Marriage Counseling Therapists in Oregon, WI

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Kurt Buehring - Marriage Counselor
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, LMFT
Verified Verified
Oregon, WI 53575
I specialize in marital and relationship counseling and have helped countless couples to resolve old wounds and communicate in new ways that foster safety, connection, and intimacy.
Relationships aren't always easy... At times they may be our greatest source of ease and joy, but every couple knows that they can also be our greatest source of frustration and struggle. You may be asking yourself, "How did we get here?" or "How are we ever going to make this better?" Reaching out for help may not be easy either, but it's an acknowledgment that your happiness and your relationship are worth fighting for, and that's a good place to start. I'll help you to 1) Look with clarity at what has come between you, and 2) Do the vital work to rebuild trust, understanding, love, and intimacy in your relationship.
I specialize in marital and relationship counseling and have helped countless couples to resolve old wounds and communicate in new ways that foster safety, connection, and intimacy.
Relationships aren't always easy... At times they may be our greatest source of ease and joy, but every couple knows that they can also be our greatest source of frustration and struggle. You may be asking yourself, "How did we get here?" or "How are we ever going to make this better?" Reaching out for help may not be easy either, but it's an acknowledgment that your happiness and your relationship are worth fighting for, and that's a good place to start. I'll help you to 1) Look with clarity at what has come between you, and 2) Do the vital work to rebuild trust, understanding, love, and intimacy in your relationship.
(608) 719-4229 View (608) 719-4229
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Christie Gause-Bemis
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, MSW, LCSW, CSTIP
Verified Verified
Oregon, WI 53575
My ideal client is someone whom is struggling in life and motivated to seek help and make the changes necessary in their thoughts, beliefs or circumstances to get back into wellness. I enjoy working with teens. Most of my career has been with at risk youth. I also work with women's issues, addressing underlying causes of stress and overwhelm. I use Imago and Gottman approaches with couples. When working with men, we discuss the need for vulnerability and self-acceptance. Anxiety, depression, stress, grief and loss can all be successfully addressed with psychotherapy.
My ideal client is someone whom is struggling in life and motivated to seek help and make the changes necessary in their thoughts, beliefs or circumstances to get back into wellness. I enjoy working with teens. Most of my career has been with at risk youth. I also work with women's issues, addressing underlying causes of stress and overwhelm. I use Imago and Gottman approaches with couples. When working with men, we discuss the need for vulnerability and self-acceptance. Anxiety, depression, stress, grief and loss can all be successfully addressed with psychotherapy.
(608) 480-1559 View (608) 480-1559
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Maria Hackbarth
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, PMH-C, SUSA
Verified Verified
Oregon, WI 53575
Not accepting new clients
Life transitions and relationships can be both beautiful and difficult. Everyone deserves a safe space to share and explore their thoughts and feelings. Often through reflection, when we allow ourselves to slow down and notice what we are experiencing in the moment, true self discovery and capacity from within can be found and cultivated. With compassion and openness I walk along side my clients as they work towards relief and resolution. I utilize a blend of traditional therapy approaches along with experiential modalities such as Brainspotting, Mindfulness exercises, and Guided Visualizations to tailor the therapeutic experience.
Life transitions and relationships can be both beautiful and difficult. Everyone deserves a safe space to share and explore their thoughts and feelings. Often through reflection, when we allow ourselves to slow down and notice what we are experiencing in the moment, true self discovery and capacity from within can be found and cultivated. With compassion and openness I walk along side my clients as they work towards relief and resolution. I utilize a blend of traditional therapy approaches along with experiential modalities such as Brainspotting, Mindfulness exercises, and Guided Visualizations to tailor the therapeutic experience.
(608) 665-1498 View (608) 665-1498

