Emotionally Focused Therapists in Portland, OR

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Haley Blackman
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, MA
Verified Verified
Portland, OR 97239
I approach my work with clients from a systemic perspective and utilize my advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) to support healing, connection and mutuality.
Are you seeking more connected and fulfilling relationships? You can repair past hurts, co-create more positive communication cycles, and feel closer. I'd love to help you reconnect with yourself and the relationships that matter the most to you. We will explore where you feel stuck and work towards facilitating connection and relational equilibrium. I provide therapy for individuals, couples, and relationships from a collaborative, supportive place, helping you navigate life and find sustainable change.
I approach my work with clients from a systemic perspective and utilize my advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) to support healing, connection and mutuality.
Are you seeking more connected and fulfilling relationships? You can repair past hurts, co-create more positive communication cycles, and feel closer. I'd love to help you reconnect with yourself and the relationships that matter the most to you. We will explore where you feel stuck and work towards facilitating connection and relational equilibrium. I provide therapy for individuals, couples, and relationships from a collaborative, supportive place, helping you navigate life and find sustainable change.
(971) 265-6702 View (971) 265-6702
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Hanna Zipes Basel
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, MSW, LICSW, LADC, CST
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Portland, OR 97229  (Online Only)
I specialize in Emotionally Focused Therapy and Gottman Therapy.
Couples therapy is my passion. Given the chaos and the way in which human relationships are being undermined in our world today, I feel this work is particularly needed. As far as human happiness goes, I see time and time again that it is the quality of a person’s relationships that makes it or breaks it. This is really the foundation of my couples therapy practice. More than ever, the world needs couples who have each other’s backs, and can bring empathy and intelligent action into the world.
I specialize in Emotionally Focused Therapy and Gottman Therapy.
Couples therapy is my passion. Given the chaos and the way in which human relationships are being undermined in our world today, I feel this work is particularly needed. As far as human happiness goes, I see time and time again that it is the quality of a person’s relationships that makes it or breaks it. This is really the foundation of my couples therapy practice. More than ever, the world needs couples who have each other’s backs, and can bring empathy and intelligent action into the world.
(503) 300-2720 View (503) 300-2720
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Kristine Born
Licensed Professional Counselor, MA, MFT, LPC
Verified Verified
Portland, OR 97216
My interests and training are in Emotionally Focussed Therapy (EFT), Family Systems Therapy, Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), and Play Therapy.
I work with relationships-the dance between the Feminine and Masculine. My interactions with couples & families experiencing conflict, relationship challenges and recovering from wounds leaves them feeling a sense of renewal. My focus on the Feminine specifically aims to help women develop confidence to live the life they desire. I have cared for people experiencing a broad range of struggles including marital betrayal, depression, relationship conflict, decision-making, or grief. It is so important for me to hear the individuals I work with, help make sense of their world and give them valuable tools to make the changes they need.
My interests and training are in Emotionally Focussed Therapy (EFT), Family Systems Therapy, Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), and Play Therapy.
I work with relationships-the dance between the Feminine and Masculine. My interactions with couples & families experiencing conflict, relationship challenges and recovering from wounds leaves them feeling a sense of renewal. My focus on the Feminine specifically aims to help women develop confidence to live the life they desire. I have cared for people experiencing a broad range of struggles including marital betrayal, depression, relationship conflict, decision-making, or grief. It is so important for me to hear the individuals I work with, help make sense of their world and give them valuable tools to make the changes they need.
(360) 464-9116 View (360) 464-9116
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Carrie Sturrock
Pre-Licensed Professional, MS, NCC
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Portland, OR 97213
With partners, I use Emotionally Focused Therapy to explore adult attachments and the emotional subtext of reactive patterns to find new ways of engaging.
As a therapist, I help people connect to their inner strength to meet life’s challenges with creativity and compassion for the self and others using a mindfulness-based approach. My practice is rooted in understanding how our emotions show up in our relationships and inner world as well as somatically in our bodies. And how experience is shaped by the family, community and larger systems we’re a part of. Whether you’re feeling stressed, overwhelmed, anxious — or simply stuck — I offer a warm, nonjudgmental space to explore difficult emotions and challenging life issues.
