Psychologist, EdD, ABPP, CGP
In the narcissistic family, the needs of the parent take precedence over the needs of the daughter. As a result, this child becomes a woman with such personality traits as a lack of self-confidence, a chronic need to please, difficulty being assertive, and has great difficulty identifying and acting upon her own feelings, wants, and needs. One goal of this therapy group is to challenge the negative self-image, which was put in place by endless parental demands for change. As Dr. Elan Golumb as written, "We are like bonsai plants, with prior years of confinements, suppression, and reshaping."
M. Scott Peck began his best seller The Road Less Travelled with the sentence, "Life is difficult." Yes, life is difficult and being a man is difficult. Fearing subjugation in our relationships, it is hard to know when to take a stand or when to yield. We continue to struggle in our relationships with women, as Peter Marin observed in his book In a Man's Time, in part because we are isolated from the support and nurturing of "a community of loving male comrades." In this group, we will learn from and become comrades for each other.