Emotionally Focused Therapists in Minneapolis, MN

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Allie Devney
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Minneapolis, MN 55413
Waitlist for new clients
I am a systems thinker with advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT).
I specialize in working with couples, families, and individuals (adolescents and adults). Utilizing a collaborative, eclectic approach, I bring warmth, humor, and curiosity to the therapeutic relationship.
I am a systems thinker with advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT).
I specialize in working with couples, families, and individuals (adolescents and adults). Utilizing a collaborative, eclectic approach, I bring warmth, humor, and curiosity to the therapeutic relationship.
(612) 509-5477 View (612) 509-5477
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Christina Wiles
Pre-Licensed Professional, MS, LAMFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Minneapolis, MN 55419
In my work with couples and individuals I draw on Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), polyvagal theory, experiential mindfulness, Internal Family Systems (IFS), and Nonviolent Communication (NVC).
Whether you’re looking for deep personal healing, you want to create a more enjoyable relationship, or you need some extra support during a difficult time, I offer a nonjudgmental space where I will walk beside you every step of the way as we find a way forward. I believe our past experiences live in our bodies, and I’m interested in how those experiences continue to show up in our lives and our relationships. I enjoy working with people who want to explore new ways of relating to themselves and the people they care about. I welcome people of all gender identities, sexualities, and relationship structures.
In my work with couples and individuals I draw on Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), polyvagal theory, experiential mindfulness, Internal Family Systems (IFS), and Nonviolent Communication (NVC).
Whether you’re looking for deep personal healing, you want to create a more enjoyable relationship, or you need some extra support during a difficult time, I offer a nonjudgmental space where I will walk beside you every step of the way as we find a way forward. I believe our past experiences live in our bodies, and I’m interested in how those experiences continue to show up in our lives and our relationships. I enjoy working with people who want to explore new ways of relating to themselves and the people they care about. I welcome people of all gender identities, sexualities, and relationship structures.
(651) 615-4655 View (651) 615-4655
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Alessandra Gaglio
Marriage & Family Therapist Intern
Verified Verified
Minneapolis, MN 55407
Waitlist for new clients
In therapy I value equity, collaboration, humor, and patience. I believe in a holistic approach where we consider the individual not as a set of symptoms, but as a whole, complex, capable human being. You are the expert in your own life– in our work I will strive to provide support, reflection, and camaraderie as you seek out a life that fulfills you.
In therapy I value equity, collaboration, humor, and patience. I believe in a holistic approach where we consider the individual not as a set of symptoms, but as a whole, complex, capable human being. You are the expert in your own life– in our work I will strive to provide support, reflection, and camaraderie as you seek out a life that fulfills you.
(612) 482-4503 View (612) 482-4503
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Monica Landolt White
Marriage & Family Therapist, PhD, LMFT
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Minneapolis, MN 55403
Are you feeling that you are just not living your best life? Are you struggling to find contentment and joy in your life even though to the outside world, your life looks good? Do you sometimes questioned why your inner voice doesn't always show up when you need it? My ideal clients are those who know that they are not living their most authentic lives, who are ready to make change, but just need some guidance along the way. They are wise and insightful and driven to be their best selves, but are still struggling to find that feeling of wholeness. I facilitate change using evidence-based treatments including: EFT, EMDR & IFS.
Are you feeling that you are just not living your best life? Are you struggling to find contentment and joy in your life even though to the outside world, your life looks good? Do you sometimes questioned why your inner voice doesn't always show up when you need it? My ideal clients are those who know that they are not living their most authentic lives, who are ready to make change, but just need some guidance along the way. They are wise and insightful and driven to be their best selves, but are still struggling to find that feeling of wholeness. I facilitate change using evidence-based treatments including: EFT, EMDR & IFS.
(612) 712-6544 View (612) 712-6544
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Karen Knab
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
Minneapolis, MN 55406  (Online Only)
I have additional training in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and Internal Family Systems (IFS).
