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Stephen Jacob Coffey

Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT (he, him)

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San Francisco, CA 94114
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You’ve handled a lot on your own for a long time. You learned to stay productive and push through, yet while you function on the outside, inside there’s tension, anger, or a sense of watching life from the sidelines. Many men I work with don’t call it "trauma"—they just know something isn’t working. Relationships feel strained, and isolation feels safer than connection. The constant pressure to be responsible and self-reliant has become exhausting. You feel disconnected from yourself and others, and you’re not sure why. Let's move you from just functioning to actually living.
I specialize in helping men heal from trauma, neglect, or family estrangement. My clients are often fiercely independent, using productivity to outrun pain. Therapy is a space to slow down and understand what those patterns once protected you from—and what they’re costing you now. Let’s move beyond "staying busy" and toward real connection.
My approach is relational, embodied, and deep—no worksheets or surface skimming. We’ll explore how your past shapes your nervous system and relationships. I’m warm yet challenging, holding space for you to integrate what’s unfolding on your terms. The outcome: less reactivity, more agency, and a life you no longer brace against. Let’s see if we're a fit.
Call or Stephen Jacob Coffey now for a free 15 minute consultation - (415) 329-7705

My Practice at a Glance

Available online only

San Francisco, CA 94114

(415) 329-7705
My website
You deserve a space that is as rigorous and deep as your experience is heavy. I show up steady and genuine, so we can do the real work!
$250 Per Session  
I see individuals, couples and groups  
East Coast roots meet a West Coast state of mind. I offer a steady, direct space for men to heal from neglect or abuse and find real agency!
Stephen Jacob Coffey
Let's Connect (415) 329-7705
Photo of Stephen Jacob Coffey, Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT

My Practice at a Glance

Available online only

San Francisco, CA 94114

(415) 329-7705
My website
You deserve a space that is as rigorous and deep as your experience is heavy. I show up steady and genuine, so we can do the real work!
$250 Per Session  
I see individuals, couples and groups  
East Coast roots meet a West Coast state of mind. I offer a steady, direct space for men to heal from neglect or abuse and find real agency!
Stephen Jacob Coffey

Finances

Fees

  • Individual Sessions $250
  • Couple Sessions $300

Payment Methods

American Express, Discover, Health Savings Account, Mastercard, Visa

Insurance

  • Out of Network
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My practice is private pay, meaning I work directly with you. I can give you the paperwork (a superbill) to submit to your insurance for potential reimbursement. I also partner with Thrizer to help you get the most out of your insurance benefits. Reach out if you have any questions!
Photo of Stephen Jacob Coffey, Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Stephen Jacob Coffey
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Call or for a free 15 minute consultation now - (415) 329-7705
"
My practice is private pay, meaning I work directly with you. I can give you the paperwork (a superbill) to submit to your insurance for potential reimbursement. I also partner with Thrizer to help you get the most out of your insurance benefits. Reach out if you have any questions!
Photo of Stephen Jacob Coffey, Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Stephen Jacob Coffey
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Call or for a free 15 minute consultation now - (415) 329-7705

Qualifications

  • Verified by Psychology Today Licensed by State of California / 164076 Stephen Jacob Coffey

    • Education and Years In Practice

  • Attended California Institute of Integral Studies , M.A. Integral Counseling Psychology , Graduated 2020

    • Additional Credentials

  • Membership with SFCAMFT 2024
  • Membership with CAMFT 148385 / 2020
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I provide a consistent, deep space for men tired of living on edge after neglect or family estrangement, offering a reliable anchor to resolve the tension held in your nervous system so you can finally stop bracing and move through life with agency.
Photo of Stephen Jacob Coffey, Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Stephen Jacob Coffey
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Call or for a free 15 minute consultation now - (415) 329-7705
"
I provide a consistent, deep space for men tired of living on edge after neglect or family estrangement, offering a reliable anchor to resolve the tension held in your nervous system so you can finally stop bracing and move through life with agency.
Photo of Stephen Jacob Coffey, Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Stephen Jacob Coffey
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Call or for a free 15 minute consultation now - (415) 329-7705

