Schema Therapy in New York, NY
Kaylene Graffitti
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
2 Endorsed
Online Only
Waitlist for new clients
As a trauma therapist, my primary passion is helping individuals heal from complex traumas. My clinical focus is working with clients who have experienced sexual abuse or assault, attachment and developmental trauma, clients who struggle with dissociation and Dissociative Disorders/DID, or cPTSD caused by other traumas throughout the lifespan. If you're struggling with a complex trauma history, I will work alongside you to help you cope with these challenging experiences and manage the overwhelming emotions that typically accompany them.
As a trauma therapist, my primary passion is helping individuals heal from complex traumas. My clinical focus is working with clients who have experienced sexual abuse or assault, attachment and developmental trauma, clients who struggle with dissociation and Dissociative Disorders/DID, or cPTSD caused by other traumas throughout the lifespan. If you're struggling with a complex trauma history, I will work alongside you to help you cope with these challenging experiences and manage the overwhelming emotions that typically accompany them.
I draw primarily from cognitive and dialectical behavior therapies, schema therapy, and a humanistic perspective.
I work best with individuals who are feeling stuck, overwhelmed, emotionally exhausted, or caught in patterns that no longer serve them. Many of my clients may struggle with anxiety, depression, relationship difficulties, emotion regulation, self-criticism, or longstanding patterns rooted in earlier life experiences. They are often looking not only for symptom relief, but also for a deeper understanding of themselves and a more meaningful, balanced way of living. In therapy, my goal is to help clients slow down and make sense of the patterns, beliefs, and emotional experiences that may be keeping them stuck.
I draw primarily from cognitive and dialectical behavior therapies, schema therapy, and a humanistic perspective.
I work best with individuals who are feeling stuck, overwhelmed, emotionally exhausted, or caught in patterns that no longer serve them. Many of my clients may struggle with anxiety, depression, relationship difficulties, emotion regulation, self-criticism, or longstanding patterns rooted in earlier life experiences. They are often looking not only for symptom relief, but also for a deeper understanding of themselves and a more meaningful, balanced way of living. In therapy, my goal is to help clients slow down and make sense of the patterns, beliefs, and emotional experiences that may be keeping them stuck.
Feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or just not like yourself lately? I’m a Licensed Mental Health Counselor in New York, Florida, and New Jersey. As a woman of color and immigrant, I get how culture, family, and identity can complicate life and relationships. I work with individuals and couples dealing with anxiety, grief, stress, life changes, or feeling disconnected. You don’t have to navigate it alone—therapy can help you feel more in control and connected to who you are. Ready to talk?
Feeling stuck, overwhelmed, or just not like yourself lately? I’m a Licensed Mental Health Counselor in New York, Florida, and New Jersey. As a woman of color and immigrant, I get how culture, family, and identity can complicate life and relationships. I work with individuals and couples dealing with anxiety, grief, stress, life changes, or feeling disconnected. You don’t have to navigate it alone—therapy can help you feel more in control and connected to who you are. Ready to talk?
I believe therapy means making you feel deeply known and accepted. My approach centers on harnessing your unique strengths in building the bridge between where you are and where you want to be. I'd like to help you understand your emotional concerns from a perspective of humanistic compassion; that your younger self did your best to cope by what very limited options were available to you. The process of understanding yourself with compassion and learning new ways of being in the world isn't always easy, but I'll be with you every step of the way.
I believe therapy means making you feel deeply known and accepted. My approach centers on harnessing your unique strengths in building the bridge between where you are and where you want to be. I'd like to help you understand your emotional concerns from a perspective of humanistic compassion; that your younger self did your best to cope by what very limited options were available to you. The process of understanding yourself with compassion and learning new ways of being in the world isn't always easy, but I'll be with you every step of the way.
My approach is collaborative and relational, taking into consideration that every individual's challenges are unique and require a customized approach.
I am currently recruiting for a virtual Perimenopause Process Group starting Spring of 2026.
My approach is collaborative and relational, taking into consideration that every individual's challenges are unique and require a customized approach.
I am currently recruiting for a virtual Perimenopause Process Group starting Spring of 2026.
I blend my experience as a founder of schema therapy, an advanced form of cognitive therapy, with skills I have learned from master therapists over the years.
I am an experienced clinical psychologist practicing in Manhattan and Valatie I also do online sessions from all over New York State. I specialize in individual and couples therapy and in gay group therapy . A founder of modern cognitive therapy, I help you identify and change the negative self-talk that limits you. Known as a warm and strong leader who moves quickly to the heart of a problem, I also have a great sense of humor and am playful. My specialities include helping people deal with a lack of belonging, anxiety, feeling stuck or discouraged, and those who are struggling with creating satisfying relationships.
