Internal Family Systems (IFS) Therapists in Rancho Santa Fe, CA

Why do we feel persistent guilt, shame, sadness, anxiousness, anger or hopelessness? Why do we find ourselves in situations and relationships that are hurtful and unsatisfying? Why do we repeat unhealthy behaviors? Why can't we find the motivation to become who we know we are capable to be? Why are we addicted? Often it is because we are relying on maladaptive coping skills and defense mechanisms to navigate challenging or even traumatic experiences. I whole-heartedly believe in the ability and resiliency of the human spirit and I offer a safe and therapeutic environment in which to process, learn, grow and develop healthier skills.

I assist individuals in overcoming their inner pain, and learning to face the challenges of life from a place of strength, compassion, and connection. As your ally in healing, I can help you process the emotions, memories and experiences that may underly your current suffering, so that you’re free to feel connected with yourself, with others, and with life. Sometimes past traumas become trapped in our bodies and minds, and we need help to feel safe in ourself and our relationships. My approach is based on these principles: Efficacy (I use Evidence Based modalities), collaboration, individualized care, and warm relational connection.

You're disappointed in your marriage and in your partner. Your vows meant something to you. For many years, you sucked it up and hoped things would get better. Now you wonder, why did I stay for so long? If you question how you've been living your life, and how things could have gone so wrong, then you've come to the right place.

We are an individual & family counseling corporation. Our mission is to expand human potential through the coherence of mind, body & spirit. With decades of collective experience, we are passionate about helping people grow through life's transitions. We are trained in efficient, evidence-based treatment methods with a holistic mindset. Breakthrough repeating unwanted patterns, improve struggling relationships, family challenges, anxiety, addictions, depression & trauma recovery. We are EMDR trained & practice with professional integrity, compassion, and commitment.

Does your life from the outside look amazing, yet you feel lonely, directionless, anxious, depressed, or lost? You live in a beautiful place, have a gorgeous home, great trips, lots of friends, and many social and charitable activities to keep you busy, yet your relationships and your life seem distant and disconnected. Does your partner work too much? Are your children too busy? If you don't have children are you struggling with infertility? Or maybe you are struggling with your health? Don't worry - there is hope! I have seen this condition before and can help.

Is your teen or pre-teen suffering from depression or anxiety? Are they struggling in school or with their peer group? Through the use of cognitive behavioral strategies, your child can learn new ways of thinking and coping. Children and teens don't always have the ability, or the words, to share how they are really feeling. Instead it comes out in their behaviors, which often times ends up creating conflict, disharmony and upset. It doesn't have to be this way. Your child and your family can enjoy being together. It is possible to see your child or teen be their best self!

Are you feeling stress? Struggling with depression? Is your anxiety preventing you from enjoying your life? Life can be difficult and sometimes we just need someone to listen and guide us or offer fresh ideas that could help us reach a level of satisfaction and improve our quality of life. Ideally, someone with motivation, an open mind and eager to invest in their wellbeing and work on themselves to improve their life and experience joy. I understand the difficulties of maintaining a work-life balance so I offer early morning, late evening and weekend appointments. I accept Aetna, Oxford, Oscar, and United Health Care and Cigna.

Do you find yourself struggling, stuck, or feeling anxious with life's challenges? Whether you’re experiencing life transitions, processing a difficult experience, experiencing a relationship distress, or even want to better understand yourself, therapy can be a powerful way to tackle these needs and break unhelpful patterns of interactions or thinking. My goal is to help my clients discover their inner voice, self-compassion, strength and empower them.

WELCOME! Many of my clients are looking to heal from past painful experiences whether it be family, friendships or romantic relationships - I work to help you improve self-esteem, build resiliency, manage anxiety/ADHD symptoms for teens & adults in their 20's, 30's, & 40’s. It be really tough to get a handle on these things on your own. Don't worry, I can help. I believe that we have ways of being in the world that were once helpful but may no longer serve us in building the life you want. My clients say that I'm relatable, easy to connect with, and empathically and honestly provide feedback to challenge their ways of thinking.

Are you stressed out and overwhelmed? Is setting boundaries with people scary or even impossible? Are you anxious, self-doubting, or feeling lost? Maybe you're stuck on mistakes from the past or fixating on fear of your future. Or you struggle to say no to people because you're afraid of rejection or criticism or abandonment. Perhaps you're just exhausted with all of it, balancing everything nonstop for everyone else and yourself. Maybe you've forgotten how to be..you? You try to do it all but your confidence is lacking and you're feeling guilty over everything. You just need it to be...easier. Life wasn't supposed to be this hard.

Plants can grow in some of the most unexpected places. On sidewalks, through concrete, on buildings. Even when the odds seem stacked against it, the desire to thrive can find a way. When a person comes to therapy, they are choosing to find their own way to grow, no matter where they’ve been planted. One of the tools of plants are tendrils; those delicate, sensitive shoots of courage that reach out for support and connection. With some nurturance and guidance, we here at Tendril Therapy welcome you to break the barriers of what seems improbable, to grow, to thrive, to climb.

Do you feel stuck in a sense that you are not good enough? Imagine no longer feeling patterns that hurt, or no longer being paralyzed by beliefs that block you from being the person you want to be. My goal is to walk alongside you helping you identify what's holding you back from the life you want, and to gently but profoundly help you heal those wounds so you can grow. I love working with people to reprocess old traumatic life experiences that get in the way, when they really just want to be healthy.

Life can leave us feeling stuck and disconnected from ourselves and our communities. Often, symptoms are natural reactions to painful circumstances and foreclose access to our innate wisdom and ability to navigate tough situations. I believe in the unique healing journey of each individual and work with you to open space and reconnect with your authentic ways of being. I help folks get curious about their life, get unstuck from difficult patterns, make meaning of life experiences, and ultimately create more choice and freedom.

Do you struggle with anxiety? Does your motivation seem blocked in terms of advancing your career? Would you like to improve your relationships? Are there difficult people in your life that overwhelm you? What patterns would you like to change? Gain insight on what keeps you from feeling calm and happiness. I provide evidence based therapeutic interventions individualized to you. A licensed psychologist since 2001, I am experienced in helping individuals cope with major life changes and every day stress in their busy lives.