With partners, I use Emotionally Focused Therapy to explore adult attachments and the emotional subtext of reactive patterns to find new ways of engaging.
As a therapist, I help people connect to their inner strength to meet life’s challenges with creativity and compassion for the self and others using a mindfulness-based approach. My practice is rooted in understanding how our emotions show up in our relationships and inner world as well as somatically in our bodies. And how experience is shaped by the family, community and larger systems we’re a part of. Whether you’re feeling stressed, overwhelmed, anxious — or simply stuck — I offer a warm, nonjudgmental space to explore difficult emotions and challenging life issues.
(971) 252-7017 View (971) 252-7017
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Counseling with Kyan
Licensed Professional Counselor, MA, LPC
Verified Verified
Portland, OR 97205  (Online Only)
I have great respect for each person’s individual process and employ multiple techniques to facilitate that discovery, including CBT and EFT.
It’s true, life can be painful and even very unfair. Your relationships might be struggling, your daily demands may seem overwhelming, your work may feel far more stressful than engaging, and you may be down on yourself. You may have any number of emotions including anxiety, anger, guilt, pessimism, boredom, regret, sadness, shame, and loneliness. Therapy can help you cope with difficult emotions and provide you with tools to improve your relationship with yourself and with others. My goal is to help you accept your whole being so that your best self can foster positive relationships and create a life of joy and purpose.
I have great respect for each person’s individual process and employ multiple techniques to facilitate that discovery, including CBT and EFT.
It’s true, life can be painful and even very unfair. Your relationships might be struggling, your daily demands may seem overwhelming, your work may feel far more stressful than engaging, and you may be down on yourself. You may have any number of emotions including anxiety, anger, guilt, pessimism, boredom, regret, sadness, shame, and loneliness. Therapy can help you cope with difficult emotions and provide you with tools to improve your relationship with yourself and with others. My goal is to help you accept your whole being so that your best self can foster positive relationships and create a life of joy and purpose.
(503) 210-9549 View (503) 210-9549
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Guy Burstein
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Portland, OR 97205
Waitlist for new clients
Only accepting group therapy referrals. In my experience, life is better and easier if you have someone that understands you, sees it from your point of view, and helps you navigate through it. A good therapist is like a fellow traveler who journeys with us into awareness, facilitating the insight necessary to heal and grow. I am a passionate facilitator of this process, helping my clients make sense of their lives and relationships, heal what's kept them stuck, explore new ways of being and live richly. The therapy we do is deep and has long-lasting effects, and the changes become your second nature, even after therapy ends.
Only accepting group therapy referrals. In my experience, life is better and easier if you have someone that understands you, sees it from your point of view, and helps you navigate through it. A good therapist is like a fellow traveler who journeys with us into awareness, facilitating the insight necessary to heal and grow. I am a passionate facilitator of this process, helping my clients make sense of their lives and relationships, heal what's kept them stuck, explore new ways of being and live richly. The therapy we do is deep and has long-lasting effects, and the changes become your second nature, even after therapy ends.
(503) 567-2842 View (503) 567-2842
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Sophia Kukladyer
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Portland, OR 97210
I have completed Level One Gottman Method Couples Therapy and an Externship in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy.
I love relationships, connection, and the feeling you get when you are able to truly connect with others. This passion has driven me to found a practice where I specialize in working with individuals, couples, and families on relationship issues. If you are struggling in your marriage, wanting more emotional connection, or finding yourself constantly arguing with loved ones, I can help.
I have completed Level One Gottman Method Couples Therapy and an Externship in Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy.
I love relationships, connection, and the feeling you get when you are able to truly connect with others. This passion has driven me to found a practice where I specialize in working with individuals, couples, and families on relationship issues. If you are struggling in your marriage, wanting more emotional connection, or finding yourself constantly arguing with loved ones, I can help.
(971) 339-0581 View (971) 339-0581
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Percy Hawkes
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
Portland, OR 97202
In addition to marriage & family therapy, I'm trained in Sex Therapy, Attachment, EMDR (trauma work), Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples, the Mythopoetic men's movement, Sensate Focus & Surrogate Partner Therapy.
