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Darlene Joy Manick
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Thousand Oaks, CA 91362
I carefully listen and engage with intent to your unique experiences, and use our working relationship - gaining insight into your personal blind spots that are causing you emotional discomfort.
I specialize in treating treating high achieving individuals & couples, with perfectionist tendencies. My priority is your emotional safety. Non judgmental support allows for your sharing openly and honestly. The need to "be right" can be unconscious, & you may be hurting those you love. My skilled intuition, and 25+ yrs. of clinical success, knows hope is available for the motivated and committed recovering anxious, obsessive, & over analyzing adult. Our trusting relationship inspires you to reflect upon your life/relationship goals; together we explore, & honestly challenge: "Do I want to be right?" Or, do I want to be loved?"
I carefully listen and engage with intent to your unique experiences, and use our working relationship - gaining insight into your personal blind spots that are causing you emotional discomfort.
I specialize in treating treating high achieving individuals & couples, with perfectionist tendencies. My priority is your emotional safety. Non judgmental support allows for your sharing openly and honestly. The need to "be right" can be unconscious, & you may be hurting those you love. My skilled intuition, and 25+ yrs. of clinical success, knows hope is available for the motivated and committed recovering anxious, obsessive, & over analyzing adult. Our trusting relationship inspires you to reflect upon your life/relationship goals; together we explore, & honestly challenge: "Do I want to be right?" Or, do I want to be loved?"
(818) 639-4919 View (818) 639-4919
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Sara Rector
Marriage & Family Therapist, MFT
Verified Verified
7 Endorsed
Thousand Oaks, CA 91360
I am passionate and excited to work with people dealing with relationship/ codependency issues.
I am here to help and support you in achieving what you want in life Healthy Relationships, Career/Life Satisfaction or Overcoming Obstacles. My specialties are: Communication/Relationship Issues, Women Professionals, Codependency and Infertility. I look forward to helping you improve the quality of your life. Please call me so I may answer any questions you may have and so you can get started on the rest of your life.
I am passionate and excited to work with people dealing with relationship/ codependency issues.
I am here to help and support you in achieving what you want in life Healthy Relationships, Career/Life Satisfaction or Overcoming Obstacles. My specialties are: Communication/Relationship Issues, Women Professionals, Codependency and Infertility. I look forward to helping you improve the quality of your life. Please call me so I may answer any questions you may have and so you can get started on the rest of your life.
(805) 322-8458 View (805) 322-8458
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Affordable Therapy Los Angeles
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
Thousand Oaks, CA 91362  (Online Only)
Our therapists can help with a variety of issues, including: Anxiety; Bereavement; Past Child Abuse; Depression; Emotional Abuse; Gay and Lesbian Issues; Job Displacement; Loneliness; Marriage Problems; Parent/Child Difficulties; Recovery from Substance Abuse; Relationship Difficulties, Stress, and Trauma.
We offer Telehealth in California on a sliding fee scale as low as $30 a session. We work with individuals, couples, children, and families. We will help you learn better communication skills for your relationships as will as help relieve any symptoms of anxiety and depression. Our therapy/counseling is confidential and you will meet your therapist online in the privacy of your own space. Visit our website at Affordabletherapyla.com and call us at 818-907-7974 Your phone call will be returned in 24 hours. No wait list and no insurance is required. We are here to help.
Our therapists can help with a variety of issues, including: Anxiety; Bereavement; Past Child Abuse; Depression; Emotional Abuse; Gay and Lesbian Issues; Job Displacement; Loneliness; Marriage Problems; Parent/Child Difficulties; Recovery from Substance Abuse; Relationship Difficulties, Stress, and Trauma.
We offer Telehealth in California on a sliding fee scale as low as $30 a session. We work with individuals, couples, children, and families. We will help you learn better communication skills for your relationships as will as help relieve any symptoms of anxiety and depression. Our therapy/counseling is confidential and you will meet your therapist online in the privacy of your own space. Visit our website at Affordabletherapyla.com and call us at 818-907-7974 Your phone call will be returned in 24 hours. No wait list and no insurance is required. We are here to help.
(213) 465-3669 View (213) 465-3669
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Darilyn McElfresh
Marriage & Family Therapist, MS, LMFT
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
Thousand Oaks, CA 91362
This focuses on relationships formed in early childhood that have carved out patterns of relationship dynamics into adulthood.
I allocate my time and practice between two specific and unique issues: one being sexually related problems, the other being OCD. With sexually related issues, they can show up as relationship problems, infidelity, arousal discrepancy, or LGBT matters. Likewise, with OCD, there are many different forms and subtypes: harm, scrupulosity, contamination, sexual, symmetry/order/balance/just right. I am trained and experienced in both fields, utilizing tools and interventions to treat one or the other, and sometimes both.
