic healing and connection to self and others. What happens in the therapeutic setting in conjunction with lifestyle enhancements can, over time, bring about lasting change. With gentle facilitation, you can increase awareness of body and mind and enhance mood, motivation, agency, and integration of skills. These self-improvements allow for a more self-directed life that can be lived more fully through consciously curated personal values and choices.
Informed by developmental neurobiology and emotionally focused experiential psychotherapies, I aim to be a gentle collaborator in your process of transformation toward the person you aspire to be.
It takes courage to seek out therapy, so congratulations on taking the first step in your journey of therapeutic healing and connection to self and others. What happens in the therapeutic setting in conjunction with lifestyle enhancements can, over time, bring about lasting change. With gentle facilitation, you can increase awareness of body and mind and enhance mood, motivation, agency, and integration of skills. These self-improvements allow for a more self-directed life that can be lived more fully through consciously curated personal values and choices.
(512) 675-5787 View (512) 675-5787
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Esmé Valette
Licensed Professional Counselor, MA, EdM, EMDR, LPC
Verified
2 Endorsed
Austin, TX 78746
With couples, I use an evidence-based approach called Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), which draws on attachment theory and the science of emotions.
I strive to create a therapeutic environment where you feel comfortable expressing whatever is on your mind without fear of judgment. I believe that you are the expert in your own healing, and I will work collaboratively with you to identify and reach your treatment goals. I use approaches that have been scientifically researched and found to be effective, including Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) and somatic and mindfulness-based interventions. I will work with you to ensure that you are not in therapy longer than is necessary to reach your treatment goals.
With couples, I use an evidence-based approach called Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), which draws on attachment theory and the science of emotions.
I strive to create a therapeutic environment where you feel comfortable expressing whatever is on your mind without fear of judgment. I believe that you are the expert in your own healing, and I will work collaboratively with you to identify and reach your treatment goals. I use approaches that have been scientifically researched and found to be effective, including Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) and somatic and mindfulness-based interventions. I will work with you to ensure that you are not in therapy longer than is necessary to reach your treatment goals.
(512) 548-2372 View (512) 548-2372
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Shana Sheeran, PhD LMFT
Marriage & Family Therapist, PhD, LMFT, CCTP-II, CTMH
Verified
1 Endorsed
Austin, TX 78732
Waitlist for new clients
I also use elements of EFT, Internal Family Systems, Sandtray, Psychodrama and other experiential modalities to help my clients heal and move forward.
Do you want your relationships to be better? How about your relationship with yourself? Have you experienced trauma in important relationships and struggle with anxiety, depression, guilt, low self esteem? I believe relationships are extremely important in our growth and development. This belief begins with, and is evidenced by, the relationship I will work to form with you!
I also use elements of EFT, Internal Family Systems, Sandtray, Psychodrama and other experiential modalities to help my clients heal and move forward.
Do you want your relationships to be better? How about your relationship with yourself? Have you experienced trauma in important relationships and struggle with anxiety, depression, guilt, low self esteem? I believe relationships are extremely important in our growth and development. This belief begins with, and is evidenced by, the relationship I will work to form with you!
(512) 942-0737 View (512) 942-0737
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Bianca Bentzin
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified
Austin, TX 78750
Waitlist for new clients
Taking new clients starting in March, 2024. I provide caring support to individuals and couples. I strive to join clients where ever they are on their emotional and mental health journey without judgment or agenda. With couples therapy, I use my training in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy & Gottman Couples Therapy to help couples learn to break unhealthy relationship patterns, learn new ways to communicate and deepen their emotional connection. I also work with individuals who are transitioning out of a relationship or into a new one and individuals seeking healing from anxiety, grief, trauma, loss or life transitions.
Taking new clients starting in March, 2024. I provide caring support to individuals and couples. I strive to join clients where ever they are on their emotional and mental health journey without judgment or agenda. With couples therapy, I use my training in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy & Gottman Couples Therapy to help couples learn to break unhealthy relationship patterns, learn new ways to communicate and deepen their emotional connection. I also work with individuals who are transitioning out of a relationship or into a new one and individuals seeking healing from anxiety, grief, trauma, loss or life transitions.
(737) 204-3449 View (737) 204-3449
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Simone Zeschuk
Marriage & Family Therapist, MSc, LMFT
Verified
2 Endorsed
Austin, TX 78759
I specialize in Emotionally Focused Therapy which focuses on understanding the relational cycle of disconnection and attending to unresolved pain in order to provide healing, so you can find a way back to each other again.
How did I get here? Getting disconnected from our loved ones and ourselves is painful. Often we find ourselves stuck in a repetitive pattern of not feeling heard or seen in a relationship and then finding ourself wanting to argue and/or shut down. All of which leaves us feeling hurt, alone and disconnected. Whether this is impacting how you cope personally or getting in the way of connecting with your loved one - there is help.
I specialize in Emotionally Focused Therapy which focuses on understanding the relational cycle of disconnection and attending to unresolved pain in order to provide healing, so you can find a way back to each other again.
How did I get here? Getting disconnected from our loved ones and ourselves is painful. Often we find ourselves stuck in a repetitive pattern of not feeling heard or seen in a relationship and then finding ourself wanting to argue and/or shut down. All of which leaves us feeling hurt, alone and disconnected. Whether this is impacting how you cope personally or getting in the way of connecting with your loved one - there is help.
(512) 489-4323 View (512) 489-4323
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Mycah Miller
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, MA
Verified
4 Endorsed
Austin, TX 78705
