Judith Rubenstein, MA, JD, LMFT, Marriage & Family Therapist in Santa Barbara
I believe that each of us need love and close intimate relationships to reach our highest evolution as a human being. I create a safe, loving environment for individuals or couples to do their work to reach their highest potential. My focus is on helping you experience your feelings, physical sensations, thoughts and images, in the moment. As you claim new parts to yourself, you gradually come to accept and love a fuller and more actualized self.
As an Emotionally Focused Therapist, I work with the emotion in the room to teach couples how to change their destructive patterns and to create new ways of engaging with each other which increases the emotional connection and changes communication patterns. I also use EMDR for all types of trauma with individuals and couples.
I also have been a practicing mediator for 34 years and have taught mediation and conflict resolution skills around the world. I bring that knowledge of family systems and conflict resolution to my work with couples, business partners, family businesses, and sibling conflicts.
Call or Email Judith Rubenstein for a free phone consultation now - (805) 288-6441


  • Years in Practice: 16 Years
  • School: Pacifica Graduate Institute
  • Year Graduated: 2003
  • License No. and State: LMFT45762 California


  • Avg Cost (per session): $150 - $180
  • Sliding Scale: Yes
  • Accepts Insurance: Yes
Accepted Payment Methods: Cash, Check

Accepted Insurance Plans

  • All PPO's
  • Fees for Mediation: $300/hour
  • Out of Network
Verify your health insurance coverage when you arrange your first visit.

Additional Credentials

  • License No. and State: L.M.F.T. State of Vermont
  • License No. and State: 55201 State of California Law License - inactive


  • Relationship Issues
  • Trauma and PTSD
  • Marital and Premarital


  • Anxiety
  • Codependency
  • Coping Skills
  • Depression
  • Divorce
  • Emotional Disturbance
  • Family Conflict
  • Grief
  • Infertility
  • Infidelity
  • Life Coaching
  • Mediation and Conflict Resolution
  • Parenting
  • Self Esteem
  • Sex Therapy
  • Spirituality
  • Women's Issues

Mental Health

  • Mood Disorders


  • Bisexual
  • Gay
  • Lesbian

Client Focus


  • Adults
  • Elders (65+)

Treatment Approach

Treatment Orientation

  • Coaching
  • EMDR
  • Emotionally Focused
  • Family / Marital
  • Family Systems
  • Jungian
  • Jungian Dream Work
  • Psychodynamic
  • Relational
  • Trauma Focused


  • Individuals
  • Couples
  • Family


  • Video Counseling
Last Modified: 16 Feb 2018
Judith Rubenstein, MA, JD, LMFT, Marriage & Family Therapist in Santa Barbara

Judith Rubenstein

Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, JD, LMFT