Iliana Gelles
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, MFT (she, her)
Verified by Psychology Today Verified by Psychology Today
Let's Connect (805) 250-4632
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| Español You still love each other—but lately, it just feels hard.
The tension, the fights, the same arguments over and over. Maybe you’ve started avoiding certain conversations—or even each other—just to keep the peace. You wonder, how did we get here? You’re not sure when things shifted, but now it feels like you’re walking on eggshells. The connection you once had feels out of reach, and the resentment is building.
You’re not ready to give up on this relationship, but you’re also not sure how much more you can take.
Here’s the truth: love alone isn’t always enough.
Sometimes, good people get stuck in painful patterns.
And that’s where I come in.
I help couples who care deeply about each other but can’t seem to stop the cycle of conflict, shutdown, and hurt. We’ll work together to figure out what’s really going on beneath the surface—not just communication skills, but the why behind the reactions, the triggers, and the misunderstandings.
My approach is supportive, straightforward, and tailored to you. We’ll rebuild trust, learn how to talk without spiraling, and create new ways of being together that feel safer, calmer, and more connected.
You don’t have to keep doing this alone—or keep having the same fight forever.
You can start by booking a free 20-minute consultation. Don't wait!
Call or Email Iliana Gelles now for a free 15 minute consultation - (805) 250-4632
Let's Connect (805) 250-4632
Finances
Fees
- Individual Sessions $180
- Couple Sessions $250
- Sliding scale: apply if you may be eligible
Payment Methods
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Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, MFT
Call or Email me for a free 15 minute consultation now - (805) 250-4632
Qualifications
- Verified by Psychology Today Licensed by State of California / 97001 Iliana Gelles
- In Practice for 15 years
- Attended Antioch University Santa Barbara, Graduated 2013
- Certificate from EMDRIA/ EMDR certified therapist 2020
Education and Years In Practice
Additional Credentials
Iliana Gelles
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, MFT
Call or Email me for a free 15 minute consultation now - (805) 250-4632
Specialties and Expertise
Top Specialties
- Relationship Issues
- Women's Issues
- Trauma and PTSD
Expertise
- Anxiety
- Bisexual
- Depression
- Family Conflict
- Lesbian
- LGBTQ+
- Marital and Premarital
- Parenting
- Servicios en Espanol
- Stress
Iliana Gelles
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, MFT
Call or Email me for a free 15 minute consultation now - (805) 250-4632
Client Focus
Age
Adults
Participants
Individuals
Communities
Gay Allied ,
Lesbian Allied ,
Non-Binary Allied ,
Queer Allied ,
Racial Justice Allied ,
Single Parent
Ethnicity
Hispanic and Latino ,
Native American
I also speak
Spanish
Age
Adults
Participants
Individuals
Communities
Gay Allied ,
Lesbian Allied ,
Non-Binary Allied ,
Queer Allied ,
Racial Justice Allied ,
Single Parent
Ethnicity
Hispanic and Latino ,
Native American
I also speak
Spanish
Treatment Approach
Types of Therapy
- EMDR
- Family / Marital
- Person-Centered
- Relational
- Somatic
- Trauma Focused
Iliana Gelles
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, MFT
Ask about what different forms of therapy will be like. Email or (805) 250-4632
Location
Additional Location
684 Alamo Pintado Rd
#D
Solvang, CA 93463
(805) 250-4632Nearby Areas
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Neighborhoods
Iliana Gelles
Marriage & Family Therapist, MA, MFT
Call for a free consultation now - (805) 250-4632