The desire to feel understood, seen, and connected is universal, yet we live in a time where satisfying, intimate connections seem rare. Specializing in relationship issues and trauma, I utilize attachment theory, positive psychology, and systems theories (IFS, RLT, EFT) to address your concerns. I can empower you with tools that help you foster strong and trusting relationships - not only with others, but also with yourself. Having a background in physical health, I like to incorporate mindfulness and somatic exercises into therapy, emphasizing the mind-body connection.
The desire to feel understood, seen, and connected is universal, yet we live in a time where satisfying, intimate connections seem rare. Specializing in relationship issues and trauma, I utilize attachment theory, positive psychology, and systems theories (IFS, RLT, EFT) to address your concerns. I can empower you with tools that help you foster strong and trusting relationships - not only with others, but also with yourself. Having a background in physical health, I like to incorporate mindfulness and somatic exercises into therapy, emphasizing the mind-body connection.
(512) 729-3018 View (512) 729-3018
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Abundant Life Counseling Services, P.A.
Licensed Professional Counselor, MA, LPC-S, LMFT-S, CST
Verified
Austin, TX 78750
Each therapist on our staff of 12 has unique specialties, including therapy for adults and teens, play therapy, marriage counseling, sex therapy, affair recovery, EFT, EMDR, Brainspotting, IFS, family therapy, and premarital counseling.
Abundant Life Counseling Services, P.A., is a professional Christian counseling practice seeking to help people live and love more abundantly through practicing faith-based and traditional counseling methods. Each therapist on our staff is committed to helping you discover life beyond broken relationships, impaired thinking, painful behavior patterns, and debilitating intense emotions. You will be seen and known in your relational, emotional, psychological, or spiritual struggle, experiencing what it's like to be accepted, understood, and deeply challenged as your therapist joins you on a journey toward God's hope and healing.
Each therapist on our staff of 12 has unique specialties, including therapy for adults and teens, play therapy, marriage counseling, sex therapy, affair recovery, EFT, EMDR, Brainspotting, IFS, family therapy, and premarital counseling.
Abundant Life Counseling Services, P.A., is a professional Christian counseling practice seeking to help people live and love more abundantly through practicing faith-based and traditional counseling methods. Each therapist on our staff is committed to helping you discover life beyond broken relationships, impaired thinking, painful behavior patterns, and debilitating intense emotions. You will be seen and known in your relational, emotional, psychological, or spiritual struggle, experiencing what it's like to be accepted, understood, and deeply challenged as your therapist joins you on a journey toward God's hope and healing.
(512) 960-3584 View (512) 960-3584
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Noah Enteen, LMFT
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified
2 Endorsed
Austin, TX 78746
Waitlist for new clients
As an Emotionally Focused Couples Therapist, I have the tools to help you feel more connected, present and fulfilled in your relationship.
Would you like to improve your communication with your partner and feel connected? Does your teen need some help getting back on track? Are you feelings stuck & ready for change? I have 18+ years of experience supporting teens, young adults, adults, families & couples (LGBTQ encouraged) with breaking patterns, managing depression and anxiety, improving communication with colleagues and loved ones and meeting life goals. I strive to create a safe, non-judgmental space for exploration, growth and healing. My therapy style is warm, straightforward, collaborative and relational.
As an Emotionally Focused Couples Therapist, I have the tools to help you feel more connected, present and fulfilled in your relationship.
Would you like to improve your communication with your partner and feel connected? Does your teen need some help getting back on track? Are you feelings stuck & ready for change? I have 18+ years of experience supporting teens, young adults, adults, families & couples (LGBTQ encouraged) with breaking patterns, managing depression and anxiety, improving communication with colleagues and loved ones and meeting life goals. I strive to create a safe, non-judgmental space for exploration, growth and healing. My therapy style is warm, straightforward, collaborative and relational.
(512) 865-4692 View (512) 865-4692
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Pamela B Schott
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified
Austin, TX 78704  (Online Only)
I also bring skills from John Gottmann's work, Stan Tatkin's work, and especially from the emotionally focused work of Sue Johnson.
Clients describe my therapeutic style as interactive, warm, and reassuring. It isn't easy to disclose personal challenges, but my clients have responded pretty quickly to my efforts to build rapport, explore issues, and experiment with solutions. Sometimes this work has been about learning new coping skills, and sometimes the work has been about digging deeply into the past to uproot old patterns that dampen the spirit. In my work with clients--whether individual or couples--I include a focus on integrating body awareness into the work of the heart and mind, so that more profound healing may take place.
I also bring skills from John Gottmann's work, Stan Tatkin's work, and especially from the emotionally focused work of Sue Johnson.
Clients describe my therapeutic style as interactive, warm, and reassuring. It isn't easy to disclose personal challenges, but my clients have responded pretty quickly to my efforts to build rapport, explore issues, and experiment with solutions. Sometimes this work has been about learning new coping skills, and sometimes the work has been about digging deeply into the past to uproot old patterns that dampen the spirit. In my work with clients--whether individual or couples--I include a focus on integrating body awareness into the work of the heart and mind, so that more profound healing may take place.
(361) 444-0867 View (361) 444-0867
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Joe X Cantu
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified
Austin, TX 78759
I am a ICEEFT Certified EFT Trainer, EFT Supervisor and Certified EFT Couples Therapist.
Remember what it felt like when you first met? Remember all the fun you had together? All the laughs? All the love? Do you wonder what happened? Do you look back and ask what went wrong?
I am a ICEEFT Certified EFT Trainer, EFT Supervisor and Certified EFT Couples Therapist.
Remember what it felt like when you first met? Remember all the fun you had together? All the laughs? All the love? Do you wonder what happened? Do you look back and ask what went wrong?
(310) 579-2638 View (310) 579-2638
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Group Therapy Austin by Ji Young Kim MA. LPC
Licensed Professional Counselor, MA, LPC
Verified
Austin, TX 78759
