Emotionally Focused Therapists in Saint Louis, MO

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Courtney Loosemore
Pre-Licensed Professional, MA, PLPC
Verified
1 Endorsed
Saint Louis, MO 63131
Courtney is trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and EMDR.
"You are loved and you are safe" are words we long to feel as we walk through our days, months and years. Yet, many of us walk through our days feeling fearful, powerless and alone. It is a brave journey to enter into your story and Courtney counts it a privilege to come along side you as you grow towards hope in the midst of the darkness. Courtney desires to partner with you and together explore how you can begin to live life more fully and see growth in areas of struggle.
Courtney is trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and EMDR.
"You are loved and you are safe" are words we long to feel as we walk through our days, months and years. Yet, many of us walk through our days feeling fearful, powerless and alone. It is a brave journey to enter into your story and Courtney counts it a privilege to come along side you as you grow towards hope in the midst of the darkness. Courtney desires to partner with you and together explore how you can begin to live life more fully and see growth in areas of struggle.
(314) 632-6815 View (314) 632-6815
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Richard B. Boswell, LCSW, L.L.C
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW, LLC
Verified
Saint Louis, MO 63132  (Online Only)
Waitlist for new clients
My practice is highly specialized using evidence-based methods that help couples, families and individuals. I am certified by both the Gottman Institute and the International Center for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy to help couples. I also work with individuals experiencing the challenge of depression, anxiety, trauma, bipolar disorder, parenting issues or those needing to improve their relationships with the important people in their lives.
My practice is highly specialized using evidence-based methods that help couples, families and individuals. I am certified by both the Gottman Institute and the International Center for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy to help couples. I also work with individuals experiencing the challenge of depression, anxiety, trauma, bipolar disorder, parenting issues or those needing to improve their relationships with the important people in their lives.
(314) 334-8835 View (314) 334-8835
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Emily Seligson
MA, PLPC
1 Endorsed
Saint Louis, MO 63129
She will often draw from elements of DBT, EFT, trauma-informed therapies, and attachment theory in her work with her clients.
Many of us long for genuine connection and safety in relation to ourselves and others. Sometimes we want to better understand who we are and where we came from, but it can feel daunting to even know where to begin. Other times, we hope for tools and understanding that can enable us to feel more regulated, as we move forward through challenging moments. Whatever it is that brought you here today, Emily finds it to be an honor to walk alongside you. Through a fostering of safety and trust in the therapeutic relationship, she strives to create healthy settings for change, growth, and healing.
She will often draw from elements of DBT, EFT, trauma-informed therapies, and attachment theory in her work with her clients.
Many of us long for genuine connection and safety in relation to ourselves and others. Sometimes we want to better understand who we are and where we came from, but it can feel daunting to even know where to begin. Other times, we hope for tools and understanding that can enable us to feel more regulated, as we move forward through challenging moments. Whatever it is that brought you here today, Emily finds it to be an honor to walk alongside you. Through a fostering of safety and trust in the therapeutic relationship, she strives to create healthy settings for change, growth, and healing.
(314) 635-9206 View (314) 635-9206
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Megan MacKenzie
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified
Saint Louis, MO 63108
Drawing primarily from Internal Family Systems (IFS), Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), modern psychodynamic theory, and intersectional queer theory, I provide a validating and non-judgmental space for people to explore how past experiences have shaped current beliefs and patterns.
I am a relationship, sex, and gender therapist working with individuals and couples who are seeking greater authenticity, self-compassion, and capacity for intimacy, embodiment, and eroticism. I am particularly passionate about supporting members of the LGBTQ+ community in healing from the impacts of white cishetero patriarchal systems of oppression, especially as they are internalized as shame, guilt, and low self-esteem. My approach focuses on building self-awareness, resiliency, empowerment, and joy through a trans- and queer-affirming framework.
Drawing primarily from Internal Family Systems (IFS), Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), modern psychodynamic theory, and intersectional queer theory, I provide a validating and non-judgmental space for people to explore how past experiences have shaped current beliefs and patterns.