I blend my experience as a founder of schema therapy, an advanced form of cognitive therapy, with skills I have learned from master therapists over the years.
I am an experienced clinical psychologist practicing in Manhattan and Valatie I also do online sessions from all over New York State. I specialize in individual and couples therapy and in gay group therapy . A founder of modern cognitive therapy, I help you identify and change the negative self-talk that limits you. Known as a warm and strong leader who moves quickly to the heart of a problem, I also have a great sense of humor and am playful. My specialities include helping people deal with a lack of belonging, anxiety, feeling stuck or discouraged, and those who are struggling with creating satisfying relationships.
On the outside, you may be keeping it all together; work, family, responsibilities. On the inside, it can feel very different: drinking or gambling more than you’d like, living with constant anxiety, or feeling worn down by big life changes. You’ve managed so much already, but the same patterns keep pulling you back.
Therapy gives you a space to work through without judgment, to make sense of what’s happening, and to discover healthier ways forward. Progress isn’t about being perfect-it’s about building small changes that add up over time. You don’t have to figure this out alone. I welcome you, regardless of where you’re starting.
On the outside, you may be keeping it all together; work, family, responsibilities. On the inside, it can feel very different: drinking or gambling more than you’d like, living with constant anxiety, or feeling worn down by big life changes. You’ve managed so much already, but the same patterns keep pulling you back.
Therapy gives you a space to work through without judgment, to make sense of what’s happening, and to discover healthier ways forward. Progress isn’t about being perfect-it’s about building small changes that add up over time. You don’t have to figure this out alone. I welcome you, regardless of where you’re starting.
Many of us struggle not only with emotional pain, but with a quiet sense of facing it alone—without feeling fully understood or soothed by close others. I am a licensed clinical psychologist and Professor of Clinical Psychology at Long Island University, where I train and supervise doctoral-level psychologists. I provide attachment-informed psychotherapy for youth, adults, and couples seeking in-depth work on emotional and relationship difficulties.
Many of us struggle not only with emotional pain, but with a quiet sense of facing it alone—without feeling fully understood or soothed by close others. I am a licensed clinical psychologist and Professor of Clinical Psychology at Long Island University, where I train and supervise doctoral-level psychologists. I provide attachment-informed psychotherapy for youth, adults, and couples seeking in-depth work on emotional and relationship difficulties.
Many of the men I work with feel pressure to keep everything together while quietly carrying stress, anxiety, relationship struggles, or loneliness. Therapy can offer a place to speak honestly about what’s really going on and begin moving forward with greater clarity and confidence. I work particularly well with men who want a space to think more clearly about their lives, relationships, identity, and the expectations they carry. From the outside things may look stable or successful, but internally many people feel stuck, overwhelmed, disconnected, or unsure about the next step.
Many of the men I work with feel pressure to keep everything together while quietly carrying stress, anxiety, relationship struggles, or loneliness. Therapy can offer a place to speak honestly about what’s really going on and begin moving forward with greater clarity and confidence. I work particularly well with men who want a space to think more clearly about their lives, relationships, identity, and the expectations they carry. From the outside things may look stable or successful, but internally many people feel stuck, overwhelmed, disconnected, or unsure about the next step.
Most of the men I work with don’t look like they’re struggling. You’re successful, capable, and used to handling things on your own. But underneath that, something isn’t working your relationships feel strained, you’re more shut down than you want to be, or anger and distance are costing you more than you’d like to admit.
I specialize in helping high-performing men step out of the patterns that keep them disconnected from their partners, families, and themselves, while navigating anxiety, stress, sex/intimacy concerns, and the pressure to keep it together while still showing up fully in their lives. Therapy with me is not passive.
Most of the men I work with don’t look like they’re struggling. You’re successful, capable, and used to handling things on your own. But underneath that, something isn’t working your relationships feel strained, you’re more shut down than you want to be, or anger and distance are costing you more than you’d like to admit.
I specialize in helping high-performing men step out of the patterns that keep them disconnected from their partners, families, and themselves, while navigating anxiety, stress, sex/intimacy concerns, and the pressure to keep it together while still showing up fully in their lives. Therapy with me is not passive.