Get better, heal, and integrate. My role is to help you become your fullest version of yourself. My ideal clients are ready to look at new ways of encountering old problems. I enjoy working with many identities, including my own LGBTQIA+ and Latinx communities. Relationships, sexuality, identity, trauma, anxiety, kink, and neurodiversity are recurrent therapy themes. At times in our lives it is key to have the competent support of an advocate to walk through tough life experiences. I see individuals, relationships, and groups.
In addition to marriage & family therapy, I'm trained in Sex Therapy, Attachment, EMDR (trauma work), Emotionally Focused Therapy for couples, the Mythopoetic men's movement, Sensate Focus & Surrogate Partner Therapy.
Get better, heal, and integrate. My role is to help you become your fullest version of yourself. My ideal clients are ready to look at new ways of encountering old problems. I enjoy working with many identities, including my own LGBTQIA+ and Latinx communities. Relationships, sexuality, identity, trauma, anxiety, kink, and neurodiversity are recurrent therapy themes. At times in our lives it is key to have the competent support of an advocate to walk through tough life experiences. I see individuals, relationships, and groups.
(503) 461-8651 View (503) 461-8651
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Caryn Zaner
Psychologist, PsyD
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Portland, OR 97214  (Online Only)
Open for 1:1, couples, and group! Therapy for the apocalypse: specializing in anxieties, existential overwhelm, improving relationships and boundaries, and exploration of identities. I prioritize Queer/TGNC individuals and those impacted by systemic racism, misogyny, and socio-political issues. I work with people who consider themselves perfectionists, overthinkers, people-pleasers; loners, weirdos; people told they are "too difficult," "too sensitive," "too much;" those who want to connect with others but feel unable to due to past hurt or current negative narratives about themselves.
Open for 1:1, couples, and group! Therapy for the apocalypse: specializing in anxieties, existential overwhelm, improving relationships and boundaries, and exploration of identities. I prioritize Queer/TGNC individuals and those impacted by systemic racism, misogyny, and socio-political issues. I work with people who consider themselves perfectionists, overthinkers, people-pleasers; loners, weirdos; people told they are "too difficult," "too sensitive," "too much;" those who want to connect with others but feel unable to due to past hurt or current negative narratives about themselves.
(503) 773-5487 View (503) 773-5487
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Emily Smith
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate, MA
Verified Verified
4 Endorsed
Portland, OR 97202
My integrative approach incorporates Attachment & Emotionally Focused Therapy, Narrative Therapy, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, IFS, eco-therapy, and mindfulness techniques.
There are a rich tapestry of experiences that have led you to this point in your life and shaped the way you cope with challenges, stress, and discontentment. When you feel stuck, I can help you nurture self-acceptance and find ways to move forward. Clients come to me for help managing anxiety, exploring identity, processing relationship issues and patterns, healing from religious trauma, coping with grief and loss, and unpacking the impact of addiction within relationships. Each person I work with is unique, and I will meet you where you are with warmth, understanding, and insight.
My integrative approach incorporates Attachment & Emotionally Focused Therapy, Narrative Therapy, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, IFS, eco-therapy, and mindfulness techniques.
There are a rich tapestry of experiences that have led you to this point in your life and shaped the way you cope with challenges, stress, and discontentment. When you feel stuck, I can help you nurture self-acceptance and find ways to move forward. Clients come to me for help managing anxiety, exploring identity, processing relationship issues and patterns, healing from religious trauma, coping with grief and loss, and unpacking the impact of addiction within relationships. Each person I work with is unique, and I will meet you where you are with warmth, understanding, and insight.