This focuses on relationships formed in early childhood that have carved out patterns of relationship dynamics into adulthood.
I allocate my time and practice between two specific and unique issues: one being sexually related problems, the other being OCD. With sexually related issues, they can show up as relationship problems, infidelity, arousal discrepancy, or LGBT matters. Likewise, with OCD, there are many different forms and subtypes: harm, scrupulosity, contamination, sexual, symmetry/order/balance/just right. I am trained and experienced in both fields, utilizing tools and interventions to treat one or the other, and sometimes both.
(805) 250-4193 View (805) 250-4193
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Jaayda Ellingham
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
Thousand Oaks, CA 91319  (Online Only)
I invite you to begin this journey with me, to learn the tools to cultivate a deeper sense of connection, and thereby change your relationship to self and the world around you.
Whether you're struggling with anxiety or depression, or feel you've hit a wall to progress, these states can create stress and disconnection, making personal fulfillment in career and relationships challenging. As we understand that physical exercise builds and strengthens our physical endurance, psychotherapy is a process of building and strengthening the mind's capacity to endure and respond. The therapeutic process is rooted in connection, transparency, and authenticity. I work from a collaborative and mindfulness approach to help guide my clients in understanding the relationship between their thoughts, feelings, and actions to effect change.
I invite you to begin this journey with me, to learn the tools to cultivate a deeper sense of connection, and thereby change your relationship to self and the world around you.
Whether you're struggling with anxiety or depression, or feel you've hit a wall to progress, these states can create stress and disconnection, making personal fulfillment in career and relationships challenging. As we understand that physical exercise builds and strengthens our physical endurance, psychotherapy is a process of building and strengthening the mind's capacity to endure and respond. The therapeutic process is rooted in connection, transparency, and authenticity. I work from a collaborative and mindfulness approach to help guide my clients in understanding the relationship between their thoughts, feelings, and actions to effect change.
(747) 229-0207 View (747) 229-0207
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Patricia A. Ruddy
Marriage & Family Therapist, MFT
Verified Verified
Thousand Oaks, CA 91320
I specialize in relationship counseling, marital conflict resolution, divorce and women's issues in healing childhood trauma.
As a Marriage and Family Therapist, I have been providing psychotherapy for almost thirty years with all ages and all different populations. My treatment modality encompasses an electic style based on Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy, Reality Therapy, and Brief/Solution Focused Therapy. An integral part of my work with clients includes establishing a collaborative and therapeutic alliance, identifying goals, and developing solutions. I empower clients to identify their resilience, resourcefulness and systems of support where I guide clients through the process of discovering their aspirations and developing solutions.
I specialize in relationship counseling, marital conflict resolution, divorce and women's issues in healing childhood trauma.
As a Marriage and Family Therapist, I have been providing psychotherapy for almost thirty years with all ages and all different populations. My treatment modality encompasses an electic style based on Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy, Reality Therapy, and Brief/Solution Focused Therapy. An integral part of my work with clients includes establishing a collaborative and therapeutic alliance, identifying goals, and developing solutions. I empower clients to identify their resilience, resourcefulness and systems of support where I guide clients through the process of discovering their aspirations and developing solutions.
(805) 244-5639 View (805) 244-5639
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Sona DeLurgio
Marriage & Family Therapist, PsyD, LMFT, CEDS
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
Thousand Oaks, CA 91360
I have been practicing since 1993 treating emotional eating, eating disorders, relationship issues, and early childhood trauma and neglect.
Are you wishing you had more peace with food, your body, yourself, and those people who are important in your life? If you're struggling, I can help. We will work together collaboratively to help you discover who you are at your core, heal what hurts, and engage genuinely with your true self, your relationships and your life. Deep conversation, deep listening, and deep connection for your healing and transformation. Let me help you discover your most authentic self and the joy that comes along with that. Together we can work on lasting change.
I have been practicing since 1993 treating emotional eating, eating disorders, relationship issues, and early childhood trauma and neglect.
Are you wishing you had more peace with food, your body, yourself, and those people who are important in your life? If you're struggling, I can help. We will work together collaboratively to help you discover who you are at your core, heal what hurts, and engage genuinely with your true self, your relationships and your life. Deep conversation, deep listening, and deep connection for your healing and transformation. Let me help you discover your most authentic self and the joy that comes along with that. Together we can work on lasting change.