I am a Licensed Professorial Counselor. I am specialized with Schema Therapy, Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, EMDR and Emotionally Focused Therapy. I worked in clinical settings, including behavioral health services with inpatients and out patients setting, and have worked with a wide variety of clients: individuals, couples, groups, families. I help you fine-tune your lives so that your pain is smaller and your joys are greater. Through compassion, respect, and working together, I strive to create a strong and trusting relationship with each and every client in order help you reach your goals.
I am a Licensed Professorial Counselor. I am specialized with Schema Therapy, Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, EMDR and Emotionally Focused Therapy. I worked in clinical settings, including behavioral health services with inpatients and out patients setting, and have worked with a wide variety of clients: individuals, couples, groups, families. I help you fine-tune your lives so that your pain is smaller and your joys are greater. Through compassion, respect, and working together, I strive to create a strong and trusting relationship with each and every client in order help you reach your goals.
(512) 572-9296 View (512) 572-9296
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Rachel Farley
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, MA, LMSW
Verified
Austin, TX 78759
I am trained in the modalities of Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), and Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT).
Welcome! I look forward to getting to know you. I want to start by validating your willingness and strength to come forward and look into seeking help for yourself. You’ve already started your mental wellness journey by acknowledging that there are areas in your life that you would like to make some changes in, and that is exactly what I am here for. My goal is to give you the tools that you need to live a fully balanced life with healthy and fulfilling relationships by learning the balance between acceptance and change. My passion for therapy comes from my own positive experiences and the change that therapy has brought to my life.
I am trained in the modalities of Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), and Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT).
Welcome! I look forward to getting to know you. I want to start by validating your willingness and strength to come forward and look into seeking help for yourself. You’ve already started your mental wellness journey by acknowledging that there are areas in your life that you would like to make some changes in, and that is exactly what I am here for. My goal is to give you the tools that you need to live a fully balanced life with healthy and fulfilling relationships by learning the balance between acceptance and change. My passion for therapy comes from my own positive experiences and the change that therapy has brought to my life.
(512) 902-3282 View (512) 902-3282
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Heather Thiel
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified
Austin, TX 78739  (Online Only)
I love working with both individuals and couples! I believe everyone deserves to be happy and comfortable in mind, body, and relationships. Unfortunately, anxiety, stress, self-doubt, depression, and misunderstandings can knock you out of life’s driver’s seat. In my couples counseling work, I use EFT and the Gottman method to assist partners in healing patterns of miscommunication and disconnection. Couples learn to express their deepest feelings, respond rather than react, and make successful bids for connection.
I love working with both individuals and couples! I believe everyone deserves to be happy and comfortable in mind, body, and relationships. Unfortunately, anxiety, stress, self-doubt, depression, and misunderstandings can knock you out of life’s driver’s seat. In my couples counseling work, I use EFT and the Gottman method to assist partners in healing patterns of miscommunication and disconnection. Couples learn to express their deepest feelings, respond rather than react, and make successful bids for connection.
(737) 637-4516 View (737) 637-4516
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Sara A. Morgan
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, MA, LMFT-A
Verified
3 Endorsed
Austin, TX 78731
I primarily use Psychodynamic and Emotionally Focused Therapy to provide you lasting benefits and transformation.
I genuinely invest in you as a person I care about and serve as a pillow of support you can fall on for comfort, warmth, and complete understanding. I provide a safe environment so you can bring it all to the surface and we can tackle it together. I'm a depth-oriented therapist, so working with me is deeply powerful, transforming your life in ways you didn't think were possible. Whether you're experiencing marital issues, traumatic memories, abusive relationships, family conflict, social anxiety, OCD tendencies, or suicidal thoughts, I can help. Immediately book an appt online with me and we can get started!
I primarily use Psychodynamic and Emotionally Focused Therapy to provide you lasting benefits and transformation.
I genuinely invest in you as a person I care about and serve as a pillow of support you can fall on for comfort, warmth, and complete understanding. I provide a safe environment so you can bring it all to the surface and we can tackle it together. I'm a depth-oriented therapist, so working with me is deeply powerful, transforming your life in ways you didn't think were possible. Whether you're experiencing marital issues, traumatic memories, abusive relationships, family conflict, social anxiety, OCD tendencies, or suicidal thoughts, I can help. Immediately book an appt online with me and we can get started!
(512) 980-3947 View (512) 980-3947
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Marilyn Gabrielle Ramirez
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LMSW
Verified
Austin, TX 78759
I will work with you to understand and develop emotional regulation and coping skills through Attachment based theory and Emotionally Focused therapy.
Please email for scheduling requests- Hello, I'm glad that you're here and are open to exploring your process for healing as an individual or couple. You're showing yourself a form of care by taking the steps to gain insight in to how your past experiences may be affecting your current thought patterns, behavior, and the relationship that you have with yourself and others. You are taking an active role in honoring your experience, and are giving yourself the opportunity and space to understand what you have been carrying.
I will work with you to understand and develop emotional regulation and coping skills through Attachment based theory and Emotionally Focused therapy.
Please email for scheduling requests- Hello, I'm glad that you're here and are open to exploring your process for healing as an individual or couple. You're showing yourself a form of care by taking the steps to gain insight in to how your past experiences may be affecting your current thought patterns, behavior, and the relationship that you have with yourself and others. You are taking an active role in honoring your experience, and are giving yourself the opportunity and space to understand what you have been carrying.
(737) 258-7686 View (737) 258-7686

