Mandy Lam: Anxiety, People-Pleasing & Trauma

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On the outside, everything seems fine. But in quiet moments, when no one is watching, you exhale and realize you've been holding your breath for a long time. In your relationships, you pour everything you have into them, and no matter how much you give, it never feels like enough. You learned this early, watching your family sacrifice and push through just to survive. Now, that younger part of you is still trying so hard to earn love and feel safe. You've spent so long living in your head that you've lost touch with what living truly feels like. This is a space to get out of your head and into your body, where healing can begin.

In our sessions, we'll pause and ask: Which part is coming up? What does it need? We'll follow those threads using EMDR, parts, and somatic work, listening to what the body is telling us, not just what the mind is saying, and learning to work with both. Over time, the spiral slows down, the body finally exhales, and mind and body begin to work as one.

If you've made it this far, something in you is ready for change. You don't need the right answers or the right words, just a willingness to turn inward. Here, we trust that what you need to heal is already within you; we just find a different way to access it. Come as you are, and we'll figure out the rest together. I'd love to hear from you.

Call or Email Mandy Lam: Anxiety, People-Pleasing & Trauma now for a free 15 minute consultation - (646) 974-9567

Practice at a Glance

Available online only

New York, NY 10019

Jersey City, NJ 07302

I offer virtual sessions to clients in NY & NJ in English, Cantonese or Mandarin, from 9am-5pm, Monday through Friday.

I specialize in Anxiety, Relationship Issues and Trauma and PTSD

$225 Per Session, I accept insurance

Individual one-on-one therapy

Reach out today and schedule a 15-20 minute consultation to see if we're a good fit to work together. I look forward to meeting you!

Mandy Lam: Anxiety, People-Pleasing & Trauma

Let's Connect (646) 974-9567

Practice at a Glance

Available online only

New York, NY 10019

Jersey City, NJ 07302

I offer virtual sessions to clients in NY & NJ in English, Cantonese or Mandarin, from 9am-5pm, Monday through Friday.

I specialize in Anxiety, Relationship Issues and Trauma and PTSD

$225 Per Session, I accept insurance

Individual one-on-one therapy

Reach out today and schedule a 15-20 minute consultation to see if we're a good fit to work together. I look forward to meeting you!

Finances

Fees

Individual Sessions $225
Sliding scale: apply if you may be eligible

Payment Methods

American Express, Cash, Discover, Health Savings Account, Mastercard, Visa, Zelle

Insurance

Aetna
Anthem
Blue Cross
Blue Shield
BlueCross and BlueShield
Carelon Behavioral Health
Cigna and Evernorth
Empire Blue Cross Blue Shield
Horizon Blue Cross and Blue Shield
Optum
Oxford
UnitedHealthcare UHC | UBH
Wellfleet
Out of Network

I work with most insurance plans as an out-of-network provider. Your insurance often covers 60-80 percent of session fees, and sometimes more, especially if you have a PPO/POS plan. Feel free to reach out, I'm happy to help verify your benefits and answer any questions you may have.

Mandy Lam: Anxiety, People-Pleasing & Trauma

Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW, LCAT, MT-BC

Call or Email us for a free 15 minute consultation now - (646) 974-9567

Mandy Lam: Anxiety, People-Pleasing & Trauma

Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW, LCAT, MT-BC

Call or Email us for a free 15 minute consultation now - (646) 974-9567

Qualifications

Clinical Social Work/Therapist: Mandy Lam

Verified by Psychology Today Licensed by State of New York / 101697 Mandy Lam

Education and Years In Practice

In Practice for 7 years

Attended New York University, Masters of Social Work

Additional Credentials

License: Certified Board for Music Therapists 15247 / 2019

Degree/Diploma from New York University Masters of Arts in Music Therapy / 2019

I am trained in EMDR and perinatal mental health (pregnancy & postpartum) and I hold masters degrees in social work and music therapy.

Mandy Lam: Anxiety, People-Pleasing & Trauma

Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW, LCAT, MT-BC

Call or Email us for a free 15 minute consultation now - (646) 974-9567

I am trained in EMDR and perinatal mental health (pregnancy & postpartum) and I hold masters degrees in social work and music therapy.

