Emotionally Focused Therapists in Brooklyn, NY

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Ady Ben-Israel
Psychologist, PhD
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Brooklyn, NY 11201
JUNE 2022: Currently accepting individuals for psychodynamically informed, attachment-oriented, weekly therapy or couples for weekly EFT-based couples therapy (Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy). EFT-based couples therapy seeks to help couples identify the interactional patterns that keep couples disconnected. In understanding these patterns, we work to help partners learn and understand their habitual protective behaviors, their partner's protective behaviors, and to practice NEW ways of responding to one's self and one's partner.
JUNE 2022: Currently accepting individuals for psychodynamically informed, attachment-oriented, weekly therapy or couples for weekly EFT-based couples therapy (Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy). EFT-based couples therapy seeks to help couples identify the interactional patterns that keep couples disconnected. In understanding these patterns, we work to help partners learn and understand their habitual protective behaviors, their partner's protective behaviors, and to practice NEW ways of responding to one's self and one's partner.
(347) 830-7049 View (347) 830-7049
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Amy Reznik
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, MA, LCSW
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Brooklyn, NY 11211
After completing my Master degree, I received post-graduate training for Emotionally Focused Therapy, the Stephen Mitchell Relational Study Center, The Institute for the Psychoanalytic Study of Subjectivity, and the Gottman Institute.
When my clients first encounter me, their lives often feel stuck and overwhelming. Trying to navigate experiences of disconnection, or untenable situations. Many struggle with managing body image, family/ relationships, career, and dating. Together, we will explore the experiences and relationships that have created and impacted the person you are today. My orientation towards psychotherapy is psychodynamic and relational. Collaboratively processing complex attachment and relationships, I will be with you, supporting you, every step of the way.
After completing my Master degree, I received post-graduate training for Emotionally Focused Therapy, the Stephen Mitchell Relational Study Center, The Institute for the Psychoanalytic Study of Subjectivity, and the Gottman Institute.
When my clients first encounter me, their lives often feel stuck and overwhelming. Trying to navigate experiences of disconnection, or untenable situations. Many struggle with managing body image, family/ relationships, career, and dating. Together, we will explore the experiences and relationships that have created and impacted the person you are today. My orientation towards psychotherapy is psychodynamic and relational. Collaboratively processing complex attachment and relationships, I will be with you, supporting you, every step of the way.
(347) 767-3015 View (347) 767-3015
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Ken Leeds
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-R
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Brooklyn, NY 11217
I provide an integrative, psycho-dynamically based psychotherapy. I work with individual adult clients, couples and teens. I work with my clients in an acceptance-based, patient, gentle and methodical way. Therapy for me is a collaborative process in which the client and therapist mutually identify, clarify and explore the issues that are facing the client, paced in a way that is fully comfortable to the client
I provide an integrative, psycho-dynamically based psychotherapy. I work with individual adult clients, couples and teens. I work with my clients in an acceptance-based, patient, gentle and methodical way. Therapy for me is a collaborative process in which the client and therapist mutually identify, clarify and explore the issues that are facing the client, paced in a way that is fully comfortable to the client
(888) 432-1772 View (888) 432-1772
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Stephanie West
Counselor, LMHC, MSEd, MS
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
Brooklyn, NY 11222
” If you are experiencing early relationship conflict after just moving into together or meeting each other’s families, we work to help identify and articulate the emotions underneath those conflicts (EFT- Emotionally Focused Therapy) and learn how to show up better for each other.
What would it be like to see yourself more clearly? If you struggle with old emotional patterns, it may show up now in all kinds of ways! You may be feeling like you're not "enough," finding it difficult to make room for life outside of you being the overachiever, or just not knowing who you actually are. These conflicts may also show up in your body, as well as in the way you treat it. Maybe you have headaches, chronic lower back pain, difficulty nourishing yourself, or have a fraught relationship with how you look. We collaborate and figure out how to make you an active participant in your healing and get you back in your life.