(626) 836-2023 View (626) 836-2023
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Oreet Daniella Schrader
Marriage & Family Therapist, PsyD, LMFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Thousand Oaks, CA 91360  (Online Only)
Are you feeling overwhelmed? Are you feeling depressed or anxious? Are you struggling to gain control in life? Perhaps you are trying to manage a better relationship with food. Or it could be a daily challenge to maintain your sobriety. Maybe you find yourself in a relationship that lacks the sexual intimacy you crave. I have successfully helped many people like you overcome the obstacles that keep them trapped in cycles that are ineffective. I provide a safe and empathetic environment in which you can discuss things that are painful, challenging and personal.
Are you feeling overwhelmed? Are you feeling depressed or anxious? Are you struggling to gain control in life? Perhaps you are trying to manage a better relationship with food. Or it could be a daily challenge to maintain your sobriety. Maybe you find yourself in a relationship that lacks the sexual intimacy you crave. I have successfully helped many people like you overcome the obstacles that keep them trapped in cycles that are ineffective. I provide a safe and empathetic environment in which you can discuss things that are painful, challenging and personal.
(818) 435-8363 View (818) 435-8363
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Beth Leedham - Individuals And Couples
Psychologist, PhD
Verified Verified
Thousand Oaks, CA 91320
With twenty-five years of experience and outstanding credentials, I have two goals for my clients: Solve the immediate problem that brings you to therapy, and promote lasting change. My arenas of work include depression, anxiety, stress, and relationship difficulties. I have extensive training in couples therapy and am an AASECT-Certified Sex Therapist. I deal with all manner of sexual issues, including desire problems, addiction, affairs, and the "sexless marriage." I welcome clients from varied backgrounds and communities.
With twenty-five years of experience and outstanding credentials, I have two goals for my clients: Solve the immediate problem that brings you to therapy, and promote lasting change. My arenas of work include depression, anxiety, stress, and relationship difficulties. I have extensive training in couples therapy and am an AASECT-Certified Sex Therapist. I deal with all manner of sexual issues, including desire problems, addiction, affairs, and the "sexless marriage." I welcome clients from varied backgrounds and communities.
(818) 963-9278 View (818) 963-9278
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Dr. Shirley O Kauffman
Marriage & Family Therapist, PhD, LMFT
Verified Verified
Thousand Oaks, CA 91320
Life isn’t always easy. Whether you struggle with anxiety, depression, addiction or loneliness, you should know that there's hope for a better tomorrow. I specialize in helping married and unmarried partners and work with those going through or recovering from divorce. I am a Certified Clinical Anxiety Treatment Professional and a Certified Addictions-Informed Mental Health Professional and have Gottman Relationship training. I can help you with the skills and tools you need to communicate effectively, solve your relationship problems, restore and strengthen relationships, heal the hurts, and experience the satisfaction you desire.
Life isn’t always easy. Whether you struggle with anxiety, depression, addiction or loneliness, you should know that there's hope for a better tomorrow. I specialize in helping married and unmarried partners and work with those going through or recovering from divorce. I am a Certified Clinical Anxiety Treatment Professional and a Certified Addictions-Informed Mental Health Professional and have Gottman Relationship training. I can help you with the skills and tools you need to communicate effectively, solve your relationship problems, restore and strengthen relationships, heal the hurts, and experience the satisfaction you desire.
(747) 231-3283 View (747) 231-3283
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Edgar Cruz
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
4 Endorsed
Thousand Oaks, CA 91360
You may be feeling confused or lost, and are searching for answers and ways to manage what you are experiencing right now. You are hoping to find someone that can create a safe space to process your thoughts and feelings. Someone that may help you feel less alone and accompany you in your journey towards finding answers. The sadness, worries, fears, and hopelessness may seem so daunting and you feel like there is no end in sight. You are here because you're ready to address these and the impact they have on your relationship with yourself, partner, child, or family.
You may be feeling confused or lost, and are searching for answers and ways to manage what you are experiencing right now. You are hoping to find someone that can create a safe space to process your thoughts and feelings. Someone that may help you feel less alone and accompany you in your journey towards finding answers. The sadness, worries, fears, and hopelessness may seem so daunting and you feel like there is no end in sight. You are here because you're ready to address these and the impact they have on your relationship with yourself, partner, child, or family.
(805) 329-3658 View (805) 329-3658
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Rebecca Sills Nudel
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, AMFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Thousand Oaks, CA 91362
My goal is to build a trusting collaborative relationship with my clients and to create a safe place where they can deepen their understanding of themselves, build and maintain healthier interpersonal relationships, facilitate personal growth, and overcome mental and emotional obstacles.
