Rational Emotive Behavior (REBT) Therapists in Harlem, New York, NY

After a 25 year career in a major hospital I am very happy with a small sliding scale practice in my home office. I specialize in working with artists, creatives, college students, LBGTQ+ persons, and others who live non-traditional lives. I have a straight-forward, solution-focused, non-judgmental, and supportive approach, incorporating humor and irreverence when indicated. Therapy does not have to be a sullen place to focus on one’s negatives. Nor does it have to be long-term and costly. Join me in an engaged, interactive, lively journey toward your goals.

Pamela’s focus is on helping clients improve their self-esteem and self-efficacy by overcoming the negative self-talk that can lead to feelings of frustration and low self-worth. Her style balances warmth and empathy with an active and direct approach, using humor and creativity to engage her clients in strength-based, collaborative interventions. Her method is eclectic, drawing mainly from REBT, Mindfulness, and Narrative Therapy. Pamela believes the best way for a person to explore complicated feelings is in a safe space, free from judgment.

Balance is the key to life..... with that being said let’s work together to navigate your life’s journey from a holistic standpoint: examining thoughts, actions and self talk. Have you been experiencing limiting beliefs, anxiety, stress, childhood trauma, generational traits / habits, depression, melancholy, feeling stuck, or really just seeking direction? Let’s talk... contact me for a compassionate listener with great insight, understanding, problem solving, skills and techniques to assist you to unlock mental prisms and move forward in your life’s journey with clarity. I am here to help you. Take the 1st step and contact me now.

Reaching out for help can be quite a bit anxiety-inducing, as we generally do not know what to expect. It is understandable! I do not take for granted that my clients come to me, a stranger, and share personal details of their lives. I want it to feel like a collaborative process, and the trust we built together is important. When working with me, you can expect me to trust that you know yourself best, so I want to hear from you where you are, and where you want to be. Let's explore what works best for you in the process of developing your strong intuition.

Are you seeking gender-affirming care? Perhaps you have been discriminated against in the workplace, have unsupportive parents, or are facing housing insecurity. Maybe you need help navigating your new queer relationship? I am here to support you through whatever challenges you may face! As a cousneling intern, I am here to validate all kinds of clients' concerns brought to the therapy space to encourage clients to make positive changes, achieve goals, and develop healthy coping strategies. I am most passionate about helping LGBTQIA+ clients and social justice and multicultural issues are at the forefront of what I value.

Life’s journey features many complex and dynamic processes. How we come to learn about ourselves and understand life around us is key in how we experience it. It is my belief that self-care with the purpose of healing and self discovery can radically improve our experience navigating everyday life and have powerful impacts in the world around us. Informed by principles of social justice and anti-oppression, I offer a space to work with you as an individual in context of communities that you are a part of and are important to you. My practice integrates psychodynamic, cognitive and mindfulness techniques.

Therapy is essential because it provides the safest space for us to be our most authentic self. Therapy allows us to speak our unapologetic truth without fear of judgement by family and friends. Think about this.. Most people have had experiences/feelings that are connected to shame or guilt? Do we run to family and friends to share these experiences/feelings? Those of us that answer no should understand how these repressed thoughts/feelings manifest in our lives and this is where therapy comes in!

Taking the Next Step is the 1st part of your journey. I will work with you in a supportive framework to accomplish your goals. My experience as a clinician includes working with individuals/couples, families, groups, lgbtq, celebrity and affluent professional clients. Collaboration with clients is essential to help one navigate life’s challenges. I’ve supported & witnessed clients as they’ve overcome hurdles 1 step at a time, as well as success working with people of all backgrounds, helping to meet their goals as set forth in the therapeutic process. National Board Certified. Visit www.nextstepcounselingny.com to see past reviews.

I believe in the holistic nature of change. Thus viewed, change isn't initiated simply by thinking healthy thoughts. These healthy thoughts need to be complemented by healthy emotions in order for us to experience the motivation to change. Very often, we are disconnected from the emotions we experience in certain situations because those emotions haven’t been respected or acknowledged within our past relationships. Consequently, we become estranged from the parts of ourselves which those emotions represent. Through the therapeutic process we may reconnect with those neglected parts of ourselves so we may feel whole again.