I am a relationship, sex, and gender therapist working with individuals and couples who are seeking greater authenticity, self-compassion, and capacity for intimacy, embodiment, and eroticism. I am particularly passionate about supporting members of the LGBTQ+ community in healing from the impacts of white cishetero patriarchal systems of oppression, especially as they are internalized as shame, guilt, and low self-esteem. My approach focuses on building self-awareness, resiliency, empowerment, and joy through a trans- and queer-affirming framework.
(314) 626-0543 View (314) 626-0543
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Tracie Wallace
Counselor, MABS, MAC, LPC, NCC
Verified
1 Endorsed
Saint Louis, MO 63141
Waitlist for new clients
I use a whole person approach and utilize methods taken from Family systems, Attachment, Gottman, EMDR, EFT, IFS, Brain education, and the Enneagram.
I welcome you to my office. You are welcome to tell your stories, fight for your marriage, grieve your losses, wrestle for hope, explore your stuckness, re-imagine the "real you," or simply learn to rest. My hope is that this will be a space where you experience being known, received, and not ashamed. My personal experiences with counseling have invited me to these things.
I use a whole person approach and utilize methods taken from Family systems, Attachment, Gottman, EMDR, EFT, IFS, Brain education, and the Enneagram.
I welcome you to my office. You are welcome to tell your stories, fight for your marriage, grieve your losses, wrestle for hope, explore your stuckness, re-imagine the "real you," or simply learn to rest. My hope is that this will be a space where you experience being known, received, and not ashamed. My personal experiences with counseling have invited me to these things.
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Brad Werner
Licensed Professional Counselor, MAC
Verified
1 Endorsed
Saint Louis, MO 63131  (Online Only)
As the only Certified Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy Supervisor in St.
Couples often say to me - "We can't seem to communicate anymore. Why are we having such a hard time understanding each other?" Have you ever felt like this in your relationship? I can help you make the changes necessary to feel connected again as well as create a more hopeful future. We will work with your thoughts, feelings, and actions, in order to recognize and then disrupt your negative cycles of conflict. Then together, we will create new opportunities for increasing closeness. Ultimately, you will see what is not "working", learn "why", and begin to apply new strategies to bring safety and security back to your relationship.
As the only Certified Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy Supervisor in St.
Couples often say to me - "We can't seem to communicate anymore. Why are we having such a hard time understanding each other?" Have you ever felt like this in your relationship? I can help you make the changes necessary to feel connected again as well as create a more hopeful future. We will work with your thoughts, feelings, and actions, in order to recognize and then disrupt your negative cycles of conflict. Then together, we will create new opportunities for increasing closeness. Ultimately, you will see what is not "working", learn "why", and begin to apply new strategies to bring safety and security back to your relationship.
(314) 272-4164 View (314) 272-4164
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Alwyn S Whitehead Jr
Psychologist, PsyD
Verified
1 Endorsed
Saint Louis, MO 63109  (Online Only)
PTSD symptoms respond best to EFT (tapping), as used for Veterans.
My clients seek help with a specific difficulty. It may be depression, anxiety, PTSD, relationships, or their path in life. They want to feel happy and fulfilled but have been blocked by some difficulty. When they reach out to accept help they have made the first step in their journey of healing and happiness! We all deserve happiness and modern Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) provides tools and processes to unblock the natural flow of healing available to us. Plus, anyone can become proficient in using them and applying them to many situations in their life.
PTSD symptoms respond best to EFT (tapping), as used for Veterans.
My clients seek help with a specific difficulty. It may be depression, anxiety, PTSD, relationships, or their path in life. They want to feel happy and fulfilled but have been blocked by some difficulty. When they reach out to accept help they have made the first step in their journey of healing and happiness! We all deserve happiness and modern Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT) provides tools and processes to unblock the natural flow of healing available to us. Plus, anyone can become proficient in using them and applying them to many situations in their life.
(314) 897-4635 View (314) 897-4635
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Kara Born
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified
Saint Louis, MO 63116
I work with couples, individuals, and families focusing on issues such as anxiety, depression, relationship issues, grief/loss, and trauma. I have been trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and utilize these techniques for couples and individuals. During our sessions, we will identify the underlying emotional needs and gain tools to communicate those needs to others, whether that is with our partner, our family, or our friends. My goal is to provide a non-judgmental space where people can increase their understanding of the unhelpful patterns of behaviors that might be causing them pain and hardship.
