Otylia 'tilly' McQuay

Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-R

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Otylia 'tilly' McQuay

Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-R (she, her)

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Merrick, NY 11566

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Do you keep finding yourself in the same painful cycles, no matter how hard you try to break free? Or pouring yourself into everyone else while your own needs go unnoticed — even by you? You're not alone, and it's not a personal failing. Many of us carry patterns from childhood that shape how we see ourselves and relate to others. I work with people healing from difficult family dynamics, trauma, abuse, and Complex PTSD (C-PTSD) — people exhausted by guilt, anxiety, and self-doubt who want to feel at peace with who they are. Together, we'll untangle what's been holding you back and build a life that feels grounded, authentic, and y

I specialize in helping adults break cycles rooted in trauma, emotional neglect, and difficult family dynamics. My training includes advanced certification in complex trauma treatment, DBT through Columbia University, and Dr. Lindsay Gibson's work on emotionally immature parents. I use DBT, CPT, ACT, and mindfulness — guided by your unique story and needs

As Lindsay Gibson wrote, lasting patterns from childhood neglect can leave us repeating old cycles and blaming ourselves for our own pain. But that story can change — and like Kintsugi, the Japanese art of repairing pottery with gold, your cracks can become your greatest strengths. If any of this resonates, I’d be honored to be part of your healing journey.

Call or Email Otylia 'tilly' McQuay now for a free 15 minute consultation - (516) 271-4162

My Practice at a Glance

Available online only

Telehealth Only

Merrick, NY 11566

(516) 271-4162

New York, NY 10013

My website

Offering telehealth therapy for anxiety, trauma, ADHD & C-PTSD, with tools to heal emotional wounds and build more peace and self-trust.

I specialize in Anxiety, Trauma and PTSD and Codependency

$225 Per Session, I accept insurance

Individual one-on-one therapy

Let's Connect (516) 271-4162

My Practice at a Glance

Available online only

Telehealth Only

Merrick, NY 11566

(516) 271-4162

New York, NY 10013

My website

Offering telehealth therapy for anxiety, trauma, ADHD & C-PTSD, with tools to heal emotional wounds and build more peace and self-trust.

I specialize in Anxiety, Trauma and PTSD and Codependency

$225 Per Session, I accept insurance

Individual one-on-one therapy

Finances

Fees

Individual Sessions $225
Couple Sessions $300
Sliding scale: apply if you may be eligible

Payment Methods

American Express, Cash, Check, Discover, Health Savings Account, Mastercard, Paypal, Venmo, Visa, Zelle

Insurance

1199SEIU
Aetna
Cigna and Evernorth
Meritain Health
Northwell Direct
NYC Employees PPO Plan
Optum
Oxford
United Medical Resources (UMR)
UnitedHealthcare UHC | UBH
Out of Network

I am an in-network provider for several insurance plans in NY, including Northwell Direct. I also offer superbill documentation for clients using out-of-network benefits. A sliding scale is available for those who qualify. Feel free to reach out with any questions about coverage or payments.

Otylia 'tilly' McQuay

Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-R

Call or Email me for a free 15 minute consultation now - (516) 271-4162

Otylia 'tilly' McQuay

Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-R

Call or Email me for a free 15 minute consultation now - (516) 271-4162

Qualifications

Verified by Psychology Today Licensed by State of New York / 081866 Otylia 'tilly' McQuay

Education and Years In Practice

In Practice for 17 years

Attended Columbia University, Graduated 2010

Additional Credentials

Certificate from Certified Clinical Trauma Professional level 2 (CCTP-II) via Evergreen Certifications 550654

Certificate from Treating Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents with Dr. Lindsay Gibson 2024

I have 15 years of experience supporting clients through anxiety, depression, and trauma recovery. I'm certified in trauma-informed approaches (CCTP-II), Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), and in Treating Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents (ACEIP).