Sometimes we find ourselves in challenging, painful, or difficult situations that can leave us overwhelmed, hopeless, or stuck, preventing us from living the fulfilling life we are meant to live. You feel a sense of anxiety or dread that you can’t shake. You don’t feel supported by your partner. You are confronting emotional challenges that come with aging & life transitions. You are at your wit's end and don’t know where to turn. I'm here to tell you there is hope, you are not alone. I believe each person possesses unique strengths. Together we will highlight those strengths and work through the obstacles that inhibit you.
My goal is to build a trusting collaborative relationship with my clients and to create a safe place where they can deepen their understanding of themselves, build and maintain healthier interpersonal relationships, facilitate personal growth, and overcome mental and emotional obstacles.
Sometimes we find ourselves in challenging, painful, or difficult situations that can leave us overwhelmed, hopeless, or stuck, preventing us from living the fulfilling life we are meant to live. You feel a sense of anxiety or dread that you can’t shake. You don’t feel supported by your partner. You are confronting emotional challenges that come with aging & life transitions. You are at your wit's end and don’t know where to turn. I'm here to tell you there is hope, you are not alone. I believe each person possesses unique strengths. Together we will highlight those strengths and work through the obstacles that inhibit you.
(323) 991-7581 View (323) 991-7581
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Fred Harlan
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, MA, MA, MFTI
Not Verified Not Verified
Thousand Oaks, CA 91360
Are you missing the passion in your relationship? Does it seem like you and your significant other just can't communicate and you keep having the same arguments? Do you feel more like roommates than a couple? Are you finding it difficult to trust or has your trust been broken? Wondering whether the two of you are going to make it? I help couples re-establish the connection that brought them together, improve communication, increasing trust and acceptance, and creating lasting strategies to stay together.
Are you missing the passion in your relationship? Does it seem like you and your significant other just can't communicate and you keep having the same arguments? Do you feel more like roommates than a couple? Are you finding it difficult to trust or has your trust been broken? Wondering whether the two of you are going to make it? I help couples re-establish the connection that brought them together, improve communication, increasing trust and acceptance, and creating lasting strategies to stay together.
(805) 617-3375 View (805) 617-3375
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Margaret (Peggy) Anne Wyatt
Marriage & Family Therapist, MS, LMFT, EMDR
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Thousand Oaks, CA 91360
Consider having a session so you can decide if I provide the warm therapeutic relationship you desire.
When we seek therapy it is usually because we reach a point when our problems and challenges outweigh our ability to cope with them. Sometimes we feel stuck in old patterns of behavior or relationships that no longer work for us and we wish to make changes. I serve as a collaborator with you on your journey of self discovery as you find new ways of being and making more appropriate life choices. I provide safety and support as you experience psychological understanding and growth and remain with you as you develop ways to handle life's burdens in more empowering ways.
Consider having a session so you can decide if I provide the warm therapeutic relationship you desire.
When we seek therapy it is usually because we reach a point when our problems and challenges outweigh our ability to cope with them. Sometimes we feel stuck in old patterns of behavior or relationships that no longer work for us and we wish to make changes. I serve as a collaborator with you on your journey of self discovery as you find new ways of being and making more appropriate life choices. I provide safety and support as you experience psychological understanding and growth and remain with you as you develop ways to handle life's burdens in more empowering ways.
(818) 641-1956 View (818) 641-1956
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Shira Mehrnia
Marriage & Family Therapist, MS, LMFT
Verified Verified
Thousand Oaks, CA 91362  (Online Only)
My goal is to help my clients expand their capacity for trust and intimacy in relationships and improve their overall quality of life. I help people struggling with depression, anxiety, low self esteem, relationship issues and women suffering from prepartum and postpartum depression. I have extensive experience in the treatment of eating disorders and body image issues.
My goal is to help my clients expand their capacity for trust and intimacy in relationships and improve their overall quality of life. I help people struggling with depression, anxiety, low self esteem, relationship issues and women suffering from prepartum and postpartum depression. I have extensive experience in the treatment of eating disorders and body image issues.
(805) 954-9633 View (805) 954-9633
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Jennifer Maland
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
Thousand Oaks, CA 91362
In this journey of life, have you, your relationship, and/or your family hit a roadblock? Is what you see in the rearview mirror or side view mirrors distracting you from the road ahead? Do you find that your destination ahead is no longer the direction you desire? Are you running out of gas or need an associate to ride with you? Or did you make a home at a pitstop? By coming upon this page, I imagine you are unfulfilled with your current path or location and considering a new direction.