I work with couples, individuals, and families focusing on issues such as anxiety, depression, relationship issues, grief/loss, and trauma. I have been trained in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and utilize these techniques for couples and individuals. During our sessions, we will identify the underlying emotional needs and gain tools to communicate those needs to others, whether that is with our partner, our family, or our friends. My goal is to provide a non-judgmental space where people can increase their understanding of the unhelpful patterns of behaviors that might be causing them pain and hardship.
(314) 470-8795 View (314) 470-8795
Photo of Annie Carrera, Pre-Licensed Professional in Saint Louis, MO
Annie Carrera
Pre-Licensed Professional, MA, PLPC
Verified
Saint Louis, MO 63131
Using an EFT informed approach, I help couples change their patterns.
This is a common pattern in many couples’ relationships and maybe this describes you: prior to getting married, you had a dream. A dream that your relationship would be like the ones portrayed in romantic movies, a life of bliss because you found your perfect person. Then, at some point in your marriage, you asked this question: “How did we get here?” Instead of a foundation of joy and security, you and your spouse find yourselves stuck in conflict cycles that leave you feeling bitter, distant, and hopeless.
Using an EFT informed approach, I help couples change their patterns.
This is a common pattern in many couples’ relationships and maybe this describes you: prior to getting married, you had a dream. A dream that your relationship would be like the ones portrayed in romantic movies, a life of bliss because you found your perfect person. Then, at some point in your marriage, you asked this question: “How did we get here?” Instead of a foundation of joy and security, you and your spouse find yourselves stuck in conflict cycles that leave you feeling bitter, distant, and hopeless.
(314) 474-7228 View (314) 474-7228
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Ed Killeen
Licensed Professional Counselor, MDiv, MAC, LPC
Verified
3 Endorsed
Saint Louis, MO 63117
Over half of my work is with couples. Through training and supervision in Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT), I can see and hear needs and feelings long hidden for fear of being hurt again. I empathize and acknowledge real wrongs and real emotional damage to trust and respect. I hear both sides. I also offer hope. I can see when marital conflict itself offers evidence that partners still desire and need each other. I know how difficult a process forgiveness and then trust building really are. Slowly, when even one is ready to love again, I equip both to express their hearts with a gentle strength, and to hear with compassion.
Over half of my work is with couples. Through training and supervision in Emotion Focused Therapy (EFT), I can see and hear needs and feelings long hidden for fear of being hurt again. I empathize and acknowledge real wrongs and real emotional damage to trust and respect. I hear both sides. I also offer hope. I can see when marital conflict itself offers evidence that partners still desire and need each other. I know how difficult a process forgiveness and then trust building really are. Slowly, when even one is ready to love again, I equip both to express their hearts with a gentle strength, and to hear with compassion.
(314) 309-3366 x1 View (314) 309-3366 x1
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McKayla Kagie
Pre-Licensed Professional, MA, SMFT
Verified
1 Endorsed
Saint Louis, MO 63109  (Online Only)
Using Emotionally Focused Therapy, Solution Focused Therapy and other methods to understand these behaviors helps us replace maladaptive thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors with adaptive ones to live a healthy and happy life.
The therapeutic relationship is one of healing and hope. Facilitating that relationship is very important because I understand the value of working with someone not pushing their usually well-intentioned agenda onto your situation. Someone outside our problems who has no investment in how we handle those problems can offer limitless perspective and an abundance of compassion. In addition to being a listening ear, therapists have many resources and tools to help us navigate whatever challenges and changes life throws at us. This is the type of therapist I strive to be.
Using Emotionally Focused Therapy, Solution Focused Therapy and other methods to understand these behaviors helps us replace maladaptive thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors with adaptive ones to live a healthy and happy life.
The therapeutic relationship is one of healing and hope. Facilitating that relationship is very important because I understand the value of working with someone not pushing their usually well-intentioned agenda onto your situation. Someone outside our problems who has no investment in how we handle those problems can offer limitless perspective and an abundance of compassion. In addition to being a listening ear, therapists have many resources and tools to help us navigate whatever challenges and changes life throws at us. This is the type of therapist I strive to be.
