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Aimee Evnin
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, MA
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
San Francisco, CA 94112
Are you finding it challenging to connect intimately with yourself or your partner? Does your relationship with your body feel a bit distant these days? Perhaps you're yearning for a deeper, more satisfying understanding of your own sexuality? Does it seem like your desires for intimacy differ from those of your partner? Rest assured, you're not alone in these feelings and concerns. Most clients I support deal with these challenging narratives and begin to heal once they find a warm, welcoming, collaborative environment to learn, open up and connect to their inner selves.
Are you finding it challenging to connect intimately with yourself or your partner? Does your relationship with your body feel a bit distant these days? Perhaps you're yearning for a deeper, more satisfying understanding of your own sexuality? Does it seem like your desires for intimacy differ from those of your partner? Rest assured, you're not alone in these feelings and concerns. Most clients I support deal with these challenging narratives and begin to heal once they find a warm, welcoming, collaborative environment to learn, open up and connect to their inner selves.
(415) 326-1882 View (415) 326-1882
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Luke (Frank Luke) Adams
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, ABS
Verified Verified
4 Endorsed
San Francisco, CA 94114  (Online Only)
I integrate depth/meaning psychotherapy, evidence-based tools, sex therapy, coaching, counseling.
Do other therapists seem judgmental? Don't understand? Won't listen to you? If you need to talk about anything and everything, clients tell me I have a strong capacity for compassion, empathy, and care. At the same time, I’m forthright and candid. I see you and hear you—a whole person (body, mind, spirit) living in an interactive and interconnected world. I believe you're the expert in you - even if you're not yet aware of it. My role is to help you find that, and bring my own holistic vision, experience, training, expertise, and tools to the table, so you can work to be the best possible version of you. I am a trauma specialist.
I integrate depth/meaning psychotherapy, evidence-based tools, sex therapy, coaching, counseling.
Do other therapists seem judgmental? Don't understand? Won't listen to you? If you need to talk about anything and everything, clients tell me I have a strong capacity for compassion, empathy, and care. At the same time, I’m forthright and candid. I see you and hear you—a whole person (body, mind, spirit) living in an interactive and interconnected world. I believe you're the expert in you - even if you're not yet aware of it. My role is to help you find that, and bring my own holistic vision, experience, training, expertise, and tools to the table, so you can work to be the best possible version of you. I am a trauma specialist.
(415) 666-2381 View (415) 666-2381
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Digger Keith Relational Radiance
MS
Verified Verified
San Francisco, CA 94114
I help individuals, couples, & polycules with issues across all types of platonic & intimate relationships – from friends, family, colleagues, communities, to lovers including intimacy and sex. I can help you develop your relational, charismatic, emotional, dating, & erotic skills for the best professional opportunities, relationships, intimacy, and sex possible. I can help you embrace your authentic desires, make dating fun, flirt flawlessly, overcome shame, re/ignite the spark, build confidence, connect to communities, overcome porn addiction, manage open relationships, and go for what you want & stop what you don't.
I help individuals, couples, & polycules with issues across all types of platonic & intimate relationships – from friends, family, colleagues, communities, to lovers including intimacy and sex. I can help you develop your relational, charismatic, emotional, dating, & erotic skills for the best professional opportunities, relationships, intimacy, and sex possible. I can help you embrace your authentic desires, make dating fun, flirt flawlessly, overcome shame, re/ignite the spark, build confidence, connect to communities, overcome porn addiction, manage open relationships, and go for what you want & stop what you don't.
(415) 936-0896 View (415) 936-0896
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Misty Johnson
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW, MSW, WGS
Verified Verified
6 Endorsed
San Francisco, CA 94122
Challenges with communication? Struggles with sex and intimacy? Are you questioning or exploring your gender and sexuality? I am here to support you and offer you tools and a place to process your current experience. I provide a safe space to explore who you are becoming and to discern old thought patterns that are no longer of service. I provide a healing space free of judgement and offer tools that you can immediately integrate into your current experience. I will collaborate with you and work with the intersections of your unique experience. I also offer ketamine-assisted therapy ie: psychedelic-assisted psychotherapy.