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Chuck Matz
Marriage & Family Therapist, MS, LMFT
Verified Verified
Madison, WI 53701
We offer in-office marriage and family therapy sessions in conjunction with a client-driven treatment plan.
In a safe and non-judgmental environment, I strive to create a collaborative and trusting therapeutic relationship with each of my clients based on the practices of systems theory and marriage family therapy. My goal is to help you utilize your strengths and work toward enhancing a sense of well-being and personal satisfaction within your Self, so you can say "I Am Good" and believe it.
We offer in-office marriage and family therapy sessions in conjunction with a client-driven treatment plan.
In a safe and non-judgmental environment, I strive to create a collaborative and trusting therapeutic relationship with each of my clients based on the practices of systems theory and marriage family therapy. My goal is to help you utilize your strengths and work toward enhancing a sense of well-being and personal satisfaction within your Self, so you can say "I Am Good" and believe it.
(608) 260-7587 View (608) 260-7587
Photo of Margaret A Lambert, Clinical Social Work/Therapist in Oregon, WI
Margaret A Lambert
Clinical Social Work/Therapist, MSW, LCSW
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Madison, WI 53719
Margaret Lambert, MSW, LCSW, is a psychotherapist, teacher and author. She specializes in all areas of adult relationships. Her approach is eclectic in nature but has a strong foundation in Family Systems Theory, with a Cognitive-Behavioral and Mindfulness approach. Margaret has training and experience in a variety of areas including grief and loss, marital issues, divorce recovery, anxiety, depression, and self-esteem . She is currently teaching the following classes: Rebuilding When Your Relationship Ends, Dating Dementia: Keeping Your Brain in the Dating Game, Women's Self-Esteem & Relationships and Men's Self-Esteem and Relationships.
Margaret Lambert, MSW, LCSW, is a psychotherapist, teacher and author. She specializes in all areas of adult relationships. Her approach is eclectic in nature but has a strong foundation in Family Systems Theory, with a Cognitive-Behavioral and Mindfulness approach. Margaret has training and experience in a variety of areas including grief and loss, marital issues, divorce recovery, anxiety, depression, and self-esteem . She is currently teaching the following classes: Rebuilding When Your Relationship Ends, Dating Dementia: Keeping Your Brain in the Dating Game, Women's Self-Esteem & Relationships and Men's Self-Esteem and Relationships.
(608) 433-9346 x1 View (608) 433-9346 x1
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David Langford
Marriage & Family Therapist, MS, LMFT
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Madison, WI 53726
I am co-authoring a graduate text for the Marriage and Family Therapy program at Edgewood College.
Here is how I help: I offer grounded and compassionate therapy that is open, present, and realistic. You will be understood and accepted as you are so we can work toward resolving the problems that stand in your way, whether they are challenges you want to face on your own, or relationship issues you want to resolve with your partner or family. With couples, Meshel Langford is my co-therapist. Having both of us provides balance, perspective, and support (please see our website, linked on this page).
I am co-authoring a graduate text for the Marriage and Family Therapy program at Edgewood College.
Here is how I help: I offer grounded and compassionate therapy that is open, present, and realistic. You will be understood and accepted as you are so we can work toward resolving the problems that stand in your way, whether they are challenges you want to face on your own, or relationship issues you want to resolve with your partner or family. With couples, Meshel Langford is my co-therapist. Having both of us provides balance, perspective, and support (please see our website, linked on this page).
(608) 200-2163 View (608) 200-2163
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The Family Center
Marriage & Family Therapist
Verified Verified
Madison, WI 53719
The Family Center is a community-based, systemic therapy outpatient mental health center and the primary training location for Edgewood College's Marriage and Family Therapy Graduate Program. We work both with Individuals and Relationships by providing a variety of services. We are LGBTQIA2S+ friendly and racial-justice minded. Our clients seek out services ranging from anxiety and depression, to alcohol and drug issues, to premarital/marital counseling and more. We work with people of all ages, all identities, and all issues!
The Family Center is a community-based, systemic therapy outpatient mental health center and the primary training location for Edgewood College's Marriage and Family Therapy Graduate Program. We work both with Individuals and Relationships by providing a variety of services. We are LGBTQIA2S+ friendly and racial-justice minded. Our clients seek out services ranging from anxiety and depression, to alcohol and drug issues, to premarital/marital counseling and more. We work with people of all ages, all identities, and all issues!
(608) 663-6154 View (608) 663-6154
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Simone D LaPierre
Marriage & Family Therapist, MFT-IT
Verified Verified
2 Endorsed
Madison, WI 53703  (Online Only)
As a Marriage and Family Therapist I work with individuals, families and couples, struggling with past trauma, infidelity, trust, affected family members, suicidality, preparation of commitment, and next-step family planning. I see a diverse group of patients from all sorts of different backgrounds, cultures, sexualities, abilities, ages, and creeds.