(314) 207-9904 View (314) 207-9904
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Heath Salzman
Pre-Licensed Professional, PLPC, MAC, MDiv
Verified
1 Endorsed
Saint Louis, MO 63118
I pursue an integrative counseling approach informed by interpersonal process, attachment theory, IFS, EFT, and family systems.
I work with individuals, couples, and families to explore the problems that bring them to counseling, to understand how they are related to client’s past story, and to collaborate on the path toward hope, healing, and restoration. I work from the belief that we were created to be whole in relationship with ourselves, our God, and our neighbors.
I pursue an integrative counseling approach informed by interpersonal process, attachment theory, IFS, EFT, and family systems.
I work with individuals, couples, and families to explore the problems that bring them to counseling, to understand how they are related to client’s past story, and to collaborate on the path toward hope, healing, and restoration. I work from the belief that we were created to be whole in relationship with ourselves, our God, and our neighbors.
(314) 907-3748 View (314) 907-3748
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Katie Taggart
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, MSW, LCSW
Verified
Saint Louis, MO 63141
I use various modes of treatment, including play therapy, CBT, EFT, and person-centered therapy.
I am dedicated to providing a safe space for all of your therapy needs. I believe the most important component of successful therapy is the development of a therapeutic relationship. I want you or your child to feel safe and comfortable so that real change can be made. When a person feels safe, they are able to be open and honest about their feelings. I have extensive experience serving clients with chronic and terminal illness as well as grief and loss. I previously worked in hospice and enjoy being able to walk alongside you in your grief journey.
I use various modes of treatment, including play therapy, CBT, EFT, and person-centered therapy.
I am dedicated to providing a safe space for all of your therapy needs. I believe the most important component of successful therapy is the development of a therapeutic relationship. I want you or your child to feel safe and comfortable so that real change can be made. When a person feels safe, they are able to be open and honest about their feelings. I have extensive experience serving clients with chronic and terminal illness as well as grief and loss. I previously worked in hospice and enjoy being able to walk alongside you in your grief journey.
(314) 876-0686 View (314) 876-0686
Photo of Sarah Howell, Pre-Licensed Professional in Saint Louis, MO
Sarah Howell
Pre-Licensed Professional
Verified
1 Endorsed
Saint Louis, MO 63132
My unique approach is grounded in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for individuals, couples, and families, complemented by Gottman interventions and creative art and expressive techniques.
Are you feeling trapped in a dizzying maze of emotional distress and longing for deeper connections but struggling due to grief, unresolved trauma, or a loved one’s illness? Whether you're wrestling with the shadows of a difficult past, feeling the sting of relationship trauma, or navigating grief, I'm here to help. I understand the pain of feeling alone, stuck and craving a deeper connection. Picture yourself escaping the labyrinth of emotional distress and imagine the warmth and safety of a secure connection with yourself and others. Envision a future where you feel safe, secure, loved, and soothed.
My unique approach is grounded in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for individuals, couples, and families, complemented by Gottman interventions and creative art and expressive techniques.
Are you feeling trapped in a dizzying maze of emotional distress and longing for deeper connections but struggling due to grief, unresolved trauma, or a loved one’s illness? Whether you're wrestling with the shadows of a difficult past, feeling the sting of relationship trauma, or navigating grief, I'm here to help. I understand the pain of feeling alone, stuck and craving a deeper connection. Picture yourself escaping the labyrinth of emotional distress and imagine the warmth and safety of a secure connection with yourself and others. Envision a future where you feel safe, secure, loved, and soothed.
(314) 375-2696 x710 View (314) 375-2696 x710
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Kathryn Muñiz
MA
Verified
2 Endorsed
Saint Louis, MO 63118
I have training in Emotionally Focused Therapy, and my approach to counseling is trauma-informed, attachment-focused, and rooted in family systems theory.
To share your story and start a journey toward healing is profoundly brave and admirable. Being entrusted to walk alongside those who are willing to take that risk is a privilege that I don’t take lightly. I count it as a tremendous honor to be invited to sit with the clients I work with, in moments of vulnerability and hurt and in those of victory and celebration.
I have training in Emotionally Focused Therapy, and my approach to counseling is trauma-informed, attachment-focused, and rooted in family systems theory.