Challenges with communication? Struggles with sex and intimacy? Are you questioning or exploring your gender and sexuality? I am here to support you and offer you tools and a place to process your current experience. I provide a safe space to explore who you are becoming and to discern old thought patterns that are no longer of service. I provide a healing space free of judgement and offer tools that you can immediately integrate into your current experience. I will collaborate with you and work with the intersections of your unique experience. I also offer ketamine-assisted therapy ie: psychedelic-assisted psychotherapy.
(408) 583-5606 View (408) 583-5606
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Magen Todd
Psychologist, MA, PhD, CSAT
Verified Verified
San Francisco, CA 94112
I'm a Licensed Clinical Psychologist, Certified Sex Addiction Therapist, and Founder of Hope Therapy.
For the past 16 years, the focus of my work has been helping individuals and couples achieve relationship and sexual wellness. Weather you're struggling with sex and love addiction, relationship difficulties, sexual problems, or suffering from the effects of trauma, I am committed to providing the most cutting edge, research supported therapy to help you not just overcome these issues, but thrive. My approach is holistic and affordable. I provide a range of services because I know that a one-size-fits all approach isn't effective. I will work with you to find the best solutions to meet your needs, goals and budget.
I'm a Licensed Clinical Psychologist, Certified Sex Addiction Therapist, and Founder of Hope Therapy.
For the past 16 years, the focus of my work has been helping individuals and couples achieve relationship and sexual wellness. Weather you're struggling with sex and love addiction, relationship difficulties, sexual problems, or suffering from the effects of trauma, I am committed to providing the most cutting edge, research supported therapy to help you not just overcome these issues, but thrive. My approach is holistic and affordable. I provide a range of services because I know that a one-size-fits all approach isn't effective. I will work with you to find the best solutions to meet your needs, goals and budget.
(530) 444-8830 View (530) 444-8830
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Shoshana Green
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
San Francisco, CA 94131
I am a licensed psychotherapist and work with adults and adolescents specializing in trauma recovery, relationship dynamics and sexuality. I am experienced and celebrate sexual and gender diversity and non-traditional relationship structures. My work is somatic and experiential. “Experiential” means experiencing your felt sense of your emotions. This is helpful to realize and identify your core needs, desires & values instead of living by surivial beliefs rooted in past trauma.
I am a licensed psychotherapist and work with adults and adolescents specializing in trauma recovery, relationship dynamics and sexuality. I am experienced and celebrate sexual and gender diversity and non-traditional relationship structures. My work is somatic and experiential. “Experiential” means experiencing your felt sense of your emotions. This is helpful to realize and identify your core needs, desires & values instead of living by surivial beliefs rooted in past trauma.
(415) 300-4799 View (415) 300-4799
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Britney Blair
Psychologist, PsyD, CBSM
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
San Francisco, CA 94109
I also have extensive training in couples and sex therapy and am adjunct clinical faculty at Stanford University.
I work with individuals and couples looking to benefit from brief, problem-focused treatments that work. I provide treatment for individuals and/or couples coping with a wide range of concerns including trouble sleeping, anxiety, depression, couples conflict and concerns with sexual health. I am passionate about helping my patients optimize their physical, mental and emotional health and take a collaborative and practical approach. I am committed to making sure we are a good fit, so please feel free to call me for a complimentary phone consultation.
I also have extensive training in couples and sex therapy and am adjunct clinical faculty at Stanford University.
I work with individuals and couples looking to benefit from brief, problem-focused treatments that work. I provide treatment for individuals and/or couples coping with a wide range of concerns including trouble sleeping, anxiety, depression, couples conflict and concerns with sexual health. I am passionate about helping my patients optimize their physical, mental and emotional health and take a collaborative and practical approach. I am committed to making sure we are a good fit, so please feel free to call me for a complimentary phone consultation.
(628) 888-6122 x102 View (628) 888-6122 x102
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Andrew Nelson Peterson
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, CCSOTS
Verified Verified
San Francisco, CA 94104
I have an extensive, in-depth understanding and experience with issues regarding addiction, trauma, sex, sexuality and intimacy.
