During my 40+ years 0f practice here in Chatham my approach to psychological treatment has come to be informed by a number of modalities -- psychodynamic therapy, family systems therapy, cognitive behavior therapy, mindfulness meditative practice, and, most of all, by my experience working with the people who have come to me for help. Life is challenging and it is certainly not easy to be a person. We are all born with a profound need for a sense of belonging/connection and of significance/substance. Those yearnings drive us to find fulfilling love and meaningful work, which demands constant effort and exposes us to uncertainty and loss. When losses and disappointments come in the realms of love and work and health, we are commonly subjected to debilitating, dispiriting feelings of insecurity, anxiety, and depression. If we do not handle these unbidden feelings wisely,, we may become angry in destructive ways, or we may withdraw from our responsibilities and our loves, or seek solace in drinking or drugs, or other escapist distractions that only make our lives and our painful feelings worse.