Sex-Positive, Kink Allied Therapists in Santa Fe, NM
Do you feel like you are waiting for your real life to start?
I love talking through an existential crisis or sitting with thoughts and feelings you might think are unacceptable to share. In my view, real life begins when we see our dreams and fears for what they are, start taking responsibility for the choices we do have, and allow ourselves to begin feeling this life more fully.
Do you feel like you are waiting for your real life to start?
I love talking through an existential crisis or sitting with thoughts and feelings you might think are unacceptable to share. In my view, real life begins when we see our dreams and fears for what they are, start taking responsibility for the choices we do have, and allow ourselves to begin feeling this life more fully.
Kelsey
Licensed Professional Counselor, MA, LPCC-S, CCTP-II, CYT
2 Endorsed
Online Only
Waitlist for new clients
You may carry stories etched in your body—echoes of loss, trauma, or disconnection. Perhaps you’ve learned to survive by shrinking, overgiving, numbing, or staying quiet. Maybe you often find yourself in dysfunctional relationships or reenacting your wounds onto others. Yet, you long to come home to yourself, to feel safety, belonging, and the freedom to live fully. Many of my clients come to me feeling exhausted or hopeless after therapy that hasn’t helped. As a trauma survivor myself, I understand that pain and draw from my own recovery experience in supporting you.
You may carry stories etched in your body—echoes of loss, trauma, or disconnection. Perhaps you’ve learned to survive by shrinking, overgiving, numbing, or staying quiet. Maybe you often find yourself in dysfunctional relationships or reenacting your wounds onto others. Yet, you long to come home to yourself, to feel safety, belonging, and the freedom to live fully. Many of my clients come to me feeling exhausted or hopeless after therapy that hasn’t helped. As a trauma survivor myself, I understand that pain and draw from my own recovery experience in supporting you.
I specialize in attachment and relational/historical trauma and current relational issues and bring a depth-oriented, collaborative, warm and engaged approach to our meetings. I am trained and educated in psychodynamic and analytically-oriented therapies, and am a trained in psychedelic-assisted integration therapy.
I specialize in attachment and relational/historical trauma and current relational issues and bring a depth-oriented, collaborative, warm and engaged approach to our meetings. I am trained and educated in psychodynamic and analytically-oriented therapies, and am a trained in psychedelic-assisted integration therapy.
I specialize in EFT and trauma therapy for couples, families and individuals. I am a Certified Emotionally Focused Therapist (EFT) and Supervisor. I also work with Janina Fisher's model of trauma treatment which is a blend of modalities including IFS and sensorimotor psychotherapy. I have been certified in EMDR and Brainspotting and use them for emotionally charged issues, stuck patterns and trauma. I love working with couples to create lasting change that touches the heart of the person and the relationship. See my website for more information: nicolpate.com
I specialize in EFT and trauma therapy for couples, families and individuals. I am a Certified Emotionally Focused Therapist (EFT) and Supervisor. I also work with Janina Fisher's model of trauma treatment which is a blend of modalities including IFS and sensorimotor psychotherapy. I have been certified in EMDR and Brainspotting and use them for emotionally charged issues, stuck patterns and trauma. I love working with couples to create lasting change that touches the heart of the person and the relationship. See my website for more information: nicolpate.com
I practice interpersonal psychoanalytic psychotherapy, which means I learn about you by examining your relationships while gaining insight as to how you relate to the world and yourself. My approach to therapy is rooted in harm reduction, intersectionality, and awareness of systemic oppression. I work with adults only and have special interest treating romantic relationships and/or couples, LGBTQIA2S+ population, trauma survivors, religious trauma survivors, neurodivergence, anxiety and depressive disorders, codependency, and those who are struggling with substance misuse.
I practice interpersonal psychoanalytic psychotherapy, which means I learn about you by examining your relationships while gaining insight as to how you relate to the world and yourself. My approach to therapy is rooted in harm reduction, intersectionality, and awareness of systemic oppression. I work with adults only and have special interest treating romantic relationships and/or couples, LGBTQIA2S+ population, trauma survivors, religious trauma survivors, neurodivergence, anxiety and depressive disorders, codependency, and those who are struggling with substance misuse.
Phoebe Sheldon
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, MA, LCSW
5 Endorsed
Online Only
Waitlist for new clients
My approach is warm and present. I trust in your judgment in the therapeutic process, and view each individual as the expert in their own life. I’ve worked in the mental health field in Northern New Mexican communities for a decade.