(971) 715-0580 View (971) 715-0580
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Alyssa (Aleesa) Nagel-Wild
Licensed Professional Counselor, EdS, MA, LPC
Verified Verified
Portland, OR 97205  (Online Only)
Currently accepting limited individual clients for telehealth in Missouri and Oregon. I specialize in the areas of relationship and attachment issues, later-in-life autism diagnoses (or suspected autism), difficult life experiences, depression, and anxiety, ENM/polyamory, and exploring existence/spirituality. I am Queer welcoming, sex positive, and ENM relationship experienced. I work with ages 18+. I believe firmly in the power of radical acceptance. Whatever the experience may be...noticing, accepting, expressing, and finding true choice helps us get underneath the symptoms to facilitate true growth and empowerment.
Currently accepting limited individual clients for telehealth in Missouri and Oregon. I specialize in the areas of relationship and attachment issues, later-in-life autism diagnoses (or suspected autism), difficult life experiences, depression, and anxiety, ENM/polyamory, and exploring existence/spirituality. I am Queer welcoming, sex positive, and ENM relationship experienced. I work with ages 18+. I believe firmly in the power of radical acceptance. Whatever the experience may be...noticing, accepting, expressing, and finding true choice helps us get underneath the symptoms to facilitate true growth and empowerment.
(971) 298-8069 View (971) 298-8069
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Central Oregon Family Therapy
Marriage & Family Therapist Associate
Verified Verified
Portland, OR 97220
I work with individuals, couples and families to address relational issues, such as difficulty connecting, decreased intimacy, maladaptive coping skills from childhood attachment, anxiety, depression, and more. I am trained to think systemically, and not pathologically. My work with you will reflect a culturally sensitive approach, and I will utilize Emotionally Focused Therapy and mindfulness techniques. I believe that our attachments from childhood impact our ability to show up in our adult relationships.
I work with individuals, couples and families to address relational issues, such as difficulty connecting, decreased intimacy, maladaptive coping skills from childhood attachment, anxiety, depression, and more. I am trained to think systemically, and not pathologically. My work with you will reflect a culturally sensitive approach, and I will utilize Emotionally Focused Therapy and mindfulness techniques. I believe that our attachments from childhood impact our ability to show up in our adult relationships.
(503) 486-3445 View (503) 486-3445
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Anne M Thompson
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW, LICSW
Verified Verified
Portland, OR 97212
My approach combines emotionally focused approaches, cognitive behavioral methods and an attachment perspective.
When life presents challenges to your mental health or relationships there is an opportunity for resourcefulness, resilience and hope. Working with me is one way to find your path forward through difficult times. It takes courage to seek a more fulfilling and happier life and take the first steps forward toward change
My approach combines emotionally focused approaches, cognitive behavioral methods and an attachment perspective.
When life presents challenges to your mental health or relationships there is an opportunity for resourcefulness, resilience and hope. Working with me is one way to find your path forward through difficult times. It takes courage to seek a more fulfilling and happier life and take the first steps forward toward change
(503) 749-9086 View (503) 749-9086
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Benita K Bellrichard Munson
Licensed Professional Counselor, MS, LPC, CRC, CADC I
Verified Verified
5 Endorsed
Portland, OR 97221
My passion is to help people have more fulfilling relationships. When we are in conflict with others, it often feels easier to walk away or shut down. I am EFT couples trained, as well as trained in PACT Level 1 neurobiology for couples. Both therapies are evidence based n helping people improve communication and reduce relational distress. I am experienced in working with same sex relationships, addictions, and can help with divorce support, boundaries, and parenting issues as well. I am also EMDR trained and certified, which is an evidence based therapy for trauma.
My passion is to help people have more fulfilling relationships. When we are in conflict with others, it often feels easier to walk away or shut down. I am EFT couples trained, as well as trained in PACT Level 1 neurobiology for couples. Both therapies are evidence based n helping people improve communication and reduce relational distress. I am experienced in working with same sex relationships, addictions, and can help with divorce support, boundaries, and parenting issues as well. I am also EMDR trained and certified, which is an evidence based therapy for trauma.
(971) 299-2874 View (971) 299-2874
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Stacey Nixon
Counselor, MS, LPC, LMHC
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Portland, OR 97219
I use EMDR to treat trauma and EFT to guide my work with couples.