” If you are experiencing early relationship conflict after just moving into together or meeting each other’s families, we work to help identify and articulate the emotions underneath those conflicts (EFT- Emotionally Focused Therapy) and learn how to show up better for each other.
What would it be like to see yourself more clearly? If you struggle with old emotional patterns, it may show up now in all kinds of ways! You may be feeling like you're not "enough," finding it difficult to make room for life outside of you being the overachiever, or just not knowing who you actually are. These conflicts may also show up in your body, as well as in the way you treat it. Maybe you have headaches, chronic lower back pain, difficulty nourishing yourself, or have a fraught relationship with how you look. We collaborate and figure out how to make you an active participant in your healing and get you back in your life.
(929) 205-6241 View (929) 205-6241
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Alisha Bennett
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Brooklyn, NY 11242
Hello! I’m Alisha - a transracial, transnational adoptee from South Korea, educator and mother. As a dedicated therapist, I employ a multidisciplinary psychodynamic approach enriched by elements from Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), and Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy models. My mission is to guide you on a transformative journey toward greater happiness, improved well-being, and enhanced connections in your life.
Hello! I’m Alisha - a transracial, transnational adoptee from South Korea, educator and mother. As a dedicated therapist, I employ a multidisciplinary psychodynamic approach enriched by elements from Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Accelerated Experiential Dynamic Psychotherapy (AEDP), and Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy models. My mission is to guide you on a transformative journey toward greater happiness, improved well-being, and enhanced connections in your life.
(929) 298-4684 View (929) 298-4684
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Gila Souleiman
Counselor, LMHC
Verified Verified
Brooklyn, NY 11220  (Online Only)
Gila utilizes an eclectic approach to treatment combining different approaches such as psychoanalytic, CBT, DBT, EFT, and family systems to specifically tailor an appropriate approach to each client.
Gila Hara, LMHC, is a licensed psychotherapist and Founder of Health and Growth Therapy. Gila practices in New York helping adults, young adults, and adolescents, overcome an array of mental health challenges including depression, mood disorders, OCD, anxiety, personality disorders, and general life transitions. Gila also helps couples and families overcome challenges and learn to create a harmonious life together.
Gila utilizes an eclectic approach to treatment combining different approaches such as psychoanalytic, CBT, DBT, EFT, and family systems to specifically tailor an appropriate approach to each client.
Gila Hara, LMHC, is a licensed psychotherapist and Founder of Health and Growth Therapy. Gila practices in New York helping adults, young adults, and adolescents, overcome an array of mental health challenges including depression, mood disorders, OCD, anxiety, personality disorders, and general life transitions. Gila also helps couples and families overcome challenges and learn to create a harmonious life together.
(718) 568-6449 View (718) 568-6449
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Meghan Sunayna Mehta
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LMSW
Verified Verified
Brooklyn, NY 11215
Are you struggling to feel fulfilled in life? Does waking up and functioning day to day seem unnecessarily difficult? Are you experiencing symptoms of anxiety or depression, or the lasting effects of grief or trauma? Therapy can help. I utilize and have training in a range of therapeutic modalities including Trauma Focused-CBT, DBT, EMDR, Psychodynamic therapy, Expressive Art Therapy, the Gottman method for couples, as well as EFT. I tailor unique plans for each individual client or couple in order to empower them to better understand themselves, achieve their goals and feel more fulfilled.
Are you struggling to feel fulfilled in life? Does waking up and functioning day to day seem unnecessarily difficult? Are you experiencing symptoms of anxiety or depression, or the lasting effects of grief or trauma? Therapy can help. I utilize and have training in a range of therapeutic modalities including Trauma Focused-CBT, DBT, EMDR, Psychodynamic therapy, Expressive Art Therapy, the Gottman method for couples, as well as EFT. I tailor unique plans for each individual client or couple in order to empower them to better understand themselves, achieve their goals and feel more fulfilled.