My approach is trauma informed, strengths based, and includes EMDR, family systems therapy, somatic mindfulness, narrative therapy, and techniques from Gabor Mate’s Compassionate Inquiry approach. I use humor when it fits. I believe our relationships with nature, community, spirituality, and creativity can be primary parts of the healing process.
My approach is warm and present. I trust in your judgment in the therapeutic process, and view each individual as the expert in their own life. I’ve worked in the mental health field in Northern New Mexican communities for a decade.
My approach is trauma informed, strengths based, and includes EMDR, family systems therapy, somatic mindfulness, narrative therapy, and techniques from Gabor Mate’s Compassionate Inquiry approach. I use humor when it fits. I believe our relationships with nature, community, spirituality, and creativity can be primary parts of the healing process.
You deserve a life filled with hope, purpose, and fulfillment—waking up energized and ready to embrace each day with renewed possibility. As a solution-focused therapist, my mission is to help you recognize your inner strengths and illuminate what's already working in your life, even when you can't see the light at the end of the tunnel. Together, we'll work to transform challenges into opportunities and reframe limiting beliefs. With a diverse background spanning entrepreneurship and clinical practice, I bring real-world wisdom and a collaborative approach to help you gracefully move from where you are to where you want to be.
You deserve a life filled with hope, purpose, and fulfillment—waking up energized and ready to embrace each day with renewed possibility. As a solution-focused therapist, my mission is to help you recognize your inner strengths and illuminate what's already working in your life, even when you can't see the light at the end of the tunnel. Together, we'll work to transform challenges into opportunities and reframe limiting beliefs. With a diverse background spanning entrepreneurship and clinical practice, I bring real-world wisdom and a collaborative approach to help you gracefully move from where you are to where you want to be.
During the last twenty five years I have had the opportunity to support and guide many clients. I work with children, adolescents, adults and families. I have recently become certified in the Nurtured Heart approach which is designed to work with intense children and their families. I enjoy working with clients using a variety of modalities that include art, dream work, and trauma work. I look forward to working with you and discovering all that life and consciousness has to offer.
During the last twenty five years I have had the opportunity to support and guide many clients. I work with children, adolescents, adults and families. I have recently become certified in the Nurtured Heart approach which is designed to work with intense children and their families. I enjoy working with clients using a variety of modalities that include art, dream work, and trauma work. I look forward to working with you and discovering all that life and consciousness has to offer.
At Artistic Wellness, we strive to produce a safe, secure, and judgement free space so clients have the best opportunities to freely express themselves. Together we forge a path that leads to the achievement of life goals and a better understanding of self. Goals can range from establishing stronger relationships, reducing stress and anxiety, overcoming great life challenges, family issues, or just releasing general daily concerns.
At Artistic Wellness, we strive to produce a safe, secure, and judgement free space so clients have the best opportunities to freely express themselves. Together we forge a path that leads to the achievement of life goals and a better understanding of self. Goals can range from establishing stronger relationships, reducing stress and anxiety, overcoming great life challenges, family issues, or just releasing general daily concerns.
I am a Clinical Therapist and Social Worker (NM & AZ), with 15+ years in professional communications and development, as well as a long-standing career in Musical Theatre as a performer and creator. As a therapist, I serve multi-passionate individuals of various ages, races, genders/sexual identities, and more. I offer my clients a space to speak freely -without fear of criticism, shame, or judgment- and tools to enhance emotional safety, while processing grief and healing from trauma. You can expect to be challenged while being met with compassion and often, humor.
I am a Clinical Therapist and Social Worker (NM & AZ), with 15+ years in professional communications and development, as well as a long-standing career in Musical Theatre as a performer and creator. As a therapist, I serve multi-passionate individuals of various ages, races, genders/sexual identities, and more. I offer my clients a space to speak freely -without fear of criticism, shame, or judgment- and tools to enhance emotional safety, while processing grief and healing from trauma. You can expect to be challenged while being met with compassion and often, humor.
I believe in meeting you wherever you are on your unique journey and providing a safe and affirming space for you to express and process your emotions. I take an experiential and creative approach to psychotherapy that embraces the power of art and its ability to aid in self expression. Whether you are struggling with PTSD, depression, anxiety, self harm behaviors, gender identity, sexuality, or simply navigating the complexities of life, I am here to listen and empower you throughout your process.
I believe in meeting you wherever you are on your unique journey and providing a safe and affirming space for you to express and process your emotions. I take an experiential and creative approach to psychotherapy that embraces the power of art and its ability to aid in self expression. Whether you are struggling with PTSD, depression, anxiety, self harm behaviors, gender identity, sexuality, or simply navigating the complexities of life, I am here to listen and empower you throughout your process.