As a Marriage and Family Therapist I work with individuals, families and couples, struggling with past trauma, infidelity, trust, affected family members, suicidality, preparation of commitment, and next-step family planning. I see a diverse group of patients from all sorts of different backgrounds, cultures, sexualities, abilities, ages, and creeds.
(608) 818-8078 View (608) 818-8078
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Grace Garoutte-Mohammed
Pre-Licensed Professional, MA, LPC-IT
Verified Verified
Madison, WI 53701
I understand the extra challenges that come with serving your country or community, and the strain that it can put on an individual or on a marriage.
I have a passion to help people cope with trauma, anxiety and stress through individual and couples work. Clients describe me as warm, supportive, encouraging, and gently challenging. As your therapist, I will come along side you and provide the guidance and support you need to work through your challenges.
I understand the extra challenges that come with serving your country or community, and the strain that it can put on an individual or on a marriage.
I have a passion to help people cope with trauma, anxiety and stress through individual and couples work. Clients describe me as warm, supportive, encouraging, and gently challenging. As your therapist, I will come along side you and provide the guidance and support you need to work through your challenges.
(262) 400-2492 View (262) 400-2492
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Mike Hebl
Marriage & Family Therapist, MS, LMFT
Verified Verified
Monona, WI 53713  (Online Only)
Life can be messy and often times we find the tools we possess are not up for the challenge. This is normal, although distressing nonetheless. It's my objective to create a welcoming space that fosters trust and respect. I have worked with individuals, families, and couples for over twenty years in a variety of settings. I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with an addiction specialty, although I consider myself a generalist. I enjoy connecting with others, validating their experience, while also building skills and courage toward change.
Life can be messy and often times we find the tools we possess are not up for the challenge. This is normal, although distressing nonetheless. It's my objective to create a welcoming space that fosters trust and respect. I have worked with individuals, families, and couples for over twenty years in a variety of settings. I am a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist with an addiction specialty, although I consider myself a generalist. I enjoy connecting with others, validating their experience, while also building skills and courage toward change.
(608) 650-5090 View (608) 650-5090
Photo of Carolyn J. Moynihan-Bradt, Clinical Social Work/Therapist in Oregon, WI
Carolyn J. Moynihan-Bradt
Clinical Social Work/Therapist
Verified Verified
Verona, WI 53593
Carolyn Moynihan-Bradt, M.S.W., has practiced individual, marriage and family therapy for thirty-five years. She networks on the national level as a leading voice among hr colleagues: lecturing, teaching, writing and researching while maintaining a private practice in Madison, Wisconsin. Moynihan-Bradt brings an inter-generational family systems perspective to therapy with an emphasis on person change. She listens with enormous respect for the individual and their unique history and she possesses a rare depth of understanding. She specializes in emotional issues surrounding life transitions, separation and divorce, stepfamilies, rebalancing families after a loss, and young professional.
Carolyn Moynihan-Bradt, M.S.W., has practiced individual, marriage and family therapy for thirty-five years. She networks on the national level as a leading voice among hr colleagues: lecturing, teaching, writing and researching while maintaining a private practice in Madison, Wisconsin. Moynihan-Bradt brings an inter-generational family systems perspective to therapy with an emphasis on person change. She listens with enormous respect for the individual and their unique history and she possesses a rare depth of understanding. She specializes in emotional issues surrounding life transitions, separation and divorce, stepfamilies, rebalancing families after a loss, and young professional.
(608) 247-5295 View (608) 247-5295
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David C Lee
Psychologist, PhD, JD
Verified Verified
Madison, WI 53711
Your best journeys can begin here. I provide effective, focused, and practical guidance in psychotherapy to help attain goals, self-improvement, resolve conflicts, and deal with a variety of life issues ranging from depression, anxiety, phobias and sexual identity to relationships (couples, marriage), career, and life transitions. I also provide dispute mediation services. I have a personable, affirming, and mentoring therapy style and an appreciation for individual experiences, styles and needs. My honest, direct, and warm approach also facilitates trusting and effective therapeutic relationships. I provide EMDR, Cognitive-Behavioral, and various Client-Centered methods. West-side Madison location.
Your best journeys can begin here. I provide effective, focused, and practical guidance in psychotherapy to help attain goals, self-improvement, resolve conflicts, and deal with a variety of life issues ranging from depression, anxiety, phobias and sexual identity to relationships (couples, marriage), career, and life transitions. I also provide dispute mediation services. I have a personable, affirming, and mentoring therapy style and an appreciation for individual experiences, styles and needs. My honest, direct, and warm approach also facilitates trusting and effective therapeutic relationships. I provide EMDR, Cognitive-Behavioral, and various Client-Centered methods. West-side Madison location.