(929) 538-3584 View (929) 538-3584
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Adriana DiMatteo
Psychologist, PsyD
Verified Verified
6 Endorsed
Brooklyn, NY 11215  (Online Only)
The decision to start therapy is a very personal and courageous one. Therapy is a process of change, empowerment, and self-growth. I have worked with people from all age groups, ranging from children to older adults. I have a particular interest in the psychological adjustments of parenthood. It is through the struggles in life where we emerge stronger and more compassionate people.
The decision to start therapy is a very personal and courageous one. Therapy is a process of change, empowerment, and self-growth. I have worked with people from all age groups, ranging from children to older adults. I have a particular interest in the psychological adjustments of parenthood. It is through the struggles in life where we emerge stronger and more compassionate people.
(347) 748-1624 View (347) 748-1624
Photo of Zoe Boggs, Pre-Licensed Professional in Brooklyn, NY
Zoe Boggs
Pre-Licensed Professional
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Brooklyn, NY 11238  (Online Only)
You are the expert in your own experiences, but I’m here to offer warm acceptance and support, along with strategies to help you clarify what you want and how to get there. My priority is to build a strong relationship with you in which you can feel safe to explore your emotions, try new approaches to your relationships, and work towards positive change. I approach therapy with a client-centered and radically accepting lens, incorporating intersectional feminist, emotionally-focused, and psychodynamic therapies.
You are the expert in your own experiences, but I’m here to offer warm acceptance and support, along with strategies to help you clarify what you want and how to get there. My priority is to build a strong relationship with you in which you can feel safe to explore your emotions, try new approaches to your relationships, and work towards positive change. I approach therapy with a client-centered and radically accepting lens, incorporating intersectional feminist, emotionally-focused, and psychodynamic therapies.
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Rachel Valencia
Counselor, LMHC
Verified Verified
Brooklyn, NY 11231  (Online Only)
I am trained in EMDR, an evidenced based treatment for trauma, and in Emotionally Focused Therapy, an attachment based therapy which I use primarily when I work with couples.
Accepting new clients via telehealth! Struggling with your mental health can be difficult, but you don't have to do it alone. Whether it be depression, anxiety, anger, trauma, or other mental health issues, I am here to help you understand where your issues have stemmed from, work on healing them, and learn new ways to cope and interact with your world. In working with me, you can expect to have a safe, non-judgmental space to explore your innerworld. I work with clients of all ages, and in individual, couple, or family modality.
I am trained in EMDR, an evidenced based treatment for trauma, and in Emotionally Focused Therapy, an attachment based therapy which I use primarily when I work with couples.
Accepting new clients via telehealth! Struggling with your mental health can be difficult, but you don't have to do it alone. Whether it be depression, anxiety, anger, trauma, or other mental health issues, I am here to help you understand where your issues have stemmed from, work on healing them, and learn new ways to cope and interact with your world. In working with me, you can expect to have a safe, non-judgmental space to explore your innerworld. I work with clients of all ages, and in individual, couple, or family modality.
(929) 294-8449 View (929) 294-8449
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Mirca Ureke
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified Verified
Brooklyn, NY 11235
I utilize several modalities to find what works best for my clients including Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Psychodynamic Therapy, and Emotionally Focused Therapy.
Welcome, I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with over 25 years of experience in the state of New York. I empower clients to overcome personal obstacles in an effort to improve their lives because improving quality of life can ultimately change the enjoyment of life. I have worked with hundreds of individuals, couples, and families in areas such as anxiety, depression, grief, trauma & PTSD, and relationship issues, amongst others.
I utilize several modalities to find what works best for my clients including Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Psychodynamic Therapy, and Emotionally Focused Therapy.
Welcome, I am a Licensed Clinical Social Worker with over 25 years of experience in the state of New York. I empower clients to overcome personal obstacles in an effort to improve their lives because improving quality of life can ultimately change the enjoyment of life. I have worked with hundreds of individuals, couples, and families in areas such as anxiety, depression, grief, trauma & PTSD, and relationship issues, amongst others.
