Internal Family Systems (IFS) Therapists in Valley Center, CA

You are tired of beating yourself up and questioning your worth. You spread yourself thin caring and doing for others, and still feel as though you are unworthy of their love. It's hard for you to stand by your own needs and boundaries. You feel guilty for asking for too much and ashamed of not being enough. You spend a lot of time worrying about what people think of you, cringing at every interaction you have, and ruminating over every mistake. Your body feels tense and on edge. Your heartbeat is fast and your breathing is shallow. You can hear all the nasty ways in which you are talking to yourself, but you can’t make it stop.

Clients that have experienced trauma, substance abuse and family issues. Struggling with depression and anxiety.

Now Accepting New Clients! Do you feel you are not the best version of yourself? Are you feeling confused, scared, disconnected and lost? I am here to help. If you are being triggered by emotions and behaviors and it's making other problems in your life worse, I hope you will consider contacting me today. Supporting you at this time is my sincere desire and I'm here to tell you that there can be change, success and growth to bring forward your best version. I will equip you with tools and support so you not only get by but actually thrive. I look forward to speaking with you!

I approach therapy from a trauma-informed, client-centered lens focused on empathy and compassion to support the creation of long-term, effective changes. I strive to equip my clients with the hope that it is normal to feel any and every kind of emotion but also give them tools to cope effectively and learn from those emotions. My goal is to provide a trusting environment to uncover those human emotions, find what works or does not work, and collaborate to reach new and healthier goals for life.

Are you experiencing Hopelessness, Sadness, Worthlessness, Panic Attacks, Racing Thoughts, or Fear? Do you lay awake at night WORRYING about EVERYTHING? Are your worries or fears a constant cycle? Do you avoid interaction with loved ones, or maybe you don't want to be a burden to family or friends, so you begin isolating from everyone? Do you ever say, “I can’t take this anymore?” Do you feel alone in your problems? You are not alone, whether you're dealing with Anxiety, Depression, Relationship Issues, Health Crisis, Midlife Crisis, or just unsure how to move forward in life, assisting adults redefine life is my passion & purpose.

I believe in whole-body wellness and treating each client as an individual. Therapy is not a one size fits all approach and together, we will collaborate on your treatment goals to meet your needs and improve the areas in your life that you desire to change. I specialize in childhood that has led to a world view that, as an adult, is no longer serving you. Trauma can be anything from our emotions, or true self, being invalidated by our caregivers in childhood, having a caregiver who could not regulate their own emotions, witnessing physical harm to another person or being psychologically abused.

Welcome! I’m glad that you are here and hope we meet one day soon. My purpose is to together, tap into the incredible healing power you have. As a certified Brainspotting practicioner and person who has done my own profound healing, I hold deep attunement and am an expert at reaching buried trauma capsules to process and heal. Whatever you're struggling with, you CAN heal deeply and profoundly and moved from the dysregulation you're suffering (in your nervous system) to regulation, calm, and joy. I've been helping people heal for 30 years from even the deepest trauma. You can and deserve to heal.

Do you feel like your past prevents you from enjoying your present and looking forward to your future? Do you find yourself repeating patterns of behavior that no longer serve you? Do you struggle to maintain meaningful and stable relationships? If yes, perhaps it’s time to take a deep breath and look inward. By exploring the wounds from your past, you can find empathy and understanding. You can be free. “Trauma is a fact of life. It does not, however, have to be a life sentence.” – Peter A. Levine

There’s a weight dragging you down. No one can see it, and you’re unsure when it appeared. But each day, it wears on you further. It shows up as a voice in your head, telling you, "No matter how hard you try, you’ll never be good enough.” It prevents you from ever truly opening up to another person and dooming your relationships. It keeps you constantly on edge – never able to let your guard down or feel safe in your own skin. And it makes it difficult to regulate your emotions, never knowing from one moment to the next what will set off a wave of sadness, rage, or panic. You want peace, but it feels out of reach.