Do you struggle with perfectionism, a lot of internal pressure, and responsibility? Are you feeling anxious, overwhelmed, and struggling in certain areas of your life? Do you have a hard time expressing yourself and being heard in relationships? I specialize in helping clients who are struggling with relationships of all kinds - family, workplace, romantic - and want to feel less stress and tension, and more harmony in their interpersonal relationships.
I have additional training in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and Internal Family Systems (IFS).
Do you struggle with perfectionism, a lot of internal pressure, and responsibility? Are you feeling anxious, overwhelmed, and struggling in certain areas of your life? Do you have a hard time expressing yourself and being heard in relationships? I specialize in helping clients who are struggling with relationships of all kinds - family, workplace, romantic - and want to feel less stress and tension, and more harmony in their interpersonal relationships.
(651) 661-3471 View (651) 661-3471
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Hannah Bunney
Licensed Professional Counselor, MA, LPCC
Verified Verified
Minneapolis, MN 55423  (Online Only)
I have specialized trainings in the AIR Network Model, Perinatal Mood and Anxiety Disorders, Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART) (Level 1), Brainspotting (Phases 1-4, Masterclass, From Freeze to Thaw (somatic/body processing) parts 1 & 2, Expansion, Chakras Theory, Addiction), Emotionally Focused Therapy and prescribe to the Health at Every Size philosophy.
Welcome to my highly specialized trauma and somatic processing practice! I specialize in Eating Disorders, Traumas, Domestic Violence, Perinatal Mood and Anxiety Disorders and general mental health distress. You can expect most sessions to incorporate either Brainspotting or ART, with some skill building and traditional talk therapy mixed throughout, while primarily working through the AIR Network Model lens. My goal is for you to reach your mental health needs and goals in an efficient and timely manner to reach a point where you can graduate from mental health services and only need maintenance sessions as new stressors arise.
I have specialized trainings in the AIR Network Model, Perinatal Mood and Anxiety Disorders, Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART) (Level 1), Brainspotting (Phases 1-4, Masterclass, From Freeze to Thaw (somatic/body processing) parts 1 & 2, Expansion, Chakras Theory, Addiction), Emotionally Focused Therapy and prescribe to the Health at Every Size philosophy.
Welcome to my highly specialized trauma and somatic processing practice! I specialize in Eating Disorders, Traumas, Domestic Violence, Perinatal Mood and Anxiety Disorders and general mental health distress. You can expect most sessions to incorporate either Brainspotting or ART, with some skill building and traditional talk therapy mixed throughout, while primarily working through the AIR Network Model lens. My goal is for you to reach your mental health needs and goals in an efficient and timely manner to reach a point where you can graduate from mental health services and only need maintenance sessions as new stressors arise.
(952) 522-3480 View (952) 522-3480
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Callie Nimmo
Pre-Licensed Professional
Verified Verified
Minneapolis, MN 55416
My modalities include Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Sensate Focus techniques, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Narrative Therapy, and Solution Focused Therapy.
Relationships are hard! But you are not alone. By simply taking a step toward finding a therapist, you are moving closer to your goal of a more fulfilling relationship. I'm passionate about helping couples find hope, healing, and connection. Through warmth, compassion, and authenticity, I help couples create a roadmap to achieve their goals. Using a trauma-informed and culturally-attuned approach, I seek to help clients heal from past hurts and discover the unique strengths and resilience they bring to their relationships.
My modalities include Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), Sensate Focus techniques, Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT), Narrative Therapy, and Solution Focused Therapy.
Relationships are hard! But you are not alone. By simply taking a step toward finding a therapist, you are moving closer to your goal of a more fulfilling relationship. I'm passionate about helping couples find hope, healing, and connection. Through warmth, compassion, and authenticity, I help couples create a roadmap to achieve their goals. Using a trauma-informed and culturally-attuned approach, I seek to help clients heal from past hurts and discover the unique strengths and resilience they bring to their relationships.
(612) 808-0722 View (612) 808-0722
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Douglas P Robinson
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Minneapolis, MN 55428
I am trained in Narrative Therapy, and have certificates in Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy and Gottman Systems Family Therapy.