I specialize in working with individuals and couples who are experiencing challenges with addiction, emotional trauma/ptsd, depression & anxiety as well as issues regarding relationship negotiation, conflict resolution, intimacy, sex and sexuality. I focus on self-understanding, individual strengths, developing stronger communication skills and coping skills. My approach is collaborative, interactive, eclectic and engaging. I believe that therapy is a partnership as no-one should have to struggle with any of these issues alone. I work with my clients to better understand that there is a solution, that change is possibe and that there is Hope.
I have an extensive, in-depth understanding and experience with issues regarding addiction, trauma, sex, sexuality and intimacy.
I specialize in working with individuals and couples who are experiencing challenges with addiction, emotional trauma/ptsd, depression & anxiety as well as issues regarding relationship negotiation, conflict resolution, intimacy, sex and sexuality. I focus on self-understanding, individual strengths, developing stronger communication skills and coping skills. My approach is collaborative, interactive, eclectic and engaging. I believe that therapy is a partnership as no-one should have to struggle with any of these issues alone. I work with my clients to better understand that there is a solution, that change is possibe and that there is Hope.
(628) 600-1369 View (628) 600-1369
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Lindsey Brooks
Psychologist, PhD
Verified Verified
4 Endorsed
San Francisco, CA 94115
If you are seeking a therapist who is: social justice minded, an anti-racist ally, sex positive, body positive, feminist, and bisexual+ affirming, who has experience working with professionals in tech, medicine, and science, let’s connect.
Are you a person of color, LGBTQ, or woman-identified professional in a high demand field? Have you been wearing that superhero cape for far too long? Ready to feel more peace in your life? You’ve come to the right place. I’m Dr. Lindsey Brooks and I work with underrepresented achievers. I’ll help you feel more grounded, balanced, and resilient. You might be thinking to yourself: "I need to keep it all together”, “If I just work harder and push myself more, then everything will be okay”, or “I have to stay strong for my family”. Everyone around you sees you as a success, yet something still feels like it’s missing.
If you are seeking a therapist who is: social justice minded, an anti-racist ally, sex positive, body positive, feminist, and bisexual+ affirming, who has experience working with professionals in tech, medicine, and science, let’s connect.
Are you a person of color, LGBTQ, or woman-identified professional in a high demand field? Have you been wearing that superhero cape for far too long? Ready to feel more peace in your life? You’ve come to the right place. I’m Dr. Lindsey Brooks and I work with underrepresented achievers. I’ll help you feel more grounded, balanced, and resilient. You might be thinking to yourself: "I need to keep it all together”, “If I just work harder and push myself more, then everything will be okay”, or “I have to stay strong for my family”. Everyone around you sees you as a success, yet something still feels like it’s missing.
(415) 592-6568 View (415) 592-6568
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Jen Joseph
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT, CST
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
San Francisco, CA 94109  (Online Only)
As a specialist in sex and relationship, people seek my help for a variety of sexual and relational issues including: recovery from infidelity, out of control sexual behavior aka 'sex addiction,' desire discrepancies, low-sex or no-sex marriages, sex pain, 'sexual performance' issues, challenges with ethical non-monogamy or a desire to open up a relationship, conflicts around porn or fetishes, religious sexual shame, arguing + communication issues, lack of intimacy, major life transitions and couples on the brink of divorce who want clarity and confidence about how to move forward.
As a specialist in sex and relationship, people seek my help for a variety of sexual and relational issues including: recovery from infidelity, out of control sexual behavior aka 'sex addiction,' desire discrepancies, low-sex or no-sex marriages, sex pain, 'sexual performance' issues, challenges with ethical non-monogamy or a desire to open up a relationship, conflicts around porn or fetishes, religious sexual shame, arguing + communication issues, lack of intimacy, major life transitions and couples on the brink of divorce who want clarity and confidence about how to move forward.
(415) 212-5329 View (415) 212-5329
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Jamine Ergas
Psychologist, PsyD
Verified Verified
San Francisco, CA 94114
If you are having difficulty in your relationships, suffering from anxiety, have experienced a trauma, or would like to explore issues related to sexuality, please give me a call. I offer a warm, interactive, and non-judgmental approach that clients find refreshing.