My work centers on deep trauma, attachment wounds, and how lifelong experiences shape your relationships—especially within toxic, controlling, or power-imbalanced dynamics. I use Brainspotting for deep healing and draw from Attachment, Emotion-Focused, and Somatic approaches. I believe in embracing the whole self and creating space where every part of your identity is welcomed and explored.
My work centers on deep trauma, attachment wounds, and how lifelong experiences shape your relationships—especially within toxic, controlling, or power-imbalanced dynamics. I use Brainspotting for deep healing and draw from Attachment, Emotion-Focused, and Somatic approaches. I believe in embracing the whole self and creating space where every part of your identity is welcomed and explored.
I work with both individuals and relationships. My work is rooted in developing a strong therapeutic relationship. I invite clients to explore relational dynamics and to safely become more honest with themselves and others. I support clients to clearly identify boundaries, honor desires, and expand their capacity to tap into innate resources. My approach is informed by psychodynamic theory, somatic experiential interventions, spiritual and archetypal counseling, parts work, creative arts therapy, and goal-oriented coaching. Together we will facilitate changes that are both radical and sustainable.
I work with both individuals and relationships. My work is rooted in developing a strong therapeutic relationship. I invite clients to explore relational dynamics and to safely become more honest with themselves and others. I support clients to clearly identify boundaries, honor desires, and expand their capacity to tap into innate resources. My approach is informed by psychodynamic theory, somatic experiential interventions, spiritual and archetypal counseling, parts work, creative arts therapy, and goal-oriented coaching. Together we will facilitate changes that are both radical and sustainable.
I have ONE opening for a MEDiCAID client at the moment. I really enjoy working with teens (15 yrs+) and young adults. I also work with adults of all ages. Most of my clients are working on resolving sexual orientation questions, gender identity concerns, low self-esteem, self-identity issues, depression, anxiety, and social fears, among other problems. As a member of the LGBTQIA+ community, I have a particular interest in supporting gender non-conforming people and the community as a whole. If I don't feel like the right therapist for you, please see our website for profiles of all of our therapists.
I have ONE opening for a MEDiCAID client at the moment. I really enjoy working with teens (15 yrs+) and young adults. I also work with adults of all ages. Most of my clients are working on resolving sexual orientation questions, gender identity concerns, low self-esteem, self-identity issues, depression, anxiety, and social fears, among other problems. As a member of the LGBTQIA+ community, I have a particular interest in supporting gender non-conforming people and the community as a whole. If I don't feel like the right therapist for you, please see our website for profiles of all of our therapists.
Hello, and welcome. Are you longing for deeper insight, self compassion, and a renewed connection to your creativity? You might be navigating trauma, grief, anxiety, loneliness, relationship challenges, or major life transitions. These are common reasons people seek therapy. My intention is to offer a safe, creative space, where you can explore your emotions, bodily experience, and thoughts with curiosity and compassion. I work with adults seeking greater authenticity and lasting change. Even life's greatest challenges can become opportunities for growth, resilience, and transformation.
Hello, and welcome. Are you longing for deeper insight, self compassion, and a renewed connection to your creativity? You might be navigating trauma, grief, anxiety, loneliness, relationship challenges, or major life transitions. These are common reasons people seek therapy. My intention is to offer a safe, creative space, where you can explore your emotions, bodily experience, and thoughts with curiosity and compassion. I work with adults seeking greater authenticity and lasting change. Even life's greatest challenges can become opportunities for growth, resilience, and transformation.
Everyone is unique and wants a life that is filled with vitality. Our influences and experiences throughout childhood until now, have given us a narrative that has defined our understanding of who we are. Some of these experiences have created fear and unbearable grief. With self-reflection, a deeper understanding of oneself, together we can work on healing and transformation.
Everyone is unique and wants a life that is filled with vitality. Our influences and experiences throughout childhood until now, have given us a narrative that has defined our understanding of who we are. Some of these experiences have created fear and unbearable grief. With self-reflection, a deeper understanding of oneself, together we can work on healing and transformation.
Pajama Forward Therapist here! If white knuckling, self shaming, and pulling yourself up by your bootstraps worked, you’d be “cured” a billion times over. It doesn’t. At least not for me or people whose brains are different. Our minds race and it feels impossible to turn off and rest. Sometimes we use substances or other behaviors in a harmful way just to get through the day. There’s more to life out there. A more peaceful and meaningful life is possible. We need to go deeper and get to the root of things. I’ll go with you. Unable to take insurance.