Currently accepting new clients. We all can get stuck. Trauma, life stressors, uncomfortable emotions, and relationship concerns can throw us off balance. Do you feel constantly stressed, disconnected from your partner, or the impacts of trauma? The weight of these challenges can take a toll on your daily life and overall wellness. You may feel ready to process your trauma and find healing. Or maybe, you yearn for a closer connection and effective communication in your relationship. You may also desire the capacity to cope with stressors and find fulfillment in life. This is where counseling can offer support and relief.
I use EMDR to treat trauma and EFT to guide my work with couples.
Currently accepting new clients. We all can get stuck. Trauma, life stressors, uncomfortable emotions, and relationship concerns can throw us off balance. Do you feel constantly stressed, disconnected from your partner, or the impacts of trauma? The weight of these challenges can take a toll on your daily life and overall wellness. You may feel ready to process your trauma and find healing. Or maybe, you yearn for a closer connection and effective communication in your relationship. You may also desire the capacity to cope with stressors and find fulfillment in life. This is where counseling can offer support and relief.
(503) 217-6644 View (503) 217-6644
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Anjana Rajan
Pre-Licensed Professional, CWSA
Verified Verified
Portland, OR 97212  (Online Only)
If you have come this far, I believe it is a huge step and shows a lot of courage. The ability to want to work on oneself and show vulnerability is a big step towards the path of change. Therapy is a form of caring for oneself, safe space and way to self realization. I like to work with individuals and couples from various diverse and ethnic backgrounds. I like to utilize strengths based and Emotional focused therapy (EFT) to build deeper and meaningful changes.
If you have come this far, I believe it is a huge step and shows a lot of courage. The ability to want to work on oneself and show vulnerability is a big step towards the path of change. Therapy is a form of caring for oneself, safe space and way to self realization. I like to work with individuals and couples from various diverse and ethnic backgrounds. I like to utilize strengths based and Emotional focused therapy (EFT) to build deeper and meaningful changes.
(971) 251-1146 View (971) 251-1146
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Carly Rubin
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Portland, OR 97209  (Online Only)
I have advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), which shares this attachment perspective.
We all have places in our lives where we feel stuck, disconnected, or out of balance. I strive to create an environment where couples, individuals, and families can feel supported and heard. I invite you to deepen your understanding of yourself and your relationships through my experiential, attachment-based approach.
I have advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), which shares this attachment perspective.
We all have places in our lives where we feel stuck, disconnected, or out of balance. I strive to create an environment where couples, individuals, and families can feel supported and heard. I invite you to deepen your understanding of yourself and your relationships through my experiential, attachment-based approach.
(503) 386-0280 View (503) 386-0280
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Dr. Shagun Pawar
Psychologist, PsyD
Verified Verified
Portland, OR 97239
I work with adults using the lens of complex trauma to help bring awareness into how one’s past may have shaped maladaptive behaviors of their present that could be causing life to be stressful and overwhelming. At the core of my work, I promote improving the relationship with oneself to maintain long-term healing. Patients who are motivated to improve their relationships, assertive communication and boundary setting skills, and develop a deeper understanding of themselves would be a good fit for the treatments I provide. I use CBT, attachment theory, inner-child work, some components of IFS, and EFT in my work.
I work with adults using the lens of complex trauma to help bring awareness into how one’s past may have shaped maladaptive behaviors of their present that could be causing life to be stressful and overwhelming. At the core of my work, I promote improving the relationship with oneself to maintain long-term healing. Patients who are motivated to improve their relationships, assertive communication and boundary setting skills, and develop a deeper understanding of themselves would be a good fit for the treatments I provide. I use CBT, attachment theory, inner-child work, some components of IFS, and EFT in my work.
(971) 306-4933 View (971) 306-4933
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Greg Arbo
Psychologist, PsyD
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Portland, OR 97239
I have sought out specialized training mindfulness-based therapies including ACT, somatic therapy, CBT, and EFT.
It's a pleasure to have the opportunity to support the wellbeing of teens and families, adult men, and couples. My specialties as a psychologist include anxiety, men's health, trauma, family of origin, Autism, ADHD, and self-esteem. My focus with teens is often on tackling academic, athletic, or relational stressors through understanding how to navigate thoughts and feelings. With couples, I enjoy the process of enhancing closeness through empathic, emotion-focused communication. I'm also passionate about supporting adult men in developing tools to manage stress and anxiety.