Do you feel discouraged with daily difficulties? Having trouble navigating what others believe "should be easy?" I believe through a Positive approach, we can uncover some previously unexplored options. I work to match the counseling approach to the individual’s needs, strengths, and styles to address identified therapeutic focus. By tackling faulty thinking, undesirable feelings, and outgrown coping mechanisms you’re able to effectively address the Here and Now.

If you are feeling stuck and overwhelmed, you came to the right place. Together, we'll gain insight into what's getting in your way to restore balance to your life. I'll help you identify distorted thinking, modify beliefs, alter behavior, and relate to yourself and others in a way that feels easeful and gratifying. I am warm, non-judgmental, and direct—no subject is off limits, and humor is welcome! My style is integrative, merging evidence-based therapies with alternative “new-wave" therapies, honoring the connection between mind, body and spirit. I am strengths-based, trauma-informed, LGBTQ+ affirmative, and nonpathologizing.

"Transformation is a process, and as life happens there are tons of up and downs. It's a journey of discovery - there are moments on mountaintops and moments in deep valleys of despair"- Rick Warren. We all struggle with past or present situations that can get in the way of us living our lives wholeheartedly and that have an impact on the connection with oneself and others. Whenever you are going through a difficult time and you are confused about what is your next step, connecting with a trained therapist can be very helpful.

As a native New Yorker, born and raised on Long Island, living in the city for the last 10 years, I have been connected to the people who choose to live here. A bustling city where, as Frank Sinatra said so well, "if you can make it here, you can make it anywhere". I believe this to be true and I believe it to be easier with the work of psychology.

April 2024 Update - I have one opening for a morning/midday client. Please reach out! Life is all about balance. At times, finding that balance can feel overwhelming. My training and personal passion for helping others makes me an ideal therapist for individuals in need of a readjustment. Clients appreciate my down-to-earth point of view and ability to provide both encouragement and reality. Whether you are managing symptoms of anxiety and depression, life challenges like grief, divorce, infertility, relational issues, or other stressors, together we'll create and execute a plan to regain balance and move you toward a joyful life.

Are you unhappy with your current situation, stuck in a career, a relationship, going through major changes in life, suffering from trauma or PTSD? I am here for you on the remarkable journey of recovery toward serenity, free from being ruled by negativity. I believe each individual is unique and has the capacity to use his/her inner resource to maximize strengths. I have worked with individuals of all ages from different backgrounds coping with depression, anxiety/phobia, identity issues, marital /relationship conflicts, addictions (including internet/video game addictions), career decisions, parenting, school or job related stress, cross-cultural and generational issues, etc.

Does it ever seem as if it’s always an upward battle in your relationship with your husband, wife, partner? You may be struggling in a relationship, feeling unhappy and conflicted. As a marriage and family counselor, I help couples of all orientations work through their issues, figure out the source of their unhappiness, and help them with approaches/strategies to enhance their relationship. If you're a parent trying to cope with your children’s behavior issues, I can help you learn to realistically set limits, as well as define goals and expectations with your children.

Congratulations on taking this step towards your new freedom. It's time to start healing. You're not alone if you find yourself searching for answers to these questions: How do I find a lasting sense of purpose in my life? When will I finally be content with my accomplishments? Why do I eventually get dissatisfied with most all of my relationships? Will I ever find lasting joy and passion? How do I find the courage to be my own person? Why does it seem like I sabotage my own success? Together, we'll work to set realistic goals, identify barriers, remove obstacles and unlock your full potential.

Stop struggling & start loving. If you're struggling with sex, life and relationships, you've come to the right place. Turn your relationships around and get the intimacy you long for. Good sex and easy connections are right around the corner. I help people just like you find that 'certain something' they've been looking for. Pleasure, eroticism, epic sex, rich intimacy and easy communication can all be yours. Whether single, partnered, married /divorced broken-up or non-monogamous your pleasure matters. No need to be shy or embarrassed. All genders, sexualities and sexual lifestyles catered for.

Living in NYC can be both exciting and overwhelming even on your best days. Between your daily responsibilities, taking care of others’ needs, and the pressure to always have it together, you wonder how you can find the time or space to attend to your own needs. I want to help you harness your hidden superpowers to better manage the changes and stressors in your life (even the positive ones), improve your quality of life and relationships, find purpose and fulfillment, use your time more meaningfully, set healthy boundaries without guilt, and decrease feelings of burnout, shame, sadness, isolation, chaos, numbness, or pain.