(914) 618-5829 View (914) 618-5829
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Sophia Soloway
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW, MA
Verified Verified
Brooklyn, NY 11201
Reaching out to a therapist can be a daunting task. It is difficult to make changes and break unhealthy patterns and anxiety and depression can feel crippling. Therapy can play a large role in helping individuals lead happier, more productive lives. We all face challenges but with the proper support, your challenges do not need to define you or stop you from achieving happiness and success. I believe in treating each patient as an individual. While my orientation is primarily psychodynamic I also use Emotionally Focused Tapping (EFT) and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR).
Reaching out to a therapist can be a daunting task. It is difficult to make changes and break unhealthy patterns and anxiety and depression can feel crippling. Therapy can play a large role in helping individuals lead happier, more productive lives. We all face challenges but with the proper support, your challenges do not need to define you or stop you from achieving happiness and success. I believe in treating each patient as an individual. While my orientation is primarily psychodynamic I also use Emotionally Focused Tapping (EFT) and Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR).
(646) 956-2046 View (646) 956-2046
Photo of Avigail Margolis, Psychologist in Brooklyn, NY
Avigail Margolis
Psychologist, PsyD
Verified Verified
6 Endorsed
Brooklyn, NY 11230
I am a licensed psychologist trained in Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), psychodynamic approaches and Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT) for couples.
Are you are looking for someone to help you deal with stress related to romantic relationships, dating, or friendships? Is trauma, self-confidence, anxiety, shame or depression, getting in the way of your goals? Navigating life challenges can be complicated. I can help by using a collaborative, warm, and change-oriented approach to help you manage struggles.
I am a licensed psychologist trained in Cognitive Behavior Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), psychodynamic approaches and Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT) for couples.
Are you are looking for someone to help you deal with stress related to romantic relationships, dating, or friendships? Is trauma, self-confidence, anxiety, shame or depression, getting in the way of your goals? Navigating life challenges can be complicated. I can help by using a collaborative, warm, and change-oriented approach to help you manage struggles.
(929) 202-7143 View (929) 202-7143
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Shterna Levy-Haim
MFT-LP
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Brooklyn, NY 11203  (Online Only)
Through empowering conversations, experiential exercises, and evidence-based models, including IFS, EFT, Psychodynamic, and Somatic experiencing, I accompany clients in transforming themselves and their relationships.
Are you looking to improve your quality of life and elevate your relationships? Welcome! I'm Shterna, a Marriage and Family Therapist working with individuals, families, and couples, and I'm glad you're here! Deciding to come to therapy is one of the biggest acts of self-love, and I'd be honored to witness your growth and healing journey. I provide a holistic and personalized approach to therapy that addresses the unique needs of each client and their relationship system. My specialties include relationships, family challenges, life transitions, childhood trauma, self-esteem, and boundaries.
Through empowering conversations, experiential exercises, and evidence-based models, including IFS, EFT, Psychodynamic, and Somatic experiencing, I accompany clients in transforming themselves and their relationships.
Are you looking to improve your quality of life and elevate your relationships? Welcome! I'm Shterna, a Marriage and Family Therapist working with individuals, families, and couples, and I'm glad you're here! Deciding to come to therapy is one of the biggest acts of self-love, and I'd be honored to witness your growth and healing journey. I provide a holistic and personalized approach to therapy that addresses the unique needs of each client and their relationship system. My specialties include relationships, family challenges, life transitions, childhood trauma, self-esteem, and boundaries.
(347) 851-7598 View (347) 851-7598
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Neelam Al-Angurli
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-R
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Brooklyn, NY 11215
I utilize an eclectic approach including Psychodynamic, Emotionally Focused Therapy (attachment theory), Mindfulness Parenting, DBT and Psychoanalytic methods.
I have been practicing for over 28 years as a couples, family and individual therapist, for children, adolescents and adults. My areas of specialty include relationships, how to manage conflicts, parenting teens, how to maintain intimacy and co-parent effectively, including the difficulties of dating, infidelity, divorce, sex and finances. Individual problems include depression, anxiety, panic attacks, history of trauma, infertility, and other personal issues. Early career work supervising therapists in a court based crisis unit led me to many decades of work with NYC teens and their families.