I have sought out specialized training mindfulness-based therapies including ACT, somatic therapy, CBT, and EFT.
It's a pleasure to have the opportunity to support the wellbeing of teens and families, adult men, and couples. My specialties as a psychologist include anxiety, men's health, trauma, family of origin, Autism, ADHD, and self-esteem. My focus with teens is often on tackling academic, athletic, or relational stressors through understanding how to navigate thoughts and feelings. With couples, I enjoy the process of enhancing closeness through empathic, emotion-focused communication. I'm also passionate about supporting adult men in developing tools to manage stress and anxiety.
(971) 276-1041 View (971) 276-1041
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Congruent Therapy: Brynn Shaver
Pre-Licensed Professional, LPC-A
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Portland, OR 97214  (Online Only)
My counseling approach is highly client-driven and eclectic, drawing from various therapeutic modalities including Narrative Therapy, Parts Work, Emotionally Focused Therapy, Solution-Focused Therapy, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), and Motivational Interviewing (MI).
Greetings! I'm Brynn Shaver, a dedicated Licensed Professional Counselor Associate, originally hailing from Asheville, North Carolina, now nestled in the beautiful landscapes of Bend, Oregon. My professional journey has been deeply influenced by my own experiences with eating disorders, religious trauma, relationship trauma, and a journey of identity exploration. These experiences have shaped my understanding of the complexities of the human experience and have motivated me to pursue a career in therapy. Through my personal struggles and identity exploration, I've gained invaluable insights into the challenges individuals face.
My counseling approach is highly client-driven and eclectic, drawing from various therapeutic modalities including Narrative Therapy, Parts Work, Emotionally Focused Therapy, Solution-Focused Therapy, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT), and Motivational Interviewing (MI).
Greetings! I'm Brynn Shaver, a dedicated Licensed Professional Counselor Associate, originally hailing from Asheville, North Carolina, now nestled in the beautiful landscapes of Bend, Oregon. My professional journey has been deeply influenced by my own experiences with eating disorders, religious trauma, relationship trauma, and a journey of identity exploration. These experiences have shaped my understanding of the complexities of the human experience and have motivated me to pursue a career in therapy. Through my personal struggles and identity exploration, I've gained invaluable insights into the challenges individuals face.
(503) 744-5838 View (503) 744-5838
Emotionally Focused Therapists

Who is emotionally focused therapy for?

Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) is for couples who are emotionally distressed, stuck in an unsatisfying relationship pattern or feeling deeply alienated. They may even believe the relationship is beyond repair. Very often, the partners display intense anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal in the relationship. In addition, EFT is helpful to couples and individuals who have difficulty expressing emotions and those who have trouble regulating emotions.

Why do people need emotionally focused therapy?

People need emotionally focused therapy because the need for others is built into the brain, but the pressures of daily life can erode feelings of love, and couples often do not have the skills to find their way back to the comfort of each other. Instead, they may be stuck in repetitive patterns of anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal. Emotionally focused therapy regards such strong negative feelings as expressions of protest over the loss of connection and turns them into pathways of reconnection.

What happens in emotionally focused therapy?

Over the course of eight to 20 weekly sessions, couples de-escalate their negative emotional reactivity to one another so that they can listen to each other and be responsive to each other’s needs. Then the deep emotional and physical bond is restored, giving partners a sense of comfort and security, which they can use to solve whatever problems come their way. The therapist plays an active role, helping partners understand how anger and withdrawal are actually misguided cries for connection.

What problems does emotionally focused therapy treat?

EFT is designed to help couples stuck in dysfunctional relationship patterns regain closeness and rebuild their relationship. Typically, such couples experience considerable distress, with partners feeling alienated and distrustful of one another, not certain their relationship can survive. EFT is also helpful to individuals experiencing attachment-related fears of loss; it helps them learn to use their fears as a way of eliciting the closeness they desire.