If you are having difficulty in your relationships, suffering from anxiety, have experienced a trauma, or would like to explore issues related to sexuality, please give me a call. I offer a warm, interactive, and non-judgmental approach that clients find refreshing.
(415) 801-0299 View (415) 801-0299
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Rafinee Butler
Marriage & Family Therapist, DHS, PCC, LMFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
San Francisco, CA 94107  (Online Only)
I offer sex therapy; individual and couples therapy.
In working together, I will help you identify themes and patterns of feeling and thinking that create barriers to having healthy relationships and preventing you from living life to your fullest potential. I emphasize meeting you where you are at and expanding in ways that are attuned to your needs and your experiences in your social context. I aim for a therapeutic relationship that allows for an experience of respect and equal engagement that is crucial to the foundation of change and exploration.
I offer sex therapy; individual and couples therapy.
In working together, I will help you identify themes and patterns of feeling and thinking that create barriers to having healthy relationships and preventing you from living life to your fullest potential. I emphasize meeting you where you are at and expanding in ways that are attuned to your needs and your experiences in your social context. I aim for a therapeutic relationship that allows for an experience of respect and equal engagement that is crucial to the foundation of change and exploration.
(415) 475-0966 View (415) 475-0966
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Ryan B Dooley
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, MA, AMFT
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
San Francisco, CA 94110  (Online Only)
I mostly work with gay/queer individuals and relationships (couples/polycules). Identity, transition, and shame come up regularly in my sessions, and I am comfortable discussing sex, from kink/BDSM to pleasure to communication. I focus on anxiety, including workaholism, perfectionism, substance use, and body concerns. With relationships (monogamous, open, and poly), we'll evaluate your current goals and needs before exploring new ways of connecting, with joy and self-compassion and trust. This list is not exhaustive, so bring your whole self and we'll get curious together.
I mostly work with gay/queer individuals and relationships (couples/polycules). Identity, transition, and shame come up regularly in my sessions, and I am comfortable discussing sex, from kink/BDSM to pleasure to communication. I focus on anxiety, including workaholism, perfectionism, substance use, and body concerns. With relationships (monogamous, open, and poly), we'll evaluate your current goals and needs before exploring new ways of connecting, with joy and self-compassion and trust. This list is not exhaustive, so bring your whole self and we'll get curious together.
(415) 840-3508 View (415) 840-3508
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Sara Okman
Marriage & Family Therapist, MFT
Verified Verified
10 Endorsed
San Francisco, CA 94115
As a highly trained individual, couples and sex therapist, I help people overcome difficulties with sexual functioning or enjoyment.
Many relationships have faced challenges over the past few years. You might be feeling stuck, or struggling to resolve differences with your partner. As a certified AASECT sex therapist & long time couples counselor, I help identify& understand what lies beneath these stuck places, building true relational safety. Using easy to implement tools for healthy communication, I help couples negotiate desire discrepancy, find creative solutions for low-sexual marriages, and navigate the impact of extra-marital relationships: including infidelity repair, polyamory, & consensual non-monogamy. I am kink aware & LGBTQ+ friendly.
As a highly trained individual, couples and sex therapist, I help people overcome difficulties with sexual functioning or enjoyment.
Many relationships have faced challenges over the past few years. You might be feeling stuck, or struggling to resolve differences with your partner. As a certified AASECT sex therapist & long time couples counselor, I help identify& understand what lies beneath these stuck places, building true relational safety. Using easy to implement tools for healthy communication, I help couples negotiate desire discrepancy, find creative solutions for low-sexual marriages, and navigate the impact of extra-marital relationships: including infidelity repair, polyamory, & consensual non-monogamy. I am kink aware & LGBTQ+ friendly.
(415) 877-4147 View (415) 877-4147
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Sexual Addiction Sex Misbehavior Infidelity Expert
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW, SOTS
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
San Francisco, CA 94102
Absolute sexual addiction elite level expert 26 years + 45,000 hours sexual misbehavior specialist psychotherapy provided, faster recovery evidence based research oriented treating of Infidelity / Cheating /Affairs, Prostitution Use, "Seeking Arrangements", Sugar Daddy, Sex Apps, Strip Clubs, Massage Parlors, Sex Misconduct, Certified Specialist. I created government funded sexual misbehavior programs, utilizing highly effective clinical models. I use my most up to date understanding to have you change your thinking and learn how to end self destructive actions and love yourself and the great life you have. All I do is these cases.