I see life as a mosaic of experiences, and we all do the best we can with what we know at the time. But sometimes, anxiety, depression or the simple challenges of daily life can hold people back from living the fullest, best story of their life. My goal as a therapist is to explore and bring to light a person’s inner strengths, so they can overcome their personal obstacles and enjoy better, more productive lives and relationships. Everyone, regardless of life’s stumbles, deserves the best life they can imagine, and my goal is to walk with them and help them along this journey.
I am trained in Narrative Therapy, and have certificates in Dialectical Behavioral Therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy and Gottman Systems Family Therapy.
I see life as a mosaic of experiences, and we all do the best we can with what we know at the time. But sometimes, anxiety, depression or the simple challenges of daily life can hold people back from living the fullest, best story of their life. My goal as a therapist is to explore and bring to light a person’s inner strengths, so they can overcome their personal obstacles and enjoy better, more productive lives and relationships. Everyone, regardless of life’s stumbles, deserves the best life they can imagine, and my goal is to walk with them and help them along this journey.
(763) 343-7845 View (763) 343-7845
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Sandra Struthers
Pre-Licensed Professional, MA
Verified Verified
Minneapolis, MN 55416
Your healing will be supported with evidence-based interventions drawn from IFS, EFT, Narrative and Somatic theories.
Are you seeking individual (teen and adult), couple/partnership, or family therapy? With warmth, humor and “real talk,” I will support you in navigating personal and inter-personal challenges, and creating an authentic life that's in integrity with your values. My approach with clients is informal and collaborative - you are the expert on your life! So, let's work together to create the life you want. FYI: I currently only have new client availability with a clinic that accepts private pay, FSA/HSA cards, or out-of-network insurance coverage.
Your healing will be supported with evidence-based interventions drawn from IFS, EFT, Narrative and Somatic theories.
Are you seeking individual (teen and adult), couple/partnership, or family therapy? With warmth, humor and “real talk,” I will support you in navigating personal and inter-personal challenges, and creating an authentic life that's in integrity with your values. My approach with clients is informal and collaborative - you are the expert on your life! So, let's work together to create the life you want. FYI: I currently only have new client availability with a clinic that accepts private pay, FSA/HSA cards, or out-of-network insurance coverage.
(612) 324-5525 View (612) 324-5525
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Samantha Iverson
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Minneapolis, MN 55407
I have advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) with additional training/experience in EMDR, DBT and PrepareEnrich Premarital Inventory.
Maybe you're looking to focus on yourself in this season. Or, perhaps you're needing to attend to your relationship right now. You could be seeking some premarital counsel. Regardless of what brings you here, I would be honored to walk alongside you in the journey and explore resolve together. I specialize in helping individuals and couples navigate difficulties in life, communicate better and connect more deeply to themselves and the people they love. Email me, or visit my website www.ivysagecounseling.com and book a free intro call.
I have advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) with additional training/experience in EMDR, DBT and PrepareEnrich Premarital Inventory.
Maybe you're looking to focus on yourself in this season. Or, perhaps you're needing to attend to your relationship right now. You could be seeking some premarital counsel. Regardless of what brings you here, I would be honored to walk alongside you in the journey and explore resolve together. I specialize in helping individuals and couples navigate difficulties in life, communicate better and connect more deeply to themselves and the people they love. Email me, or visit my website www.ivysagecounseling.com and book a free intro call.
(612) 448-3120 View (612) 448-3120
Sandra Laski
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, DSW, LICSW, MSW, MEd, LADC
Verified Verified
Minneapolis, MN 55408  (Online Only)
I have been trained in DBT, ART, EMDR, EFT, and certified with WPATH SOC.
I am a licensed clinician in MN and OR. I provide a safe, respectful, nonjudgmental setting to explore and discover solutions to diverse challenges. A critical element of therapy is the development of a trusting relationship between the client and therapist and can impact the healing process. Healing is a unique and individual process, as such, I believe it is important to learn of the uniqueness of each client and their goals for therapy.
