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Otylia 'tilly' McQuay
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-R
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Otylia 'tilly' McQuay

Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-R (she, her)

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Merrick, NY 11566
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Do you keep ending up in the same painful patterns, no matter how hard you try? Or find yourself taking care of everyone around you while your own needs get pushed aside? A lot of us carry things from childhood that quietly shape how we see ourselves and show up in relationships. I work with people healing from difficult family dynamics, trauma, abuse, and Complex PTSD (C-PTSD) — people worn down by guilt, anxiety, and self-doubt who are ready to move from surviving to truly thriving.
My training includes advanced certification in complex trauma treatment, DBT through Columbia University, and Dr. Lindsay Gibson's work on emotionally immature parents. I draw from DBT, CBT, ACT, and mindfulness to support healing from trauma, difficult family dynamics, and ADHD — always guided by your unique story and needs
As Lindsay Gibson wrote, lasting patterns from childhood neglect can leave us repeating old cycles and blaming ourselves for our own pain. But that story can change — and like Kintsugi, the Japanese art of repairing pottery with gold, your cracks can become your greatest strengths. If any of this resonates, I’d be honored to be part of your healing journey.
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My Practice at a Glance

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Telehealth Only

Merrick, NY 11566

(516) 271-4162

New York, NY 10013

My website
Offering telehealth therapy for anxiety, trauma, ADHD & C-PTSD, with tools to heal emotional wounds and build more peace and self-trust.
I specialize in Anxiety, Trauma and PTSD and Codependency 
$225 Per Session, I accept insurance 
Individual one-on-one therapy 
Let's Connect (516) 271-4162
Photo of Otylia 'tilly' McQuay, Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-R

My Practice at a Glance

Waitlist. Contact to join the list for online therapy.

Telehealth Only

Merrick, NY 11566

(516) 271-4162

New York, NY 10013

My website
Offering telehealth therapy for anxiety, trauma, ADHD & C-PTSD, with tools to heal emotional wounds and build more peace and self-trust.
I specialize in Anxiety, Trauma and PTSD and Codependency 
$225 Per Session, I accept insurance 
Individual one-on-one therapy 

Finances

Fees

  • Individual Sessions $225
  • Couple Sessions $300
  • Sliding scale: apply if you may be eligible

Payment Methods

American Express, Cash, Check, Discover, Health Savings Account, Mastercard, Paypal, Venmo, Visa, Zelle

Insurance

  • 1199SEIU
  • Aetna
  • Cigna and Evernorth
  • Meritain Health
  • Northwell Direct
  • NYC Employees PPO Plan
  • Optum
  • Oxford
  • United Medical Resources (UMR)
  • UnitedHealthcare UHC | UBH
  • Out of Network
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I am an in-network provider for several insurance plans in NY, including Northwell Direct. I also offer superbill documentation for clients using out-of-network benefits. A sliding scale is available for those who qualify. Feel free to reach out with any questions about coverage or payments.
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Otylia 'tilly' McQuay
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-R
Call or for a free 15 minute consultation now - (516) 271-4162
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I am an in-network provider for several insurance plans in NY, including Northwell Direct. I also offer superbill documentation for clients using out-of-network benefits. A sliding scale is available for those who qualify. Feel free to reach out with any questions about coverage or payments.
Photo of Otylia 'tilly' McQuay, Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-R
Otylia 'tilly' McQuay
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-R
Call or for a free 15 minute consultation now - (516) 271-4162

Qualifications

  • Verified by Psychology Today Licensed by State of New York / 081866 Otylia 'tilly' McQuay

    • Education and Years In Practice

  • In Practice for 17 years
  • Attended Columbia University, Graduated 2010

    • Additional Credentials

  • Certificate from Certified Clinical Trauma Professional level 2 (CCTP-II) via Evergreen Certifications 550654
  • Certificate from Treating Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents with Dr. Lindsay Gibson 2024
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I have 15 years of experience supporting clients through anxiety, depression, and trauma recovery. I'm certified in trauma-informed approaches (CCTP-II), Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), and in Treating Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents (ACEIP).
Photo of Otylia 'tilly' McQuay, Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-R
Otylia 'tilly' McQuay
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-R
Call or for a free 15 minute consultation now - (516) 271-4162
"
I have 15 years of experience supporting clients through anxiety, depression, and trauma recovery. I'm certified in trauma-informed approaches (CCTP-II), Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), and in Treating Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents (ACEIP).
Photo of Otylia 'tilly' McQuay, Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-R
Otylia 'tilly' McQuay
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-R
Call or for a free 15 minute consultation now - (516) 271-4162