I utilize an eclectic approach including Psychodynamic, Emotionally Focused Therapy (attachment theory), Mindfulness Parenting, DBT and Psychoanalytic methods.
I have been practicing for over 28 years as a couples, family and individual therapist, for children, adolescents and adults. My areas of specialty include relationships, how to manage conflicts, parenting teens, how to maintain intimacy and co-parent effectively, including the difficulties of dating, infidelity, divorce, sex and finances. Individual problems include depression, anxiety, panic attacks, history of trauma, infertility, and other personal issues. Early career work supervising therapists in a court based crisis unit led me to many decades of work with NYC teens and their families.
(917) 909-4885 View (917) 909-4885
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Angela Miller
Counselor, LMHC
Verified Verified
5 Endorsed
Brooklyn, NY 11201  (Online Only)
With experience in EFT, CBT, Mindfulness, and Feminist orientations, I utilize an integrative approach, with humor and curiosity, designed to meet the specific needs of the individual or couple.
You may have found yourself here because something isn’t working anymore. Whether in your relationship, your job, or negative thoughts that you can’t seem to redirect, it may feel like your typical coping skills or support systems aren’t enough. That’s ok. Take a breath and know that untangling this right now is not something you have to do alone. In my practice, I work with adults navigating interpersonal relationships, career stress, self-esteem and personal growths. I have experience with eating disorders, substance abuse, and trauma, and a special interest in working with the unique struggles of creative and performing artists.
With experience in EFT, CBT, Mindfulness, and Feminist orientations, I utilize an integrative approach, with humor and curiosity, designed to meet the specific needs of the individual or couple.
You may have found yourself here because something isn’t working anymore. Whether in your relationship, your job, or negative thoughts that you can’t seem to redirect, it may feel like your typical coping skills or support systems aren’t enough. That’s ok. Take a breath and know that untangling this right now is not something you have to do alone. In my practice, I work with adults navigating interpersonal relationships, career stress, self-esteem and personal growths. I have experience with eating disorders, substance abuse, and trauma, and a special interest in working with the unique struggles of creative and performing artists.
(929) 203-9835 View (929) 203-9835
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Dr. Emily H Brackman
Psychologist, PhD
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Brooklyn, NY 11238  (Online Only)
My approach to therapy is integrative: I draw from the current scientific evidence about the most effective interventions and integrate this information with my training in psychodynamic, cognitive behavioral, and emotionally focused treatment approaches to create a treatment plan that works for you.
Welcome! As a licensed clinical psychologist, I have years of experience providing personalized mental health care for those who are feeling stuck, overwhelmed, and burnt out by life’s challenges. I help adults seeking to address the impact of major life changes, loss, and trauma on their sense of self and relationships. Regardless of why you’re here today, we will collaborate to figure out how to get you from where you are now to where you want to be.
My approach to therapy is integrative: I draw from the current scientific evidence about the most effective interventions and integrate this information with my training in psychodynamic, cognitive behavioral, and emotionally focused treatment approaches to create a treatment plan that works for you.
Welcome! As a licensed clinical psychologist, I have years of experience providing personalized mental health care for those who are feeling stuck, overwhelmed, and burnt out by life’s challenges. I help adults seeking to address the impact of major life changes, loss, and trauma on their sense of self and relationships. Regardless of why you’re here today, we will collaborate to figure out how to get you from where you are now to where you want to be.
(646) 542-1517 View (646) 542-1517
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Alla Chrome E M D R
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW-R, EMDRi
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Brooklyn, NY 11235
As an EMDR therapist, I specialize in working with those whose lives are disrupted by anxiety, panic attacks, depression, or phobias. I work with a fear of flying/aerophobia. With EMDR and EFT-oriented therapy, my goal is to help you feel calmer and become more satisfied with yourself and your life.
As an EMDR therapist, I specialize in working with those whose lives are disrupted by anxiety, panic attacks, depression, or phobias. I work with a fear of flying/aerophobia. With EMDR and EFT-oriented therapy, my goal is to help you feel calmer and become more satisfied with yourself and your life.