I have been trained in DBT, ART, EMDR, EFT, and certified with WPATH SOC.
I am a licensed clinician in MN and OR. I provide a safe, respectful, nonjudgmental setting to explore and discover solutions to diverse challenges. A critical element of therapy is the development of a trusting relationship between the client and therapist and can impact the healing process. Healing is a unique and individual process, as such, I believe it is important to learn of the uniqueness of each client and their goals for therapy.
(612) 260-4094 View (612) 260-4094
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Benjamin Ronning
Pre-Licensed Professional, MA
Verified Verified
Minneapolis, MN 55403
I consider the opportunity to learn about a client's unique inner experiences to be a wonderful privilege. As the therapeutic relationship strengthens, so does the chance to learn and evolve. I try my best to understand and create a warm, open, and safe therapeutic environment. My work is integrative and rooted in Person-Centered Theory. I utilize various interventions including Emotionally Focused Therapy, Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy, and an existential approach.
I consider the opportunity to learn about a client's unique inner experiences to be a wonderful privilege. As the therapeutic relationship strengthens, so does the chance to learn and evolve. I try my best to understand and create a warm, open, and safe therapeutic environment. My work is integrative and rooted in Person-Centered Theory. I utilize various interventions including Emotionally Focused Therapy, Cognitive-Behavioral Therapy, and an existential approach.
(612) 324-5772 x2 View (612) 324-5772 x2
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Samuel Vagac
Pre-Licensed Professional
Verified Verified
Minneapolis, MN 55403
Employing a trauma-informed lens, I utilize the Gottman Method, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), and Internal Family Systems (IFS) to address the unique needs of my clients.
As a mental health practitioner, I intentionally prioritize creating a safe environment to process your past and present challenges. I am passionate about empowering individuals, partners, and families to realize their true strength within themselves at their own pace. We all are a part of differing systems that affect our overall well-being. As your therapist, it is my role to support you in deciding how you want to show up and participate in those systems in a healthier way.
Employing a trauma-informed lens, I utilize the Gottman Method, Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), and Internal Family Systems (IFS) to address the unique needs of my clients.
As a mental health practitioner, I intentionally prioritize creating a safe environment to process your past and present challenges. I am passionate about empowering individuals, partners, and families to realize their true strength within themselves at their own pace. We all are a part of differing systems that affect our overall well-being. As your therapist, it is my role to support you in deciding how you want to show up and participate in those systems in a healthier way.
(612) 662-6526 View (612) 662-6526
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Alexandria Grim
Licensed Professional Counselor, MS, LPCC
Verified Verified
Minneapolis, MN 55430  (Online Only)
Waitlist for new clients
My name is Alexandria Grim or Lexy for short. I am a licensed professional counselor and owner of Breaking Free Counseling and Consulting Services. I have a B.A. in African American Studies and a minor in Sociology from the University of Mn. I also have a M.S. in Clinical Mental Health Counseling from Walden University. My counseling style is eclectic, integrative and intuitive in nature. Specifically, my approach blends a balance between influences of Adlerian therapy, DBT, CBT, TF-CBT and EFT. I am also a spiritual counselor working toward certification. I believe in a holistic/mind,body, spirit approach to therapy.
My name is Alexandria Grim or Lexy for short. I am a licensed professional counselor and owner of Breaking Free Counseling and Consulting Services. I have a B.A. in African American Studies and a minor in Sociology from the University of Mn. I also have a M.S. in Clinical Mental Health Counseling from Walden University. My counseling style is eclectic, integrative and intuitive in nature. Specifically, my approach blends a balance between influences of Adlerian therapy, DBT, CBT, TF-CBT and EFT. I am also a spiritual counselor working toward certification. I believe in a holistic/mind,body, spirit approach to therapy.
(763) 343-8272 View (763) 343-8272
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Anne Elizabeth Ferguson
Pre-Licensed Professional, MA, LAMFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Minneapolis, MN 55441
I specialize in Emotionally Focused Therapy with couples and individuals.