Mandy Lam: Anxiety, People-Pleasing & Trauma

Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW, LCAT, MT-BC

Call or Email us for a free 15 minute consultation now - (646) 974-9567

Specialties and Expertise

Top Specialties

Anxiety
Relationship Issues
Trauma and PTSD

Expertise

Career Counseling
Codependency
Coping Skills
Depression
Divorce
Family Conflict
Grief
Infertility
Infidelity
Life Coaching
Life Transitions
Marital and Premarital
Peer Relationships
Pregnancy, Prenatal, Postpartum
Racial Identity
School Issues
Self Esteem
Spirituality
Stress
Women's Issues

I work with adults in NY and NJ navigating anxiety, burnout, relationship challenges, life transitions including pregnancy & postpartum, and cultural identity. Many are the ones others lean on, carrying the weight of expectations that were never really theirs to begin with. If any of this sounds familiar, you're in the right place.

Mandy Lam: Anxiety, People-Pleasing & Trauma

Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW, LCAT, MT-BC

Call or Email us for a free 15 minute consultation now - (646) 974-9567

Mandy Lam: Anxiety, People-Pleasing & Trauma

Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW, LCAT, MT-BC

Call or Email us for a free 15 minute consultation now - (646) 974-9567

33 Endorsements

Cassandra Rampino

Mandy is a highly skilled, empathetic clinician who treats each and every client with care and respect. Her ability to heal through music is beyond inspiring. She is a wonderful colleague whom I trust whole heartedly!

Mirabel Xiao-Ou Xing

MA, MSW, LMSW

I've known Mandy Lam for 10+ years, and she's an exceptional therapist. Mandy creates a compassionate, culturally sensitive space where clients can explore and grow. She integrates various approaches, including music therapy, in her work. She's excellent!

Elena Wu

Counselor, MA, LMHC, LPC

Mandy brings clinical wisdom, warmth, and creativity to her work. She's a compassionate and insightful therapist who meets clients with care and thoughtfulness. I deeply respect Mandy as a colleague and confidently recommend her for those seeking support.

Jessica Hayes

Mandy is an excellent therapist who offers genuine care to her clients and a steady, compassionate hand through life's challenges. Her warm, welcoming presence makes her a great choice for anyone looking for a safe space for growth and healing.

Nicole Trister

I highly recommend Mandy- she is kind, warm, and intelligent, and has a rare ability to be supportive and challenging. Her genuine curiosity, thoughtful questions, and skillful approach help clients feel deeply seen while creating real, lasting change.

Becky Chen

Marisa Perera, PhD - Infertility & Postpartum

Mandy is a passionate and empathetic clinician. She takes time to thoroughly develop a trusting rapport with her patients. Mandy is not only talented in her ability to connect with others but she is also open to continuously learning to improve her skills.

Psychologist, PhD

Mandy is an incredible therapist, she is very skilled at helping people move through anxiety, transitions, and perfectionism and is uniquely able to support people through cultural and immigration stress. Highly recommend!

Michelle Spurgeon

Clinical Social Work/Therapist, MSSW, LCSWS

Mandy offers a balance of strategies and insight while creating a warm environment for her clients. If you're looking for a therapist to help sort through trauma or perfectionism, I recommend her.

Kelsey Homonai- Out Of Overwhelm Into Thriving

Clinical Social Work/Therapist, MSW, LCSW-C

Mandy is an empathetic therapist, who fosters deep connections and supports real change. She takes unique care to consider how culture shapes each individual she treats, providing patient first approaches to treatment for anxiety and perfectionism.

Katie Schloss

Clinical Social Work/Therapist, AM, LCSW

Mandy is a deeply attuned, thoughtful therapist who creates a space where high-functioning clients can finally slow down and be seen. Her relational, body-aware approach-plus music therapy-helps clients build self-trust, clarity, and compassion.