In this journey of life, have you, your relationship, and/or your family hit a roadblock? Is what you see in the rearview mirror or side view mirrors distracting you from the road ahead? Do you find that your destination ahead is no longer the direction you desire? Are you running out of gas or need an associate to ride with you? Or did you make a home at a pitstop? By coming upon this page, I imagine you are unfulfilled with your current path or location and considering a new direction.
(747) 298-5058 View (747) 298-5058
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Alicia Vilanova
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
Thousand Oaks, CA 91360
Therapy is deeply personal, I ensure that comfort and trust form the cornerstone of our therapeutic relationship.
With over a decade and a half of expertise, I provide therapeutic services that are not only effective but also demystify the process. Specializing in an array of issues such as anger management, self-esteem struggles, divorce, trauma, addictions, and family therapy, my approach is solution-focused and designed to facilitate positive changes often noticeable within the initial sessions.
Therapy is deeply personal, I ensure that comfort and trust form the cornerstone of our therapeutic relationship.
With over a decade and a half of expertise, I provide therapeutic services that are not only effective but also demystify the process. Specializing in an array of issues such as anger management, self-esteem struggles, divorce, trauma, addictions, and family therapy, my approach is solution-focused and designed to facilitate positive changes often noticeable within the initial sessions.
(805) 421-4721 View (805) 421-4721
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Kathryn Kegley
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Thousand Oaks, CA 91362
I have extensive experience and interest working with children, adolescents, and young adults with a range of mental health issues, as well as adults experiencing Anxiety, Depression, and Relationship Issues.
I offer mental health services to individuals, couples, and families who are seeking a safe and comfortable environment to discuss their current challenges and focus on their goals.
I have extensive experience and interest working with children, adolescents, and young adults with a range of mental health issues, as well as adults experiencing Anxiety, Depression, and Relationship Issues.
I offer mental health services to individuals, couples, and families who are seeking a safe and comfortable environment to discuss their current challenges and focus on their goals.
(805) 203-3567 View (805) 203-3567
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Laura Ortman
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
Thousand Oaks, CA 91360
My areas of treatment include anxiety, depression, prenatal/postnatal, relationship issues, sexual & physical abuse, eating disorders, substance abuse, other addictions and those who are coping with a loved one with such areas of concern.
My role as a therapist is not about helping others. It is about giving guidance and focusing on self-empowerment to my clients so they can have the tools to assist themselves. Prior to private practice, I worked at treatment facilities for both substance abuse and eating disorders, worked with victims of crimes (domestic violence and sexual abuse), and a suicide hotline.
My areas of treatment include anxiety, depression, prenatal/postnatal, relationship issues, sexual & physical abuse, eating disorders, substance abuse, other addictions and those who are coping with a loved one with such areas of concern.
My role as a therapist is not about helping others. It is about giving guidance and focusing on self-empowerment to my clients so they can have the tools to assist themselves. Prior to private practice, I worked at treatment facilities for both substance abuse and eating disorders, worked with victims of crimes (domestic violence and sexual abuse), and a suicide hotline.
(818) 696-4134 View (818) 696-4134
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Karmen Kamla
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT, JA
Verified Verified
Thousand Oaks, CA 91361
I am a certified Jungian Analyst and Psychotherapist. I enjoy working with many different types of people, men and women. I take the therapeutic relationship seriously and see this relationship as a commitment to support the growth and evolution of the soul and the human being. I have extensive experience treating anxiety, depression, life-threatening illness, marital relationship issues, parenting issues, issues particular to women such as pregnancy, childbirth and rearing, assisting women and assisting women find their voices. I also love working with men, assisting them discover meaning through the therapeutic relationship.
I am a certified Jungian Analyst and Psychotherapist. I enjoy working with many different types of people, men and women. I take the therapeutic relationship seriously and see this relationship as a commitment to support the growth and evolution of the soul and the human being. I have extensive experience treating anxiety, depression, life-threatening illness, marital relationship issues, parenting issues, issues particular to women such as pregnancy, childbirth and rearing, assisting women and assisting women find their voices. I also love working with men, assisting them discover meaning through the therapeutic relationship.
(424) 218-0216 View (424) 218-0216

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Relationship Issues Therapists
While need for human connection appears to be innate, the ability to form healthy, loving relationships is learned. Some evidence suggests that the ability to form a stable relationship starts to form in infancy, in a child's earliest experiences with a caregiver who reliably meets the infant's needs for food, care, warmth, protection, stimulation, and social contact. Such relationships are not destiny, but they are theorized to establish deeply ingrained patterns of relating to others. The end of a relationship, however, is often a source of great psychological anguish.