Specialties and Expertise

Expertise

  • Estrangement
  • LGBTQ+
  • Men's Issues
  • Relationship Issues
  • Self Esteem
  • Sexual Abuse
  • Trauma and PTSD
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Therapy isn't about fixing you-you aren't broken. It's about giving yourself the space to relate to life in a new way, one where you set the pace. No pressure. No expectations. Just the chance to finally make sense of what's been weighing you down, on your terms. Email me now to set up your free discovery call!
Photo of Stephen Jacob Coffey, Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Stephen Jacob Coffey
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Call or for a free 15 minute consultation now - (415) 329-7705
"
Therapy isn't about fixing you-you aren't broken. It's about giving yourself the space to relate to life in a new way, one where you set the pace. No pressure. No expectations. Just the chance to finally make sense of what's been weighing you down, on your terms. Email me now to set up your free discovery call!
Photo of Stephen Jacob Coffey, Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Stephen Jacob Coffey
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Call or for a free 15 minute consultation now - (415) 329-7705

6 Endorsements

Taune Lyons
Taune Lyons
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, MA, SEP
Stephen evokes trust by bringing his present, authentic self in. His attunement and mirroring paired with wit and humor feels like a relieving blend of West Coast warmth and East Coast honesty.
Joanna Lay
Joanna Lay
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Blue Mudbhary
Blue Mudbhary
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, JD, LMFT
Stephen is a highly skilled therapist, and will bring his significant lived experience into session when it benefits the client. He leads with care and deep sincerity and is always present with the client on their therapeutic journey. He's the real deal!
Paul Rubin
Paul Rubin
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
I have had the pleasure to work alongside Stephen. I highly recommend Stephen for his firm, yet gentle approach and particularly for men who have experienced trauma related to sexual abuse. Stephen genuinely cares and is passionate about the work he does.
Selena Mitchell
Selena Mitchell
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, AMFT
Stephen is a gem of a human being. His intuitive insight, warmth and positive regard come through in all his interactions. Having worked alongside him for several years, I can attest to his excellent, thoughtful clinical skills. I highly recommend him!
Jayeon Kim
Jayeon Kim
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, MA
If you know what you want but can't quite make it happen, Stephen is the one to see. He specializes in working with clients who have a clear vision in their minds but face challenges from past disappointments in bringing that vision into tangible reality.

Client Focus

Age

Teen , 
Adults

Participants

Individuals , 
Couples , 
Group

Age

Teen , 
Adults

Participants

Individuals , 
Couples , 
Group

Treatment Approach

Types of Therapy

  • Attachment-based
  • Family Systems
  • Gestalt
  • Humanistic
  • Psychodynamic
  • Relational
  • Somatic
  • Transpersonal
  • Trauma Focused
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My approach is flexible, built around you. Trauma can warp how you see yourself and connect with others, keeping you stuck. In our work together, we face what surfaces-without pressure, without force-on your terms and your timeline. Real change happens through meaningful connection, and you don't have to do it alone.
Photo of Stephen Jacob Coffey, Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Stephen Jacob Coffey
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Call or for a free 15 minute consultation now - (415) 329-7705
"
My approach is flexible, built around you. Trauma can warp how you see yourself and connect with others, keeping you stuck. In our work together, we face what surfaces-without pressure, without force-on your terms and your timeline. Real change happens through meaningful connection, and you don't have to do it alone.
Photo of Stephen Jacob Coffey, Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Stephen Jacob Coffey
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Call or for a free 15 minute consultation now - (415) 329-7705

Location

Primary Location

San Francisco, CA 94114

(415) 329-7705

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You deserve a space that is as rigorous and deep as your experience is heavy. I show up steady and genuine, so we can do the real work!
Photo of Stephen Jacob Coffey, Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Stephen Jacob Coffey
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Call for a free consultation now - (415) 329-7705
"
You deserve a space that is as rigorous and deep as your experience is heavy. I show up steady and genuine, so we can do the real work!
Photo of Stephen Jacob Coffey, Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Stephen Jacob Coffey
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Call for a free consultation now - (415) 329-7705