Infidelity Therapists in Asheville, NC

You are here because of conflict, infidelity , lack of intimacy and you feel disconnected in your relationship. You've been trying to reconnect but when your relationship is crisis, it can be hard to bridge the gap yourselves. When you can't trust your partner, where do you start? You're hurt, scared and lost but It's possible to let go of the pain and face your fears. Whether you're ready to come in as an individual or as a couple, we can work together to find solutions. No judgement here. It's time to get to work.

If you are having the same arguments over and over again, you are not alone. I will be with you every step of the way. I use Emotionally Focused Therapy for Couples to interrupt repetitive Cycles where one person reaches out in frustration, causing their partner to withdraw and hide out. Couple Therapy doesn't have to be torture, and there doesn't have to be a "bad guy". I have helped couples with a range of issues from Domestic Abuse to infidelity to communication issues. I even use humor sometimes, but we don't waste a moment! I welcome couples who have been in couple therapy before and have almost given up.

Our work together will be purposed to enable deeper and more loving relationships with God and others. As I have worked with people over the years, I am convinced that most presenting (non-medical) problems grow out of difficulties in our relationships. I believe that relationships provide the context in which people can see their struggles with others and within themselves as being foundational struggles with God. Therefore, I take a very relational and dynamic approach to counseling.

With nearly forty years of experience, I've helped clients with a wide range of issues: family of origin/childhood issues, grief and loss, life transitions, communication skills, relationship concerns and more. I work with both individuals and couples, focusing on what is at the core of their difficulties. With couples, I've worked with everything from relationship dissatisfaction/boredom, affairs , communication issues, sexual/intimacy concerns, etc. As a civilian counselor on military bases for several years, I've got a clear understanding of the unique pressures and challenges facing service members and families. Let's talk!

Are you feeling disconnected from your partner? You seem to have the same arguments over and over with no resolution that leave you feeling frustrated, exhausted and lonely. You may have experienced a loss, uncovered infidelity , or you or your loved one is struggling with the aftermath of trauma. The person you once could depend on now feels distant, unsafe, and untrustworthy. Perhaps you are a new couple interested in building a solid foundation for a long lasting and satisfying relationship or have different values to navigate and need help building communication strategies that are proven to support with relationship success.

People come to see me because they are experiencing a life transition, struggling with partnership/ relationships, frustrated with self-defeating patterns that they have not been able to change, having a hard time shifting relational/ family patterns, needing support navigating conflict, creating boundaries or improving relationship dynamics. I work to create a warm, safe environment where deep personal issues can be explored. I believe that we are shaped by our relationships and life experiences. I am often described as warm, intuitive and an active listener who promotes a confident, safe atmosphere for collaborative work.

Struggling in your relationship is no fun—and it can be really draining. You might find yourself spending a lot of time feeling confused, conflicted, or frustrated. If you and your partner are consistently bumping up against invisible barriers—dealing with tension and misunderstandings regularly—you might be feeling pretty invisible yourself. This can hurt, a lot… And at the end of the day, you’re missing your person and the fun you used to have together. The good news? If you’re willing to show up and get vulnerable, you can begin to repair your connection and strengthen your relationship.

Should I stay or should I go? A huge question that's weighed on you. It keeps you up at night, stressing you out. Life would be so much easier if your relationship wasn't so hard. You wish you could communicate better; feel understood. But, damn, your shit and their shit get in the way. Not to mention the pressures of career, aging parents, or demanding children. It all gets thrown in the mix, leaving you exhausted, distracted, and disenchanted by the status quo. You want things to change (better sex, intimacy, connection); you're finally ready to take charge of your life in a new and meaningful way. You've come to the right place!

People often enter therapy during times of emotional pain, uncertainty or at a time when they are seeking more meaning in their lives. Each person has within them a powerful impulse toward growth and healing. I trust that impulse and trust the therapeutic relationship to reveal your strengths, wisdom, and the next steps to your growth and healing. There is something of value in even the most difficult circumstances. When these circumstances are approached with an openness to learning, major transformations can take place. I find that the willingness to look inside yourself is a key factor in your healing.

I am passionate about my clinical work. With over 30 years experience as a licensed psychologist and a certified sex therapist I approach my work with the knowledge that a trusting connection and a safe space form the foundation from which growth and change occur. I listen with compassion and facilitate dialogue between us.

You're worried and irritable, thinking of worst-case scenarios for everything. Are you constantly questioning yourself? Or afraid if you drop your guard, you'll lose control of yourself? You're probably exhausted and worry it will always be like this. You need a change. Constant stress and fear is so overwhelming and can have a chilling effect both on your relationship with others and with yourself. You want to be able to enjoy your life, without worrying about what comes next. You want to let go of the struggle for perfection. You deserve some peace. I can help you get there.

I offer individual, couples and family Psychotherapy and Life Coaching. I would like to join with you in creating a life that brings you as much joy as possible, and to help you remove the barriers that have blocked your heart from flowing. It is my passion to create a safe space for you to experience deep heart, mind and soul healing. I would like to join together with you to tune in and trust your natural instincts, the wisdom of your organism, to flow into a more free, joyful, fulfilling, authentic, wildly wonderful existence as a human being that you were uniquely born to live.

I am still only seeing clients via tele-health. In a free first session we will discuss working together on-line. I use a combination of IFS (Internal Family Systems) and EMDR. IFS is an extraordinary therapy. In safe, gentle, respectful ways, IFS accesses and TRANSFORMS that which is the cause of your problems: your hidden and not-so-hidden fears, shame, anger, hurt… why you have negative thinking (I’m not good enough, things are not the way I want them to be), as well as the negative ways you may be acting (in anger, critical, impatient, abusing substances). I use a special on-line platform for EMDR which I am finding works well.

I connect easily with clients to feel lighter and clearer in their minds, body, and Spirit. I work with people with stressful careers in medicine, law, finance, and small businesses. Knowing the necessity of keeping a clear head and calm body, yet have been struggling with heartbreak, anxiety, fears, loss and grief that has created overwhelming stress and expectations that limits functioning. It is a challenging balancing act with career, family, relationships, along with finding some quiet time to relax. I help you master these challenges with a very confidential, (no insurance or electronic records) safe, and caring environment.

Worried that your therapist is going to give you a blank stare as soon as you start talking about your sex life? Want more than just a nod and a "hmmm" from your therapist? Let's do this! I am passionate about providing non-pathologizing care for queer, nonmonogamous, kinky, and gender diverse individuals, relationships, and families. Together we will work through your growing pains and old stories and make an action plan that translates from session to real life. If you're ready to change something, and you're ready to start today- you've come to the right place.

I hope to create a safe therapeutic relationship, where you can be known, seen, and heard. I am here to empower you to tap into your own abilities and strengths in order to create your new path. My ideal clients will have a desire to work with me on topics such as gender identity or expression, relationships, sexual orientation, sexual trauma or violence, anxiety, depression, ptsd, and other mood disorders. I work with individuals in an open and safe space.

Are you struggling with depression, anxiety or trauma? Are there problematic patterns in your relationships? Are you having difficulty effectively parenting your adolescent or young adult? You are not alone and I can help. I have been working with individuals and families for over 25 years with positive results. I create a compassionate and emotionally safe environment where we will begin your journey. I will listen to your story and together we will work through the beliefs that create limitations. I will help you develop strategies and a daily practice to improve your life.