(608) 291-5003 View (608) 291-5003
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Joe Leonard
Marriage & Family Therapist, MS, LMFT, CFNC, CIMHP
Verified Verified
Fitchburg, WI 53711
My ideal client is someone coping with mental health challenges, such as anxiety, depression, mood disorders, and/or substance abuse. I specialize in Behavioral Activation - an evidenced based intervention for treating mood disorders and moving clients toward their goals. I also enjoy working with couples and families to help them communicate better and resolve interpersonal conflicts in a healthy way. I have been passionate about systemic couple and family therapy since becoming a therapist in 2019. I'm a certified Prepare-Enrich marital/premarital counselor and trained in the Gottman Method of couples therapy, with good outcomes.
My ideal client is someone coping with mental health challenges, such as anxiety, depression, mood disorders, and/or substance abuse. I specialize in Behavioral Activation - an evidenced based intervention for treating mood disorders and moving clients toward their goals. I also enjoy working with couples and families to help them communicate better and resolve interpersonal conflicts in a healthy way. I have been passionate about systemic couple and family therapy since becoming a therapist in 2019. I'm a certified Prepare-Enrich marital/premarital counselor and trained in the Gottman Method of couples therapy, with good outcomes.
(608) 336-3974 View (608) 336-3974
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David C Low
Marriage & Family Therapist, MSE, MA, LPC, LMFT-S
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
Madison, WI 53711
I am Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) specifically trained to provide couples counseling, family therapy and mediation.
Are you concerned that your relationship is drifting apart and you can't seem to get back that romantic love, friendship, closeness, emotional connection, comfort, support, and intimacy? Do you feel stuck again and again in similar misunderstanding and hurtful arguments, not being able to resolve your differences? Have your efforts to solve your relationship problems left you feeling so resentful, checked out, disheartened, disappointed and worn down and you are realizing that you are tired of feeling so alone and don't want to keep living like this? If you answered, “yes” to any of the above, I would like to help.
I am Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT) specifically trained to provide couples counseling, family therapy and mediation.
Are you concerned that your relationship is drifting apart and you can't seem to get back that romantic love, friendship, closeness, emotional connection, comfort, support, and intimacy? Do you feel stuck again and again in similar misunderstanding and hurtful arguments, not being able to resolve your differences? Have your efforts to solve your relationship problems left you feeling so resentful, checked out, disheartened, disappointed and worn down and you are realizing that you are tired of feeling so alone and don't want to keep living like this? If you answered, “yes” to any of the above, I would like to help.
(414) 939-9645 View (414) 939-9645
Photo of Gerald W. Greenfield Ph. D., Psychologist in Oregon, WI
Gerald W. Greenfield Ph. D.
Psychologist, PhD
Verified Verified
Madison, WI 53725  (Online Only)
Are you looking for someone who is easy to talk to, who will listen supportively and non-judgmentally, and who will also offer helpful feedback? I'm a licensed psychologist who has helped individuals and couples with a wide range of challenges for over 25 years, including marital, relationship, and communication issues; and problems with depression, anxiety, anger, self-esteem, alcohol use, and struggles related to a bad childhood. (See "Specialties" and "Issues" below.) Whether you have individual and/or relationship concerns, I offer understanding, compassion, new perspectives, and new ways to cope with challenges.
Are you looking for someone who is easy to talk to, who will listen supportively and non-judgmentally, and who will also offer helpful feedback? I'm a licensed psychologist who has helped individuals and couples with a wide range of challenges for over 25 years, including marital, relationship, and communication issues; and problems with depression, anxiety, anger, self-esteem, alcohol use, and struggles related to a bad childhood. (See "Specialties" and "Issues" below.) Whether you have individual and/or relationship concerns, I offer understanding, compassion, new perspectives, and new ways to cope with challenges.
(608) 315-5716 View (608) 315-5716
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Kimberly Genger Lee
Marriage & Family Therapist, LMFT, CST
Verified Verified
3 Endorsed
Madison, WI 53711  (Online Only)
If the problems in your life/marriage feel hopeless have no fear.
As the state's only certified Christian Sex Therapist, I bring an important perspective to people struggling with sexual issues no matter where you live in WI. As a Marriage and Family therapist I can also help clients heal and deal with issues that are effecting the marriage or intimacy - whether communication or sexual desire. For individuals suffering from Sexual Trauma and Sex Addictions I have found the use of the highly experiential model, Internal Family Systems - to be extremely helpful and deeply impactful for healing.
If the problems in your life/marriage feel hopeless have no fear.
As the state's only certified Christian Sex Therapist, I bring an important perspective to people struggling with sexual issues no matter where you live in WI. As a Marriage and Family therapist I can also help clients heal and deal with issues that are effecting the marriage or intimacy - whether communication or sexual desire. For individuals suffering from Sexual Trauma and Sex Addictions I have found the use of the highly experiential model, Internal Family Systems - to be extremely helpful and deeply impactful for healing.