Dr. Ana Baratta (Infertility & Pregnancy Loss)

Licensed Professional Clinical Counselor, PhD, LPCC, LMHC

Mandy offers a calm, culturally sensitive presence and does excellent work with clients navigating anxiety, identity, relationships, and life transitions-especially those who feel pressure to be the "reliable one" while quietly running on empty.

Albert R Mezistrano

Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LICSW

Mandy has a real gift for working with adults who feel over-functioning, constant pressure, and have a harsh inner critic. She helps clients slow down, reconnect with themselves, and find a healthier pace. I highly recommend Mandy.

Beatrice Pacyga - Eating Disorders, Anxiety & OCD

The BDD and OCD Centre of Greater New York

Mandy is a highly effective and compassionate therapist with impressive expertise in music therapy, EMDR, and perinatal mental health. She helps clients gain insight into patterns no longer serving them and build a life more aligned with their true self.

Esme Caiwei Peng

Counselor, LMHC, LPC

Mandy approaches her clients with genuine care and thoughtfulness. She is warm, compassionate, and deeply empathetic, and she brings both creativity and strong clinical skills to her work. I recommend her wholeheartedly.

Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW, MS, MSW

This therapist provides a supportive, culturally aware space for individuals managing anxiety, self-doubt, perfectionism, and life transitions. With a warm and grounded approach, they help clients feel understood and supported.

Olympia Georgeson - Relationships and Trauma

Licensed Professional Counselor, MA, MFA, LPC, LMHC

Mandy's integration of music therapy into clinical sessions is innovative and highly effective, creating a space that is both healing and emotionally attuned. She combines deep clinical insight with creativity, helping clients feel truly supported.

Jenna Bekier- Grief. Life Adjustments

Olivia Lavelle: EMDR + People-Pleasing

Mandy is a truly skilled, warm and caring therapist who offers such value to anybody facing anxiety or perfectionism. Her approach is trauma-informed and incorporates a breadth of knowledge that is invaluable. I absolutely recommend working with Mandy!

Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW, EMDR, PPSC

Mandy brings a thoughtful and grounded presence to her work with clients navigating anxiety, overthinking, and life transitions. She helps people slow down, gain clarity, and reconnect with themselves in meaningful ways. I highly recommend her.

Faith Doppelt

Licensed Professional Counselor, MA, LPC, LAC

Mandy excels in helping her clients manage feelings of burnout, anxiety, and relationship issues. Her implementation of EMDR is thoughtful and effective for supporting long lasting change in her clients. I highly recommend her!

Olivia Korn, Anxiety & EMDR

Raechel Russo, EMDR Therapist for Moms

Mandy is an incredible therapist for burnout, anxiety, and people pleasing. She has innate skill and provides deep healing for people. She uses cutting-edge techniques to promote lasting change. I definitely recommend her!

Marriage & Family Therapist, MS, LMFT

I highly recommend Mandy to anyone struggling with anxiety, burnout, or confidence. She creates a warm, attuned space where clients can really address the deeper root of what is going on and reconnect with themselves.

Alison Markowitz

Innae Julia Kim - EMDR & Anxiety Therapist NYC

Mandy is warm, thoughtful, and really easy to talk to. She has a calm, grounded way of helping people feel understood while also getting to the heart of what is keeping them stuck. I would feel very confident referring someone to her.

Art Therapist, MA, ATR-BC, LCAT, LPAT

I highly recommend Mandy for adults who are navigating anxiety, burnout, relationship stress, and major life transitions, including pregnancy and postpartum. Her approach is warm, thoughtful, and attuned, creating a space where clients feel understood.

Amanda Korff

Psychologist, PsyD

Mandy supports adults navigating anxiety, burnout, relationship challenges, and major life transitions with warmth and insight. She has a thoughtful way of helping those reconnect with themselves and move toward more ease and clarity.

Dr. Marissa Geary - Anxiety, Grief, Relationships

Psychologist, PsyD, MA

Mandy is an expert at addressing anxiety, relationship challenges, self-esteem, pregnancy and postpartum. Her expertise in EMDR, parts, and somatic work addresses the root of symptoms to create lasting change for her clients. I highly recommend her!

