Teletherapy for California

Mike Lubofsky, Licensed Therapist and Attorney • My ideal client is highly intelligent, intellectually curious, and sincerely open to change. My work as a therapist is a deep calling and the challenging exploration of psychological and existential issues with clients often leads to profound emotionally corrective experiences with clients. Many clients, including lawyers, have "checked all the boxes" and have hit a wall of frustration and dissatisfaction. I have navigated those profound challenges and my life's work is to help others find their authentic paths.

Therapy is guided self-exploration. Often, we repeat patterns because the emotional wounds suffered as children are being replayed in our adult life. We have a subconscious fear of experiencing feelings of abandonment and this drives codependent patterns of relating. Repeated neglect of yourself to get validation from an external being is the definition of codependency. You can break this cycle of trauma bonding and devote yourself to YOU.

I am not a typical therapist. I see myself as a co-author, witness, helpful ally, teammate, collaborator and useful resource. Rather than taking a role as an “expert” by making assumptions or interpretations about your life, I love to use skillful conversation and artful question-asking to help you get past obstacles and problems. You are here on this page because you have strength in you, you have desire in you and you have healing in you. You are the main character in your own life. Therapy can either help or hinder the development of this character as someone powerful, capable and whole.

With over 25 years of working with adolescents and adults, my therapy style is authentic, empowering, strength based, compassionate, creative and fun. I am particularly skilled in working with trauma, managing strong emotions, and living with ADHD, Autism or Learning Disabilities. I enjoy supporting those looking for more purpose, self understanding, direction, peace, creativity or perspective. I have a great deal of experience working in multicultural and LGBTQ+ supportive contexts. I feel especially inspired by working with young adults because finding one’s own way in life is hard, exciting and full of possibilities.

I offer couples & individuals opportunity to heal difficult communications, overwhelming emotions and painful trauma, I borrow practices from several spiritual traditions, Native American, Buddhist, & Hindu; integrating them with cutting-edge coaching, energetic training, and shamanic practices to offer you a profound approach to personal growth, emotional intimacy and spiritual development. I support couples in finding a joyous sacred intimacy through the healing of their emotional, physical and spiritual pain. For individuals, I guide you in the deep knowing of yourself for emotional, mental and spiritual growth and awakening.

I believe healing is possible, and there is a path back to your truest self. The pain of life’s stressful, traumatic, and mental or physical health experiences might nudge you to mask, lash out, shut down, or use other creative strategies to survive. I’ve found that cultivating self-compassion and curious attention toward painful experience gradually gives way to spaciousness, growth, and peace. I welcome adults, teens, and children from all walks of life, including LGBTQIA+, BIPOC, and neurodiverse (Autism, ADHD, Highly Sensitive, etc) identities.

Feeling overwhelmed by life's complexities? You're not alone. Many people seek therapy to overcome anxiety, depression, trauma, or relationship/intimacy challenges. They also yearn to build a more fulfilling and authentic life. Whether you're a couple facing communication issues, an individual struggling with self-esteem, or a family desiring deeper connections, I can help.

My work as a therapist is to meet each individual in her own process with understanding and compassion. My background is in family systems, Jungian psychology, art, and Buddhist practice. I specialize in treating clients who are experiencing anxiety, depression, grief, and/or trauma and those who may have suffered for some time without relief. Depth therapy often includes work with dreams, EMDR, art, and sand tray. I enjoy working with people from diverse cultures and orientations. As a supervisor for 25 years, I also enjoy working with interns on their way to licensure. Buddhist mindfulness practice informs my life and work.

I would describe my therapeutic approach as empathetic, compassionate, non-judgmental, embodied, and collaborative. I draw from a variety of models to meet clients where they are. I provide a humanistic, relational psychodynamic perspective that offers space to explore how past experiences shape present patterns of relating to others and the self.

There are elements to all of us that are hidden and unknown until we encounter right timing. It is important to uncover these secret parts of self, yearning to be discovered, with the right support. A few things you should know about what it's like to work with me: My style is warm, witty, compassionate + forthcoming. I value transparency, kindness, justice + joy. I'm directive when called for + I like to challenge my clients to go deep. I draw from my own experience of trauma + healing.