(414) 404-3293 View (414) 404-3293
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Profound Peace Psychotherapy Collective
Counselor
Verified Verified
Madison, WI 53715
How are you feeling these days? If stress, anxiety, depression, grief, trauma, relationships, marriage, parenting challenges, career or job stress, the weight of the pandemic (just to name a few) has affected you, we want to help. Our clients are people like you who are problem aware. You know when something is wrong, it's time for a change or even that something is just "off". Simply put - you know what you want and how you want to feel but you need some support or guidance on how to get there.
How are you feeling these days? If stress, anxiety, depression, grief, trauma, relationships, marriage, parenting challenges, career or job stress, the weight of the pandemic (just to name a few) has affected you, we want to help. Our clients are people like you who are problem aware. You know when something is wrong, it's time for a change or even that something is just "off". Simply put - you know what you want and how you want to feel but you need some support or guidance on how to get there.
(773) 234-9905 View (773) 234-9905
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Kristi Blaney
Licensed Professional Counselor, MA, LPC
Verified Verified
1 Endorsed
Stoughton, WI 53589
Areas I have special training include: Couples/marriage/premarital counseling, issues involving Sexuality and Intimacy, Self-esteem, Body Image, Mindfulness, Family/Parenting/Coparenting, and Pregnancy/Postpartum.
LOVE! It is one of those words that either makes you giddy with joy or a little squirmy in your chair. Love is one of the things we long for most in our lives. Whether you struggle with romantic love, family love, agape love or even self-love, I would like to help. I provide therapy options in both Madison and Janesville to help make sure you have an option that is close to home. I aim to provide a warm space to help you feel at ease while you work through the toughest areas of your life.
Areas I have special training include: Couples/marriage/premarital counseling, issues involving Sexuality and Intimacy, Self-esteem, Body Image, Mindfulness, Family/Parenting/Coparenting, and Pregnancy/Postpartum.
LOVE! It is one of those words that either makes you giddy with joy or a little squirmy in your chair. Love is one of the things we long for most in our lives. Whether you struggle with romantic love, family love, agape love or even self-love, I would like to help. I provide therapy options in both Madison and Janesville to help make sure you have an option that is close to home. I aim to provide a warm space to help you feel at ease while you work through the toughest areas of your life.
(608) 390-3439 View (608) 390-3439
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Lois Ann Hadley
Marriage & Family Therapist, MSW, LCSW, LMFT, CADC, NCGC
Verified Verified
Madison, WI 53715
I began my career in social work and community activism. I worked as a child and family social worker, drug and alcohol counselor and treating eating disorders. After completing graduate studies/ Marriage and Family Therapist training, I entered private practice. I provide training on Problem Gambling and specialize in trauma and addictive-compulive behaviors. It is a gift and a mission to be able to help people attain their life goals. I believe that all individuals can attain healthy, serene and fulfilling lives if they are honest, open-minded and willing to work toward those ends.
I began my career in social work and community activism. I worked as a child and family social worker, drug and alcohol counselor and treating eating disorders. After completing graduate studies/ Marriage and Family Therapist training, I entered private practice. I provide training on Problem Gambling and specialize in trauma and addictive-compulive behaviors. It is a gift and a mission to be able to help people attain their life goals. I believe that all individuals can attain healthy, serene and fulfilling lives if they are honest, open-minded and willing to work toward those ends.
(608) 291-5152 View (608) 291-5152
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Great Lakes Psychology Group - Fitchburg
Counselor
Verified Verified
Fitchburg, WI 53719
The GLPG support staff will personally match you with a best-fit therapist who accepts your insurance and is available to see you online or in person at a time that works for you. The GLPG provider network comprises doctoral and master’s level psychologists, marriage and family therapists, professional counselors, and social workers. Benefits include online and in-person therapy options, night and weekend availability, and most insurance plans accepted. Additionally, our knowledgeable and helpful support staff are available to answer your questions or help with anything you might need at any point along the therapy journey.
The GLPG support staff will personally match you with a best-fit therapist who accepts your insurance and is available to see you online or in person at a time that works for you. The GLPG provider network comprises doctoral and master’s level psychologists, marriage and family therapists, professional counselors, and social workers. Benefits include online and in-person therapy options, night and weekend availability, and most insurance plans accepted. Additionally, our knowledgeable and helpful support staff are available to answer your questions or help with anything you might need at any point along the therapy journey.
(608) 549-5781 View (608) 549-5781