If you’re feeling anxious, stuck, or overwhelmed, I help adults in New York state navigate anxiety, OCD, stress, and life transitions using practical, results-driven, evidence-based therapy. I specialize in treating anxiety and obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), with advanced training in structured, evidence-based approaches from an inpatient setting. My background in mental health crisis management, emergency medicine, and work with incarcerated youth in New York City allows me to support clients through both everyday stress and high-intensity challenges with clarity, structure, and compassion.”
If you’re feeling anxious, stuck, or overwhelmed, I help adults in New York state navigate anxiety, OCD, stress, and life transitions using practical, results-driven, evidence-based therapy. I specialize in treating anxiety and obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD), with advanced training in structured, evidence-based approaches from an inpatient setting. My background in mental health crisis management, emergency medicine, and work with incarcerated youth in New York City allows me to support clients through both everyday stress and high-intensity challenges with clarity, structure, and compassion.”
I am an easy to relate to therapist with 10+ years of experience who has an uncanny ability to balance warmth and validation with being genuine and direct. I will collaborate with you to determine the way of relating, therapeutic style, and specific therapy interventions that make you feel most comfortable and are the most successful. I will use my expert training and education, using a growth oriented approach, to help you recover from depression, manage anxiety, improve your relationships (work, family, friendships, and romantic), and cope with general life stressors.
I am an easy to relate to therapist with 10+ years of experience who has an uncanny ability to balance warmth and validation with being genuine and direct. I will collaborate with you to determine the way of relating, therapeutic style, and specific therapy interventions that make you feel most comfortable and are the most successful. I will use my expert training and education, using a growth oriented approach, to help you recover from depression, manage anxiety, improve your relationships (work, family, friendships, and romantic), and cope with general life stressors.
You look like you have it together, but often awaken at 3 am feeling anxious and panicky. and replaying conversations. You long for more connection in relationships and meaning in your life but feel paralyzed. I understand how difficult it can be to find personal meaning amidst the high pressures of modern life. After working as a lawyer in NYC, I know firsthand how work stress and achievement can eclipse what brings you joy and contentment. In therapy, I help individuals and couples slow down, reconnect with themselves and others, and discover a way forward.
You look like you have it together, but often awaken at 3 am feeling anxious and panicky. and replaying conversations. You long for more connection in relationships and meaning in your life but feel paralyzed. I understand how difficult it can be to find personal meaning amidst the high pressures of modern life. After working as a lawyer in NYC, I know firsthand how work stress and achievement can eclipse what brings you joy and contentment. In therapy, I help individuals and couples slow down, reconnect with themselves and others, and discover a way forward.
I have extensive experience with Psychodynamic therapy and Schema therapy.
Do you struggle with relationships/dating, career, family, loneliness? Unfulfilling relationships, substance use, depression/anxiety and career challenges are often the catalysts that bring many people to my practice. While painful, these motivators to therapy can lead to lasting change. It is my strong belief that it is the relationship or therapeutic alliance between client and therapist that ultimately heals. I conduct psychotherapy through a LGBTQ-affirmative and a culturally humble framework.
I have extensive experience with Psychodynamic therapy and Schema therapy.
Do you struggle with relationships/dating, career, family, loneliness? Unfulfilling relationships, substance use, depression/anxiety and career challenges are often the catalysts that bring many people to my practice. While painful, these motivators to therapy can lead to lasting change. It is my strong belief that it is the relationship or therapeutic alliance between client and therapist that ultimately heals. I conduct psychotherapy through a LGBTQ-affirmative and a culturally humble framework.
Take a breath. You are in the right place. Major life changes, both planned and unexpected, professional pressures, and relationship conflicts can leave anyone feeling stuck. When stress peaks, it can be difficult to see your options clearly amid emotional noise and confusion. Generic advice rarely works for nuanced lives. You need an individualized, thoughtful partnership.
I offer a highly private, warm, and non-judgmental environment where you can drop the mask and speak honestly. Together, we look at the patterns holding you back and build the practical tools you need to move forward with confidence.
Take a breath. You are in the right place. Major life changes, both planned and unexpected, professional pressures, and relationship conflicts can leave anyone feeling stuck. When stress peaks, it can be difficult to see your options clearly amid emotional noise and confusion. Generic advice rarely works for nuanced lives. You need an individualized, thoughtful partnership.
I offer a highly private, warm, and non-judgmental environment where you can drop the mask and speak honestly. Together, we look at the patterns holding you back and build the practical tools you need to move forward with confidence.