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Emotionally Focused Therapists

Who is emotionally focused therapy for?

Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) is for couples who are emotionally distressed, stuck in an unsatisfying relationship pattern or feeling deeply alienated. They may even believe the relationship is beyond repair. Very often, the partners display intense anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal in the relationship. In addition, EFT is helpful to couples and individuals who have difficulty expressing emotions and those who have trouble regulating emotions.

Why do people need emotionally focused therapy?

People need emotionally focused therapy because the need for others is built into the brain, but the pressures of daily life can erode feelings of love, and couples often do not have the skills to find their way back to the comfort of each other. Instead, they may be stuck in repetitive patterns of anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal. Emotionally focused therapy regards such strong negative feelings as expressions of protest over the loss of connection and turns them into pathways of reconnection.

What happens in emotionally focused therapy?

Over the course of eight to 20 weekly sessions, couples de-escalate their negative emotional reactivity to one another so that they can listen to each other and be responsive to each other’s needs. Then the deep emotional and physical bond is restored, giving partners a sense of comfort and security, which they can use to solve whatever problems come their way. The therapist plays an active role, helping partners understand how anger and withdrawal are actually misguided cries for connection.

What problems does emotionally focused therapy treat?

EFT is designed to help couples stuck in dysfunctional relationship patterns regain closeness and rebuild their relationship. Typically, such couples experience considerable distress, with partners feeling alienated and distrustful of one another, not certain their relationship can survive. EFT is also helpful to individuals experiencing attachment-related fears of loss; it helps them learn to use their fears as a way of eliciting the closeness they desire.