Sexual Addiction Therapists in River Grove, IL

For over 20 years, I have treated a wide variety of clients, experiencing a vast array of challenges. I have worked with adolescents to improve coping and communication, and with adults to navigate professional issues, family and relationship issues, as well as to resolve issues of sexuality, including sexual addiction. I have also worked with senior clients to address unresolved issues leading to depression and anxiety. I have also provided treatment in a wide variety of settings, from schools and communities, to hospitals and correctional facilities. He vivido en Latinoamerica, y tengo experiencia con asuntos biculturales, familiares, y de comportamiento.

I specialize in working with individuals who may be experiencing complex relationship challenges, faith Integration & spirituality concerns, sexual addiction & urge control difficulties, and emotion management & regulation. I have experience supporting people with with anxiety & depression, family of origin dynamics, military and service member populations, as well as athletes & sports related hurdles. Additionally, I work with couples who are married, interested in pre-marital support, dating, or thinking about starting a romantic relationship.

When you feel safe and supported, then and only then are you able to let your guard down and get in touch with your core issues and feelings. The most important measure of whether therapy will have a positive outcome is the connection between you and your therapist. For this reason, my goal is to create a warm and supportive environment in which you will be respectfully heard, cared about and not judged in any way. My overall approach is conversational, non-judgemental and solution focused with humor and laughter always welcome :)

My ideal client might struggle to claim who they are and express themselves. This client might be accustomed to running away from themselves and life, numbing out with behaviors like restricting/binging food, substances, sexual acting out, pornography, compulsive spending, excessive exercise or seeking a partner to be the solution. I would love to help you stop avoiding yourself and release the illusion of control that these behaviors offer, to shift gracefully into the swing of life as an authentic you. I work well with those who are seeking spirituality, improved connections, body acceptance and relief from trauma symptoms.

Dr. Soloveychik focuses on treatment of sex and love addiction (pornography, infidelity, escorts, romantic obsessions) and sexual anorexia. For the past 15+ years, I’ve had the privilege to provide concierge therapeutic relationships to help individuals and their partners to stop out of control damaging sexually compulsive behaviors. You can heal the shame, loneliness, and possible presence of attachment failures/trauma. You can stop using sex to cope with stress/boredom. End seeking external validation and artificial dopamine dependence; regain lost time, become more present, and experience intimate loving honest relationships.

Living with an unresolved or unprocessed trauma, whether it be physical, sexual, emotional, or even relational, can make life seem heavy. Yet, there's hope to transform yourself from a victim to a survivor. Our therapeutic journey will explore the interweaves between negative/deviant compulsive behaviors, unhealthy attachments, as well as general life areas where you find yourself highly anxious or stuck. The goal is to ultimately be able to look yourself in the mirror, smile and say, "I'm OK." You won't be alone in this journey to a healthier more positive life. We will be supporting you as you get to a more satisfying place.

Do you find yourself constantly asking for your needs to be met? Are you concerned that your partner may emotionally or verbally manipulate you? Has infidelity been an issue in your relationship? Do you ever wonder, ‘will we ever be the same’? I am passionate about working with individuals struggling with relationship issues, including partner betrayal trauma, with a particular interest in infidelity & narcissistic (verbal/emotional) abuse recovery. I am here to listen, assist, and share skills with you to be where you want to be and live the life you desire and deserve, all coming from a life-lived and trauma-informed lens.

I want to empower my clients to grow and feel safe in a non-judgmental, empathetic relationship. Because I specialize in traumatic sexual relationships, I intimately understand the complicated mix of feelings that come with traumatizing relationship(s), whether they are romantic, familial, or with another trusted/loved one.

So many of us suffer from feelings of shame, despair, and worthlessness. Never feeling quite "enough," we seek various and sometimes maladaptive ways of dealing with our pain and discomfort. Perhaps you sense you are more than what you are living and can't quite access your deepest self. If you are seeking a therapist, there is a good chance you are looking for a new way to make changes and differences in your life.

