Couples Counseling Therapists in Saint Louis, MO

Are your concerns with life, finances, relationships, love, loss and/or health generating strong feelings of emotional distress? I use a strength-based approach to help find solutions rather than problems. My name is Dr. Deadre Holmes and I am a licensed psychologist in the states of Missouri and Illinois, who has worked with children, adolescents, adults, senior citizens and couples for over 10 years. I earned my Ph. D. from the University of Missouri-Columbia, I have experience in a number of settings such as university counseling center, community counseling, military medical center, prison, and nursing homes.

Life does not come with a road map and sometimes we find ourselves straying off course. Call me today to see if we can help you get back on the path.

Do you want to live a happier and healthier life? Talking to an experienced, qualified therapist can help. I treat adults, teens, couples , and families seeking relief from depression, anxiety, grief, addiction,and mood disorders. We all work strive towards happiness, but we sometimes get stuck in pattern from the past and live with anxiety about the future. You don't have to suffer alone.

I provide therapeutic services to adults, adolescents, couples , and families, specializing in work with clients who are seeking growth or healing within relationships – both those held with others and with themselves. Much of my work explores experiences of alienation or conflict within ourselves, our families, and our communities. The clients that I have found to best fit my approach are seeking purpose and meaning, navigating feelings of uncertainty, and are interested in examining ways outward relationships reflect their inner selves.

Did you know that couples on average wait 6 years before seeking help for a troubled marriage. Are you and your spouse wanting renewal, connection and joy. There is hope whether the problem is trust, emotional distance, or escalating conflict. I start with a strengths based focus using research based Gottman method interventions that work. Do you have more than 20 days in the month of sadness, irritability or anxious worry? Individual counseling is a place to tell your story in order to build new skills and experiences to increase the days of happiness and contentment each month.

Have you experienced trauma in your life and seem to struggle with the same situations over and over, not knowing how to stop the vicious cycle. Are your emotions problematic, do you repeat unhealthy behaviors, relationships, have an onslaught of negative thoughts and no matter how successful you have become, you feel like a fake, insecure and if people really knew? How many times have you promised that you will stop, alcohol, drugs and really mean it, want it, yet once again fall short. As a veteran, were you in combat, was your military experience depleting, anxiety provoking and your life never the same? What keeps you stuck?

I am a particularly good fit for clients who tend to intellectualize their problems and who are uncomfortable/unaccustomed to tapping into their emotions. I am a more interactive therapist. I see therapy as a conversation. If you are someone who has been frustrated by therapists who are detached, I may be a good fit for you. I am patient and I will not push you into going deeper than you feel comfortable with at the moment. I know that change and trust are slow processes and I will respect your ability to set the pace of your own therapy.

After 28 years of counseling individuals, couples and families, and growing the love in a 30+ year marriage myself, I feel privileged to say I specialize in "Relationships." I love inspiring people to look more within themselves for happiness, security, and value; and to understand that friction in relationships can help us grow, and grow closer. Those open to change benefit most; a healthy couple takes healthy people. I also see adults individually, many with relationship challenges, but also seeking help with concerns like low self worth, anxiety, sadness, depression, negative thoughts, addictions, feeling stuck/unfulfilled.

Sometimes we struggle in knowing how to tolerate and accept difficult feelings without shame and judgment. Often times this is due to adverse experiences in childhood and/or adulthood. I am passionate about helping clients find their creative abilities and potential and incorporating it into the healing process. I practice from a depth psychotherapy perspective that is typically longer term and unstructured, but highly rewarding. Areas of interest include attachment, relational concerns, Jungian influenced depth psychotherapy, the personal and collective unconscious, dream work, and somatic work.

I am an intuitive therapist who holds safe space for individuals to gain insight and healing into themselves and their life experiences. I support you in exploring and living a more authentic, loving, meaningful and fulfilling life. Being seen, understood and accepted as we actually are in this moment is vital to positive change. I am committed to being a compassionate witness and mirror in your transformative journey of healing and (re)discovery. Additionally, I offer clinical consultation and supervision to provisionally licensed counselors.

I have been a practicing Clinical Psychologist in the St. Louis area for over 20 years. I treat kids, teenagers, couples , and adults with various mental health issues. I have written a nationally published self-growth book and I have taught graduate psychology courses.

Many of us enter therapy believing that we are lost causes or somehow don’t belong in this space. Let me be the first to affirm: you are whole, you do not need to be ‘fixed’, you belong. In therapy, the needs of each person are unique, but our shared humanity connects us in deep and meaningful ways, so our time together will bring both of these to the fore. We will need your self-determination and tenacity, and we will also need one another — the relationship between client and therapist is in fact the vehicle for healing and recovery. My deepest wish is to be a guide and fellow sojourner as we journey toward change.