Pajama Forward Therapist here! If white knuckling, self shaming, and pulling yourself up by your bootstraps worked, you’d be “cured” a billion times over. It doesn’t. At least not for me or people whose brains are different. Our minds race and it feels impossible to turn off and rest. Sometimes we use substances or other behaviors in a harmful way just to get through the day. There’s more to life out there. A more peaceful and meaningful life is possible. We need to go deeper and get to the root of things. I’ll go with you. Unable to take insurance.
With over 30 years of experience, I work from an integrative perspective and rely on a broad range of techniques including psychodynamic, transpersonal, somatic experiencing and internal family systems. I often integrate traditional therapeutic approaches with coaching techniques depending on your unique needs and goals. As a serious student of shamanism for more than 20 years, I combine these contemporary methods with ancient indigenous wisdom to support a connection to your heart, your inner wisdom, and your personal power.
With over 30 years of experience, I work from an integrative perspective and rely on a broad range of techniques including psychodynamic, transpersonal, somatic experiencing and internal family systems. I often integrate traditional therapeutic approaches with coaching techniques depending on your unique needs and goals. As a serious student of shamanism for more than 20 years, I combine these contemporary methods with ancient indigenous wisdom to support a connection to your heart, your inner wisdom, and your personal power.
I offer compassionate and empathetic support for adolescents, young adults, and adults navigating the challenges of, but not limited to: complex trauma, anxiety, depression, gender/identity, LGBTQIA2S experiences, substance use, political stress and life stress. In addition to supporting individuals, I also work with folks in traditional and other non-traditional (ENM, Polyamory, etc.) relationship dynamics.
I am certified in the World Professional Association for Transgender Health's Standards of Care 8.
I offer compassionate and empathetic support for adolescents, young adults, and adults navigating the challenges of, but not limited to: complex trauma, anxiety, depression, gender/identity, LGBTQIA2S experiences, substance use, political stress and life stress. In addition to supporting individuals, I also work with folks in traditional and other non-traditional (ENM, Polyamory, etc.) relationship dynamics.
I am certified in the World Professional Association for Transgender Health's Standards of Care 8.
I have a passion for helping people make effective changes in how they navigate life's stressors, pains and difficulties. If you are seeking a better outlook on the world and more confidence in yourself, therapy is a place for you to improve on these abilities. All it takes right now is the courage to begin.
I have a passion for helping people make effective changes in how they navigate life's stressors, pains and difficulties. If you are seeking a better outlook on the world and more confidence in yourself, therapy is a place for you to improve on these abilities. All it takes right now is the courage to begin.
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Sex-Positive, Kink Allied Therapists
Why might an individual want to see a sex-positive, kink-allied therapist?
A sex-positive or kinky individual may want to see a sex-positive, kink-allied therapist because the client may feel safer and more supported discussing their experiences and challenges. A therapist who identifies as kink-friendly will have experience with clients having diverse sexual preferences and will likely be nonjudgmental and supportive about issues brought to the table. It is important to note that sex-positive, kink-allied individuals may find equal success with therapists who do not have such specialized knowledge and background. The most important factor in the success of therapy is for the client and practitioner to form a strong, trusting bond.
Do therapists have special training to gain expertise in sex-positive, kink-allied treatment?
Generally, no. There are limited training programs and unofficial accreditations that therapists can pursue, but a therapist’s expertise will ultimately come from their previous experience with similar clients, their engagement with organizations that promote sex positivity or kink-allied lifestyles, and the importance they place on safety and cultural sensitivity.
How can individuals recognize a good sex-positive, kink-allied therapist?
An experienced therapist is able to help clients explore their sexual identity and expression and relieve any discomfort or stigma attached to discussing such matters and the client’s overall challenges. A therapist who is sex-positive and kink-allied is able to create an environment that honors a client’s experience and sexual preferences. To recognize a good therapist, clients can simply ask directly about topics and issues important to them and gauge their comfort level and connection with a clinician based on the responses.
Can clients benefit from having a therapist with a focus on sex positivity and alternative sexual lifestyles?
Some individuals may feel most comfortable knowing that the clinician they’re working with has a commitment to creating an atmosphere of sex positivity and has experience with relationship diversity and alternative relationship structures. Working with a sex-positive, kink-allied therapist may help clients respect their own challenges and improve identity-affirming treatment.