Relapse Prevention Therapist, Sabeen Bhimani

Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW, MPH

Mandy is a highly attuned therapist who creates a warm, nonjudgmental space for clients to explore anxiety, and relational patterns. Her integrative approach helps clients feel deeply seen while building insight, self-trust, and meaningful, lasting change!

Sophie Bell: Childhood Trauma, Relationships, EMDR

Cultural Identity/Anxiety Therapy - Weekends

Mandy is a fantastic therapist and highly skilled at treating burnout, anxiety, and people-pleasing. Her use of modalities like EMDR and somatic therapy target client's issues at the root, yielding lasting transformation. I highly recommend her practice!

Jenn Frake- Anxiety Therapy

If you struggle with anxiety and people-pleasing, Mandy provides a refuge where you can discover the parts of yourself that you've neglected. Her EMDR skills and fluency with the issues facing the AAPI community make her a great fit for this kind of work.

Clinical Social Work/Therapist, MSW, LCSW, RYT

Mandy brings warmth, insight, and compassion to her work with individuals struggling with anxiety, overthinking, and people-pleasing. She helps clients build self-awareness, strengthen boundaries, and create meaningful, lasting change.

Amanda Werdann - BPD & Trauma Specialist

Clinical Social Work/Therapist, DSW, LCSW

Mandy is a skilled clinician specializing in helping clients who have significant anxiety. She helps you look at your past history and was has led you to this point in your life and work with you in healing. I highly recommend her!

Elisenda Asencio- Fulfilling Relationships

Help With Anxiety, Depression, Relationship Stress

I wholeheartedly recommend Mandy. She truly helps clients move beyond insight and into lasting healing. Through EMDR, parts work, and somatic therapy, she helps clients quiet overthinking, and reconnect with their bodies. She is a true gem in this field!

Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LICSW

I highly recommend Mandy for their compassionate and effective work with clients experiencing Anxiety, Relationship Issues, and Trauma and PTSD. They create a supportive environment that fosters healing, resilience, and meaningful personal growth.

Dr. Elizabeth Gordon — Anxiety and Eating Recovery

Psychologist, PsyD

If you're feeling anxious or struggling to get yourself to stop people-pleasing, I highly encourage you to reach out to Mandy! She is a warm, compassionate, and knowledgeable clinician, and you will be in great hands if you decide to work with her.

Client Focus

Age

Adults

Participants

Individuals

Communities

Bisexual Allied ,

Gay Allied ,

Lesbian Allied ,

Non-Binary Allied ,

Queer Allied ,

Racial Justice Allied ,

Single Parent

Ethnicity

Asian ,

South Asian

I also speak

Cantonese ,

Mandarin

Age

Adults

Participants

Individuals

Communities

Bisexual Allied ,

Gay Allied ,

Lesbian Allied ,

Non-Binary Allied ,

Queer Allied ,

Racial Justice Allied ,

Single Parent

Ethnicity

Asian ,

South Asian

I also speak

Cantonese ,

Mandarin

Treatment Approach

Types of Therapy

Attachment-based
Cognitive Behavioral (CBT)
Dialectical Behavior (DBT)
Eclectic
EMDR
Humanistic
Integrative
Internal Family Systems (IFS)
Interpersonal
Multicultural
Music Therapy
Psychodynamic
Relational
Strength-Based
Trauma Focused

Sessions blend practical skill-building with deeper exploration. Depending on what you need, we might draw on parts work, tune into what your body is holding, CBT, mindfulness, or EMDR. We also practice holding two things at once: there will always be more to do, and you are already worthy of rest. Meeting yourself with compassion rather than resistance is often where real change begins.

Mandy Lam: Anxiety, People-Pleasing & Trauma

Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW, LCAT, MT-BC

Call or Email us for a free 15 minute consultation now - (646) 974-9567

Mandy Lam: Anxiety, People-Pleasing & Trauma

Clinical Social Work/Therapist, LCSW, LCAT, MT-BC

Call or Email us for a free 15 minute consultation now - (646) 974-9567

Location

Primary Location

New York, NY 10019

Email Us

Additional Location

Jersey City, NJ 07302