Absolute sexual addiction elite level expert 26 years + 45,000 hours sexual misbehavior specialist psychotherapy provided, faster recovery evidence based research oriented treating of Infidelity / Cheating /Affairs, Prostitution Use, "Seeking Arrangements", Sugar Daddy, Sex Apps, Strip Clubs, Massage Parlors, Sex Misconduct, Certified Specialist. I created government funded sexual misbehavior programs, utilizing highly effective clinical models. I use my most up to date understanding to have you change your thinking and learn how to end self destructive actions and love yourself and the great life you have. All I do is these cases.
(415) 639-5474 View (415) 639-5474
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Lori Roniger
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, AMFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
San Francisco, CA 94118  (Online Only)
Some are creative; work in tech; approach gender, sexuality, relationships, or parenting with fluidity or nontraditionally; experience themselves as anxious, introverted, sensitive, or neurodivergent; are re-evaluating aspects of their lives as young adults or at mid-life; are members of marginalized groups; or would like to explore their sexuality more.
I am passionate about helping you explore what’s getting in the way of being your full self and having the connections you want. I provide psychotherapy to adult individuals, couples, and more than couples from a place of open-mindedness, curiosity, and sex-positivity, and an awareness that our lives don’t always unfold as expected. People who work well with me include those with liminal identities that may not fit neatly into boxes and who may feel like outsiders in some spaces.
Some are creative; work in tech; approach gender, sexuality, relationships, or parenting with fluidity or nontraditionally; experience themselves as anxious, introverted, sensitive, or neurodivergent; are re-evaluating aspects of their lives as young adults or at mid-life; are members of marginalized groups; or would like to explore their sexuality more.
I am passionate about helping you explore what’s getting in the way of being your full self and having the connections you want. I provide psychotherapy to adult individuals, couples, and more than couples from a place of open-mindedness, curiosity, and sex-positivity, and an awareness that our lives don’t always unfold as expected. People who work well with me include those with liminal identities that may not fit neatly into boxes and who may feel like outsiders in some spaces.
(415) 903-0565 View (415) 903-0565
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Dr. Sean Robertson
MA, PsyD
Verified Verified
San Francisco, CA 94115  (Online Only)
In addition to couples counseling, I also offer couples intimacy coaching for performance anxiety, sex addiction, sexuality, and open relationships.
Start seeing challenges as opportunities to get your needs met and improve your relationship! I’m Dr. Sean Robertson, creator of RDP. I work as an online Couples Counselor and Intimacy Coach. I know relationships can be hard, even though they’re also one of the most fulfilling parts of our life. In my couples counseling I create an empathic space for learning and deep connection, while also being diligent about ensuring that clients implement the tools I teach. My methods are based in behavioral psychology, Gottman Method, and attachment psychology.
In addition to couples counseling, I also offer couples intimacy coaching for performance anxiety, sex addiction, sexuality, and open relationships.
Start seeing challenges as opportunities to get your needs met and improve your relationship! I’m Dr. Sean Robertson, creator of RDP. I work as an online Couples Counselor and Intimacy Coach. I know relationships can be hard, even though they’re also one of the most fulfilling parts of our life. In my couples counseling I create an empathic space for learning and deep connection, while also being diligent about ensuring that clients implement the tools I teach. My methods are based in behavioral psychology, Gottman Method, and attachment psychology.
(415) 873-8050 View (415) 873-8050
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Scott D. Altamirano
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, MA
Verified Verified
San Francisco, CA 94103
Accepting clients Apr 2024. I help gay men - from the newly gay to the seasoned queen - navigate and understand topics related to dating monogamously, polyamory, sexual anxiety, fetishes, understanding Grindr, Sniffies, and bathhouses, drugs/alcohol/food/sex as coping, body insecurities, masculinity, developing self esteem, hobbies, and the most importantly - the friends we made along the way.