You are feeling like life is full of chaos and no matter what you do, you can’t seem to get a handle on what is happening. Your relationships are broken, or strained and not only is it affecting you, but others are pulling away. You feel lost as if you have no purpose in life. You are tired of the spinning wheel. Depression, anxiety, anger, relationship challenges and much more keep you stuck and unable to grow. ENOUGH! You're ready for answers to start a new Holistic, healthy journey and become that whole person you were meant to be - Mentally, emotionally, physically and spiritually - whole!

My style is active, empowering, solution-focused, down-to-earth, non-judgmental, and humorous. My approach is collaborative — we'll work together to help identify and reach your goals. I welcome an open dialogue to create the best therapy for you as an individual. I see the immense strength, value, and potential for self-growth in each of my clients.

I provide depth therapy for adults navigating life challenges and relationships. I hold degrees from Northwestern and Cambridge and have clinical expertise in: ADHD, addiction, anxiety, chronic illness, depression, grief, marriage/dating, men's issues, self-esteem, and trauma. I have a special passion for working with LGBTQ folks and men. In our therapy, I stand right beside you exploring complex issues and growing your personal edges. You don't have to go it alone.

If you are struggling with PTSD and anxiety, ruminating thoughts and worries, reliving negative experiences, avoiding familiar places and activities, or feel directionless or hopeless towards the future, please take the first step towards healing and contact me. Thank you

Congrats, you've taken a brave step toward attaining the life you want! Do you miss when your relationship felt closer or easier? Do you or your partner struggle as teammates because of ADHD getting in the way? Perhaps you are going through fertility treatments & it all feels like a lot? Communication issues? I work with all kinds of issues & specialize in couples counseling, though I work individually, too. What sets me apart is I was trained as a Clinical Psychologist (Doctor of Psychology) & have completed research in, as well as extensively trained in, marriage, stress, & couples therapy. I'm also bilingual (Sp-Eng) & a parent.

Are past traumatic experiences, being an adult child of a dysfunctional home, incest survival experiences, addiction issues, phobia, panic, anxiety, C-PTSD or depression affecting your success? Are distractions impacting your optimal performance abilities at work, in your intimate relationships, or in relationships with family members or with yourself? Are you surviving instead of thriving? I provide accelerated psychotherapy for individuals and couples who are challenged by performance loss and emotional unhappiness. Also offer Diagnosis evaluation for addiction, mood, personality, and adult Autism spectrum. HSP and Kink friendly.

“The privilege of a lifetime is to become who you truly are.” ― C.G. Jung. I specialize in helping creatives and high-performing individuals in their 20s and 30s navigate emotional challenges, major life changes, and live their most authentic lives. I address issues that include: Isolation and Loneliness, Grief and Loss, Existential Crises, Values Clarification (i.e. figuring out “what matters”), Navigating Life Transitions (e.g. College to Career, Parenting)l, Anxiety and Depression, Communication Breakdown, Creative Block, Career Gridlock and Relationship Challenges. I also specialize in Men's Issues.

Working with a very experienced therapist makes a difference! When you know you need to take action, but can't get yourself to do it, I'll help you get it done. Anxiety, Codependency, Affairs, Trauma, Depression? Recovering and 12 stepper? We will explore effective ways to navigate through your obstacles. +Do you need a psych eval in a rush? +Personal injury case? +Accident? +Animal bite? Let me help you restore your sanity and get you unstuck. Enough talking, let's do it!

We’re finding ourselves living in a fragmented world, trying to hold it together when the nature of things is to fall apart. How can we feel whole within so much fragmentation? The big questions arise: Who am I now? What matters to me? How do I enliven myself within these restrictions? We are all grieving, mourning lost friends, illusions of safety, illusions of control and predictability, opportunities gone that will never return. Are you sadder? Sadder and wiser but more adrift? Are past traumas holding you back? Right now is the time to get more support as you grapple with your life's meaning and purpose.