(917) 809-6076 View (917) 809-6076
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Freddi Marsillo
Counselor, LMHC
Verified Verified
Brooklyn, NY 11218  (Online Only)
My style, which is holistic and trauma-informed, primarily includes EMDR, Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), and the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT).
If you have found yourself here, I applaud you for taking the first step in your healing journey. Using a collaborative, nonjudgmental approach, I will help you grow into the most fulfilled and authentic version of yourself by addressing your psychological wellness on a holistic level. Together we will explore the interactions between trauma and the body, mind, and soul, and develop the tools and skills that will help you transcend your trauma and use these painful experiences as a pathway to resilience and strength.
My style, which is holistic and trauma-informed, primarily includes EMDR, Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Dialectical Behavior Therapy (DBT), and the Emotional Freedom Technique (EFT).
If you have found yourself here, I applaud you for taking the first step in your healing journey. Using a collaborative, nonjudgmental approach, I will help you grow into the most fulfilled and authentic version of yourself by addressing your psychological wellness on a holistic level. Together we will explore the interactions between trauma and the body, mind, and soul, and develop the tools and skills that will help you transcend your trauma and use these painful experiences as a pathway to resilience and strength.
(646) 863-4378 View (646) 863-4378
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Dr. Andrew Seidman
Psychologist, PhD
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Brooklyn, NY 11237  (Online Only)
I primarily use Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT), and strengths-based approaches to help you process, think, and respond more flexibly to challenges in life.
I am a counseling psychologist with expertise in working with concerns related to anxiety, depression, relationships, family-of-origin, life transitions, grief, identity formation, living with a chronic illness (cancer, pain), and existentialism (values, meaning-making). Outside of my clinical practice, I am a Professor of Psychology at Brooklyn College, with extensive teaching experience at the university-level and research program (22 peer-reviewed publications), including funding from the National Institute of Mental Health.
I primarily use Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT), Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT), and strengths-based approaches to help you process, think, and respond more flexibly to challenges in life.
I am a counseling psychologist with expertise in working with concerns related to anxiety, depression, relationships, family-of-origin, life transitions, grief, identity formation, living with a chronic illness (cancer, pain), and existentialism (values, meaning-making). Outside of my clinical practice, I am a Professor of Psychology at Brooklyn College, with extensive teaching experience at the university-level and research program (22 peer-reviewed publications), including funding from the National Institute of Mental Health.
(347) 460-9933 View (347) 460-9933

Emotionally Focused Therapists

Who is emotionally focused therapy for?

Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) is for couples who are emotionally distressed, stuck in an unsatisfying relationship pattern or feeling deeply alienated. They may even believe the relationship is beyond repair. Very often, the partners display intense anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal in the relationship. In addition, EFT is helpful to couples and individuals who have difficulty expressing emotions and those who have trouble regulating emotions.

Why do people need emotionally focused therapy?

People need emotionally focused therapy because the need for others is built into the brain, but the pressures of daily life can erode feelings of love, and couples often do not have the skills to find their way back to the comfort of each other. Instead, they may be stuck in repetitive patterns of anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal. Emotionally focused therapy regards such strong negative feelings as expressions of protest over the loss of connection and turns them into pathways of reconnection.

What happens in emotionally focused therapy?

Over the course of eight to 20 weekly sessions, couples de-escalate their negative emotional reactivity to one another so that they can listen to each other and be responsive to each other’s needs. Then the deep emotional and physical bond is restored, giving partners a sense of comfort and security, which they can use to solve whatever problems come their way. The therapist plays an active role, helping partners understand how anger and withdrawal are actually misguided cries for connection.

What problems does emotionally focused therapy treat?

EFT is designed to help couples stuck in dysfunctional relationship patterns regain closeness and rebuild their relationship. Typically, such couples experience considerable distress, with partners feeling alienated and distrustful of one another, not certain their relationship can survive. EFT is also helpful to individuals experiencing attachment-related fears of loss; it helps them learn to use their fears as a way of eliciting the closeness they desire.