To share your story and start a journey toward healing is profoundly brave and admirable. Being entrusted to walk alongside those who are willing to take that risk is a privilege that I don’t take lightly. I count it as a tremendous honor to be invited to sit with the clients I work with, in moments of vulnerability and hurt and in those of victory and celebration.
(314) 900-3437 View (314) 900-3437
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Amy Goldstein
Licensed Professional Counselor, MA, LPC, CSAT, CSAM, CHT
Verified
6 Endorsed
Saint Louis, MO 63132
I also have obtained special training in: (CBT), (ART) Accelerated Resolution , (EMDR) Eye movement desensitization, (PMT) Parent Management, (EFT) Emotional Focused Therapy.
I provide a warm, safe, and supportive environment where my clients can explore their issues and challenges they face. I see a wide array of clients with anxiety, depression, grief, stress, relationship issues, anger issues etc. I feel privileged to be able to offer my assistance to others on this shared journey and commend you for reaching out for help to make things better. I am currently accepting new clients, and my services are offered at a reduced rate which makes affordability an option. My location is in Creve Coeur which is 20 minutes from O'Fallon, 15 minutes to Chesterfield, and approx 25 minutes to downtown.
I also have obtained special training in: (CBT), (ART) Accelerated Resolution , (EMDR) Eye movement desensitization, (PMT) Parent Management, (EFT) Emotional Focused Therapy.
I provide a warm, safe, and supportive environment where my clients can explore their issues and challenges they face. I see a wide array of clients with anxiety, depression, grief, stress, relationship issues, anger issues etc. I feel privileged to be able to offer my assistance to others on this shared journey and commend you for reaching out for help to make things better. I am currently accepting new clients, and my services are offered at a reduced rate which makes affordability an option. My location is in Creve Coeur which is 20 minutes from O'Fallon, 15 minutes to Chesterfield, and approx 25 minutes to downtown.
(636) 577-2397 View (636) 577-2397
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J. Douglas Pettinelli, Ph.D.
Psychologist, PhD
Verified
1 Endorsed
Saint Louis, MO 63108
My therapeutic framework is relational, interpersonal, emotionally focused and developmental.
I work with children, adolescents, adults, couples and families from a relational, trauma informed, attachment informed, developmental perspective. Trained in child psychotherapy, couples therapy and family therapy, I work to understand clients within the context of their primary and family relationships. I especially enjoy working with couples and families. I work to identify the emotional and interpersonal obstacles to further growth, and build on the strength and resilience of the individual, couple and family. .I have experience working with children and adolescents experiencing the full range of emotional, social and developmental difficulties.
My therapeutic framework is relational, interpersonal, emotionally focused and developmental.
I work with children, adolescents, adults, couples and families from a relational, trauma informed, attachment informed, developmental perspective. Trained in child psychotherapy, couples therapy and family therapy, I work to understand clients within the context of their primary and family relationships. I especially enjoy working with couples and families. I work to identify the emotional and interpersonal obstacles to further growth, and build on the strength and resilience of the individual, couple and family. .I have experience working with children and adolescents experiencing the full range of emotional, social and developmental difficulties.
(314) 858-5040 View (314) 858-5040
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Alyssa (Aleesa) Nagel-Wild
Licensed Professional Counselor, EdS, MA, LPC
Verified
Saint Louis, MO 63110  (Online Only)
Currently accepting limited individual clients for telehealth in Missouri and Oregon. I specialize in the areas of relationship and attachment issues, difficult life experiences, depression, and anxiety, ENM/polyamory, and exploring existence/spirituality. I am Queer welcoming, sex positive, and ENM relationship experienced. I work with ages 18+. I believe firmly in the power of radical acceptance. Whatever the experience may be...noticing, accepting, expressing, and finding true choice helps us get underneath the symptoms to facilitate true growth and empowerment.
Currently accepting limited individual clients for telehealth in Missouri and Oregon. I specialize in the areas of relationship and attachment issues, difficult life experiences, depression, and anxiety, ENM/polyamory, and exploring existence/spirituality. I am Queer welcoming, sex positive, and ENM relationship experienced. I work with ages 18+. I believe firmly in the power of radical acceptance. Whatever the experience may be...noticing, accepting, expressing, and finding true choice helps us get underneath the symptoms to facilitate true growth and empowerment.