I work with couples and individuals who want to strengthen their mental health through building secure attachments with themselves and others. Together we explore life experiences that may have led to feelings of attachment insecurity and we work to build new experiences of emotionally safety and security. With couples, we explore places they get stuck and help create new communication patterns and a deeper connection to strengthen their bonds. I enjoy working with couples who want to work hard to improve their relationships and also support couples who want to end a relationship in a kind and caring way.
I specialize in Emotionally Focused Therapy with couples and individuals.
I work with couples and individuals who want to strengthen their mental health through building secure attachments with themselves and others. Together we explore life experiences that may have led to feelings of attachment insecurity and we work to build new experiences of emotionally safety and security. With couples, we explore places they get stuck and help create new communication patterns and a deeper connection to strengthen their bonds. I enjoy working with couples who want to work hard to improve their relationships and also support couples who want to end a relationship in a kind and caring way.
(651) 342-8253 View (651) 342-8253
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Alexa J. Tennyson
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
9 Endorsed
Minneapolis, MN 55407
I have advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for couples.
Research shows the relationship between the client(s) and therapist is the most important component in creating change and relief from distress. My hope is to create a safe space for you to explore yourself and your relationship(s) and for us to work together respectfully, openly, and honestly to achieve your goals. I am passionate about working with couples and have advanced training in Emotionally-Focused Couple Therapy (EFT). I enjoy working on marital/couple issues, LGBTQ+-related concerns, life transitions, existential issues, and gender identity. I also like working with mental health professionals and therapists!
I have advanced training in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) for couples.
Research shows the relationship between the client(s) and therapist is the most important component in creating change and relief from distress. My hope is to create a safe space for you to explore yourself and your relationship(s) and for us to work together respectfully, openly, and honestly to achieve your goals. I am passionate about working with couples and have advanced training in Emotionally-Focused Couple Therapy (EFT). I enjoy working on marital/couple issues, LGBTQ+-related concerns, life transitions, existential issues, and gender identity. I also like working with mental health professionals and therapists!
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Joseph Lundsten
Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor, MA, LPCC
Verified Verified
Minneapolis, MN 55418
I have come to embrace an integrative approach with individuals and couples that uses psychodynamic therapies, emotionally focused therapy, somatic work, mindfulness, hypnotherapy, and Christian spiritual integration.
Currently, I am working with adults and couples with varying concerns including: grief and loss, depression, anxiety, PTSD and trauma, addiction and substance use, sexual addiction and integrity, faith and spirituality, chronic health issues, OCD and scrupulosity, and relational and family issues.
I have come to embrace an integrative approach with individuals and couples that uses psychodynamic therapies, emotionally focused therapy, somatic work, mindfulness, hypnotherapy, and Christian spiritual integration.
Currently, I am working with adults and couples with varying concerns including: grief and loss, depression, anxiety, PTSD and trauma, addiction and substance use, sexual addiction and integrity, faith and spirituality, chronic health issues, OCD and scrupulosity, and relational and family issues.
(651) 565-6987 View (651) 565-6987
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Hanna Zipes Basel
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, MSW, LICSW, LADC, CST
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Minneapolis, MN 55408  (Online Only)
I specialize in Emotionally Focused Therapy and Gottman Therapy.
Couples therapy is my passion. Given the chaos and the way in which human relationships are being undermined in our world today, I feel this work is particularly needed. As far as human happiness goes, I see time and time again that it is the quality of a person’s relationships that makes it or breaks it. This is really the foundation of my couples therapy practice. More than ever, the world needs couples who have each other’s backs, and can bring empathy and intelligent action into the world.
I specialize in Emotionally Focused Therapy and Gottman Therapy.
Couples therapy is my passion. Given the chaos and the way in which human relationships are being undermined in our world today, I feel this work is particularly needed. As far as human happiness goes, I see time and time again that it is the quality of a person’s relationships that makes it or breaks it. This is really the foundation of my couples therapy practice. More than ever, the world needs couples who have each other’s backs, and can bring empathy and intelligent action into the world.