Accepting clients Apr 2024. I help gay men - from the newly gay to the seasoned queen - navigate and understand topics related to dating monogamously, polyamory, sexual anxiety, fetishes, understanding Grindr, Sniffies, and bathhouses, drugs/alcohol/food/sex as coping, body insecurities, masculinity, developing self esteem, hobbies, and the most importantly - the friends we made along the way.
(972) 532-0589 View (972) 532-0589
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Dr. Sean Robertson
MA, PsyD
Verified Verified
San Francisco, CA 94131
In addition to couples counseling, I also offer couples intimacy coaching for performance anxiety, sex addiction, sexuality, and open relationships.
Start seeing challenges as opportunities to get your needs met and improve your relationship! I’m Dr. Sean Robertson, creator of RDP. I work as an online Couples Counselor and Intimacy Coach. I know relationships can be hard, even though they’re also one of the most fulfilling parts of our life. In my couples counseling I create an empathic space for learning and deep connection, while also being diligent about ensuring that clients implement the tools I teach. My methods are based in behavioral psychology, Gottman Method, and attachment psychology.
In addition to couples counseling, I also offer couples intimacy coaching for performance anxiety, sex addiction, sexuality, and open relationships.
Start seeing challenges as opportunities to get your needs met and improve your relationship! I’m Dr. Sean Robertson, creator of RDP. I work as an online Couples Counselor and Intimacy Coach. I know relationships can be hard, even though they’re also one of the most fulfilling parts of our life. In my couples counseling I create an empathic space for learning and deep connection, while also being diligent about ensuring that clients implement the tools I teach. My methods are based in behavioral psychology, Gottman Method, and attachment psychology.
(415) 429-3730 View (415) 429-3730
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Seth Prosterman
Marriage & Family Therapist
Verified Verified
San Francisco, CA 94123
Dr. Seth Prosterman brings over 25 years of experience helping individuals and couples overcome sex, intimacy and relationship issues. You deserve to have a healthy and satisfying sex life as it is an essential component for a balanced and fulfilled life and relationship. Being able to guide my clients to greater intimacy, better sex, stronger relationships and a clearer sense of self is the foundation of my practice. ***SKPE SESSIONS ARE ALSO AVAILABLE***
Dr. Seth Prosterman brings over 25 years of experience helping individuals and couples overcome sex, intimacy and relationship issues. You deserve to have a healthy and satisfying sex life as it is an essential component for a balanced and fulfilled life and relationship. Being able to guide my clients to greater intimacy, better sex, stronger relationships and a clearer sense of self is the foundation of my practice. ***SKPE SESSIONS ARE ALSO AVAILABLE***
(650) 209-7901 View (650) 209-7901

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Sex Therapy

Who is sex therapy for?

Sex problems are common in relationships. Many people want a better sex life and want to feel loved and desired by their partner. It is difficult for couples to resolve sexual problems on their own because people often feel ashamed to talk about their sexual desires fearing they are not normal, when in fact a very broad range of preferences and behaviors are normal. A sex therapist can help clarify this and other matters.

Why do people need sex therapy?

Many people do not know how to talk about their erotic needs or their emotional needs, both of which are addressed in sex therapy. Couples often live with sexual difficulties for years before seeking help, and in that time, partners may experience so much disappointment and alienation that they may fear their problems mean they are incompatible. Once people experience disappointment, it is difficult to find resolution without help.

What happens in sex therapy?

People have many misconceptions about what takes place in sex therapy. First, it is a form of talk therapy in which partners discuss their sexual concerns; it does not involve touching or physical exploration of any kind. Sex therapy typically helps couples get comfortable talking to each other about sex so that, in the privacy of their home life, they can openly discuss their sexual desires and make decisions about what they want to do. Couples are typically assigned activities to do at home that build intimacy skills.

What kinds of problems do sex therapists treat?

Very often, partners differ in their degree of sexual desire and struggle over how often to have sex. Or they may have fights about porn use or have difficulty connecting sexually after one partner is unfaithful. Men may have problems with premature ejaculation. Women may find themselves struggling to become aroused or to achieve an orgasm. Sometimes partners feel like they have lost the sense of attraction to their partner. These are all common issues dealt with in sex therapy.