Ever feel like you’re holding it all together on the outside, but inside everything feels heavy? Maybe you’re caught between responsibilities, expectations, and emotions that never seem to quiet down. You might be feeling anxious, overwhelmed, stuck, unsure where to turn, or the thought that maybe you’ve disconnected with yourself. I get it, and you don’t have to navigate this alone. I assist individuals find calm and balance within life’s uncertainty. Together, we’ll uncover patterns that keep you stuck, build tools for emotional steadiness, and reconnect you with ease and self-trust. This is the space to breathe, reflect, and heal
Ever feel like you’re holding it all together on the outside, but inside everything feels heavy? Maybe you’re caught between responsibilities, expectations, and emotions that never seem to quiet down. You might be feeling anxious, overwhelmed, stuck, unsure where to turn, or the thought that maybe you’ve disconnected with yourself. I get it, and you don’t have to navigate this alone. I assist individuals find calm and balance within life’s uncertainty. Together, we’ll uncover patterns that keep you stuck, build tools for emotional steadiness, and reconnect you with ease and self-trust. This is the space to breathe, reflect, and heal
My goal as a psychotherapist is to offer my clients a relationship and a environment that is safe, empowering, and collaborative. Together, we will explore and figure out a unique plan that will help the client in the mist of there struggles learn new strategies that will help the client through there obstacles. Once that happens personal growth, self awareness and change can take place. Through the therapy process, I help my clients learn how to effectively cope with the stressors of their lives and become aware and understand the underlying causes or patterns that contribute to there stress.
My goal as a psychotherapist is to offer my clients a relationship and a environment that is safe, empowering, and collaborative. Together, we will explore and figure out a unique plan that will help the client in the mist of there struggles learn new strategies that will help the client through there obstacles. Once that happens personal growth, self awareness and change can take place. Through the therapy process, I help my clients learn how to effectively cope with the stressors of their lives and become aware and understand the underlying causes or patterns that contribute to there stress.
Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), and Schema Therapy (ST) are effective, empirically validated treatments.
In my 25 years as a clinician, I have learned that patients want a therapist who is real, direct, and honest. At the same time, they want a therapist who knows psychotherapy and clinical data. Jargon and platitudes aren't helpful. I believe in providing feedback and sharing my thoughts and opinions. In other words, I do not want to sit back and only nod my head. I will provide direction to help you. I will affirm you at times and challenge you at times We'll work together in a non-judgmental and safe environment with active and honest communication.
Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), and Schema Therapy (ST) are effective, empirically validated treatments.
In my 25 years as a clinician, I have learned that patients want a therapist who is real, direct, and honest. At the same time, they want a therapist who knows psychotherapy and clinical data. Jargon and platitudes aren't helpful. I believe in providing feedback and sharing my thoughts and opinions. In other words, I do not want to sit back and only nod my head. I will provide direction to help you. I will affirm you at times and challenge you at times We'll work together in a non-judgmental and safe environment with active and honest communication.
Have you ever wondered if it is possible to truly be at peace? To live life to the fullest? To recognize and live up to your fullest potential, whatever that means to you? I love helping people uncover their own personal barriers and roadblocks that stand in the way of the life that they deserve. I see myself as your ally as you navigate your healing journey, supporting you as you build the tools that you need to feel empowered to take on life’s challenges.
Have you ever wondered if it is possible to truly be at peace? To live life to the fullest? To recognize and live up to your fullest potential, whatever that means to you? I love helping people uncover their own personal barriers and roadblocks that stand in the way of the life that they deserve. I see myself as your ally as you navigate your healing journey, supporting you as you build the tools that you need to feel empowered to take on life’s challenges.
Thirty years and three couples models: the Gottman Method, Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples, and Schema Therapy for Couples, which I co-developed for the chronic distress standard methods miss.
Most couples who find me have already tried therapy. One of you saw the trouble years ago: read the books, named the patterns, felt unheard. The other has carried weight everywhere else and only recently noticed how quiet home had become. You are not failing. You have been using tools that were never built for what you are facing. For high-functioning couples, the gap between knowing and changing is where the real work lives, and where most therapy never reaches.
Thirty years and three couples models: the Gottman Method, Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples, and Schema Therapy for Couples, which I co-developed for the chronic distress standard methods miss.
Most couples who find me have already tried therapy. One of you saw the trouble years ago: read the books, named the patterns, felt unheard. The other has carried weight everywhere else and only recently noticed how quiet home had become. You are not failing. You have been using tools that were never built for what you are facing. For high-functioning couples, the gap between knowing and changing is where the real work lives, and where most therapy never reaches.
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