You get a pit in your stomach when you think about, discuss, or engage in sex; you no longer or never enjoyed it. You have pain, erection, arousal, or orgasm issues and feel stuck. You're curious about trying on a sexual identity or playing in kink/BDSM. You have out-of control or shameful behaviors, dilemmas, porn use, or masturbation problems. You don’t know how to talk to your partner(s) about sex, let alone pulling their load more at home. Religion or the feeling of shame greatly limits you. You just can’t communicate. You can’t trust or forgive them – you’re too hurt and angry. Let me engage you in sex and relationship therapy.

I'm a Mental Health Clinician with over 20yrs experience, and also a Certified Sex Therapist. I work with LGBTQ+ and heterosexual people on a variety of relational and mental health issues, as well as sexual and intimacy concerns. I approach my work from a sexual health model and values driven perspective. I work with clients on consensual non-monogamy/polyam, kink, BDSM, as well as sexual health challenges such as erectile dysfunction, premature ejaculation, desire discrepancies, etc. I continue to work with mental health issues such as depression and anxiety, as well as navigating life!

I specialize in treating men who were sexually abused as children, the treatment of sexual addictions, couples therapy, relationship issues, depression and anxiety. If you are unhappy in your relationships or career, suffering from depression or anxiety, going through a crisis, or wanting to make changes in your life, psychotherapy can help you. Please visit my website at wwwjohnpharris.com.

Living with an unresolved or unprocessed trauma, whether it be physical, sexual, emotional, or even relational, can make life seem heavy. Yet, there's hope to transform yourself from a victim to a survivor. Our therapeutic journey will explore the interweaves between negative/deviant compulsive behaviors, unhealthy attachments, as well as general life areas where you find yourself highly anxious or stuck. The goal is to ultimately be able to look yourself in the mirror, smile and say, "I'm OK." You won't be alone in this journey to a healthier more positive life. I will be supporting you as you get to a more satisfying place.

We are a team of clinicians that specialize in the treatment of sex and love addiction, including the use of compulsive pornography, partners affected by this behavior, codependency, as well as, post-traumatic stress disorder. We appreciate what it takes to receive treatment and are collaborative, directive, compassionate, and empathic with our clients.

Welcome to the first day of change. Seeking help is the first day where change is possible because you are already doing something different, which is acknowledging you need help. 20 years ago I was in your same position. I walked into my first AA where I was ready to get serious about recovery. As of April 2023, I will celebrate 20 years sober and believe in the abstinence model of change. Because it works once you are ready to take back control over your life. Of course, there is always the option to keep digging - but let me tell you, climbing is much more satisfying.

Do you feel like no one truly knows you? Do you feel like if people knew the REAL you that you wouldn't be accepted or loved? Depression, shame, and anxiety are all common experiences as we reflect on our unwanted behavior, relational discord, past trauma, and family of origin. The motivation to change becomes all that much harder when you seek it out alone. You want to believe there is hope for a brighter day. Let's work together as we honor your resiliency and work towards healing because the question "what would you prefer?" is worth asking. You want to live a life of freedom. Let's boldly walk into that freedom together.

Maybe you or someone you care about seems to have lost control of your ability to drink, take medication, eat, gamble, have sex, use the internet, play video games in a way that is not disruptive or harmful to you or the ones you love. Is someone telling you that your behavior is a problem? Are you unable to consistently predict whether or not you can stop once you start? Do you find yourself planning, thinking about or engaging in the behavior when you need to be attending to other things in your life like relationships, work or school?

Finding our true sense of Self or "Good nature" can be very helpful for healing and personal growth. Understanding our personalty structure or internal landscape i.e. the "Critic" , or the "inner child" etc can lead to clarity, compassion, curiosity, connectedness, courage, creativity, confidence, calm and everything in this wheelhouse. These are the characteristics of Self leadership. Come and explore with me, I'm here to help.

My primary focus for over 30 years has been providing help to individuals with sexual problems and relationship therapy. I have special interest and expertise in working with sexual dysfunctions, compulsive sexual behaviors and couple therapy.