Otylia 'tilly' McQuay

Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-R

Call or Email me for a free 15 minute consultation now - (516) 271-4162

Otylia 'tilly' McQuay

Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-R

Call or Email me for a free 15 minute consultation now - (516) 271-4162

Specialties and Expertise

Top Specialties

Anxiety
Trauma and PTSD
Codependency

Expertise

ADHD
Bisexual
Body Image
Borderline Personality (BPD)
Cancer
Complex PTSD (C-PTSD)
Coping Skills
Depression
Family Conflict
Impulse Control Disorders
Lesbian
LGBTQ+
Life Transitions
Men's Issues
Relationship Issues
Self Esteem
Self-Harming
Sexual Abuse
Stress
Suicidal Ideation
Survivors of Narcissistic abuse
Women's Issues

I work with anxiety, trauma, Complex PTSD, relationship issues, codependency, and the impact of emotionally immature or narcissistic caregivers. Treatment may include emotion regulation, boundary work, and exploring trauma roots. Clients often gain self-trust, reduced anxiety, and more balanced, healthier relationships.

Otylia 'tilly' McQuay

Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-R

Call or Email me for a free 15 minute consultation now - (516) 271-4162

Otylia 'tilly' McQuay

Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-R

Call or Email me for a free 15 minute consultation now - (516) 271-4162

8 Endorsements

Shaul Rabinowitz

Psychologist, PhD

Very professional, empathic, sensitive and skilled psychotherapist.

Simi Joseph

Psychiatric Nurse Practitioner, PMHNP, DNP

Mrs. Otylia 'tilly' McQuay has incredible skills and highly competent.

Cynthia Pyle

Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW, MSW

Tilly is a compassionate, knowledgeable therapist to whom I confidently refer patients.

Marta Laurette

Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-R

Otylia is a compassionate therapist and skilled in trauma work.

Cindy Ransom

Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT

Tilly is a warm and compassionate care provider who truly listens to her clients needs. I highly recommend her for anyone seeking support with understanding and overcoming any traumatic experiences.

Grace Colasacco, LMHC-D ,PLLC

Counselor, MSEd, LMHC-D, CCTP, PLLC

Tobi Zausner

Clinical Social Work/Therapist, PhD, LCSW

Nurtured Hearts Therapy by Jane Salzano, LCSW

Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-R

I have worked in the clinic with this therapist in the past. She is like a ray of warm sunshine. Tilly makes you feel that she is really listening to you, which makes her a great friend and an awesome clinician.

Client Focus

Age

Adults ,

Elders (65+)

Participants

Individuals

Communities

Bisexual Allied ,

Gay Allied ,

Immuno-disorders ,

Lesbian Allied ,

Non-Binary Allied ,

Queer Allied ,

Racial Justice Allied ,

Sex Worker Allied ,

Single Parent ,

Transgender Allied

I also speak

Polish

Age

Adults ,

Elders (65+)

Participants

Individuals

Communities

Bisexual Allied ,

Gay Allied ,

Immuno-disorders ,

Lesbian Allied ,

Non-Binary Allied ,

Queer Allied ,

Racial Justice Allied ,

Sex Worker Allied ,

Single Parent ,

Transgender Allied

I also speak

Polish

Treatment Approach

Types of Therapy

Acceptance and Commitment (ACT)
Attachment-based
Clinical Supervision and Licensed Supervisors
Cognitive Behavioral (CBT)
Compassion Focused
Dialectical Behavior (DBT)
Eclectic
Internal Family Systems (IFS)
Mindfulness-Based (MBCT)
Narrative
Psychodynamic
Relational
Strength-Based
Trauma Focused
Trauma-Informed Stabilization Treatment (TIST)

I often use DBT techniques along with ACT and mindfulness to help clients manage intense emotions, address relationship difficulties, and improve communication skills. I focus on creating a safe and trusting space for those facing past traumas who may feel overwhelmed about starting therapy. Above all, I aim to find what works best for each client and use a warm, hands-on approach.

Otylia 'tilly' McQuay

Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-R

Call or Email me for a free 15 minute consultation now - (516) 271-4162

Otylia 'tilly' McQuay

Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-R

Call or Email me for a free 15 minute consultation now - (516) 271-4162

Location

Primary Location

Telehealth Only

Merrick, NY 11566

(516) 271-4162

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Additional Location

New York, NY 10013

(516) 271-4162

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Offering telehealth therapy for anxiety, trauma, ADHD & C-PTSD, with tools to heal emotional wounds and build more peace and self-trust.

Otylia 'tilly' McQuay

Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-R

Call for a free consultation now - (516) 271-4162

Offering telehealth therapy for anxiety, trauma, ADHD & C-PTSD, with tools to heal emotional wounds and build more peace and self-trust.

Otylia 'tilly' McQuay

Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-R

Call for a free consultation now - (516) 271-4162

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