Specialties and Expertise

Top Specialties

  • Anxiety
  • Trauma and PTSD
  • Codependency

Expertise

  • ADHD
  • Bisexual
  • Body Image
  • Borderline Personality (BPD)
  • Cancer
  • Complex PTSD (C-PTSD)
  • Coping Skills
  • Depression
  • Family Conflict
  • Impulse Control Disorders
  • Lesbian
  • LGBTQ+
  • Life Transitions
  • Men's Issues
  • Relationship Issues
  • Self Esteem
  • Self-Harming
  • Sexual Abuse
  • Stress
  • Suicidal Ideation
  • Survivors of Narcissistic abuse
  • Women's Issues
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I work with anxiety, trauma, Complex PTSD, relationship issues, codependency, and the impact of emotionally immature or narcissistic caregivers. Treatment may include emotion regulation, boundary work, and exploring trauma roots. Clients often gain self-trust, reduced anxiety, and more balanced, healthier relationships.
Photo of Otylia 'tilly' McQuay, Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-R
Otylia 'tilly' McQuay
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-R
Call or for a free 15 minute consultation now - (516) 271-4162
"
I work with anxiety, trauma, Complex PTSD, relationship issues, codependency, and the impact of emotionally immature or narcissistic caregivers. Treatment may include emotion regulation, boundary work, and exploring trauma roots. Clients often gain self-trust, reduced anxiety, and more balanced, healthier relationships.
Photo of Otylia 'tilly' McQuay, Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-R
Otylia 'tilly' McQuay
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-R
Call or for a free 15 minute consultation now - (516) 271-4162

8 Endorsements

Shaul Rabinowitz
Shaul Rabinowitz
Psychologist, PhD
Very professional, empathic, sensitive and skilled psychotherapist.
Simi Joseph
Simi Joseph
Psychiatric Nurse Practitioner, PMHNP, DNP
Mrs. Otylia 'tilly' McQuay has incredible skills and highly competent.
Cynthia Pyle
Cynthia Pyle
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW, MSW
Tilly is a compassionate, knowledgeable therapist to whom I confidently refer patients.
Marta Laurette
Marta Laurette
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-R
Otylia is a compassionate therapist and skilled in trauma work.
Cindy Ransom
Cindy Ransom
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Tilly is a warm and compassionate care provider who truly listens to her clients needs. I highly recommend her for anyone seeking support with understanding and overcoming any traumatic experiences.
Grace Colasacco, LMHC-D ,PLLC
Grace Colasacco, LMHC-D ,PLLC
Counselor, MSEd, LMHC-D, CCTP, PLLC
Tobi Zausner
Tobi Zausner
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, PhD, LCSW
Nurtured Hearts Therapy by Jane Salzano, LCSW
Nurtured Hearts Therapy by Jane Salzano, LCSW
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-R
I have worked in the clinic with this therapist in the past. She is like a ray of warm sunshine. Tilly makes you feel that she is really listening to you, which makes her a great friend and an awesome clinician.

Client Focus

Age

Adults , 
Elders (65+)

Participants

Individuals

Communities

Bisexual Allied , 
Gay Allied , 
Immuno-disorders , 
Lesbian Allied , 
Non-Binary Allied , 
Queer Allied , 
Racial Justice Allied , 
Sex Worker Allied , 
Single Parent , 
Transgender Allied

I also speak

Polish

Age

Adults , 
Elders (65+)

Participants

Individuals

Communities

Bisexual Allied , 
Gay Allied , 
Immuno-disorders , 
Lesbian Allied , 
Non-Binary Allied , 
Queer Allied , 
Racial Justice Allied , 
Sex Worker Allied , 
Single Parent , 
Transgender Allied

I also speak

Polish

Treatment Approach

Types of Therapy

  • Acceptance and Commitment (ACT)
  • Attachment-based
  • Clinical Supervision and Licensed Supervisors
  • Cognitive Behavioral (CBT)
  • Compassion Focused
  • Dialectical Behavior (DBT)
  • Eclectic
  • Internal Family Systems (IFS)
  • Mindfulness-Based (MBCT)
  • Narrative
  • Psychodynamic
  • Relational
  • Strength-Based
  • Trauma Focused
  • Trauma-Informed Stabilization Treatment (TIST)
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I often use DBT techniques along with ACT and mindfulness to help clients manage intense emotions, address relationship difficulties, and improve communication skills. I focus on creating a safe and trusting space for those facing past traumas who may feel overwhelmed about starting therapy. Above all, I aim to find what works best for each client and use a warm, hands-on approach.
Photo of Otylia 'tilly' McQuay, Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-R
Otylia 'tilly' McQuay
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-R
Call or for a free 15 minute consultation now - (516) 271-4162
"
I often use DBT techniques along with ACT and mindfulness to help clients manage intense emotions, address relationship difficulties, and improve communication skills. I focus on creating a safe and trusting space for those facing past traumas who may feel overwhelmed about starting therapy. Above all, I aim to find what works best for each client and use a warm, hands-on approach.
Photo of Otylia 'tilly' McQuay, Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-R
Otylia 'tilly' McQuay
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-R
Call or for a free 15 minute consultation now - (516) 271-4162

Location

Primary Location

Telehealth Only

Merrick, NY 11566

(516) 271-4162

Email Me

My website

Additional Location

New York, NY 10013

(516) 271-4162

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Cities

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Zips

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Offering telehealth therapy for anxiety, trauma, ADHD & C-PTSD, with tools to heal emotional wounds and build more peace and self-trust.
Photo of Otylia 'tilly' McQuay, Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-R
Otylia 'tilly' McQuay
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-R
Call for a free consultation now - (516) 271-4162
"
Offering telehealth therapy for anxiety, trauma, ADHD & C-PTSD, with tools to heal emotional wounds and build more peace and self-trust.
Photo of Otylia 'tilly' McQuay, Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-R
Otylia 'tilly' McQuay
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-R
Call for a free consultation now - (516) 271-4162