Hello! I am a Clinical Psychologist, former Assistant Professor of Psychology, Clinic Director and author with 40 years experience. I offer a warm, gentle and secure place to talk about and resolve your concerns. As a trauma specialist, I have successfully used EMDR, Brainspotting and IFS parts work to gently yet rapidly resolve past trauma, depression and anxiety, and achieve peak performance. Unlike regular talk therapy, these cutting edge methods allow you to go right to the source of the issue, located in the emotional or subcortical part of the brain. Most issues and past traumas are more likely resolved in months not years.

I am licensed in California, Tennessee, Oregon, and Colorado. I treat trauma and PTSD, and I have helped clients improve anxiety levels, self esteem, depression, relational issues, phobias, lack of a sense of life direction, sleep, and more. Through teaching skills such as noticing and being with sensations, feelings, and thoughts, clients are able to notice the patterns that get us stuck.

I help individuals, couples, and families work through the places they feel stuck so they can achieve their own version of success. I meet people wherever they are empathically, respectfully, and without judgment. My specialties include Relationship and Family issues; Depression, Anxiety, Trauma, PTSD as well as Substance abuse. My work is informed by Internal Family Systems (IFS) and the latest findings in neuroscience. After 15 years, I also find that a lot of insight and healing happens in the spaces where science, psychology, and spirituality rub up against each other.

My style is nurturing and empowerment driven. I value collaborative and affirmative care and I pay attention to the importance of culture and intersections of identity. I find it important to look to the environment, biology, family of origin and upbringing, and holistic factors. I like to teach clients skills to observe emotion and its experience in the body, and ways to access and activate the imagination. Whether it's your first time in therapy, or you've experienced it before, we explore your needs together, at your pace.

Dr. Tobi typically works with young adults presenting with concerns including anxiety, family or relationship issues, relational trauma (including narcissistic abuse), codependency, self-esteem issues, and depression. She also provides psychological testing including ADHD testing. Her approach to therapy involves a holistic and collaborative process; she will work together with you on your personal journey of growth, change, & empowerment. She integrates multiple therapeutic modalities to best fit your individual needs, including CBT, DBT, internal family systems, psychodynamic, attachment, and mindfulness-based approaches.

Are you exhausted from being hyper-independent, a perfectionist, workaholic, and feeling like you can’t rely on anyone else? I work with high achievers who are battling feelings of inadequacy, anxiety and overthinking. I use EMDR and IFS approaches to help you address anxiety, depression, trauma, attachment and relationship issues. Are you ready to take control of your life, uncover self-love, live authentically and find balance? As a survivor of the Las Vegas shooting I know first hand what it takes to heal through unthinkable events. Trauma does not need to be a life sentence and healing is absolutely possible.

I believe in emphasizing one’s own unique spiritual journey as the primary source of knowing; that there is nothing needed to “fix,” but rather an opportunity to explore with newfound curiosity and connection. Collaborating with our natural environment and translating what is discussed in the session into lived experiences is incredibly powerful and useful for sustained growth.

Do you feel like you haven't reached your full potential yet? Are you struggling with feelings of loneliness, depression, anxiety, or unhappiness? Do you find yourself comparing how you feel to how it appears others are doing? I am here to be with you in the pain and challenges that life can bring. Together, we will find ways to help you feel better. I take a holistic approach to healing, utilizing more than just talk therapy to get you where you want to be. From somatic work to parts work, let's figure this out together. I offer both in person (in West LA) and virtual sessions, and I have limited openings for new clients.

I help people navigate the big choices in life, confront issues like depression and anxiety, and face down bigger problems like addiction or unresolved trauma. Maybe you sense something isn’t quite right — your job, your marriage, your personal relationships and want to get “back on track.” Together we can face difficult choices, move through the stages of change, and help you recover a sense of personal integrity. I work with couples, individuals, and sometimes families to improve communication, explore values, and address underlying issues which may be a source of conflict.