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Marriage Counseling Therapists

How does marriage counseling work?

Marriage counseling works by teaching couples concrete skills to communicate with one another and solve disagreements in healthy ways. A trained mental health professional works with both members of a couple to explore difficulties the couple may be having and helps them develop skills to address these matters. Couples who don’t have any difficulties but want to prepare for marriage may develop skills for the future.

How long does marriage counseling typically last?

Marriage counseling is a short-term form of therapy; the process may last between four and eight sessions. Other forms of relationship guidance from mental health professionals, such as couples therapy, are longer lasting, may focus on the past rather than just the present, and are tailored to the individual couple and their emotions, history, and patterns in the relationship. Couples therapy often lasts for 12 weeks or longer.

Is marriage counseling effective?

Marriage counseling helps many couples develop relationship skills that may not have been acquired or tested in a relationship; partners may be better able to communicate and address conflict following counseling. However, there are many different forms of marriage counseling, and this form of counseling does not have as strong an evidence base as other modalities such as couples therapy.

Is marriage counseling effective if only one partner wants to go?

Yes, marriage counseling can still be effective if one partner convinces the other to engage in the process. Of course, whether counseling is effective depends on the couple’s commitment to work on their relationship; however, the short-term, skills-based nature of marriage counseling makes it a relatively easy “ask” of a partner, and the hesitant individual may see its value once counseling begins.