(971) 298-8069 View (971) 298-8069
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Dr. Leslie Davis
Counselor, PhD, LCPC, NCC
Verified
Saint Louis, MO 63116
Waitlist for new clients
I am a National Certified Counselor and a member of The International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT).
Do you constantly find yourself in toxic relationships? Have your relationships caused you anxiety or depression? It’s time for a change. As your therapist, my goal is to help you thrive in healthy relationships with your romantic partner, friend, or family member. My ideal clients are teens, young adults, college students, and couples who may struggle in their relationships. Using an emotion-focused approach I will empower you with tools to improve your relationships and your self-esteem. My promise is to never sugarcoat the truth, so grab a cup of coffee/tea and come sit with me.
I am a National Certified Counselor and a member of The International Centre for Excellence in Emotionally Focused Therapy (ICEEFT).
Do you constantly find yourself in toxic relationships? Have your relationships caused you anxiety or depression? It’s time for a change. As your therapist, my goal is to help you thrive in healthy relationships with your romantic partner, friend, or family member. My ideal clients are teens, young adults, college students, and couples who may struggle in their relationships. Using an emotion-focused approach I will empower you with tools to improve your relationships and your self-esteem. My promise is to never sugarcoat the truth, so grab a cup of coffee/tea and come sit with me.
(708) 295-3412 View (708) 295-3412
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Deborah Lynn Gegg
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW
Verified
1 Endorsed
Saint Louis, MO 63119
Waitlist for new clients
I often use Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and/or Emotionally Focused Therapy to help clients achieve their goals.
Anxiety, stress, depression, family and relationship challenges or divorce... I am a compassionate clinical social worker, educated at Washington University, with over 15 years of experience in the St. Louis area. My approach is empathetic and non-judgmental as I help you find solutions that meet the needs of your situation. I am both passionate and well-versed in step-parenting and parenting issues, remarriage and life transitions, including divorce, grief and aging.
I often use Cognitive Behavioral Therapy and/or Emotionally Focused Therapy to help clients achieve their goals.
Anxiety, stress, depression, family and relationship challenges or divorce... I am a compassionate clinical social worker, educated at Washington University, with over 15 years of experience in the St. Louis area. My approach is empathetic and non-judgmental as I help you find solutions that meet the needs of your situation. I am both passionate and well-versed in step-parenting and parenting issues, remarriage and life transitions, including divorce, grief and aging.
(314) 501-9295 View (314) 501-9295

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Emotionally Focused Therapists

Who is emotionally focused therapy for?

Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) is for couples who are emotionally distressed, stuck in an unsatisfying relationship pattern or feeling deeply alienated. They may even believe the relationship is beyond repair. Very often, the partners display intense anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal in the relationship. In addition, EFT is helpful to couples and individuals who have difficulty expressing emotions and those who have trouble regulating emotions.

Why do people need emotionally focused therapy?

People need emotionally focused therapy because the need for others is built into the brain, but the pressures of daily life can erode feelings of love, and couples often do not have the skills to find their way back to the comfort of each other. Instead, they may be stuck in repetitive patterns of anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal. Emotionally focused therapy regards such strong negative feelings as expressions of protest over the loss of connection and turns them into pathways of reconnection.

What happens in emotionally focused therapy?

Over the course of eight to 20 weekly sessions, couples de-escalate their negative emotional reactivity to one another so that they can listen to each other and be responsive to each other’s needs. Then the deep emotional and physical bond is restored, giving partners a sense of comfort and security, which they can use to solve whatever problems come their way. The therapist plays an active role, helping partners understand how anger and withdrawal are actually misguided cries for connection.

What problems does emotionally focused therapy treat?

EFT is designed to help couples stuck in dysfunctional relationship patterns regain closeness and rebuild their relationship. Typically, such couples experience considerable distress, with partners feeling alienated and distrustful of one another, not certain their relationship can survive. EFT is also helpful to individuals experiencing attachment-related fears of loss; it helps them learn to use their fears as a way of eliciting the closeness they desire.