(503) 300-2720 View (503) 300-2720
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Kimberly Zammitt
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, PhD, LICSW
Verified Verified
Minneapolis, MN 55406  (Online Only)
I use Emotionally Focused Therapy, Mindfulness-based Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Gottman Therapy, and EMDR.
My name is Dr. Kimberly Zammitt (please call me Kim). I am a Licensed Independent Clinical Social Worker and practice in Minnesota. I have twenty+ years of clinical social work practice experience. In my clinical practice, I maintain a culturally responsive, strengths-based approach in my work. I value collaboration and believe that trust and safety are the cornerstones of quality therapy.
I use Emotionally Focused Therapy, Mindfulness-based Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, Gottman Therapy, and EMDR.
My name is Dr. Kimberly Zammitt (please call me Kim). I am a Licensed Independent Clinical Social Worker and practice in Minnesota. I have twenty+ years of clinical social work practice experience. In my clinical practice, I maintain a culturally responsive, strengths-based approach in my work. I value collaboration and believe that trust and safety are the cornerstones of quality therapy.
(320) 322-7199 View (320) 322-7199
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Claire Biringer
Counselor, MA, LMHC, LPC
Verified Verified
Minneapolis, MN 55406  (Online Only)
Currently accepting individuals and couples! Welcome – I've created my therapeutic practice to help guide my clients towards awareness, curiosity, emotional attunement and expression, and self-compassion, whether you are struggling with an eating disorder, anxiety or depression, unresolved trauma, disconnection, or perfectionism and overcontrol. With couples, I seek to strengthen your existing bond and help each of you feel heard, respected, and connected. If you feel stuck or lost, and want to reclaim your agency and connection with yourself or your partner, it might be time to take this next step.
Currently accepting individuals and couples! Welcome – I've created my therapeutic practice to help guide my clients towards awareness, curiosity, emotional attunement and expression, and self-compassion, whether you are struggling with an eating disorder, anxiety or depression, unresolved trauma, disconnection, or perfectionism and overcontrol. With couples, I seek to strengthen your existing bond and help each of you feel heard, respected, and connected. If you feel stuck or lost, and want to reclaim your agency and connection with yourself or your partner, it might be time to take this next step.
(206) 279-9701 View (206) 279-9701

Emotionally Focused Therapists

Who is emotionally focused therapy for?

Emotionally focused therapy (EFT) is for couples who are emotionally distressed, stuck in an unsatisfying relationship pattern or feeling deeply alienated. They may even believe the relationship is beyond repair. Very often, the partners display intense anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal in the relationship. In addition, EFT is helpful to couples and individuals who have difficulty expressing emotions and those who have trouble regulating emotions.

Why do people need emotionally focused therapy?

People need emotionally focused therapy because the need for others is built into the brain, but the pressures of daily life can erode feelings of love, and couples often do not have the skills to find their way back to the comfort of each other. Instead, they may be stuck in repetitive patterns of anger, fear, grief, loss of trust, or a sense of betrayal. Emotionally focused therapy regards such strong negative feelings as expressions of protest over the loss of connection and turns them into pathways of reconnection.

What happens in emotionally focused therapy?

Over the course of eight to 20 weekly sessions, couples de-escalate their negative emotional reactivity to one another so that they can listen to each other and be responsive to each other’s needs. Then the deep emotional and physical bond is restored, giving partners a sense of comfort and security, which they can use to solve whatever problems come their way. The therapist plays an active role, helping partners understand how anger and withdrawal are actually misguided cries for connection.

What problems does emotionally focused therapy treat?

EFT is designed to help couples stuck in dysfunctional relationship patterns regain closeness and rebuild their relationship. Typically, such couples experience considerable distress, with partners feeling alienated and distrustful of one another, not certain their relationship can survive. EFT is also helpful to individuals experiencing attachment-related fears of loss; it helps them learn to use their fears as a way of eliciting the closeness they desire.